yinkaOdutuyo: I have this girl am dating, I love her alot and I use to do everything she want for her to the extend that I pay her school fees.
All these expenses are making me broke, because by the time I pay for hair, handout, school fees, hostel rent and I'll also buy her clothes, shoes, bags and other ladies stuffs, all the little money I have will finish and I'll go broke and start thinking about my life.
Mind you i have a work am doing and I use to make money, but most of these money made, will be spend on my girl, to the extend that I hardly buy ordinary wears for myself.
Of a recent i have made up my mind to staer savings and stop spending or sponsoring a girl fake life.
Yesterday I got 60k work and I have completed it and I was paid.
From the 60k I save 20k in an investment mutual funds, which I can collect or have access to it until 6months, of which I'll be saving any money that i see from my works.
From the remain 40k that remain after i save 20k from the 60k. I paid service charge to my landlord 10j and I also buy foodstuffs to my house worth 10k, so i have extra 20k as pocket money.
And mind you my work is a moving work even before the end of today or this week, I'll still see another money.
I want to start a saving habit and stop impressing and stop funding a girl fake like (opor opor).
Pls is this decision ok. Or what other advice can you give me guys??
Coming from a woman I will tell U that U can never buy a woman's love. Seems Ur just buying her attention. If she loved U she'd notice Ur wasting your hard earned money on useless n unnecassary things for her n going without yourself. If she sees a future with U she would be suggesting U save for it not wasting it. If I was you I'd stop the spending
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How would it get in there? If it's that then it didn't come from the guy? Omg I would die if I found that in me. Ladies this is why U treasure yourself n don't just let anybody n everybody between your legs
TheSourcerer: Hopefully these heart warming incidents would bring back your faith In Humanity .
1. Fox with its head stuck in a jar
This YouTube video, posted in June of 2013, shows a young fox with its head hopelessly stuck in a glass jar. Unable to free itself, the animal tentatively walked up to some men who happily oblige in removing the container. As the fox trots off into the forest afterwards, one of the Russian men asks, "Hey, where's our 'thank you?'" But the small mammal does look back at the men, perhaps giving a nod of gratitude to the pair who saved its life.
Animals r more Intelligent than ppl think. I love all kinds of animals. I can't stand cruelty to any animal. The rubbish we litter this world with affects the animals alot. Turtles with straws stuck in their noses, seals n birds with plastics stuck around their heads or bodies digging in n cutting their skin, fishing nets stuck around animals bodies so they can't function or swim properly. Scientists believe within another 20 odd yrs the ocean will be over halfway full of rubbish therefore killing off large majority of species in there. It's sad.
grossintel: Well, it's not your child. And you shouldn't be kiss other people's children on the lips, it's a different story if it's your child and depending on how old the infant is. If this was a teenage girl child, than it starts to raise some concerns.
Well I practically am a mother to the kid he rarely sees his own. But still I think kissing on the lips is just for lovers
EnvelopeUs: I saw this somewhere and I think considering the time we are living in, it's wrong even though the small girl is his daughter. What do you think?
I don't kiss my little nephew or niece on the mouth. It just wouldn't feel right even tho it's innocent. I think kiss on the head or cheek is sufficient
Nigerian actress Onyii Alex has got almost everyone talking after putting her camel toe on display in photos she shared on her Instagram page.
Onyii Alex shared some lovely photos of herself wearing a very tight dress and shorts exposing her camel toe and that has got everyone talking.
She is known to be the few actresses who hardly expose their bodies hence putting her camel toe on display in the clothes she wore got fans talking which actually got everyone’s attention.
Though the dress looked beautiful on her, her camel toe got all the attention because that was what almost everyone was talking about as they react to the photos.
iRepNaija1: OP, please ignore the people insulting you and calling you names. We're human beings with feelings and you should never be made to feel ashamed for loving someone and showing that love through actions. That being said, this woman does not love you and is emotionally blackmailing you to get money from you. A relationship should not cause you unnecessary stress and this one is. So I know it might be hard but you need to cut her off completely and move on with your life. No more calls, texts, social media, etc. Take what happened in this relationship as a lesson learned and only give the amount of money you're comfortable with (meaning an amount you won't give a second thought to). There are users all around us, regardless of gender. Good luck.
Yusufisraelj: My brother good ladies still exist, your approach was the problem,you never took time to see the lady for who she was. Sorry about the disappointed expectations.
Solutions
1. Forget about her and move on. Only deal with people who are genuinely interested in you, and keep money away from your relationship as much as possible especially during the beginning phaze, except if it's for investment and equally treat that differently from your relationship. You are not her father why should you be paying her bills when you are just knowing her.
2. Take time to be friends with ladies and know her mindset and how she sees life and her approach to life, you can't just fall in love just like that, you can admire at first, love follows after admiration, during that admiration stage get to know her before you profess love.
3. Know what you want,if you want a wife material, select a lady with those tendencies and attributes, character must come first, not physically appearance, that will matter but it should be the last point of consideration. Never date a lady that you don't think can raise your kids.
Haba, you just blow money bkos you hear love, guy nawa for you ooo, and pls ask God to help you,this relationship thing you need divine help, else devil go position nonsense for you.
Frankraj: I have really fall mugu , I meet this girl early January this year like like play like play she bill me house rent I gave her cos she said she loves me . As time goes on bill keep coming until the money I have sent her go to N125,000. Now she nags at me because I said I will send money again . She doesn't pick my calls anymore she only picks when she like . My brother I thought I can find a single good girl in Nigeria but right now I can tell you that there is no Good girl in Nigeria. All of them are tifs and scemmer A girl asks you for financial help and you help her she takes for a marga or a full
The only girl U should date is a girl that seeks you out as U do her, seeks U out to spend time together and calls U as much as U do her and whom does not expect you to give her money or material things constantly. If she's not picking your calls but expects money then she's not really into you. There's good girls out there U just gotta have patience n you'll meet her
Sonnobax15: Men,love is a beautiful kind of something..
Like I do tell my guys whenever we are together while killing bottles of beer and doing other things--"so long my peace of my mind will be guaranteed,I won't mind wifing the woman who gives me joy and reasons to live when I stop seeing reasons to"
For her beauty may fade away,that pretty body of hers' shall one day fade out as well,but one thing that will never fade away is the love and understanding you have for each other..
But still on still,you should always love your woman but don't ever love her to the extent of revealing your bank account details to her
I am newly married and tried to have sex with her few times. At the time of intercourse I am not able to push my penis into her vagina. Intially my penis getting harder while keep on trying to push my penis losing its erection at the time of intercourse. it entered only twice. Please suggest some solution to my prblm. We are both novice and sex seems quite difficult
You both should relax take your time just touch each other all over feel each other kiss her mouth up along her neck n softly her breasts up along inside her legs touch her with your fingers between her legs gentle make her wet, touch her rub her first soft tho n insert your fingers slow n out again n in again. If U like kiss her between her legs, lick n suck. Slowly rub your erection along between her vagina n eventually ease in a little at a time after she's wet n aroused n eventually you'll get there. Be patient be relaxed make it sexy n it'll work. First time is awkward n can be tense therefore making her muscles dwn there tighten up more. Enjoy yourselves
Dliquidmetal: you better leave this paper tiger alone,tiger online cat offline. She offers nothing in a relationship but want to be offered everything lol reality is cruel.
Dinosaur online gecko offline lol Yeah ppl like her learn the hard way. Maybe she'll suck in a few poor fools who fall for her but eventually they'll see the shallowness n selfishness in her
digitalgeorgy: I appreciate your comment. my main reason for posting my first comment was to encourage him not to spoil his relationship because she told another man than he is ugly. not every woman would sing your praise everywhere and every time.
Well that's true aswell. Maybe she only said it to try please the other guy maybe she wanna sleep with him again. I agree no one sings ppls praises all the time but most ppl don't go outta their way to comment on ppls looks unless they mean it however like I said maybe she's just saying it to please the other guy
Freezby2020: OVER 90% OF WHAT IS IN THIS POST IS ABSOLUTE TRUTH AND NOTHING BUT THE TRUTH. I HV BEEN MARRIED FOR OVER TWENTY YEARS SO I KNOW WHAT AM SAYING.
Then U married a selfish woman. Choose wisely who u marry n get to know them first.
Ashirawealthy1: Am a graduate, am educated, am financially independent but immediately you ask for a relationship note the following; 1 No matter how much i make per month, i will never give you more than 1k for free. 2 My burden automatically becomes yours. 3 I will never phone call you for long talk with my own airtime. 4 payment of all my bills become yours hairmaking, spa and beauty inclusive. 4 Even if you come to my house and eat, i will still later cunningly collect the money back either by hook or crook.
If your fiance or boyfriend isnt settling the bills, aunty ya being used, RECEIVE SENSE ! I dont give a bleep all u think i offer, she who have ears, let her hear!! NOTE: modified : MY PRINCE charming is clocking 3 soon so what the fvck am i searching for.
I fvck for strictly fvck, if u wanna get entangled in a relationship joor be prepared for a lot of bill.
Are U even worth all that? How do U not feel bad bleeding someone dry? You're talking as if you're royalty or a superstar n ppl need to pay U for Ur time. Are U Paris Hilton?
digitalgeorgy: oga, if you wowo then she is not lying. console yourself with the caring aspect she spoke about. abeg no let you wowo nature cause wahala for that fine relationship oo.
Modified... The quote I've received for this comment is one of the reasons I hardly comment on nairaland. I have always been told that I am the ugly version of my brothers. Even my gfrnd don tell me that same thing over and over. I always believe that as far as I hustle hard and make good money, I won't be disrespected because of the looks. So I have never allowed it affect my emotions or my relationship and I have never opened a thread on nairaland for it. Please no body should quote me again abeg una... Me too am ugly...
Just cos some may think Ur ugly there are always those whom think Ur attractive. Lotsa things make a person attractive n alluring to others. Sense of humour, personality, kindness etc. I dated a really really handsome guy once like super handsome but he barely could hold a conversation, was fairly dumb, had alot of pride in his looks(was in love with himself) he had no sense of humour n dull personality n couldn't kiss gud. Turned me off after two days. Then I've known ppl who are not handsome nor ugly either but found myself wanting to be around them as they were smart n funny n stuff. So is more than just being hot that keeps a partner around. Even so like I said some ppl may find U ugly but there's always some who to them Ur handsome. Is just the way things are.
Mann11: I hacked her WhatsApp some months ago. Although I've seen many chats of hers that left much to be desired, this present one is the height of it! She was chatting with her ex and they both inquired how their present relationships are going. She told him I'm not handsome. I'm really heartbroken at the moment.
He: How is your current relationship? She: He is nice and caring just like you but not handsome.
He: Lol, how do you mean he's not handsome? She: He's not, I can't lie to you
He: Why did you go for someone that is not handsome, o wrong naw She: I don't even know how I fall for him jhare
He: How did you meet him? She: He was formerly staying in our area. She: In fact, I always find it difficult to kiss him. He's very neat o, but I don't know why I can't kiss him It's been long I kissed and that was the last time I visited you He: Oya come lemme kiss you. The next thing was she sent my picture to him, maybe for the guy to see how ugly I'm. He: But he is okay naw. Abi he's not serious with you ni? He's looking serious already sef She: Laughing ( she sends a laughing sticker) I felt like crying honestly
What should I do? I feel like dumping the fool
She's rude n backstabbing. I'd dump her now U know wat she really thinks. U deserve better
Xenry: I don't know if you girls are aware of this, Make-up's is a huge turn off for some guys. If the makeup is light, well, that's okay. But why do some of you girls use heavy Make-up's? Like fixing long fingernails, mehn, that ain't cool. Look like a human and we go treat you like one.
I could never wear long long nails it looks rediculous as does really long false lashes. I hate foundation n lipstick n eyeshadow. All I like is my vitamin E cream a little brow pencil (only a natural look tho so U can't tell Ur wearing it) and a little mascara n lip balm. N sunscreen. All that Barbie doll look it looks too fake even if you're a beautiful girl. Natural is more beautiful.
Frankraj: I heard lots of good news from guys here how they praise side chicks and how side checks fvks well and gives styles . So guys what's the cost for keeping these side chicks and always have then around when you need fvkk
Any girl who sleeps with a man for anything like money, rent, gifts etc is a prostitute It may be called side chick stuffs but to me Ur still accepting money n material things in return for sex. That's the definition of selling yourself.
As a wife ion see how they can't fukk well n give different styles. Afterall she is your wife so what's wrong with being crazy in bed with her who says marital sex must be boring? U should talk bout these things with Ur girl before U marry her n see if she's willing to do sexy things in bed with you once Ur married n not just boring routine sex. If she's not then is your choice to marry her n go without that kinda thing. Anyway if U make love to a woman n make her really into it all the sexy passion n all that should come naturally
Martinelli35: Although this did not happen to me, but it brought a very heated argument between i and my fiancée. I saw a video on Instagram where a man caught his younger brother sleeping with his wife. He saw them but they did not see him, he pretended he did not see anything, A few days later he told his wife that he wanted to surprise her with a gift and told his brother to help him out, he said he wanted it to be a surprise and so he tied up his wife’s eyes with a cloth and then also told his brother he had a surprise for him too, that one also had is eyes tied up. He then took them both downstairs and gave them both empty cartons to hold. On one side of the carton he gave his wife he wrote “she cheated on me” and on the other side was the caption “with my brother”. She was very excited at the expected gift and was smiling throughout and giddy with anticipation, meanwhile oga was filming the whole drama. On his Brother’s carton he wrote “ my brother slept with my wife”, of course he was blindfolded and didn’t know what was written or the fact he was been exposed and humiliated to the world. Oga now gathered her jewelry, makeups and other stuffs and started putting into the cartoon. Madam was jumping up and down thinking of how many and heavy the gifts were. At the same time oga had carried all his wife’s property and thrown on the road while videoing the whole scenario play out. I leave you to imagine the shock and humiliation on there faces when the blindfold came off. Now this brings me to my own scenario. Now I love my fiancée very much and as is customary of me , I send her funny videos I see online . We laugh about it and all. So I sent her the aforementioned video and she laughed and then got serious and asked that if I was the Husband what would have been my reaction, I told her that I won’t be violent, but that would be the end of the marriage. I would be done and I would never forgive her, but that after time must have passed, I would eventually forgive my brother. That is where issue escalated o. She said that would be very unfair of me, that they both deserve equal punishment, I told her that he is my family by virtue of blood and that can never change, though he betrayed me, but we remain family and I won’t want my parents go through the agony of seeing there children apart. But that my wife only became family by virtue of the trust we have towards each other and that once that is gone , nothing holds us together, besides I won’t be able to stay together in the same house again with her. She just started ranting that it means I would choose my family over her and that I won’t treat her equally and that what am saying says a lot about me and she got really pissed at me. She took it really personally. My question is, did I do anything wrong? Is my assertion a totally reprehensible one one devoid of logic? Or am I being unfair?
I have been curious of recent...My boyfriend of about six years have been sniffing my pants of lately....Mind you,he doesn't do this but he started last year...Infact,he told me to stop putting on the AC in my car and at home cos he love the smell of the heat of a woman(Don't know what he meant by that)
He is well educated and weird just like me and he ain't a fraduster so I'm really just curious to why he started this nasty behavior...I sat him down last week and asked him why he loved to sniff my undies and he said he is aroused by the smell of a woman's vaginal discharge and the other funny thing be does is he always sniff my pussy very early in the morning by 5am and he said the early smell of a woman's pussy is bliss to him....
I'm weird too but is this ordinary?
Constructive criticism is welcome...
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He told U why he does it. He likes it. All kinds of ppl get turned on by different things. Is just his fetish I guess.
Alexgman1: You have being dating a girl for a year and all of a sudden she broke up with you and went back to her ex who she said she hated so much & would hurt him if she ever saw him again because he used her & took advantage of her. Do you think there is something am not doing right Or does her ex has something i dont have that she went back to him?
She must always still had feelings for him especially if she went bk after a year
Romance › Re: unnecessary spending on my girlfriend is making me broke. by Mrscarter(f): 2:15pm On Feb 23, 2021
oh I agree wen it comes to insects. Even ladybird lol
