₦airaland Forum

valdovas:
I care about my blood relative

Na so, if na well to do hubby, all madam relative will flood the house not knowing cut suya cut suya na from cow body.

This is your sister's cross.

Mind u, don't go and put assunder in that marital home.

mariahAngel:
It seems your siblings were mostly boys in your family

O di ka owu gi mekariri ishi ike okwaya?

yea, four boys no girl.

Mba o, our last born...That one frustate them till he started staying on his own..

I ji ndi last born egwuri egwu...

gidgiddy:
Godwin Maduka should never have ventured into Nigerian politics, its not a place for decent people like him to be found

Not in anambra, they are usually blessed with decent guys as governor.

Alexreport you are doing well...

If prof clinch the mantle, SSA on media or CPS don sure for you.

mariahAngel:
Your mum and dad? That must've been very difficult



Oooohhhh!

It used to be war then, ones u commit, na hanging around sure pass, if u enter house them lock door, na others go carry up for the flogging...

Na from Dad mouth i hear organised and unorganised flogging....

Its fun when we discuss it as adult nowadays...the iron hand made impact though in accordance with prov 22:6

pozehnani:
These two people you used as case study are just the lucky few who narrowly escaped the effect of overprotectiveness. Majority out there are still bearing the brunt of this style of upbringing.

I think u didn't get my point, I am trying to say is no mata the upbringing, just be yourself, and be good either your man will locate you himself, or his bro, sister aunt or parents.

Just be approachable as a lady.

thejourney200:
As at when we met, I want dating anyone and for all I cared then, I wasn't sure I was interested in dating. She was my third girlfriend. The first one lasted a while but we had differences that were very pronounced both on personal and family fronts. The second was less than a month because she said her pastor said no.

There were a few I was interested in however, they never wanted more than friendship. I guess it was just the right person at the right time. We have our differences on personal and family grounds Horace, both families are okay with both mothers becoming good friends now.

Our major differences stems from upbringing. I was raised to be independent and my parents need not know my next line of action while she is the reverse. We have been coping with both parties making necessary adjustments.

Good.

Brandonx:
She don jam okuta today
Odè ma gia la aghi la weriegbe ( when road no let you pass you go turn back)

Na frustration be her problem..

mariahAngel:
Onye gwara gi?

Nnem ga si "Okuru o na-eto kari onye kuru ya?"



[i]At least, make them handle the one wey dey exhibit misbehaviour fest...

Lol, its true o...growing up was tough, my mom and dad use iron hand eeeh...

I no blame them, 4guys no easy to control...Then,if a girl find anyone of us come, na query for mom hand...

Brandonx:
When you asked what was wrong with me that wasn't personal
Do not allow this misandry to becloud your sense of reasoning.

She is just like that, no leave no transfer...

As nairaland SARS...

valdovas:
My younger sister got a job in a multinational company since before marriage, her husband works as a seller of a certain foreign product but since he started he has been barely mking money, my sister pays rent and kids school fees and buys food while he spends his money mainly on marketing his product. we all tried to help him and get a job in a company and as a lecturer but he refused saying he is used to business and does not want to work under anyone.
So my sister has been the financial back bone of the family for a while.

Her husband now wants to bring in a family from the village that has been having financial problems since their father lost his job in a construction company when covid 19 started and want to stay with them while the man looks for a job in the city

My sister will basically be the one feeding this man and his wife and child.

I feel as if her husband is taking advantage of her ,he can work hard and be a better provider but he insists on doing his meager business that hardly fetches anything.

My sister is very soft spoken and does not like acrimony so I guess that is why he acts like he is not supposed to be the provider, not just that but now he wants to bring in extra mouth to feed when the woman was already stretched to her limit in handling responsibilities that are her husband's.

I plan to intervene and talk her husband out of bringing in another person to the house.

What is your business with that family now?
You are a third party, leave husband and wife alone, its their cross.

mariahAngel:
Na so!
14-15 year old girl!

Nwanyi ga nuru nga o calmu ga down e mege anya ura, nwa ya aturu ime.

Teenagers no understand diplomacy, na iron hand and close marking dem need.

Some iron hand no deh stop them for that one o...

And again, sometimes parents fit tackle one stubborn daughter, while the calm saint one a ga turu ime...

thejourney200:
By our second conversation, I was convinced. She is very intelligent and her words are seasoned. Although, in between I had concerns because of her family. She is from a very close family where they all get involved in each others business which I found strange. I am from a very close knot family but my discussion with my siblings remains with that sibling. Occasionally, if it seems the other party can't handle what we discuss, the person may involve a third person however, with one's permission but hers seem the opposite. They involve one another without permission. We are getting better in marriage many times with me acting I'm not concerned and she not disclosing our family.

Your story good, abeg what happened to the girl u were dating before she come charm you..

Av been in that situation before, where I am in a relationship, but met a sweet girl.

mariahAngel:
The situation dey funny na

Nwata che na o ga ghogbuli nne muru ya

Lol, that mom suppose calm down biko..

Na diplomacy things, beating no stop mouth weh want to chop fish..

Rapsodee:
They always expect guys to just show up at their house door straight up for marriage without really building any real connection with their daughter first.

So archaic.

Nollywood style, the guys will be acompanied by his kinsmen to come and pluck a ripe fruit..

Those scene can be so archaic...time flies...things av changed,.now a guy will meet, become friends and date a lady, propose, then they return home to seek parents consent.

The one fact I know is, a lady must make herself approachable...Whether caged by parents or not, a lady that really knows what she wants, will surely get it.

I av a family friend very religious, but when their daughter marriage set, guess who she married, one of the notorious guys in my area in the early 90s, though from a wealthy home.

E shock everybody, because this girl was raised with tight caging..So how come she connected with the guy...now the live in US its been years happily living.

Again, as a lady anywhere u are, someone is watching, either for himself, his bro or other recommendation...what matters is being yourself and being of good character.

My relative that hardly comes out, rarely seen in public, but a very calm cordinated lady, when marriage reach na two.men drag her, a medical doctor based in US And and engineer based in canada...Both came on recommmendation..And today she is happily married to the medical doctor..and both living in the states...with their baby boy...

Life is all about undestanding, no rush...

mariahAngel:

This your laugh....

she will start seeing him secretely as open one don cast.

The mum is wasting time.

OcVoice:
Nigerian men don't like to date nags nor hostile ladies. We can't forget the way she went berserk and wanted to bring down the roof on rico.

I remembered she acted like a lowkey agbero that day...

Na to break bottle remain.

Donspicey:
I rush come to see the type of gun.........

Na hunters gun sef,,,,,shey dis Ned na hunter ni?


Instead of teaching her how to handle automatic pistol or Revolver na dis Amotekun type of gun he dey teach her........

This tin pain my liver.....

mtcheeeeeewwwwww......


Ned oya take am!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

English double barrel gun that is above 150k na em u deh call hunters gun...smh...

U see as them gather there, if u point that gun towards them, one shot, more than 6persons there will go down.

Armed robbers fear double barrel and pump action pass AK47 military riffle.

J111333:
Way to go Oga Ned.

First thing I'm gonna teach mine too someday so that she go fit respond loudly during nonsense anytime anyday whether I'm home or not.

If you get mind trespass for my house now, mumsie even at nearly 60yrs old go still respond in a very loud way. My papa made sure of that one.

your papa na police abii opc?


It is good sha, one thing i wouldn't joke with, is teaching my woman how to handle arms for security...

Boys are not smiling.

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggarrrr
Paul and Peter are pussy ass niggarrs...

These has nothing to do with the wife...

Except say Paul want tell me say he first hide date and fuckkk lola before lola dish am for he brother
Because i see no reason for this hatred...
Even as at that them supposed don settle

Anyway what do i know .....am just a drunkard, a weed smoker and a pussy banger

Your comment no deh pass pvssy, smoke ,bang and niggar..

NwaAmaikpe:





The vilest and cruelest of all serpents are the most subtle.

Don't worry Rudy
We see through her schemes and social media sainthood but we are comforted from that every evil has an expiry date; one day the veil will fade and the other Pea in your pod will know that women are not worth creating enmity over.

Bia guy, which prison u escape from?.. I deh suspect edo prison break...

You said it all, the deadly ones act a saint in public to attract "awnnn"

Empress weh burst timaya head that year...baba wanted to die on top her case ..

Every looting/ corrupt practices in this country will always have a notherner in it..

Nairaland femimist and co will be like....

RealSolution001:
Please your advice is very important.

There's this girl I have been seeing on friendship level but presently there's urge to push it into relationship. From the look of things, I know she's already falling for me so the question whether she'll agree for me or not shouldn't even come in. However, I recently happened to know she's a member of brotherhood of the cross and star (the white garment and shoeless church) likewise her parents and other members of the family. Since I discovered this, I have been very sceptical about the whole thing.

Is it advisable to date such girl? What of in the event of breakup? Any physical or spiritual harm done to someone for being with such a person? Would I be coerced to convert to the beliefs (that is the last thing that will ever happen). Have you dated one before? How did it go?

I can't....These white or purple garment people are mystic in nature, and their practice explore traditional religion mainly.


The ladies are best for the men in their gathering.
Birds of same feather flock together.

See finish don finish police for this country....

Acidosis:
50k would no longer sound cheap by the time Buhari increase price of petrol to 200 naira per litre.

Even if you don't need the money, it's good to inform those you feel are in need. I regret not submitting details of my homies. Imagine getting 10 people from my village or church on the platform.

Mind you, it's not just a one off payment. What I read is that payment would be made for 3 months (Nov, Dec, Jan).

Even now we get a litre at 170, 50k is not cheap...

This country eeeh...lol
Someone that failed in governance when he grabbed power in1984, all of sudden my country people think he is the right man in 2015... we still deh morning.

By 2023, nigerians will understand.

Khayceeofficial:
A paltry sum of 50k is what this useless Government call SURVIVAL FUND...

How much does a bag of rice cost currently?
and with the hike in petrol price,how would 50k save a business?


we Don suffer enough for this country

With current economy, 50k is not that cheap, no mata how easy u cab get it.

It can get a road side noodle seller some products to offtake.

nadesh:
I missed you, Gbegirisoup, Monsirulatu, Miss Cookie , Baba4kinatu, Munzy14 etc

I see we all supported different people this season and my 2019 enemies are now my 2020 friends because we support same housemate now

Mercy is currently in UAE living her best life and Nadesh is happy. We moet, we move

Welcome nadesh, its been a long while.

R0kstarr8:
This aunty no well o.. why would u test a guy that way if I'm the one I would even block u why would you say u haven't eaten for days and no reason for it, u wanna bill him.. if he send u money now u will collect abi.. you just pained that Ur format didn't work, Ole!, girls this days are not to be trusted I like that guy way.. u can quote me if u felt otherwise
Check my signature for your graphic design

Could be true...

Some ladies have issues sha, a cool friendship gradually moving, she decided to ruin it by doing unusual test that has sent so many sisters to shiloh...smh


She never chop since 3days without reason, as per Elder sister of john the baptist na...

This religious fanatic sisters can be something else...see them giving advise on blocking as SA to Moses on relationship matters...lol...We have seen things.

udoakwa:
In which of the state is this please?

E no go pass benue...its cultural over there.