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mariahAngel:
There's a difference between loving and being in love with a person.
The passion part of their relationship is dying out, which needs reigniting.

mariahAngel:
That's not true

A woman who once loved you can love you again

Psych412:
babe, I don't understand

all this list for his wife to have sex with him.

mariahAngel:
Reignite your love.
Make her fall in love with you afresh. Awaken the passion in her.
Do things that you haven't done for her before. You love her, don't you?
Start with little things. Buy her romantic gifts: skincare sets, perfume... surprise her
Take her out spontaneously. Make her feel beautiful and special again, and I swear, she'll be killing herself to please you in no time.

smithclito:
the thread is open for insult now pls bring it up. mouth ranticees

smithclito:
I remember asking politely not to insult. other couples can learn from this thread. do u know I bath my children ,fetch water for the house, sweep at time, run errands just to relieve my wife yet we still have problem. so pls temper r comments with respect. I believe u will not want someone calling r father or brother he goat because of his own wife Will u? . afterall this forum is for adults I believed.

Kriss216:
Your first and second options are void.

Married women always complain that cleaning the house and taking care of the children are too much for them, while they did more than all that for their boyfriends before getting married.
An average Nigerian girlfriend will clean the house, wash plates, cook, serve the boyfriend and still engage him with marathon sex.
But, once she’s married, complains and naggings of too much work sets in.

smithclito:
Pls I need your own though .
My wife since after our first child , she got dedicated to house work, cooking, then the children, and almost no time for me .
I almost beg anything I want to make love to her and always have the fear of her reply of tiredness before I try my luck anyway . this have been going on for 5yrs,it was not like that before we got married. am a believer so issue of side chick is not an.option though would have settle it .
I have talk to her several time but she always go back to it
am actually thinking of separation but on the other hand am thinking I might b the one selfish. though am tired of all this already but I love my wife and my children.
pls no abuse just tell me your plain though without sentiment or emotion.
Thanks.

Osnami:
If we wan follow this law, all the girls wey dey nairaland no go get bride price

mariahAngel:
Biko mee ka'm ghota...na bekee o




Explain? I was waiting for someone to explain it to me, gi na si...

mariahAngel:
Ya tachaa, ñu chaa, ya raha n'eshi okwaya?

mariahAngel:
Owudi eshi okwu I've learnt something new.



Boys will be boys...

mariahAngel:
O chara'm acha n'ishi!

Ka'm gwa gi eshi okwu ehn, ihe m debure na komenti'm ahu kariri ihe ahu I huru...M gbashikwa ike ga editie ya
Nsogbu eshi ahu na thread nri ezuerela'm for this week




Okakwa mma otu ahu o

Balance.

mariahAngel:
A few days back, I saw a thread titled Falling in love or growing in love, which is better?, then I read through the comments and saw one that I didn't totally agree with. We don't fall in love, we decide to love was that comment.

I quoted the commenter, stating that I didn't agree with his comment. You fall in love when love catches you unaware was my comment.

Then came another commenter saying the previous commenter was right, and that Everything! Everything man does is driven by conscious or unconscious decision. Even when you don't know, you're making a decision.
To fall in love means to let down your guard--the resistance, as you said. Whether you predict it or it happens by chance, the moment you say "I love you" to another human being, you have likely decided or in deciding to love that person. That you decide to love does not rob you of excitment.
Passion and feelings are regulated by choice--even when we are not aware we are making that choice.
Then I asked, How does one decide what they have no control over?
What about an instance where you put up a strong resistance, and still end up falling in love?
We cannot control how we feel, what we can control is how we react to what we feel.

We both went back and forth, and back and forth, and ended up not agreeing with each other....
Then it occurred to me, Could it be that we were both right? Him talking from the male perspective, and me from the female perspective...
A case of me seeing 6 on my side, and him seeing 9 on his side...

So, I need answers from mature minds: Is it possible to decide to love genuinely? Or is it a case of convincing one's self to love a person for some reasons?
How do men decide to love?
Is it correct to say that men do not fall in love?


Modified: It is safe to conclude that Men decide to love, while women fall in love.

mariahAngel:
Ihukwa gi ehn...Onye Aranbanko!

mariahAngel:
Oku na ere ere!

Odikwa necessary mgbe ufodu ooo...maka na onwere ndi ga wu na gi zecha ha, ha ga chorila otu ha ga-eshi enwete gi

mana, Ijikwahu otu ahu nwe nsogbu sha

mariahAngel:
Finger her? Fear no dey catch you?
Na una dey preach morals, na una still dey spoil them.
Una wan marry virgins abi? Who go marry all the ones wey una sleep with before marriage?

Delusional hypocrites!

nuelyoyo:
Finger her na

mariahAngel:
Na wah o!

mariahAngel:
Owudi ihe ta... back in the days on food thread

Funny enough, back then, I saw you as an occasional troublemaker...

mariahAngel:
I nwekwere point n'okwu a ooo