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LauraClasikVibe:

Why the face?

Basically all women these days want to get married but very few understands what marriage is all about.

Even though your assertion about all men from age 45 and above are cheats is very wrong, I won't deny the fact that a lot of men are being pushed into the arms of strange women, no thanks to their nagging wives at home.

Show your man love, care and comfort and watch your love grow till old age.

LauraClasikVibe:
Almost all and I repeat NEARLY ALL the married men I know above 45yrs have one girlfriend or the other.

It's almost normal now

That's because you women have chosen not to show love, care and comfort to your husbands.

Op you should be a comedian cos you've got a sense of humor.

Tupac - shot dead on his way to a club shortly after watching one of Mike Tyson's bout.

Notorious BIG - shot dead

What I feel is that people get killed on a daily basis. The reason why these ones was publiziced is because they're celebrities.

Offpoint1:
Who says crowd means seriousness? I could come with my entire village and end up still being a Jackass.
It's meaningless norms/tradition.
Both family can meet on any other day for familiarity.

It's tradition that's what I meant. Same way paying of bride price is, no matter how useless it sounds to you, whether you like it or not, you have to go with at least one elder in your family cos tradition demands you're not the one to do the talking, the elder is, that's when you will be given a listening ear.

Such offers are ritualistic in nature. Paying such amount of money for gay sex isn't ordinary there's a spiritual exchange going on behind the scene which you aren't aware of.

Anyways I'm not gay, I can't even imagine myself kissing my fellow man, so such offer is DOA for me.

Going in numbers shows that you're serious.

You can't just walk into your girl's house and tell her father that you're interested in his daughter, they've got to be witnesses from your people to confirm your story so that your request can be taken seriously.

That's the African tradition anyways.

Magnoliaa:
[color=deeppink]Am not "in" your head. Stop flattering yourself.[/color]

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But you just admitted to being in my thoughts not too long ago, what's with the sudden denial?

So despite the harsh economy, this he goat was willing to gamble his job and freedom just for 5 minutes pleasure? Some men just deliberately use their hands to destroy themselves due to lack of self control.

If your mouth is closed for a long time, it will smell that's natural cos air isn't going into it. Your college overreacted, since she had already made up her mind to kiss him, she should have done so and retire to the toilet to wash her mouth secretly.

At least to save her guy's ego. And for the silly guy who resorted to begging for , like seriously....what's he begging her for? He should have just simply walked away and keep the relationship on hold pending when she'll tender a public apology.

Curiosity

Lack of self control

Immaturity

Peer pressure

Problems from their nagging wives of girlfriends

Spiritual problem

Hereditary

Sorry for my delayed response, work stress...I would have preferred it much better if we had this debate on a weekend.

StacyO:
Hope is quite good but, that isn't the main focus.

It is my dear, cos you can't get what you don't hope for. I believe that you're still an undergraduate, the reason why you wake up every morning and strive hard against all odds to make it to your overcrowded lecture hall for early morning classes is the hope that one day after graduation, you'll be able to get your dream job and achieve your financial goals.

That hope is what drives you, despite being broke sometimes, weak, sick, sad, lonely, betrayed..It's what keeps you focused. Likewise every politician, the hope to access the country's apex office is a dream everyone will love to make a reality.

StacyO:
And let's equally admit that sweet mouthing equals bribery.

I disagree, would you accuse the average marketer or trader sweet mouthing you to patronize him of bribery? Of course you won't, same with politicians...pastors sweet mouth members to buy an ordinary anointing oil of N500 for over 10k, it all depends on how good you are with convincing people to support your vision. It has nothing to do with bribery unless of course you choose to give them money which you must be discreet about. I don't see how a sweet mouth is synonymous to bribery.

StacyO:
In a nutshell, you're claiming that the only way to deal with godfatherism is through delegating and seeking favor in the sight of those who wants one or two positions in government, in any case you get elected.

You didn't read or understanding my post, as a human being aspiring for a leadership position you need people to support your vision. Even if you're as wealthy as dangote, if no one stands behind you - you'll be as useless as the "P" in Psychology.

What I mean is that you can't achieve much in life if you disconnect from people, but how you relate with them matters a lot.

Back to godfatherism, the only way Nigeria can truly be free from godfatherism is if the consistution can be amended and political aspirants must be instructed not to spend a dime during campaigns, and purchase of party normination forms.
Also, unnecessary and bogus allowances for political office holders must be slashed or terminated as the case might be, domestic staffs must not exceed three person's, any additional staff will be paid from the personal pocket of the political office holder and not from the account of the government.

If this bill is passed by the house of assembly, and adopted into the consistution, the issue of godfatherism will become a thing of the past cos I wouldn't need billions to get me into office, all I need is a good speech, and a crowd that believes in my dream.

My point is if the financial hurdle aspiring politicians encounter on their way to achieving their political dreams is reduced to its barest minimum, there won't be any need for godfatherism anymore, thus eliminating it once and for all.

StacyO:
Doing this alone increases higher chances of corruption, threats(taking into example, cabals under this Buhari's administration) and let's assuming you signed an undertaking during this whole process.

Let me explain the Nigerian system to you. Nigeria is like a car which has been abandoned for 40 years, then you're contracted as a mechanic to get it moving on the road again with a stipulated time frame. You might try your best, but the truth is you will never be able to get that car back on the road till your time frame elapses.

The Nigerian system is corrupt, terribly corrupt. In fact currently in Nigeria, it's a crime not to be corrupt cos we've so legalized corruption that it has become part of our everyday lives.

The best any president can do is to try his best, but you see corruption in Nigeria, I don't see it ending anytime soon. That's the reality.

If I'm a president, I'll do my best to curb it by appointing ministers with a track record of integrity.

StacyO:
The power you hold as a president has limits too unless you're a tyran like I mentioned.

Every leader must be tough if you want your people to take your directives seriously. And yes it has limits. But calling toughness tyranny is very wrong of you.

In 1997-1998 the then military governor of Lagos Col. Marwa birthed a security outfit called operation sweep. Their job was to rid Lagos of hoodlums and uncleanliness. I witnessed live how they flogged lagosians with horsewhipes for littering the roads and gutters with refuse. Would you call marwa a tyrant for going tough on crime and lawlessness?

In 2004 Charles Soludo was elected as the new CBN governor. Between 2004-2009, he gave all existing banks across the country an ultimatum to either raise a capital base of 25billion or face liquidation. I can tell you here that so many banks were liquidated because of their inability to raise the said capital thereby plunging so many people into the employment market. Today our banks are strong and your money is safe...would you call Soludo a tyrant for reducing the banks in Nigeria from above 70 to less than 20 and making a considerable number of educated Nigerians jobless?

You must be tough, as a leader, ready to step on toes, that's the only way you can succeed. Most especially in a country like Nigeria where Nigerians more stubborn than goats. How you deliberately prefer to feel that being tough is tyranny is still what I don't understand.

Magnoliaa:
[color=deeppink]**I'm still MIA...** I only snuck back here.[/color]

Hmmm...anyways have fun, hopefully you'll withdraw from my thoughts and concentrate your mysterious gift something more adventurous this time.

lastburn:
This person am talking about is 30+ and I intend to marry her but this one shock me

If she's above 30, then I'll suggest that you don't treat that statement with kid gloves.

The reality of the matter is that she flirts and she's looking for justification, that's why she make that comment.

Magnoliaa:

See your mouth...

How you de jare, you just went MIA...

StacyO:
In politics there's actually nothing like hope and you definitely don't share dreams cause everyone is most likely chasing same thing as you.

To win people over to your side requires money especially in a setting such as Nigeria. If you wake me up today and tell me that all the public officials entered there with their brain capacity, I'll forever regret waking up to your call.

Point three is quite valid
Making promises you can't fulfill just to get in there and change your mind. Now that's politics


Godfatherism (A very tough disease).

Do you now believe what I told you yesterday that Nigeria politics is different from that of the Western world?

You have to fight dirty to get onboard, cos it's a dog eat dog situation out there, ordinary course rep election I contested for back then in school, I knew how I had to sweet mouth my colleagues to stand behind me knowing fully well that I won't live up to 20% of the promises I made.

So is Nigerian politics, take Obsanjo in 1999. Abdusalam released him from prison in 1998 and he was aware of the latter's plan to hand over to a civilian government. So he shared his ideas with some wealthy civilians (Oji Uzo Kalu was one of them) and some army generals cos he didn't have the finances to contest.

They stood behind him cos they believed in his dream. And he (Obsanjo) had hope that he will win. And as soon as he (Obsanjo) won, his first act as president was to retire from Lt. Colonel upwards.

So I disagree with you saying that there's nothing like hope in politics, cos hope is what drives you. Without it you can't keep going.

Magnoliaa:
[color=deeppink]Uhm. No. There was no part that literally showed that you are in support or not. You simply put out what you thought. And even at that, what I said still stands. How is 'fucking the brains of a girl out' some kind of revenge? That's what I'm saying. You also used a veryyyy broad brush, asin 'it is only a foolish girl that'll do that and such relationships always end up in a way.' 'With the guy mocking and discarding her.' Yes, it's childish. As well as sick. As it's some form of paying back, right? Getting their pound of flesh back. The lady will forever remain at a state in life, while they go on to succeed.

Why go on to date the girl or come back if they have no need of her?? And that's besides the point of some of such relationships not going that way if the guy is simp-ly smitten.[/color]

Oh!

So you're in my thoughts now to know exactly what I'm thinking by just reading my posts...hmmm. Tell me, where did you acquire this mysterious gift?

StacyO:
1) A retirement plan will be convenient enough.


2) Once he get's the power, he can demand for a change in the constitution which would be attended to quickly than when a common man makes such demands.

Exactly...

StacyO:
Let's deal with number one.



How will you end godfatherism assuming you're financially dependent?



Contesting for presidency in Nigeria, you have to pay millions to billions of naira.
Mostly preventing youths from taking over.



How do you balance such?

godfatherism is more of a state problem than a federal problem.

Yes I currently don't have the billions to singlehandedly finance myself if I decide to run for presidency, so I'll have to share my dreams and goals with party faithfuls and hope and pray that I'll be able to win them over to my side.

And to the best of my knowledge the money bags of the party who I'll be looking up to for financial assistance will be more interested in owning oil wells and wanting bogus contracts than actually controlling me, if I win.

My point is I wouldn't be controlled as a president cos I wield the highest power in the country.

I stopped chatting with my former classmates and old female friends because of this, truth is the country is hard so everyone is looking for a means for survival. Since girls know that most guys can't do without them, they materialize their bodies and offer it to the highest bidder.

The best way out of this is

1. Never compliment a girl you're still in the process of asking out, no matter the kind of pics she uploads on her WhatsApp status of Facebook, just view and like it, but don't comment. Constant complimenting will open the door for begging, after all you're the one falling head-over-heels for her, so you should be ready to open your wallet and walk the talk.

2. Let her know that you're busy type, avoid long and unnecessary chats, it gives room for materialistic request, many inexperienced guys fall victim of this. Your chats should be straight to the point, once she begins showing signs of request just end the chat. Don't form over caring cos she'll take advantage of it to extort you.

3. Stop asking her stupid questions like how was your day, have you eaten, or how are your parents, or other caring questions. Most girls apart from your girlfriend who geninuely loves you are wired to give opposite reply to such questions so as to make you probe further then they'll trap you with a financial request.

In my journey in finding my missing rib or whatever it's called, I've learnt a lot about the women folk, and it will take a girl to hypnotize me before you can maga me. Unless I just feel like helping you out of the goodness of my heart, anything outside that won't work on me.

StacyO:
If given power, how will you bring Nigeria's economy back to life??


FreeSpirited, now you have it.





Shock me.

1. As a president the first thing I'll do is to clean my house. Let's assume I get elected under APC, I must rid APC off corrupt elements if I'm to succeed.

Obasanjo did this in 1999 when he was elected, he retired all the generals that rigged him into power.

I'll make every old school politician in my government politically useless, if the make noise I'll send the efcc after them, freeze their account...etc. once I've eliminated the threat if godfatherism, I will be free to concentrate on my job as the president.

2. Pare down parastatals. Take it or leave it, there are over 500 government agencies in Nigeria, most operate as ghost agencies, and have become channels for embezzlement. For example I'll merge FRSC, EFCC, ICPC...into the police force. Every other parastatal that looks irrelevant will be closed down. Monies given to these parastatals must be accounted for or else heads will roll.

3. Tame white elephant projects. I remember the Lagos ibadan express way, more than 3 presidents budgeted millions for that roads, but year in year out, the road was still in progress. White elephant projects will not exist in my government, every project that is awarded to a contractor must be completed as complete funds will be made available for them. Projects under my leadership will not be an avenue to siphon funds.

4. Security. Experienced, tested and trusted generals will head the country's military, the police force will be reformed as well. And before I forget, I'll issue a law that anyone found with a gun who isn't a security personnel will face firing squad, the law must be enforced by relevant security operatives,

5. I'll work on the country's debt. Under the obsanjo administration, Nigeria was granted debt relief.

Truth is the balance sheet of the 36 states are sinking deep into the red, In a decentralized federal system like Nigeria’s, state budgets typically affect the lives of ordinary citizens more than federal spending does. State borrowing are very risky and must be addressed ASAP.

6. Infrastructure, Health Care, Education, Sports...I'll appoint seasoned hands with a history of success in that field as ministers, and support them with whatever they need to move their various ministries forward.

I'll stop here for now.

StacyO:
Yes.

It was mostly rampant during school days.

I was relatively scared of accepting pens from my fellow mates

Lol...I guess our parents back then didn't care much about our ears as much as they cared for the rest of our bodies, that's why we just had to make do with whatever convinent object we found.

But being scared of pens was way overboard na...you could have politely told them to remove the cover while you make use of the casing, unless your classmates back then used both the cover and casing to clean their ear.

Magnoliaa:
[color=deeppink]Hahahahahahahahahaha. I thought we've agreed that women enjoy sex, even more than men do and sex is even more work on the man's part? How's "giving a lady premium knacks while she's chopping his money" a sweet revenge oh? The way you people have constructed that your peníses into some form of tool to achieve things is mind-blowing. It's the same reason you believe you can fúck a feminist into submission. You shaaa always like the idea of a payback. Very sick something.[/color]

Read the end of my post where I clearly stated that some guys can be that childish meaning I'm not in support of such.

But you clearly ignored it and decided to place judgement on me for reasons best know to you. Very terrible attitude if you ask me.

StacyO:
That pain cover thing is disgusting ehn.

Lol...call it old habits dying hard, it's something I started far back in primary school.

StacyO:
@Nazgul
I created a new thread without any comments in it.

Repost your answer back then, lets discuss.

I would really love to gather more knowledge on politics.

Ok...

Till date I make use of any available object around me whenever the need to clean my ear arises. Could be pen cover, could be cotton bud, could be anything...I don't have any dedicated object for cleaning my ears.

Dear op, the first law of success in business is satisfying your percieved audience, not minding whether or not you're making a fortune out of it. Then and only then will your attain financial stability and success.

From your post here, you seem to be more interested in getting clients than actually satisfying them.

Such acts will lead to early frustration...I don't mean to discourage you, but work more on satisfying your audience and I can assure you that once they're satisfied with your works, they'll be the ones struggling to get your contact and not you desperately trying to force it on them.

Good luck.

needanswer:
If you are truly CONTENTED then I commend you, cause most girls aren't contented with what they have or what their parents have, or even with what their partners have.

In another scenario, maybe you havent seen the MONEY or GIFT that would move you. While sharwama, indomie and eggs and those little things may not move you, a guy buying you a G-wagon worth millions, gifting you a duplex on the island or giving you millions in your account to be his girlfriend or wife MAY move you. I imagine if these was what those your admirers offered when they returned it would have been a BIG TEST FOR YOU, cause if you turn them down some OTHER GIRL will gladly accept them with open arms.

Well said.

Hunger and greed is what has made relationships terrible, most girls just keep longing for what will destroy them.

Only a foolish girl will accept to date a successful guy whom she rejected when he was still struggling. Such relationship will definitely have no future cos the guy will make sure he bangs her brains out then kick her off and still mock her, some guys can be that childish.

lastburn:
My girlfriend and I had dis talk about what she consider cheating in a relationship. Guys you should ask your girlfriends or wife and you fit shock! She said what she consider as cheating is sex! So long as you guys didn't have sex then its not cheating no matter what you guys are doing!!!! I weak... As for me? If you play, you play to win!

She's still immature, my best guess is that she's below 23 years. That's how girls that age reason. She's not with you for anything serious, she's still exploring herself, so this things you see coming out from her mouth are thoughts she's been habouring for ages. Don't argue with her... she'll outgrow it with time.

chatinent:
It depends on you.

Just do your part. Don't bother about the other person leaving.

Find sb who understands marriage not some beauty queen without brains.

Lol...this your post is so funny. So you don't deserve happiness?

If you spend your whole time making sure your girl is comfortable but she pays little or no attention towards your own happiness or comfort, she's a selfish and self-centered leech.

Relationship is like partnership business, both parties must strive collectively to make it work.

When one party is putting in all the efforts and the other party remains dormant, sooner or later the one putting in all the efforts would get frustrated and begin to nag.

When someone geninuely loves and respect you, he/she will go the extra mile to ensure that you're happy.

chatinent:
It depends on you, not your partner.

I disagree...it depends on your partner not you.

You can love someone from the depth of your heart and can even be willing so sell yourself into slavery just to cater for her, but if she's the selfish, nonchalant, and heartless type, all your efforts would be for nothing and you might end up being sucidial.

Preciousgirl:
Men, can you share a woman you love with another man?

Assuming, you meet a woman u so love, you propose love to her and she says you two can go out be she has another guy. Can u settle for this?

Drop your reasons

Let me educate you my dear.

The moment you tell a man you're in love or in a relationship with someone else, but you two can still go out, that statement has automatically registered you as his sex partner.

He will just keep you as a fúck mate pending when you both will get tired and break up.

And you can't expect him to commit financially and emotionally to you cos you've already told him from the onset that you have someone.

The best thing to do in situations like this is if you no longer see a future with your current guy, end things maturely and move on, and let whoever is coming onboard know that you're very much single.

That way things can work out between you two if you two put in much effort.