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Sadly such girls only exist in movies, romantic novels and our imaginations. They don't exist in reality.

This issue isn't worth a breakup, since you've made it clear to her that you can't support her because you doubt the authenticity of the scheme, and she has refused to see reasons as regarding your stand, I'll suggest you play the mute role on her.

Don't call, don't text just ghost her for now. In less than a week she'll make contact with you. When she does, don't bring up this issue anymore cos she would have gotten your message loud and clear. Just ask her how she's doing, her business... etc, then you guys can pickup your romance from where you left.

Bouz:
imo state government, your government invited the military to do that.

My government? Did I tell you that I'm from imo state?

Never mix business with pleasure, the two don't work together.

The rule of the thumb is never allow a girl who isn't your wife, sister or daughter to manage your business in order to avoid stories that touch the heart.

I'll advice you to look for a sales girl who will be accountable to you and keep her there to manage the business, as for this your girl, just cut off all ties with her and move on. It's obvious that she don't want what's best for you.

But they didn't warn ESN in Orlu, they dived into the Orlu airspace and started dropping bombs like Hitler's Luftwaffe in WW2

Most times, the best relationships begin from odd meetings.

It was an arranged affair without your consent, you're angry...I'll implore you to look beyond your displeasure and ask yourself if the guy in question possess the qualities you want in a partner.

You've already confessed that you're already developing a soft spot for him, meaning he obviously meets some of the criteria of your dream partner so why break it off?

From your write up as far as I can tell, the only reason why you're so bent on ending things is because arrangements between you both were made behind your back. That's a very silly excuse to terminate a promising relationship unless if you have other tangible reasons (which you wouldn't wish to share) as to why you choose to end things prematurely.

StacyO:
You might be wrong.

I'm 95% Right. And I believe you're fully aware of that.

Women love money madly, guys love sex madly.

Women dream of meeting cute rich guys who will buy the world and present it to them, guys dream of meeting a beautiful goddess who will give them the sex of their lives.

The goddess and Rich guy meet, the goddess opens her legs and the guy opens his wallet. Both parties are satisfied. Case close.

Get friendly with whichever one you fancy, most especially if she's close by (church, neighborhood, work area... etc) then indirectly flaunt your little achievement at her and watch her fall for you irrespective of whatever you're good looking or not.

As crazy as this sounds it's the sad truth, girls don't fall for guys because they love them, they fall for his achievements, and love and respect him because of it cos that's what secures their comfort in that relationship/marriage.

Follow your heart...as long as you don't share the same womb or the same dad, and you're not cousins, my brother you're good to go.

Money is a reward for labour, once it's given the giver will expect the reciever to meet certain of his needs.

This I why I do advise girls to restrain themselves from accepting gifts unnecessarily from men, cos you become indebted to him.

To you question, it depends on the person and the nature of the relationship you have with him. From your post you used the words Man , and Claim meaning he's a grown up man and probably married, you should know that the only thing that made him spend his money on you in the first place is because he wants a taste of your coochie and not because he loves you.

banjicom:
Maybe it is the way you talks and the things you say to ladies that makes the decent ones turn you down.

Do you have dreadlocks?
Do you smoke?
Do you dress and talks like bro shaggi?
Which kind of friends do you keep?

Take this advice op

And to add a few, get a job don't be lazy.

Girls love busy guys, not guys who will spend the whole day stalking her and asking silly questions.

Also change your environment, there's a saying that your environment influences you.

They don't do it for love, they compromise when age isn't on their side anymore, because separating from a promising relationship they've spent years to groom and nurture for a job or business they feel they can always get something much better isn't worth the risk to them.

Because trying to find a new guy who will commit to them is a Herculean task considering their age and other factors hence their decision to compromise.

This is exactly how I will propose, no time abeg. Just keep trying till one enters her finger then we will talk about date and venue.

Sorry for your loss, God will give you and your wife cute kids.

To the topic, it's common with sales boys/girls. It's not a gender issue. That N30 change is her personal money, as she won't remit it cos you were overcharged.

Most sales boys/girls try to get little change from this means, most times the money can serve as their lunch, transportation, emergency cash...etc.

Next time leave it for her, her salary as a sales girl in that pharmacy shop might not even be up to 15k.

Do you have any video evidence of a White person referring to her as ugly?

Magnoliaa:
[color=olive] I told you. to wait. until I become a billionaire. Ahh. Where did I say ayam rich? O.O I can't afford gifting you a Rolex watch.

But this one that you're insisting and to be kind (yunno I'm always like that), you can pick your choice from the ones below and I'll have them delivered to wherever you are.

This should settle it, kay?

You *look* like a romantic and mushy person, so I'm sure these will appeal to your senses.[/color]

Chie, I don suffer, so na these N200 kids watch you decided to give to me. And it's even a watch for female kids not even males.

And you're even boasting to deliver it to anywhere for me, I can bet my NIN slip that the cost of deliver would be 5 times the cost of those watches.

I'm heartbroken.

lefulefu:
Just because of food u want to destroy ur relationship with ur guy
What u did would embarrass any mother in law.
Even if u don't like ppl touching ur pot entering ur kitchen u handled it the wrong way with the mother
We nigerians we always get touchy about food

To make matters worse, it's not even her pot, her gas and her kitchen.

I can't even imagine taking my girlfriend to see my mom and dad, then she cooks for them in the kitchen, using the utensils she meets there, only for her to reprimand my mom because of food.

Na that minute such relationship will end, cos you can't disrespect my mom in her own house, for a food you didn't prepare with your money. A girlfriend for that matter, like who does that?

Honestly the kind of girls we have these days would make you wonder if marriage is worth the stress.

Well I'm not surprised, when a girl spends all her life uploading pics on social media, her IQ level automatically becomes below average because she'll begin to feel that the world revolves around her, no thanks to the hundreds of simps bugging her inbox with disgusting love messages, so decency, respect, morality becomes non-existent in her life.

The average Nigerian male youth is a womanizer, you can hardly have any reasonable discussion with them aside women, betting and football.

Even the undergraduates ones, if you stay close to them, many of them don't have any reasonable vision for themselves aside how many girls they've bedded, how long they can last in bed...etc.

So like you rightfully pointed out, when they get to 30 and above, many will become depressed and sucidial.

The truth about heart break is that it comes with signs, no matter how a partner tries to pretend, you'll definitely see the red flags. Problem is that sometimes love can make one of the parties foolish thereby making them ignore these signs and end up paying the ultimate price of a devastating heartbreak.

Prettyangelng:
When you love a partner but he or she does not love you as much as you do. And you believe you are nice then allow him or her to cheat. They will discover your worth and come back to never cheat again. Just like a man abandoning his pretty wife for a side chic. When the side chic deals with him he will value his wife.

What kind of silly advise is this?

If this is the level of your reasoning then I'm afraid to tell you that you're suffering from low self esteem.

Get busy.

One of the major causes of masturbation is idleness. You said you're done with your secondary school education, try getting a job or learning a skill pending when your jamb will be successful for further education.

The stress of your job wouldn't allow you the privacy you need to masturbate, and once you can go for up to 3weeks without masturbating, you're permanently cured.

Good luck.

Country hard abeg, not everyone is willing to carry the burden of another person who might not be greatful to you for your efforts like the poster above me rightfully pointed out.

Only a dumb religious girl who believes in not visiting your spouse until after marriage can be deceived to such extent.

One of the most difficult things to fake is being rich, if she moves closer to him as it should be in every relationship, she'll see that all na wash. And you know how girls of these days demand money from their guys, how does he intend to scale through this phrase?

So like I said, only a dumb religious girl can be fooled in such manner.

Magnoliaa:


[color=deeppink]Wahala.

Where, where is the place I said I am rich?[/color]

Drama queen...I nor get power for your Merry go round

When am I getting my Rolex wrist watch.

JDJ4:
No my bank is UBA but the account number I transferred the money into is first bank but my app didn't display which bank to select after choosing other Banks in the options, it went successful and I got debited

Go to transaction history on your app, you'll see the details of the transaction there. Cross-check the account name and number of the recipient.

My best guess is that you mistakenly typed a wrong account number and unfortunately it was a UBA account not first bank, that's the only explanation why the transaction went in the first place.

If it was a first bank account number there's no way it would have been successful.

What was his response?

Just screenshot it and click on the reply button, click on choose file and locate it on your gallery and you're good to go.

Jealousy is a sign that love exists, however when it becomes excessive it's regarded as childishness.

If the account in dispute is a UBA account and you used your UBA app for the transaction, and the recipient's bank is also the same as yours (UBA), it's most likely that the transaction was successful and the money is in the recipient's account.

Reason being that the default setting on your UBA bank app is on UBA and not other Banks, meaning if you don't click on other banks, it's assumed that you're making a transfer to a UBA account so once you inpute the recipient's account details and it's a UBA account, the transaction will go without bringing out a column for you to select the bank of your choice.

So my question is...is your bank the same as his?

I'm 99% sure that the person behind that call is a dark hairy balls Nigerian nigger.

Just keep playing along until he asks you for clearance fee, pick-up fee, shipping fee, or whatever format he might invent just to cajole you to send money to him in order to redeem your gifts, then you can ghost him for good.

My dear I can relate to this your experience. Infact I know exactly what you're passing through.

Those of you saying that she'll change if a man comes into her life, I can bet my NIN slip which I walked through the valley of the shadow of death to get that she won't change one bit regardless of how loving the man in her life is.

I had a similar experience some years ago. There was this girl I won't say I was dating her though, she lives in the neighborhood so one thing led to another and we became close (more like friends with benefits kind of stuff)

What ended any kind of futuristic plans I had for our friendship was her dirtiness. Her's wasn't bodily like your cousin, this one baths, and dresses neat but maintaining the house is where her own dirtiness was. This girl will use the W/C system and wouldn't flush, where I stay is just 4 flats, we have a dedicated prepaid meter and generating set for the sumo so the issue of water not being in the house can't even come up, cos the geepee tanks are always filled up with water.

She will defecate, and wouldn't flush, whereras there's water in the W/C, shower and the tap as well, she'll urinate and leave it like that, she'll spit this catarrh spit when she's brushing her mouth instead of using water to flush it down, she'll leave it there. When she cooks and we eat, she'll just dump the plates in the kitchen sink, crazy thing is that there's water running in the tap and liquid soap to wash them, but she wouldn't.

I just had to directly and sternly warn her to stop coming to my house cos I just couldn't cope with such person. And seeing that she wasn't even acting like someone who wants to change, my complains was already turning to nagging.

What this your cousin needs is to live with a family member who is much older than her and can effectively tell her the dangers of her personal hygiene, if not, she'll find it difficult to maintain any relationship, cos no guy will tolerate such person.