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Magnoliaa:
[color=deeppink]Proposing after years and months of keeping her in the dark sounds like some manipulation thingy to me. An intentional thing to keep her hanging onto you, confused, not knowing where to go or what to do.[/color]

That's the idea.

Many average girls see relationships as poverty alleviation program. Like one twitter user rightfully pointed out... once you ask her out, you automatically owe her money from that day.

If for example I'm clamouring for marriage, and she's looking for something else like money, don't you think I will be the one to get hurt? I shouldn't be the only one clamouring for marriage in a relationship, when I know it will benefit her more.

If she sincerely wants to get married she should desire it, talk about it, act like it, reason like it...when I see her seriousness and maturity in becoming responsible and settling down, I'll propose.

Ilamina:
Why were they asking young boys s to pull down their trousers

Is jewish penis supposed.to.look a certain way

You seem to take so much interest in WW2. I was once like you until YouTube cured my curiosity.

Hitler had a plan for Germany before the war, but as the war progressed, his ambition began getting in the way of reality, sadly tens of millions of German soldiers pay for it with their lives.

To you question I have no idea, where I spent most of my time in gaining knowledge about WW2 was in the various battles and not how Jewish POWs were treated.

prince2pac:
I have gotten tired of everything concerning the other gender for over two years now,

no relationship
no sex
no masturbation

just me

This is the fastest way to geninue peace of mind.

Magnoliaa:
[color=deeppink]Except for the bolded part I disagree with, this explains some things for me, because I don't get why you and a girl that are cool, have been dating strongly, even talked about marriage lots of time would suddenly flip on you in public and reject your proposal.

Nawa for the things men do to corner women, o.[/color]

What's your reason for your disagreement?

That's an insult.

You can repeat the same statement to any of your elderly aunties and watch them call an emergency family meeting on your head.

Toks2008:
Exactly my point.

Love never fades but because it was never love but selfish expectation, that desire fades away once the expectation is not met.

See Many people only stick along until they find someone better but some never do so they just linger on with who they are with believing that a bird at hand is worth a thousand flying out there.

This is why i dont go into any relationship with high expectation..i give my best and still expect the worst. Human love is a scam.

Exactly...in lay man's terms, geninue love doesn't exist anymore.

Toks2008:
Don't waste your time trying to desociate protein from meat...if meat does not contain protein then it is never a meat.

So get my point one last time...there is no love without these attributes of love so don't even juxtapose.. So the point is that people are not even capable of loving for love but all they want is what they can benefit.

So if it is indeed love then it is more than enough.

Lol...I'm not arguing with you...cos you're absolutely right. But you're coming from the theoretical aspect. The way it should be based on the definition of love and what it's all about. And how those who claim to be in love must back up their claims by possessing all these qualities.

I'm viewing it from the realistic aspect, what we're presently experiencing in our everyday lives.

Love fades, that's a reality. No matter how much a person loves you, at one point it obviously will fade off, you'll discover that the fire isn't glowing as it used to be when you guys started.

At this point, what will keep the relationship/marriage going is the person's character. How he/she was brought up. That's your backup plan.

If you go into a relationship believing that once your spouse loves you, all the good qualities associated with the word love will begin to manifest in your relationship, you'll be greatly disappointed the day that love vanishes, cos that's the day the true identity of your spouse will be revealed.

Case study, men who loose their jobs and their wives suddenly become the breadwinner of the home...on paper we will be made to understand that true love conquers all. But in reality many men who find themselves in such situation always have a sad tale to tell.

Toks2008:
You still don't get.

Respect, understanding,honesty and all these aforementioned is what love is all about.

On paper yes in reality no.

Many people who claim to love their spouses lie, some are dishonest, some are rude and lack respect...etc.

These good qualities you mentioned don't come in because you love a person, they're in built based on the way you were brought up as a child.

A guy who was born with a silver spoon and wasn't brought up properly will disrespect any female he comes across. He will talk rudely to them, hurt their feelings... It has nothing to do with whether or not he loves his spouse, he might be spending a considerable amount of money on her, but it's his nature to be rude.

A girl who survived on runs in campus will lie to any man she comes across whether or not she loves him...it's her nature.

Love doesn't change the nature of a person, that's why I suggested an easy remedy, which is to go for someone who already possess these qualities as his/her default character, so whether or not the love is present he/she can still accord you the respect, honest, truthfulness...etc you deserve.

Magnoliaa:
[color=deeppink]Well, now you knowww. I don't have blood flowing through my veins, too.

Keyword: main. They are extremely weird asf and own spaceships.[/color]

Can I test to confirm, I have a very sharp knife here with me I'm using to peel oranges, can I use it on your hand just to confirm your claims. I'm a very curious somebody.

Main...I thought main guy should be one person what's with the "They" do you have hundreds of main guys?

Toks2008:
Love is all encompassing of all you mentioned.

Love fades easily...respect, understanding, truthfulness, honesty... etc doesn't because they're the inbuilt nature of a person with a good home training regardless of whether or not love is present.

So if you're lucky to come across such person, your relationship/marriage will work.

How old are you op?

Cos only teenage boys with no plans for marriage in the next 5-8 years make such childish arguments.

Magnoliaa:



[color=deeppink]You gerrit. There's no need, really, to know more. *shrugs*[/color]


[color=deeppink]I am not of any Earthly race. That's all you need to know.[/color]


[color=deeppink]I am.

Just felt like putting one of a vacay I went on with my main boo. [/color]

So you're not from earth...I thought as much cos you sound so weird to be human.

Oh...so you have a main boo...is he a human like us or weird like you.

Magnoliaa:
[color=deeppink]Mschew. Share profits equally and you're a mAn? A trado-chlistian mann for dah mata?

Fess, you wee gimme money to goan do comedy? As a coven—clown—shit, as a Flying
Feminist FC member, sha, I have the oddities to succeed, , buh ya a stingy man. I won't gaan start a business that'll crash because of a lack of funds.

Deer, ham terring yew dee tluth. I wee send you outta ma house if you can't cook as a man. His what?? Hehehe. Which house? House that I bought and paid dowry over his head to bring him into? Abeg, dissolve that thinking.[/color]

My dear I've joined stingy men association o, so concerning the money you're requesting for, let me see what I can do.

To your next paragraph..are you telling me that where you're from it's women that do the marrying... interesting. Meaning the man will be a house husband, while his wife puts food on the table. Hmm...tell me more.

Which part of Nigeria does this culture exist? And don't tell me Igbo, because despite your fruitless efforts to mimic an onitsha accent when you pronounced truth as tluth, you failed woefully, so I won't believe you if you claim to be of the Igbo extraction. My best guess is that you're a fulani milkmaid.

Ehen... why did you remove your profile pics...aren't you proud of your looks anymore?

Disadvantages of dating kids. When you date a child who hasn't gotten his feet in life, such occurrences are bound to happen cos he wanted your coochie for pleasure and nothing else. Getting pregnant automatically terminates whatever agreement you guys had.

If I'm the girl in question, I'll just forget about him and move on. Although many girls will find this act very difficult to do.

Magnoliaa:
[color=deeppink]I don't understand, but anyway, no.[/color]



[color=deeppink]Anyhow, goan find the time to learn how to make awesome meals, so that your wife won't send you packing out of her house tomorrow. All those work you're doing won't help you or turn out to be something, when it comes to being a family man and househusband. Your bed- and food-matics are the only things that really matter. A man that can cook for and sexually satisfy his Wife, the Head, is a fulfilled man. It is in the nature of men to strive for that.[/color]

Lol...you should try venturing into comedy you've got the humor for it. I'll subscribed to your YouTube skits provided you agree to share your profits with me equally.

But on a serious note, if you get married you'll expect your hubby to make meals for you, else you'll send him parking out of his own house...lol, you're truly a drama queen. Anyway na cruise you de catch sha, enjoy the moment.

Women have intercourse for love. They're sometimes selfish with their bodies and try to assertain if the guy they're offering it to actually loves them before submitting it to him.

Men on the other hand, do it for fun. That's why some men boast openly about the number of girls they've slept with, cos to them, it's all a game.

A man can easily have a quickie with any random hooker and not feel anything for her. But a girl will always want that bond before having sex with a man. That's why you sometimes hear them ask the guy questions like will you marry me if you sleep with me...?

Sex to women is emotional, while to men it's just a 10 minutes exercise for the sole purpose of ejaculating.

So a guy's perspective of sex will be totally different from that of a girl.

Zzor:
When I said I believed Stephanie Otobo's story people were ranting but the truth will surely come when you least expect, a woman will hardly accuse a man of rape and other sexual misconduct there's always an element of truth in them,that's why I always believe any lady that boldly come out to accuse any man of rape or other sexual misconduct because most of the accusations are true.Smh for these men of God

Not all of them are true. Some women do it to get back at the man when an agreement/deal goes south. Typical example is the story of that actress who claimed to be raped because her client didn't uphold has end of their financial agreement.

Today even the police don't take rape cases serious unless it involves a minor, and that's because ladies have abused the word. Many girls feel that's the only card they have to get back at a guy who probably ditched them. Unfortunately, they end up shooting themselves on the foot.

Rule 1. if you stay alone avoid letting guys know that. Many will try to rape you.

Rule 2. Don't fall for a guy because he's got good looks and sounds romantic, look beyond the physical and you'll see the real him.

Rule 3. You fell for the wrong guy, the signs were there but you choose to ignore it. If vibing together was the only connection you felt with him, then he certainly wasn't the right guy for you. Cos players know how to vibe with different girls, it's what they're good at.

My advice....you can report the case at the police station, the earlier you report the better. The more you delay, the more irrelevant the case would be cos they'll surely ask you why you delayed.

There's no need to involve your parents cos you'll end up making them feel worried. Handle it yourself by reporting to the nearest police station.

And try to be wise, a single girl staying alone should be security conscious. Your doors shouldn't be opened to anyone you come across.

You've learnt your lesson, next time you'll be more careful.

Congratulations on your incoming child. Since you've decided to gamble with your future for 5 minutes of pleasure, you should be prepared for the consequences.

Whether or not the child belongs to you, just know that she will definitely pin it down on you because you're obviously the weakest of all the guys she has had anything to do with.

You should know that by now you have to double up your Hussle cos that 20k in your account is peanuts compared to what she'll begin to demand from you in the coming weeks and months.

You can drop school and learn trade or brick layer job, anything at all to cater for your jobless pregnant wife and your adopted bastard child.

By the time life has finished dealing with you, your penis will be so scared to respond to the nakednédness of a woman.

Congratulations once again.

StacyO:
#fact




But,with lots of exercise one can still maintain all those fat

Exercise ke, many married women who have given birth are too lazy to take a common bath and you're saying exercise. You want to kill her be that.

iskalamong:
I can't.
Some of my reasons include (randomly ordered):
1. Bonding (pair-bonding) may be difficult.
2. Most guys won't settle for a single mother and she knows this. Hence, it's likely her attitude is pretentious to trick me into marrying her.
3. Her baby daddy can come into our lifes as he wills due to his child(ren). He is part of our lives whether we like it or not. So the earlier we accept that, the better!
4. Additional expenses/effort training another man's child(ren).
5. The marriage won't be fresh as it should since we'll be starting the marriage with her child(ren) (less honeymoon excitement). I can't ask her to abandon her child(ren), that would be unfair/evil.
6. You may doubt this but, she most likely won't respect me as she should. You know why?
Because she'll feel I settled for less (marrying a single mum). Making her think I'm a low value man and/or a man that can't get high quality maidens. Sorry, it's just the way most ladies and women are wired.
7. High tendency to cheat. This may be due to reason 6 above. She may cheat on me with guys who used her and dumped her. She may perceive them to be real men (alpha males). It could also be due to a likely promiscuous behaviour which may be the reason she's a single mum.
8. Sexual reasons. Child birth has effect on firmness of a woman's-breasts and the tightness of her vaginal-walls. Although, one could argue that this may be unavoidable with aging/time, I'll at least prefer to enjoy them fresh (both the upper and lower front feminity) even if for a short time period. Physical/sexual attraction is necessary especially for new young couples in my opinion,
The list goes on and on.

Conclusion:
Everyone is different and so are our priorities and preferences. You may see these reasons as shallow or flimsy excuses, but it is better to know yourself, your strengths, weaknesses, preferences, priorities and deal-breakers. This way, you'll make better decisions and prevent mistakes and regrets. Afterall, it's better not to marry a single mum than to marry her and make her live miserable, or worse divorce her with more children than she had when you married her leaving her damaged (if she already isn't).

Disclaimer
It should be noted that I have nothing against single mums and this post shouldn't be taken as a bias, prejudice or discrimination against single mums.
Many single mums are wonderful. Some are single mums by forces beyond their control and several other unfortunate circumstances.
This post is simply my opinion and should be regarded as such.
Thanks!

Iskalamong!

Would you rather prefer a girl who's had multiple abortions?

StacyO:
Lol.

Please change this mindset abeg.

There are natural breasts and butts nau. Lol



This your generalization ehn. E weak me oooo
It's just your preference jare.

Yea they're natural ones no doubt, just that I'm not so moved by them.

A big breast easily gets saggy and unattractive with time compared to a small or average one.

A big ass easily becomes abnormally shapeless if she gains weight due to child birth and other hormone changes compared to a small or average one.

Check out girls with big breasts ass at age 35-40 who have given birth, if they undréss, you won't even have an erection because of the nature of their body. This is the reason why I prefer them in moderate size so that my wife can always look like a girlfriend to me anytime any day, even after giving birth, she'll still be sexually attractive to me.

Magnoliaa:
[color=deeppink]Yep. Just so you don't get any ideas or run off with them.

Good for you that you found none of your plates broken, and definitely wouldn't be surprising if you are the type that never go in the kitchen to cook.[/color]

Lol...am I not expected to get ideas to run off with considering the magnitude of flattery you've experienced in this short period?

Hmmm...na person way get time de cook na. Most times I buy dinner on my way home and eat and sleep.

Cooking for me is mostly on weekends, and it's mostly light foods like spaghetti, rice, noodles...etc. those are the ones I can manage to prepare for now.

Any man that lacks self control cannot go far in life.

From your narrative, you're a very weak person, immature, lack discipline and lack self control.

A girl your best friend introduced to you as his fiancee starts disturbing you for hugs and kisses, rather than distance yourself from her, you still foolishly acomodated her in your house. If you were wise, you should have cut off from her the moment she started flirting with you.

But you didn't... instead you knowingly and willingly slept with her, and when she tried to get clingy with you, you started forming repentance and blocked her afterwards, how old are you sef? That action only worsened things cos you made her feel used, believe me, girls hate such attitude that's why she decided to deal with you.

The only thing you can do now is to send your friend a lengthy apology and stay away from him for now, so he can recover from your betrayal.

And you need to learn self-control, stop behaving like a goat. Learn to say no and stick to it.

You've been drinking again ba...

The reason many pastors are so arrogant and behave like they're God themselves is because we Africans have refuse to reason with our brains.

We feel that the only way to be successful in life is when you become religious thereby relegating hard work to the sidelines, and by so doing we empower these pompous creatures who feel they're the custodian of divine wealth and can only give it to whoever worships them.

The day the average African man will embrace hard work and discard religion, is the day many pastors will become jobless.

Back to the topic....they're churches everywhere. they should just call into any of the penticostal churches around and discuss with the pastor he'll happily join then both.

apatheticme:
Oga nor vex!

The comment was hilarious, that's why I quoted you! My bad! Won't happen again!

Lol...there's no need to feel awkward, I'm bored and would love a good company, and you're already sounding lively, let's gist biko before nature (sleep) calls.

It's all vanity...

I've said this here severally and I'll say it again. I prefer girls with moderate or even small boobs and back side. I see those ones with abnormally big boobs and back side as being fake. So many surgical centers theses days, I need to be sure that what I'm lusting after is actually real not some kind of implants.

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JOACHINpedro:
Trust me, it doesn't matter anymore

It does matter if we're to talk you out of depression.

apatheticme:
Errrrm, we weren't talking about me!

The moment you quoted me and hit the reply button, you officially requested that our talk should be extended to you, hence my reply.

JOACHINpedro:
My case ain't the worst but it hurts to know that the only way to solve this problem is through illegal means.
I regret being a weakling in dealing with my adversity

Let's hear your story.