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EmemJU:
exactly my point, it is an abhorrent fetish ritual (it's really 2 that's given, i hear, one is buried alive and the other is killed and eaten) that some people are still holding onto becos of their belief in 'consequences', actually, it's more like,if your parents had at some point partaken of another person's daughter's okukim eron, they fear they will die if they dont do the ritual for their adiaha too, and it is said that they dont eat or even drink water in that daughter's house for fear of death (or some such ridiculous believe)

like i said, a lot depends on the parents believe, my parents never engaged in any such thing so when it got to our turn, no such thing was expected of us, it's good if u say u r a christian and u stand up for your belief and your family and friends know what bounds u cant overstep, then they wont even suggest somethings,

When I asked my uncle for a detailed explanation, he just told me that it is just a customary demand, and nothing else. I dont know if he is completely unaware of the fetish rituals that is involved in it, because I am aware of it. And you know that in our culture, an Adiaha, is not 'properly married' if an Okukim is not presented to the family. Some Christians nowadays choose to refrain from partaking in this rituals and will strike a compromise by just giving the girl's family money to take care of their business, without being involved in it. Not that it's confusing, I know my stance on such acts. Never will I partake in it, and for you, an Ibibio girl, who might be under the constraints of culture, it's refreshing to know that you are on the same wavelength as I am.

Those diabolical acts always have dire consequences

EmemJU:
@ Ndipe - ah, ebi inam 'awa oduok, awa oduongo", ada uwa idiong o and if u r a christian and your parents never partook in other people's own u can stand your ground and resist, for my sis, our famil didnt even bring it up cos dem kno say, no way we no de dat kain levels,
but some insist and even get diabolical ontop it, it should be a fading culture,IMO, those that stil hold on to it are just trying to be funny,
they also say refusal to do it has some implications o, according to them cos for me, it's what u believe that works

Yeah, I know that our custom mandates that an Okukim should be presented to the Adiaha's family when she is getting married. But what is the purpose? My understanding is that it is killed to use for native rituals with the belief that the girl, prior to her birth was already married in the spirit world. No way would I sanction such practises and no, I wont even partake in eating an okukim eron if I know of it. Parents whose first daughters were not married traditionally cant eat another person's okukim for fear that they will die.

Image123:
Ndipe
Av never even seen that one before. The guy is a plain joke. Beats me how he manages the yakubus on the moderators.

Scroll down and laugh at this one also.

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-239876.64.html

jamace:
Don't you know this is CULTURE SECTION? Unam ikot .

The insult was uncalled for!

Very interesting post! Yes, He prayed to God in His Humanity does not mean that Jesus Christ is not God.

Image123:
I'll say the biggest and easiest culprit of multiple i.ds on the religion section of nl is one 'segyemaro'. That guy would have close to ten i.ds 92% certain.

I couldnt help but laugh when I read this. https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-208109.32.html

Ikedonn:
This one happened to me.It's only in lagos you will see area boys will come to eat in your restaurant and after eaten he will stand up and start going and when you ask of money he will tell you  "are you crazy or do you want me to punch your face?"lagos na wa and some of them after eaten they will disappear

Not restricted to Nigeria alone but also common in the USA. It's called Dine and dash.

World Cup brings feuding brothers together

By Martin Rogers, Yahoo! Sports
jun 21, 17:54 EDT

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Jerome Boateng of Germany at a World Cup training session. (Joern Pollex/Getty Images) JOHANNESBURG – Brothers Jerome and Kevin-Prince Boateng had their relationship torn apart by the World Cup. On Wednesday, soccer’s showpiece event will make them enemies for 90 minutes. But when the tournament is over, it will help bring them back together again.

At Soccer City, on the edge of Soweto, the Boatengs will become the first pair of brothers to play on opposite sides in a World Cup match when Germany faces Ghana.

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Jerome is a midfielder with Germany. Kevin-Prince plays in attack for Ghana. They haven’t spoken in a month.

The Boatengs grew up in Berlin and are actually half-brothers, with a common father who hails from Ghana. They each were brought up by their mothers, separately, but were inseparable throughout childhood and into the early stages of their professional soccer careers.

That all changed on May 15, when Kevin-Prince hacked down Germany captain Michael Ballack while playing for Portsmouth against Chelsea in the English FA Cup final. The tackle ruptured Ballack’s ankle ligaments, ruled him out of the tournament and infuriated the German nation.

Ballack is a national hero in Germany and was seen as being crucial to the country’s hopes of tasting glory in South Africa this summer. The depth of negative feeling was such that German fans in Johannesburg have been spotted with T-shirts reading: “Wanted Dead or Alive – Kevin-Prince Boateng.”

Jerome Boateng publicly defended Kevin-Prince from the criticism but angered his brother by saying the tackle warranted a red card.

“We have not spoken since,” Kevin-Prince Boateng said. “I wasn’t happy about that and I said we should go our separate ways. But after the game I will see him, I will hug him and I will shake his hand. It is the World Cup. It is a good time to put things behind you.”

Jerome is quieter and more unassuming than his brother. He is soft spoken and doesn’t much care for the spotlight. Kevin-Prince likes fast cars, controversial Tunisian rap music and has tattoos covering much of his body.

Both men had the option to play for Germany or Ghana, with Kevin-Prince opting for the African nation after complaining about limited opportunities in his homeland.

If Serbia beats Australia in the other Group D match, held simultaneously, then it will be impossible for both brothers to qualify for the knockout stage. For one of them, the dream will end in the very venue where this tournament began and where it will end on July 11.


Kevin Prince Boateng of Ghana in a match versus Australia. (Photo by Ezra Shaw/Getty Images) And at the end of it all, they will reconcile: Two different boys, joined by blood, ending their feud and settling their differences.

“Strange things happen within families,” Jerome Boateng said. “In any family there will be times when people have problems and issues – and that is what happened with us.

“I think and hope that it will sort itself out. We have always been close. He is my brother. I wish him all the best, always.

“We had a difference of opinion about something that happened in football. I don’t think this is going to last forever, I think we are going to fix this.”

http://g.sports.yahoo.com/soccer/world-cup/news/world-cup-brings-feuding-brothers-together--fbintl_ro-boatengs062110.html

Indifferent

Thank God, He will surely open a way for His children, Amen.

Cheaters has been exposed as fake. Dont buy the story.

You've likely gotten one of those e-mails from Nigeria where someone writes that you've got money coming if you just wire money.

A Connecticut woman apparently fell victim to the scheme and had been swindled out more than $150,000 dollars when she notified she authorities, GreenvilleOnline.com reports.

This week, the man police say is behind the scheme is in a South Carolina jail.

Kenneth Ojua, who is originally from Nigeria and has been living in the United States for 14 years, was arraigned on May 13 in a federal courthouse in Greenville, South Carolina, the Web site reports.

Assistant U.S. Attorney William Watkins Jr. says Ojua passed himself off as an "African diplomat" and he and another person promised the Connecticut woman $15 million if she paid Ojua a "storage fee."

Watkins calls it an international e-mail scheme and that story has been featured on NBC's Dateline.

Police discovered Ojua is The indictment says the scheme dates back to November 2006.

Here's how it happened, officials said: the defendants apparently concocted a story an American family who died in a car crash in Africa and $15 million that no one else could claim, the Web site reports.

When Dateline reported the story, they showed a log Ojua kept in his apartment that reportedly includes hundreds of potential victims from all across the country and the amounts of money each person sent.

Today, the federal prosecutor will seek to keep Ojua in jail while awaiting trial.

He has been charged with wire fraud according to GreenvilleOnline.com.

http://www.nbcconnecticut.com/news/local-beat/Cops-Nab-Man-Suspected-of-Swindling-CT-Woman-93797139.html

Kunbee:
I dont know why people are poke-nosing

I wonder, na real bad-belle.

prince0:
To let you know that traditional marriage cannot be overlooked, no man of God will join you if you have not paid your wife's bride price. As for me I did only traditional marriage because I was equipped with understanding of my culture, guess what, i paid only N24 as bride price cos that is what will pay in my area (Benin). only that there was enough drinks and food. I[[/b]b] challenge even the president of America to confront me and say she is not my wife because i didn't do church and court marriage. Let us wake up and embrace our culture. So many guys are afraid to settle down because they are afraid of the amount required to do all "these marriages"

The president of the USA has a whole lot on his plate to be bothered about the legality of your marriage.

sholleex:
though a traditional marriage is valid nd recognised by law it is not enforceable, so it realy doesnt natter if u do it b4 or after d court marriage!!!!!

It's legal in the Nigerian society, and accepted worldwide. But women who still insist on it, (and boycot the white wedding) are leaving doors open to a rival coming in as the second wife. Since, unlike white wedding, traditional marriage gives the man the go-ahead to bring in an additional wife.

prince0:
It is very unfortunate that this generation has forgotten our culture, court marriage is oyinbo kind of marriage, we have our kind of marriage which traditional, i did only traditional because i believed that the most important aspet of marriage is that you able to pay your wife's bride price.
All these court or church wedding are ways of wasting fund, after your traditional wedding seek a pastor's blessing shekena! When Jesus went to Gallilee for a wedding was it in the church?

This my take on this.

Since you are convinced that traditional marriage is the only aspect that legalizes the marriage, why then would you want your pastor (of the Christian faith) to bless your marriage. Dont you see the contradition?

namski:
Who are these english grammer teachers. wetin bi una waec english score?

Speaking and writing impeccable English doesnt have anything to do with WAEC scores.

ednut1:
This is a lesson 2 nigerians. They wil nt recognise our degree cos its s.hit. Science students doing theory all day no practical/outdated equip. Accounting students still using paper to learn instead of computer. Etc. In my 3yrs in uk i once met a former bank md 4rm 9ja washing plate. If u gt your papers intact b4 going do any proffesional exam accredited 2 us or uk (acca, cima, marketing, security,catering,plumbing) etc b4 going or u go wash plate ,sweep floor tire

demoralizing but true.

SUKKIE:
I cant agree less but not to you.You were once friends remember,that's covetousness by every meaning of it.

Covetousness after the man is dead and even the Holy Bible has given her permission to remarry, you still have a problem with that?

SUKKIE:
@post
Why u wanna go and do n do dat luv?
Regardless of the attraction or whatever it's utterly wrong!

How so? She is morally obligated to remarry after the death of her husband.

MRbrownJAY:
^^^^^^^LOL, typical 9ja mentality to only see pass their own misery and to automatically discredit or think that no good can possibly come out of a fellow black man.
by the look of your post, i can gather that life IS extra tough for some fellow NLers.
hey maybe i should get myself a travelcard (not that there is anything wrong with that), you would probably prefer that. . . . . . . . . . by the look of your statement, thats only what we are "suppose" to achieve.

Na real bad belle be that. I cant imagine that Jakumo could be suggesting that you are lying to impress nairalanders. Goodness!

I think it happens in America, particularly when the man knows he is dying and confides in his friend and his wife about his wishes for them to be together if they are compatible. It boils down to trust. Sometimes men, knowing their friends would want to commit to their wife to a trust worthy friend.

Sometimes, women are their worst enemies.

Found out the same problem too when I got here.

davidylan:
that would be because she's not white. I watched the miss USA event a few weeks ago, the contestants had only one thing going for them . . . white skin and mostly blond hair. I couldnt pick anyone of them who was particularly beautiful WITHOUT make-up.

Lets not downgrade this Fiona lady, she IS beautiful.

In my case, I picked Miss Oklahoma USA, I thought she was the finest, and was disappointed that she took the 2nd position. Some bloggers do agree with my pick too.

Among the MBGN contestants, from what I observed, Miss Lagos was the finest!

[quote author=mama-gee link=topic=451678.msg6100140#msg6100140 date=1274922596][color=deeppink]Why should a man marry his best Friend's widow of all people?[/color] [/quote]Is it morally or legally wrong?

Everbright:
I have heard all, but the one that gets me irritated is when people sing this song:

There is none holy as the Lord
There is none beside him
Neither[b] is there are [color=#990000][/color]any rock as my Lord.[/b]

For goodness sake, there's no sentence like "NEITHER IS THERE ARE, The correct thing is NEITHER IS THERE ANY ROCK AS MY LORD,
Please correct people around you when they sing this song in this manner. The annoying thing is that even learned people sing it that way

Where in the world did you hear this expression, grammar queen?

Miss Lagos, to me, was the finest in the lineup.