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Family › Re: For Married Women- When You Had Sooo Many Suitors To Choose From by Nekai(f): 10:25pm On Apr 28, 2011

I think you have many years left before you have to start worrying about gettung married. Don't let pressure cause you to make a bad decision. However, don't sit around waiting for "looooove" to sweep you off your feet. Love is not a pitter patter feeling, it's a choice you make when you get to know the ins and outs of a person.

From your suitors choose someone that has the qualities you want and see where it leads. You may find out that it doesn't work out, but you can bounce back and try again. If you use this feeling of "looove" to make a decision on who to date then you will find it harder to leave the wrong person and end up wasting you time.

Many women who are still single in their late 30s or 40s wasted precious time with unserious guys. This "love" feeling can come even if the person is on death row for murder. Some women stay with monsters all for the sake of "love".

Family › Re: For Married Women- When You Had Sooo Many Suitors To Choose From by Nekai(f): 6:23pm On Apr 28, 2011

Blazay:
Na your level be dat.
The question is "when did I NOT"?
The girls in my family sell like hot-cakes please.
Ask around.
I wish I could show you my proposal list even as a married woman.

Had the same feeling till my mom sat me down and told me to 'just pick one'. . . thank God I did. The best one too. He stayed. You berra do the same honey. Women make men into what they want them to be. The only trick is that. . .YOU HAVE TO MARRY THE MAN FIRST. . . .!!!
Your work starts 'AFTER' marriage, not BEFORE. Don't let Facebook and Yahoo Messenger fool you darling.
Na fiiim trick be all those 'toasters'!

For sure! The more choices. . . the more confusion. . .the more regret. You are in your 20s. . .do not wait till 30 my dear. Too many broken relationship before marriage makes one emotionally frigid or hyper-elastic and with no happy medium. Your self-esteem will be in the toilet after so many dumping sessions from you or the other party. Every failure in any relationship becomes a prospective cumulative hazard. TTOO MANY TO REMEMBER AND COMPARE AND CONTRAST. . . . The reason MOST people CANNOT stay in marriages these days. Too many greener pastures the mind tells you would have been this and that. . . while forgetting you need to work on your own marriage to make it what YOU WANT.

GET MARRIED NOW. . . you are being tooo picky! The one you want 'WILL NOT' want you.
Make your man what you want him to be. They do not come 'ready-made'.
I made mine.

Bottom line: ALWAYS GO FOR THE MAN THAT LOVES YOU MORE THAN YOU LOVE HIM. He is more stable than you are. . . while you play catch up. He will be there for you always.
But if you love a man more than HE LOVES YOU. . . na you go chop the shyyte.
Soooooooooooo, choose wan!
To be the knife or to be the yam. . . I say choose wan.

Mu he he he he he he

You are welcome sweerie.

AJ to the rescue! cheesy

Family › Re: How Do I Get My Baby To Sleep Peacefully? by Nekai(f): 3:39am On Apr 28, 2011

It could be normal colic and if it is then it's just a matter of waiting it out. It could also be that your baby has an allergy to something that you are eating. Dark circles usually go hand in hand with allergies/sensitivities. This website has a few suggestions concerning foods to avoid while breastfeeding:

http://www.babycenter.com/404_are-there-any-foods-i-should-avoid-while-breastfeeding_8906.bc

Occasionally a baby will be fussy at the breast or gassy after you eat a particular food. If you notice a pattern, avoid that food for a few days. To test whether that food really was the cause, reintroduce it once and see if there's an effect. Mothers report that babies most often object to chocolate; spices (cinnamon, garlic, curry, chili pepper); citrus fruits and their juices, like oranges, lemons, limes, and grapefruit; strawberries; kiwifruit; pineapple; the gassy veggies (onion, cabbage, garlic, cauliflower, broccoli, cucumbers, and peppers); and fruits with a laxative effect, such as cherries and prunes.

If you think that something you're eating is causing problems for your baby, it's usually something you've eaten two to six hours before feeding. The most common culprits include cows' milk products, followed by soy, wheat, egg, nuts, and corn or corn syrup.

Talk to your baby's doctor before you omit any foods from your diet. If avoiding a food could cause a nutritional imbalance (for example, if you eliminate all dairy products), you may need to see a nutritionist for advice on substituting other foods or taking nutritional supplements. Continue taking your prenatal vitamin as long as your baby's fully breastfed to cover any gaps in your own diet.

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Romance › Re: Romance Section Chat Room III by Nekai(f): 12:53am On Apr 28, 2011

Basketball

I think I'm in the wrong section. cheesy

Romance › Re: Romance Section Chat Room III by Nekai(f): 12:47am On Apr 28, 2011

Pweety4me:
[color=#550077]I guess your busy, maybe next time when i actually mean anything to you.[/color]

Tell him to get his head out of Kobe's behind! grin

Romance › Re: Romance Section Chat Room III by Nekai(f): 12:45am On Apr 28, 2011

Deal, but only if I get my sausage intact too.

When they lose I am going to enjoy it!

Romance › Re: Romance Section Chat Room III by Nekai(f): 12:31am On Apr 28, 2011

If the lakers win yet again then I will tatoo KOBE on each of my breasts and cut my nipples off and wrap them in hershey's kisses wrappers and give them to you.

Romance › Re: Romance Section Chat Room III by Nekai(f): 12:19am On Apr 28, 2011

REALITY101:
Yes with Ranch. . I hope you love Milky Ranch too

Not particularly but in this case I will down it all with relish. grin

Romance › Re: Romance Section Chat Room III by Nekai(f): 12:06am On Apr 28, 2011

Great! Will that sausage come with a side of eggs?

Romance › Re: Romance Section Chat Room III by Nekai(f): 12:01am On Apr 28, 2011

Kobe has been a thorn in my side for years. The Celtics are coming 4 him this year!

*And those photos are real. cry

Romance › Re: Romance Section Chat Room III by Nekai(f): 11:36pm On Apr 27, 2011

kandiikane:
@Nekai, I will be the first to Object to that wedding. Just have money for bail when they arrest me

I got your back. grin

vladimiros:
i like melons

Wait, is this the market?

Romance › Re: My Love Is Getting Married To Someone Else by Nekai(op): 11:28pm On Apr 27, 2011

LOL! U know dats not me. Leave me alone!

Romance › Re: If I Was A Woman. by Nekai(f): 11:24pm On Apr 27, 2011

Don't worry, God always makes sure to give men like you plenty of daughters! cheesy

Romance › My Love Is Getting Married To Someone Else by Nekai(op): 11:22pm On Apr 27, 2011

https://www.bittenandbound.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/03/prince-william.jpg

https://images.forbes.com/media/2009/04/08/hot-royals-Prince-William.jpg

[img]http://www.topnews.in/files/Prince-William3.jpg[/img]

cry

I could have been Princess Nekai.

Romance › Re: Romance Section Chat Room III by Nekai(f): 11:21pm On Apr 27, 2011

JayBee his name is William and he's getting married on Friday. I need you to go and stand up when they ask if anyone has any objections. I can't make it to the UK in time.

Romance › Re: grown up by Nekai(f): 11:09pm On Apr 27, 2011

MzDarkSkin:
[color=#0066ff]I always go back to this scenario:

toddlers in a sandbox playing.
Toddler A has all of the toys, but refuses to play with them
and pays them no attention till a Toddler B or C shows that they
have interest in the toys!

You snooze you loose!
You guys trip me out with that "we have s3x then I leave her because it
was too easy" line but then if she has principle and gives you a challenge
she is playing 'hard to get' smh.[/color]

Yeah, sorry bro. cry

Romance › Re: Romance Section Chat Room III by Nekai(f): 11:02pm On Apr 27, 2011

Poor Reality went off to cry in a corner! grin

JayBee, I need u to do me a favor and beat up that dude for me. He promised me the sun, moon, and stars and now he has the nerve to try and marry that mumu?

Romance › Re: Romance Section Chat Room II by Nekai(f): 10:38pm On Apr 27, 2011

https://lafakers.com/images/kobe_gay_7ch0.jpg

grin

Romance › Re: Romance Section Chat Room II by Nekai(f): 10:26pm On Apr 27, 2011

Romance › Re: Help ! My Neigbour Life Is In Danger by Nekai(f): 10:12pm On Apr 27, 2011

So he doesn't have any contact info? It's hard to believe that he has no cell phone/email/facebook/pager.

Family › Re: A Wailing Cry For Help! *Da Latest Gist* by Nekai(f): 9:57pm On Apr 27, 2011

Listen, my sister was in the same boat as your cousin. The only difference is that your cousin is smart enough to confide in you before the wedding. My sister never told us a thing and led us to believe everything was perfect.

Her husband abused her in so many ways. We saw the signs, heavy makeup to conceal bruising, excuses after excuse as to why she didn't want to come around anymore. Her outgoing personality changed completely. He made her cut off all her friends and family one by one so that he could have total control over her. That's what your cousin's fiance is doing to her. He has started already by accusing you and her friends of bringing guys for her. He is going to give her a long lecture (as these types lecture their wives and girlfriends) about how he doesn't want these people around his matrimonial home.

Sadly my sister endured his abuse which never ended for over four years, even through her 3 pregnancies. He would tell her that he wanted to keep her pregnant so that no man would want to look at her. She kept thinking he would change and he never did, even taking his rage out on his son.

My sister left him and now she is set to marry (in a few months) a wonderful guy who loves her three kids like they are his own. The years of abuse left so many psychological scars on everyone involved. I know how worried you are because I was in your shoes. My sister's husband even caused her to mistreat our mother. She wanted so badly to prove that she loved him so that he would love her the way she needed to be loved.

Please tell your cousin to break this off. I had to worry every single day that one day the violence would end in her death. Many womwn out there never got any warning signs before they get married and the guy shows his true colors.

Romance › Re: Is It Important For A Boy To Remain Virgin Till He Gets Married? by Nekai(f): 9:30pm On Apr 27, 2011

Remaining a virgin isn't about being able to prove it to anyone. That's not the point. The essence of being a virgin would be the gift of sharing that unique part of yourself with your future wife/husband.

(But how would a woman prove her future husband is a virgin?)
How would you prove your future wife is a virgin? You can't, unless you take her to a doctor and put her through an extensive assessment. Even still a doctor can only prove that her hymen is intact. Which proves nothing, since it can be surgically restored. And since the hymen is a ring (in 99.9% of cases), and not a solid sheet of of flesh, it is very hard to prove that it is intact. The exam itself would probably result in injury to the hymen. Also the hymen can naturally be thin or thick, wearing down little by little so that it would be hard to prove that it is even there. And please don't mention this so called bloody river that is supposed to pour out when a virgin has sex for the first time.

Family › Re: What Is Your Perspective by Nekai(f): 7:13am On Apr 27, 2011

chaircover:
My perspective is that I think she made a mistake when she said the woman was 38. I think she meant to say 15.

Politics › Re: The Lies Behind The West's War On Libya And Africa by Nekai(f): 7:10am On Apr 27, 2011

Great article!

Romance › Re: Birthday Gifts For Gals. by Nekai(f): 5:49am On Apr 27, 2011

Romance › Re: Should I Wait For Him? by Nekai(f): 5:45am On Apr 27, 2011

How old are the both of you? If he is 20-25 then I think he wants to experience some freedom and independence before he thinks about marriage. If you are 25-30, keep your options open and if someone else comes along and he still isn't ready, just let him know that you need to take a break from the relationship.
Six years is a long time. I think you should wait it out. No need to make any hasty decisions.

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