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googles:
hmm wow. . . . i wouldnt treat anybody anyhow but asking the driver to drop me off somewhere is not treating one anyhow its him doing his job yea?

ok lets ignore the money then. . . .it doesnt change the fact that the man is still the driver who should see to his duties

so its not abt the money, its just not ok to have your pa as your driver

the woman is your MIL doing the stuff you househelp would do normally right? hence the guy is your FIL doing stuff your driver would do normally.

it depends on how you ask, if a man was to ask his MIL to cook for him, he'd have to be circumspect no? my point exactly. . .

my angle is that his dad's request is not as much of a taboo as er'one is making it out to be. . .c'est fini

male

googles:
well only if he is paying my mum to do the cooking i guess he can order her around 

since this guy is paying the man to be his driver then he should be ready to do wat he is being paid to do. . .simples

my point is, a parent is doing something that you'd normally pay someone else to do, should you treat that parent the same way you'd treat the hired help?

you seem to be hung up on this money issue? dude said his dad volunteered to be his driver. . .and he's going to pay him 80k for it

do you think if he was hiring a driver he'd pay him 80k? i haven't heard of any company that'd pay a driver 80k(there might prolly be one or two) that 80k is simply because it's his dad. ignore the amount.


_{of which it's starting to appear like you're being double-teamed. . .lol}

googles:
lol. . . in an ideal world yes, errone should be treated with respect but in this real world we all know he who pays the piper dictates the tune

so forget the ideal and be realistic please   i know people who aren't rude to their help that makes it realistic enough right?

address my dad wat way ? calling a retired man retired is now an insult ? please

babe you've tacitly stated you see nothing wrong in being rude to a driver. cos you can do it doesn't mean it's right. Oh and yeah, his dad is/was a driver, that occupation is what he raised his children with. . .there's nothing embarrassing about that. . .

yea its embarassing cos if you are fine with it a whole lot of pple wont be. . . and how would you feel if your dad is driving you on a lagos road

and a bus driver rain curses on him. wouldn't you feel embarrassed for your father  

babe. . .this is a very weak excuse, who doesn't get curses rained on him? it's not a function of whether you're a driver or not(well i dont sha. . .i've perfected the 'evil look' )

you need to rush for an appointment and your dad is driving at a pace dat does not suit you . . .would you shout on him or say oh hez my dad i ll rather

turn up late  

a simple, daddy i'm running late can you move faster will suffice(and i'm sure you'll prolly retort with what if he refuses. . .ha!)

your dad is to mingle with other drivers at work then he is the butt of their jokes "oga's father na him be him driver" jokes  

lol. . . wow

if you treat him with the respect befitting a man that was gave birth to you nko? this isn't a valid point. the man was a driver for how many years, dont you think he'll be more comfy with drivers? in addition to knowing how to handle them?  babe how much do you know about how drivers think?

derail

googles:


easy on the hypothetical insults

why should i use a cab wen we have cars in the house   and a paid driver  

if the father did not want to be ordered around then why not retire his retired self to sommin less embarassing  


I wouldnt leave the house for a party without catering to my household's needs first. . . and in case of eventualities if am not around and my mum is

she can actually cook for my husband

lol. . .twas all in jest

i'm talking about the propriety of asking your MIL to cook for you, not whether or not she can. so and so's mum, will you please go into the kitchen and fix me something to eat? (if you're of the 'please' persuasion)

nairaland

friends

googles:
ok lets say am the hypothetical wife of the poster o. . . i cant drive

my husband employs a driver which in this case doubles as his dad { }

he earns 80k monthly which is quiet expensive which would not allow for us to employ anova driver

i want to go to a wedding without my husband . . .do i bike to the wedding with my gele ? or call my father -in-law driver to come and drive ?

or should i sit at home and sulk all day cos my driver wont take me out simply because he is my father-in-law

if i was the hypothetical husband i'd ask you if the devil was using you and then ask you why your lazy ass couldn't get into a cab? cos you're too big abi fat(remember we're still hypothetical) or what? then i'd storm out of the house(still want to be the hypothetical wife? )

conversely if your mother (remember i'm still the hypothetical husband) was in our house to look after the newborn twins(once again the hypothetical thing) and i was hungry, would i ask/order her to go into the kitchen to cook something for me? bearing in mind your irresponsible and overweight arse(men i love this hypothetical meinene o) has gone for a wedding,?

Iranoladun:

Anyone who employed his dad as his driver in Nigeria is a first Class dolt
I seconded that

babe, the guy didn't say he was looking for a driver did he? he said his dad volunteered, i dont see what the big deal is, personally i think ppl are fussing over this whole thing because over time we nigerians have come to look down on drivers as being sub-human. what if his dad wasn't collecting any money? what if he just said let me be chilling with you? the dad is 67, the money cant be said to be the issue, his dad just might belong to the group of people that absolutely cant do without work. . .there are ppl that die soon after retirement o. . .God forbid in OPs case sha!

Of which, if OP's location is right, then it means i might have driven past OP(and possibly his dad) a couple of times. . .lol

lol. . .in this case, the guy was employed not because the guy needed a driver but because the guy wanted to make his dad happy. . .any woman that would think of doing such is a first call dolt!

Kashif:
All of them here are idiots and oppressors!! If I have my way, they will all be dead. I don't have any pity when I hear that a policeman has been killed The worst are those regular, mentally retarded ones in all black. I HATE THE NIGERIAN POLICE! If I have problem, they are the last I'll call.

What the hell is wrong with them?!

feel free to knock your head against the nearest wall till either of them shatters. . .

a colleague of mine was in his car with his cousing on the abuja-kaduna expressway yesterday(sunday 26th sept) night when the car broke down, no one stopped to help them apart from. . .*drum rolls* policemen, they towed their car 10km to the nearest village where they could get a mechanic, how's that for being idiot and oppressors?

jonathan

googles:
Imagine your wife ordering your dad driver to come and drive her to a weekend owambe party

or him bashing your car seriously due to fatigue would you be scolding the man

or if hez at work would you have your dad sit at the driver's lounge and expose him to all sorts of tongue lashing

I think the poster should sit his Dad down and ask him for other things he'd like to do other than driving him around

that's just plain silly. . .if she has the liver to do it then the husband deserves the embarrassment it would cause.

Iranoladun:
"Dad, here is a list of my itinerary tomorrow
-I have a meeting at 8.30am tomorrow so you've got to resume early
-thereafter take my dresses to the dry cleaners
-pick me up at my client's office at 11am
-drop me at the office
-get my lunch at tantalizer by 1pm on your way branch at Goodies and get my grocery'

Imagine my dad/driver commits a traffic offense and I want to handle it my way; he will definitely brings up the "agba syndrome" I'm your father and have been driving before you were born' lol

I cann't imagine asking my dad to do all the above or more as my driver.  It is un-African to ask a father to be a driver to his child; imagine having my client or wife in the car and we both sit at the back to have a conversation which role will my dad play then? Is it a drivers role which means he is not permitted to contribute to our conversation or as my dad?

As said above, look for a better way of keeping your dad busy and getting to see him rather than he driving you round the town

all the stuff you listed can be dealt with by anyone with half a brain, of course having your dad drive you isn't ideal, but it's not as much of a taboo as people are making it out to be.



@chaircover
your mom coming to look after your kids is essentially the same thing, one of your parents is doing something that you would have paid someone else to do, she may do things in a way you dont like, but most times, you'll have to suck it in(if them born anybody well, make the person shout at your average nigerian parent now. . .lol). The success of the task, be it driving or baby-sitting is defined by the skill with which you handle the issues that crop up.

and of course for the driving, (like baby-sitting) it's best not to let it be for a long time. if it was me, i'd let him drive me for 2-3 months then give him one nice excuse, prolly that i'm going to be having midnight meetings or something

debosky:
@ cap

In the interest of preventing further 'derailment' we can continue this on a separate thread if you wish.

Will GEJ declare his assets before the elections take place? I think that is very unlikely - the Code of Conduct Bureau have received his asset declaration, BUT unless he willingly decides to do so or the law is changed to make such information publicly available, we won't know.

Another opportunity may arise if his opponents can muster a strong enough argument during the campaign, forcing GEJ to declare his assets. Some highly salacious rumours of corruption would have to emerge for this to happen, but, apart from a few rumours here and there, no smoking gun has emerged as yet.

oyb:
we would love it i he would actually do so, maybe some of us who believe he is more of the same will be shamed to silence, though i sincerely doubt it

if a site as big as NL can actually get it's act together we could actually for GEJ to declare his assets, na just to dey bombard all the media outlets with emails,

denzel2009:
Chai see non-sense question.

Poster, do whatever you like.

walahi me sef i just dey see am myself. . .but you know what i meant sha

slap1:
Witty but silly. The average Nigerian is not aggressive.

from er'thing you've seen on NL you still believe the average nigerian is not aggressive? berra go and ask them to stop calling your name in your village o(if that isn't aggressive tell me what is )

@denzel
when you drive you parents, do you sit in the owners corner?

sorry, i meant when you drive any one of your parents, will they choose to sit in the owners corner?

@gbawe
do you think if there was an accident involving the president's motorcade and the president asked the SSS to stop they would listen to him? when it comes to matters of his personal security the president can be overruled o!

ok ppl, this a video of the presidential motorcade, notice only two cars pass in the opposite direction while he is moving, i dont know where the first car came from(it prolly disobeyed the traffic wardens at the junction), but the second car was on the convoy and turned around at the T-junction(i saw it turn around).

here

i dont know how to embedd videos, i woulda done so if i could

no biggie. . .i'll upload the vid later today and post it on this thread, it's abt 2 mins long though. . .

of which the ADC was retired i think,

inductance

ford

gears

Beaf:
Dude, everything about Jonathan is quiet and behind the scenes (I'll post a better link later); http://nationaldailyngr.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=478:deployment-of-troops-brigade-of-guards-commander-faces-court-martial&catid=98:nationwide&Itemid=484

Abeg, where are you uploading the video you mentioned? I'm interested.

the article said 'could be court-martialled', if you remember the commander for the brigade of guards was changed a couple of days ago with the other GOCs hence he could not have been facing a court-martial.

be careful with these articles.

tpiah:
^^its not that hard to date a non-naija female.

my point [which you missed] is the man is showing his low self esteem and lack of respect for women.

anyone who thinks his sadism is limited to naija women, will get the shock of her life when he reveals his true colours. [s]Unless they're both birds of the same feather, in which case, na them sabi.[/s]


most likely a user and scammer, by the looks of it. He thinks the best way to show admiration for the females he's targetting [and make them feel special], is by running down naija women.

**if you dont get it, waka pass. Others will understand better, after they've been burned**

you stated that much clearly

dentist

@mav
is it 6 or 7 you want? i have links to 7, but if it's 6 you want it's on my hard drive(u in abj?) or you'll have to torrent it

tpiah:
a normal human being doesnt go around making s.tupid comparisons and generalizations of this nature all the time.

says more about the person doing that, and establishes you as a lowlife p.imp.

with this misogynist behaviour cloaked as a pity party, is it any wonder nigeria's reputation is so bad all around the world despite the millions of nigerian men in relationships with non-nigerian women.

you tell the foreign women they're special and much better than nigerian women, all in a bid to get something from them.

youi should ask yourself why you need to run down naija women in a bid to prove you like non-naijas. Should one be a correlate of the other?

i think i get your point now. . .the article writer is doing it to curry favour from the AA girls?

aren't we on african american women vs nigerian women?

i'm not sure how that ties in to us soldier scams. . .