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Religion / Re: Archaeology: Evidence Of Jonah And The Whale Found In Jerusalem (Photos) by NiCurious: 10:51pm On Aug 15, 2020
Exmilitant:
He was vomited at NIneveh to spread a warning of impending doom and archeologist discovered the evidence in Jerusalem?

No. The tombstone pictures are a decorative distraction...they date from 800 years after the supposed Jonah incident, and are not relevant to the article. The evidence is an anecdote about an incident that supposedly took place near the Falkland Islands in the 1800's. A man was said to have been swallowed by a whale, and taken out alive, two days later. The anecdote is being used as evidence that it is possible that the Jonah story could be literally true. But the Falkland Island story is at least partially untrue, at least as to the identity of the ship involved.
Romance / Re: Should I Tell My Wife I Want A DNA Test? by NiCurious: 9:23pm On Aug 15, 2020
Let's look at this from the other direction. You have other children, but you are the only father she has known. Regardless of actual paternity, as far as she's concerned, you are her dad. What will it do to her, if her dad suddenly decides to start treating her somehow, because of the possible result of a DNA test, when she herself has done nothing wrong? Has she not been a good daughter, and a credit to you? How will it feel, if your own father now does a paternity test on you, and decides to disown you if it turns out you're not actually his?

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Romance / Re: Update On My Wife & I by NiCurious: 9:00pm On Aug 15, 2020
Rtk5:
I'll man up & call her, at least if it doesn't work I'll know its time to move on.

cheesy I'm glad you're deciding to call her. If it works, work together on how better to solve your grievances as a couple. If it doesn't work, work on how better to relate, as an individual.

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Romance / Re: My Boyfriend Ended The Relationship, But Still Wants Me To Cook For Him by NiCurious: 7:26pm On Aug 15, 2020
For a fee, cook for him. Then start your own restaurant.

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Romance / Re: Update On My Wife & I by NiCurious: 6:55pm On Aug 15, 2020
Rtk5:
You've spoken excellently well, I really don't wanna call or go to the house again since I've done that severally, sincerely I'm sorry to say this but I'm ready to leave the child for them & pretend I never had a child. That's what they want, they wanna use the child as an edge against me, always expecting me to come. What is hindering her from coming to pack all her stuffs here if she wanna move on cos 98% of her things are in my house. I've packed & packaged every of her things & kept them in a corner.

This guy is giving you bad advice, playing to your insecurities and false pride, and you are drinking it up like a weakling taking the path of least resistance. The solution to your problems is not to pass blame to another person, which you've been trying to do since opening this thread. The solution lies by standing in front of your mirror, and having a really good look. Be a man, not an overgrown boy.

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Romance / Re: Update On My Wife & I by NiCurious: 6:41pm On Aug 15, 2020
Rtk5:
I must confess, all you've said really struck my heart, you're really so on point... I wish I can make the move first. I'm finding it very very very difficult. Something which i know is coming from the devil is telling me that it will portray my self as a weakling if I call her.

Your pride stems from insecurity, which in religious terms is coming from the devil, to mess you up. In non-religious terms, it's just plain messing you up. Try to understand where your insecurity is coming form. It is likely rooted in things that happened in your past...what sort of home you grew up in, what your childhood experiences were that made you feel "less than". You now fear that if you don't control of others' emotional environment (negatively), they will control your emotional environment. Take this opportunity to look deep within yourself for greater understanding of how those fears are controlling you, or else you will be doomed to keep making the same stupid mistakes, even if she does come back. In religious terms, fear is the eighth deadly sin, yet probably first among them.
Romance / Re: Update On My Wife & I by NiCurious: 6:33pm On Aug 15, 2020
Rtk5:
Can you answer this question sincerely as a woman?

1. What do you think is going on I'm her mind right now? Like why she kept mute.

2. Do you think there is still a chance of us coming back or she's beginning to move on?
or perhaps she as moved on?

Lemme hear from you plsss

Turning this question back on yourself. How do you like the silent treatment she's giving you, now the shoe is on the other foot? You're in emotional turmoil. That's what it's like for her, when you give her the silent treatment. Lovely, ain't it? undecided

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Romance / Re: Update On My Wife & I by NiCurious: 6:23pm On Aug 15, 2020
Rtk5:
She did something serious that made me to stop talking to her, then she left saying she can't continue living with a person that keeps malice without focusing on what she did. She did something that even you will find it difficult to forgive.

Do you know that the day she left, she took all the money we be in the house without minding how I'll cope?

That's what she did AFTER you started keeping the malice that caused her to leave. What was it that caused you to keep malice in the first place, BEFORE she left? What is this serious issue, then, that caused you to keep malice, that you still haven't told us?
Romance / Re: Update On My Wife & I by NiCurious: 6:16pm On Aug 15, 2020
Rtk5:
Yes, that's the reason she left. But that's not enough reason to leave her home, there are many women out there who the husband beats them but yet they endure the marriag, I've never for once raised my hand on her. Even if I want her back now maybe she has started moving on & forgotten about the marriage

You are just in love with your own mediocrity. You haven't raised your hand against her, so that makes you a great husband? Should she be willing to stay in spite of your EMOTIONAL ABUSE, which is what your fits of silence and malice are? She's had enough of that selfish behaviour. And that's no environment in which to raise a child, where neither of them can feel at home, when they're at home with you.

Has she forgotten the marriage? I'm sure she remembers that's she's married. But likely she's moving forward, prioritizing a healthy environment for her own and her child's well-being. If you are not moving forward with her, you will be left behind.

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Romance / Re: Update On My Wife & I by NiCurious: 6:00pm On Aug 15, 2020
Rtk5:
her main issue is that when I'm angry I like to change mood, & refuse talking to her for long. So she can't continue leaving with someone that will be keeping malice with her

Now we're getting somewhere. I don't like living with moody people who go silent and keep malice for days. Do you like living with people like that, yourself? How many people here on this forum seek such people to live with?

Sounds like your wife has left your temporarily toxic aura, to seek company with normal human beings, until you start behaving like a human again. Some people might call her overreacting, but hey, who wants to live with a walking, frowning statue for a week or more? As I said before, you can't work on other people, but you can work on yourself. Understand that your emotions are yours, and how you handle them is in your control. Learn how to control your behaviour, for the sake of those around you...not just for your wife's sake, but to model healthy habits of how to deal with unhappy emotions, for your child's sake as well. This will make your work life better as well, and should also make you a happier person. Is it really constructive to imagine all kinds of scenes where your wife is enjoying herself with a fictitious boyfriend? Who does that help? Do you truly enjoy the anger and resentment that you cultivate, when you're "in a mood"? Why not put the same energy into making your surroundings harmonious, and not the opposite? Pride goeth before destruction, and all that. You're your own worst enemy.

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Romance / Re: Update On My Wife & I by NiCurious: 1:21am On Aug 15, 2020
Rtk5:
just a little argument & we started keeping malice. That's all.

Then what if she doesn't come to pick her things anytime soon? If I return her things myself, they'll have an edge to say I chased her away that's why I want her to come pack by herself so I'll be clean

If it was seriously just a little argument, like whose turn it was to shut off the generator, and you both started keeping malice after that...you are both not ready to be married!!! But I wonder how a "small matter" would be enough to make her pack the child and leave the house.

If you don't want her back, you can simply call or text her to ask her to pick up her things. That way she will know you don't want her back, and that way you are not packing her things, yourself, and won't be seen to be "chasing her away". But that's hasty. Basically she told you to call her when you have cooled down, and are ready for her to come back. You have yet to call her, though, so I guess you haven't cooled down yet.

You seem confused, and don't know what you want...you miss her, but you are also talking about a girlfriend...this is the time that you really need to reflect on yourself; reflect on who you are, both when you are by yourself and when you are in a relationship; what your weaknesses are; what you want from a relationship; and what you can do to work on yourself, so that you can be in a healthy relationship. It takes two to be in a relationship or marriage, but you can only work on yourself.

Seems to me you are greatly concerned about what "other people" think, and I'll call that false pride. As I think someone else already said, if your actions are just and honest "before God" first, what other people might think after that, doesn't matter.

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Romance / Re: Update On My Wife & I by NiCurious: 12:47am On Aug 15, 2020
Your questions to Mr. Brown Jay:
1. It is not proper to bring a new girlfriend home with your wife's belongings still there.
2. If you want to know what is being discussed, call and find out.

The question that nobody has asked, but which I wonder about: what "little issue" caused her to leave?

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Science/Technology / Re: Terror Crocodiles With Banana-Sized Teeth Preyed On Dinosaurs 82 Million Yrs Ago by NiCurious: 8:38pm On Aug 14, 2020
dazzlingd:
All these illiterates that have access to internet above commenting who has been counting the years.

You all don't deserve a 21st century existence.
Stop watching nollywood and read up on science, watch videos to understand the universe u live in..
It may not be your faults u grew up in a very religious and backward part of the world, but u are doing yourself intellectual harm by not trying to free yourselves from ignorance.

Continue asking;
How do scientist know that the earth is not flat?
How do they know the sex of a child before it is born
How did they shoot satellites into the space, why are the satellites not falling?
How did they land on the moon?
How did they know the speed of light
How did they know the diameter of the earth
How did they make telephones?
How did they know there is oil beneath
How did they estmate the ages of rock

You guys should grow up, a 12 year old child in germany or china will be disappointed seeing your ignorant way of questioning things



















Politics / Re: FG Dumps Plastic I.D Card For Digital Identification by NiCurious: 10:17pm On Aug 13, 2020
DNA my @ss. The only "digital" biometrics ID system that uniquely identifies the cardholder, that the FG can even dream of accomplishing, if it were competent--is the digits on the end of your hand--your fingerprints.

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Romance / Re: Atheists Dating In Nigeria by NiCurious: 6:52pm On Aug 13, 2020
Atheists and agnostics in Nigeria are far and few between. Cooooooks, you're part time in Montreal, you will have better luck there!

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Family / Re: Woman With Blue Eyes Wants To Reunite With Her Husband - Kwara First Lady by NiCurious: 5:27pm On Aug 13, 2020
Is this whole incident a planned publicity stunt between husband and wife, to raise money for the family?
Family / Re: My Wife Said No More Sex I Can Go Outside Make Kids by NiCurious: 10:56pm On Aug 12, 2020
EVILFOREST:

ADOPT additional 2 if you really need 4.
Walk down to an ORPHANAGE and ADOPT 2 KIDS..
I guess that makes sense.
Or Go to your VILLAGE and ADOPT 2 ORPHANS.
Train them as yours.
By doing that you have empowered the Living.
You have done a great service to humanity.
Family / Re: My Wife Said No More Sex I Can Go Outside Make Kids by NiCurious: 10:54pm On Aug 12, 2020
akpunda86:

You already have two of your own kids by blood.
Dangermouse if i love adoption we would have since but is my blood i need.im not against adoption but my lineage matters

You already have two kids of your own lineage. Are you not blessed? Why not ask your wife if she would be okay with a tubal ligation so that she doesn't have to go through the pain of more miscarriages. Then you two can enjoy each other and your family in peace. Mehn, some people would love to have what you already have--two fine kids, a loving wife, and the resources to keep everyone safe and happy.

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Family / Re: My Wife Said No More Sex I Can Go Outside Make Kids by NiCurious: 10:49pm On Aug 12, 2020
dangermouse:
U have options bro. U can go on family planning. This will enable u to still be having sex with her without pregnancy occuring. I think this is ur major problem. U can still learn to discipline urself and practice withdrawal method during sex. Secondly, u can adopt as many babies as u whsh, if more babies are ur problem. I cant advice u to get a mistress or marry another woman, it will surely make u stray from her.
Family / Re: I’ve Been Sleeping With Your Wife – Man Taunts Neighbour In Lagos by NiCurious: 5:16am On Aug 11, 2020
Mehn. Allegedly the guy was sleeping with the guy's wife, and allegedly he boasted about it. But someone made it his business to tell the husband what he heard, and now there is a dead body on the floor for real, and not the alleged wrongdoer's. Was the guy who opened his mouth trying to do the cheated husband a favour?

Mr. Dickson spilled the beans that led to the murder. Mrs. Dickson reported the murder that her husband was indirectly responsible for, to the police. Does that balance?

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Religion / Re: Pastor Obie Jason: Christians Dating Is Wrong, You Date And Get Dirty by NiCurious: 6:31pm On Aug 10, 2020
Edopesin:


You cannot always work it out, life is not that straight forward sir people change with the weather. These changes can be influenced by different societal factors

Besides I will never advise anyone to change for his or her spouse, it's this submissive that make ladies end up in abusive relationships and society will tell them to endure and not look at divorce as a way out
Health / Re: 8 Diseases A Prostitute Can Give You The Last Can Kill You In Days by NiCurious: 10:08pm On Aug 08, 2020
tydi:


And how do women not get satisfied from multiple dicks

If she was satisfied with the first one, would she need to look for another one?
Health / Re: 8 Diseases A Prostitute Can Give You The Last Can Kill You In Days by NiCurious: 10:05pm On Aug 08, 2020
Possiblegee:
I hope there is none one can contact by just sucking breast ??

Cuz I can’t give up sucking boobs for any reason

Herpes. A guy sucks when he has herpes sores around his mouth, she gets herpes sores on her breast. Next outbreak, the sores on her breast can infect the guy sucking.
Health / Re: 8 Diseases A Prostitute Can Give You The Last Can Kill You In Days by NiCurious: 10:01pm On Aug 08, 2020
Remember, it's their clients that prostitutes get these diseases from, in the first place.
Romance / Re: He Is No Longer Attracted To His Wife To Be by NiCurious: 6:25pm On Aug 08, 2020
fykes:
This is more of a lesson for ladies... Because someone says they love u don't mean they do.
Time tests everything. U get pregnant, love dies and he's looking for someone to cheat.. Not every body with a penis is man and marriage isn't for kids
Romance / Re: He Is No Longer Attracted To His Wife To Be by NiCurious: 6:20pm On Aug 08, 2020
mimimile93:
Stop convincing a man to acquire a liability

Open your eyes, guy. The man himself is the liability.
Health / Re: Ladies, How Many Sanitary Pads Do You Use Per Cycle? by NiCurious: 5:08pm On Aug 08, 2020
Wow, this thread is littered with small boys who would faint, if they had to deal with blood flowing from their manhood just once, and not monthly.
See how they form disgust at the topic, but follow the thread to the end. Is it by force, na?

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Religion / Re: You Are Inside A Woman's Private Part - Female Pastor Tells Man by NiCurious: 1:10am On Aug 08, 2020
He was inside a woman's private part until the day he was born. Maybe he's never taken to the idea of being out in the world, and would rather crawl back into his mother's womb.

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Romance / Re: Man Tries To Force A Ring On His Girlfriend’s Finger As She Rejects His Proposal by NiCurious: 1:00am On Aug 08, 2020
4tomandchi:
I don't understand why a lady will choose to stay in a relationship she knows will not translate to marriage? What could be the reason my people?

Not everyone wants to be married.
She is exasperated, asking "why don't you know me"...which he really should...if he is thinking of marrying her. Seems like he's ignored what she told him, because he didn't want to hear. Now he pays the price of not listening.

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Foreign Affairs / Re: Explosion Rocks Lebanon's Capital, Beirut by NiCurious: 12:38am On Aug 05, 2020
planetx:
Trump just said it was a bomb attack.
So it probably was not a bomb attack, if Trump said it was. angry
In fact, latest news says it was not.
Travel / Re: Woman Stopped At German Airport After Husband's Bones Were Found In Her Luggage by NiCurious: 12:01am On Aug 05, 2020
From Greece to Armenia, via Munich and Kiev? Not a direct route!!!
Food / Re: Mercy Uwakwe Foundation Distributes Bags Of Rice, Beans, Noodles In Bende, Abia by NiCurious: 9:03pm On Aug 04, 2020
Good deeds, but that last picture is just disturbing in so many ways...I'll politely say, looks like a plastic Barbie doll.

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