Ariza:
I wonder why it affects most Men when women earn higher. If you create geninue bond , respect, friendship and love between you and your woman, little material things like 'earnings' shouldn't create insecurity in you or gaps in your relationship/marriage. A woman who loves you will never disregard you. Work towards creating unbreakable bond with your partner then you will not have to worry about them earning more.


I'm directing this to men because most of you do not know how to create lasting impression but will wail, cry, throw trantrums when replaced.

MiddleDimension:

the one who is a virgin is simply someone who has never had sex before. so yes, you still are.
however, i think we should do away with the word "virgin" already, it is outdated.
notice that those who will attack me for that statement are those who will never frown at their sons
for going after women, but will break all hell when it is their daughter going out.
it seems the word virginity is applied only to women and this shows confusion and hypocrisy on the part
of those who will attack me; because the truth is a woman does not dis-virgin herself, rather
she has to sleep with a man who is the one that most time chase her.
and some how, these confused and hypocrite of a people will call me immoral.
i have not said anyone should go out and start being irresponsible with their sexuality. i am only pointing
out the double standard and confusion on the part of those who claim they are 'moral'.
truth is you cannot achieve chastity in women if you do not encourage it on the part of men. the one who is more
interested in women keeping their virginity should first tell the men to not chase women around. because men are the
ones who go for these women most times.

also, the reason for the so much emphasis for on female virginity is historical and has some evolutionary explanation to
it. i bet those who will tell me i am encouraging 'immorality' do not know this and that's why they say what they say
and you who is against what they say is the one they think is immoral. so you can see that knowledge, not scriptures, lead people to true morality.

historically, women had almost no social, economic and political power. this makes sex almost the only bargaining tool she has over her man. so she is advised not to give it out to him very 'easily' as that would mean compromising the only female political power. this is why when a lady is a bit open with men, her strongest critics are her fellow women who think she is betraying their political power over men. men criticize her too, but the antagonism she faces from her fellow women is on another level！but things have changed a lot. she now has other bargaining tools in life and as a result, the emphasis on virginity and female 'chastity' will only decrease.

one more reason the word 'virginity' has to go extinct in our dictionary is that fact that rape victims who feel their 'dignity' is gone after being raped, will no longer feel that way. this will make the healing process easier. people who lost their virginity through rape often times feel dirty afterwards and this adds to the trauma. but if we can stop giving hymen a praised position, which is what we should do, then helping these women heal after helping them get justice, will be easier. because she has not lost any dignity by having had that crime being done on her.

conclusion
i have no problem if anyone wants to stay virgin till marriage, and i do not have a problem with it either if you choose not to keep it till marriage. both of them is fine by me as long as you go on being a responsible citizen of where ever you are privilaged to reside and work. but i think the word virginity should stop existing for the following reasons.
1. it is a double standard and also a show of hypocrisy on the part of those who clamour for women to close their legs and not encourage their boys to not go after the girls till they are married. you cannot have the two together. logically impossible! in fact, since men are the ones who go for women, it will be more sensible for anyone who wants to restore 'morality' in the society. to stop a thing, you address the root.

2. women now have more bargaining power in the society than they use to have in those days.

3. to help rape victims get back on their feet more easily.

4. hymen can be reconstructed.

but of course, this makes no sense to people of faith, born again christians and born again muslims, as they think i am immoral saying this. while i have understanding to backup my position, they have scriptures.

merahki:



I won’t ever start wishing that bride price payment should be done away with. It is a good Igbo tradition. You pay it to the last dot . I love culture, without culture we have nothing to identify us with.

However a woman should have money so that if a man starts disrespecting her (or her people) because he “bought” her, she would be able to return the bride price, and “unbuy” herself for good . Wise women in oppressive situations have been doing this for ages.

How much is even the bride price that any woman shouldn’t be able to stash away “in case of incasity”?

osazsky:
y should he feel sorry for the guy..the guy has not done anything....he should feel sorry for himself.. na here we dey...u cant run from karma..he must get problem latter...I have seen numerous cases . It always end in tears..last last he go dey shout God why me God why me then it will be too late.u cant eat ur cake and have it..even in physics newtons 3rd law...of motion

Chige777:
Hello everyone. Please bear with me because this might be lengthy. I have being dating a Jehovah witness lady for about two years now.

She is such a wonderful and caring lady. The type that would make sure I am happy at all times.

Around November last year, she found out that I cheat. She even found out that I cheated that same week she came to my house. After much apologies and all, she forgave me and we continued. We kept having issues and reconciling. We finally broke up in February because they don't marry outside their church (I am not even thinking about marriage now) and someone in her church has approached her for marriage.

They are planning the wedding but she still comes to my house and we Bleep each time she comes. Today she came and her husband to be was calling her she refused taking the call. I asked her why is she doing this to the guy, she said even if she gets married tomorrow she will still be fuc...king me. Although I don't know the guy but I feel pity for him

Greatzeus:
I know how you feel Op,but that feeling is wrong as long as you live under her roof. You feel that you are not her maid so why should you be doing all her work,see girl, humble your self,try to do all she asked of you,you are a woman,you should even enjoy doing chores,if you want to enjoy your stay at her house, please just do as she says.
If you think you can't cope with the work or stress,go back home to your parents. That's the only choice you have if you want to enjoy your stay and want to avoid rancour.

mrfranky:
Please Mods help push this to front page i need more advise please...

Have been caught up in a difficult situation. I have been dating this my lovely girlfriend for more than a year now. She is beautiful, humble, kind and a good girl. She is from a good family too. The parents are not too rich just average and doing very well. They are 2 girls and 3 boys and the elder sis is more of a slay queen i.e so beautiful and refuses to marry so the mother is hoping on this my girl to settle down, always encouraging her to settle down.

Now I am 29 years and I really love this girl and she loves me more than i actually love her, always ready to do my biding. She is just 22 and I wish to marry her someday but my finances are low. I have met the father and he said he doesn't need anything from me only things for the kinsmen or whatever but my parents are the opposite. Infact my dad won't even entertain my thought of getting married now because despite am staying alone, i still get small stipends from him monthly so he knows am not financially independent.

To cut the long story short.. My girl is pregnant again after several abortions in the past and she is refusing to take pills. She wants to keep this one and is urging me to come pay her bride price so we can move in together. This was not my dream way of getting married. I don't have a problem with her keeping the child but I just cannot marry now with my monthly salary of 40k which am struggling to feed and pay bills.

Please I need advice.
Pls no insult I knw the abortion act is wrong n never intended for her to take in again but it keeps happening...

Help me please i dont want to lose this lovely princess because she promise to end the relationship if she has to take another pill.

EzzyCarter:



See someone's reasoning .
Those days when you get home from work and you ain't in the mood for sex I guess you wouldn't have an issue if your madam goes to the guy next door to "get it". Afterall, it's not on your wife, It's on you! And it's not cheating!
Keep that same energy bruv!

themaestro08:
Sex education is of utmost importance in her life at the moment. IMO she is doing out of curiosity and maybe sometimes she when she feel aroused, to me its Normal and fine.

You should talk to her in her in a kind, matured and logical manner regarding porn and sex education. Don't judo or intimidate her, it will just worsen an already bartered situation.

MelaninGold:
The first thing I would do is to pin the maximum number of children a couple can have at 3. After 3, either husband or wife must undertake compulsory birth control methods. Anyone who feels like they need more children (especially poor families) must give tangible reasons and make sure that sufficient resources are made available for their children in the case of death.
This Will curb the ballooning of the country's population and allow for the management and harnessing of the already overwhelming population.

Every other thing Will follow after that.

tevinsolt:
Security - Decentralise the Police, given the constitution makes provision for that. Establish a zero-tolerance policy in the Police Force and the Military. This approach is a strategy to eradicate the abuse of power by law enforcement on citizens. Push a bill that allows for a jury of citizens to serve as the balanced check that needed to keep the force accountable. This will reinforce the idea of a government by people in the our democracy.
Nysc - Mandatory 1 year military reserve service for all citizens. Eligible for enrollment by the age of 18 and must be completed by age 35.
Citizen database - for identification

Infrastructure - Leverage the service of the enlisted Nysc members in a Govenrment driven accelerated infrastructural development, obviously cooperation with experts. we'll create 3000 miles of roads and 1500 miles of rail line respectively every year. Increased infrastructural capacity will positively impact investments in logistics and transportation and industrilization.
[b]I'll further deconstruct power distribution, will allow distributors to compete for customers without location restriction. [/b]

Education enormous investment in Public schools starting from Elementary all the way up to the University. We'll rennovate our schools, provide adequate supplies for the classrooms, build Federal public Libraries in every capital city.
Open up Federal Universities for international research purposes, sponsor research in Medicines, Science and Technology
Incentivize computer and information technology/science/engineering studies all across the country.

Tourism, allow ease of access for innovative ideas from local start-ups, international brands to launch their businesses. this will be another avenue for job creation creation through small businesses, and possible investment opportunities.

And finally use my execute powers to push for a decentralized federal government, and more independent states, a change to the constitution that will define clearly the rights of persons and institutions and firmly uphold those rights with the necessary checks and balance in place.

Poseidon000:

You need to take into cognizance the discrepancy between women of this era and our mother's. It's a disparate scenario diametric like chalk and cheese.
Women of this dispensation are nothing but impertinent,combative, confrontational, and everything for them is unhealthy competition that antagonize all party(the husband, his family and friends). And I begin to wonder; where's the love people so promiscuously herald as the bedrock of marriage.
I'm so disaffected by marriage that I'm in a dilemma if I should only sire a child or adopt, and I'm more predisposed to adopting, but I don't know how to go about it as a bachelor.

Iamgrey5:


It is supposed to be lightning that killed them.

Thunder is just the sound

Lightning is the first electric like current charge you see

They occur at the same time but light is faster than sound. So sound comes later.

Hakeem12:
Just because a lake turned pink, see all the comments above, "the world is coming to an end yen yen yen." There have been more than four pandemics on this earth, volcanic eruption, earthquakes, landslides, wars, famines, Angel Gabriel was nowhere to be found. Now you are calling on him to blow because of ordinary lake.

Y'all don't even rate your intelligence. You allowed some archaic text to reason for y'all. Such a shame

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr
Isoright

Experts believe that the change is likely due to either increased salinity in the water, the presence of algae or a combination of both

Then why the headline come say expert don't know why!
I thought the expert were completely in the dark concerning the issue
See as i Rush enter the topic make i come educate them before. I nor know say the expert know wetin cause am.

Anyway make i still drop wetin I know
Na Dunaliella salina cause am through oxidation and reduction. Dunaliella salina is a type of algae that produces carotenoids
Oh! My weed. You still make me remember oxidation and reduction for biology and chemistry that year. I will continue to smoke till the end of time

J111333:
Diabetes the racist disease. I'm yet to understand why it is more associated with blacks than any other race.

NwaNimo1:


Okay ohh....so the 9 dead died off covid or with covid?

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Confusedgirl869:
Hello everyone. This account is created for this .

This issue has been bothering me a lot and I am very confused on what to do.

We have been together for more than 2 years now and we hardly have issues, infact we are a perfect match or so I thought.

I am 26 while he is 35, we both working and I never disturb him for money, I take care of all my needs myself. He is very calm and peaceful, doesn't hit me and I really admire him a lot. I on the other hand is also good, hardworking, not materialistic and all that makes a good woman.

So after thinking of our relationship thoroughly some weeks ago, I realised that there is really nothing stopping us from getting married this year or next. I decided to hear what he has to say because he never talked about us being or getting married. I also noticed that whenever he sees or hears about bad marriages he felt lucky he is not in yet. This always makes me feel bad because I know myself. I also wasn't a fan of marriage before I met him because of so many bad men out there, but everything changed when I met my guy, he is what I want. The very first day we met, the first thought that came to my mind was 'this is my him' I don't know why I had that thought being our first time meeting.

Anyways, few weeks ago I decided to ask him what his plans are. Are we in on a long thing or not? I got the shock of my life when he made me understand that he doesn't want to be tied forever, he loves his space and the way nobody disturbs him. That he only wants a baby mama, he wants me to be the mother his kids but not in marriage. I was mad and I cried for days. He was even sounding like nothing is wrong with being a baby mama, maybe not but I just can't.

Well, I made him understand that I can't be a baby mama and it will also be hard for me to move on with another person. I've bonded so well with him and all that. And I also hate jumping from one man to another. I told him to talk to people who are in successful marriages and stop looking at the bad ones. Today when we were talking I asked him about it and he is still maintaining his stand on the mama.

I don't want to give birth to kids that have 2 homes, I grew up like that(it took me lots of self discipline not to become useless) and wouldn't want that kind of life for my kids, I want them to grow with their parents in ONE house. At the same time, I don't want to lose my good man and relationship.

I need your opinions please.

NwaNimo1:
The numbers don't add up.......and did those that died was it corona that killed them or did they die with corona?

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Sirnuel:
Where are those ones that were taking pictures infront of exotic cars and private jets.

You are not rich if everyone around you is poor. Being rich is not all about lavish lifestyles. True wealth comes from uplifting the person by your right and the person by your left.

AZeD1:
Go to the hospital. Don't listen to anyone that tells you it's spiritual.

Lots of people in Nigeria have lost their lives because they went to the church instead of a hospital.

God gave you a brain for a reason, don't embarrass him by not using it correctly.

seyi360:
A Pastor knows that the development of his local assembly rests on God and women. Women's influence on church growth is in no doubt.

Women are gifted with the subtle ability to multiply a congregation by word of mouth especially. Hence, a serious Pastor must take women's department seriously.

However, in the attempt to cater for them, he may be misinterpreted, misconstrued and misrepresented. Which raises the critical question.

How can a Pastor draw the line between genuine care for his female members and flirting with them?

boxer022:


We're you there when he shot at them?

AdamsAbubakar:
I tend to forget where I keep my stuff easily, and it's really annoying. I may do something right now and forget it seconds later. Ironically, I remember things like names of people, what people said and the faces of people easily and accurately. I can still remember the surnames and names of my ex-classmates in secondary school perfectly, and the names and surnames of 202 people in my class at the University level.

My forgetfulness, however, petrifies me a lot as I'm 22 years old. What could be wrong? Should I be worried or it's normal at such an age?

Mods please help me push it to the FP let me get replies from the good people of NL.