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strangerf dont mind ileke.

o se se ma pe okan le logun ni osu bi meji abi meta si igba yi ni.

Mu ra lati gbe jade lo si club house ni ojo birthday e. . . omo college ni florida ni

[quote author=~Bluetooth link=topic=568469.msg7348176#msg7348176 date=1292509264]so yerima was right when he married the underage girl then ?

Most of these nl ladies surprise you when you least expected. [/quote]Yerima married a 13yr old girl. not 17 or 18. Nobody would have made any noise if he had waited 5yrs to marry the same girl in Nigeria.

So many of our Old men of 60yrs and above are having many of those 18yr old girls on campuses as girlfriends and no one is killing or castrating them for it.

I dont wish it for any of my sisters or blood relatives, but if any of them chooses it or claim to find love only in a man old enough to be her grandpa, then so be it.

I dont like the idea of this doghouse for Mr CC

Ok, I will advice him to get all the collections of home videos featuring Van Vicker in addition to the flat screen. . . Deal?

oh my my. . . What a loss. My condolence to his family and fans

MzDarkSkin:
[b]OAM4J [/b]not trying to be funny, but there are 14 parishes in Jamaica. But aside from that, I am glad you and the other two gentlemen enjoyed Jamaica. I plan to travel to Africa myself. As for Jamaica, I am going back next year  , I am SOOOO excited! I will be in Ocho Rios and may visit Kingston for the parties LOL but Ocho is my spot .

My error. u right. I always consider Kingston and St Andrew as a parish (I think It should be).

I have a space at 'Rooms' in Ochi (am sure you know d place), I dont mind sharing when you come around next year, in addition I'll take you to my favorites spots in Mobay 

[size=16pt]ROTFLMAO[/size]

I have never laugh out so loud like this in front of my computer in recent time. This is a good one CC. I like the ToysRus part. OMG!!!

You are lucky he is not close minded, at least he is getting you BMW-X5 _{-ToysRusModel}

Now think abt it, you can even drive it on your bed, office table, sleep with it and it iwill be duty-free to take to and from naija

And if you must drive it on M1, all you have to do is tie a string on it and pull it on M1. 

lovely baby. Congrats Mr & Mrs Siena, & happy new year in advance.


Madam CC, the way you're salivating, i hope you are not already tempting Mr CC for no 3 

^^hey rhymz, chill.

bkbaby has been warned and banned severally on this site. I have even lost count of his monikers. I dont think Mukina is siding him, she is only saying bkbaby is not her only headache.

chaircover:
OAM4Jenny please go and sit down and take your fake monopoly play money with you 

MissyB, dont be fooled. OAM4Jenny is Nairalands official playboy. Woman plenty his hand well well. BusyBody & jenny please come and take your boy away from here.

I can tolerate anything, but for someone to spoil my hard earned reputation? I'll rather die first I am not a playboy on NL.

Am only e-dating Mukina2 and Spikey, Jenny and busybody are my exs, am still nice to them cos i want to relocate them out of Yaba-west, and I have to wait another 2yrs for ileke-idi to be legal

@Missy B, Dont be misled, and dont let this opportunity pass you by. A week with me will confuse convince you


@kitchen, can I have pounded yam with Egusi mix with Ogbono soup now pls?

mutter:
dayokanu, sorry I am married, I feel flattered but you know I think I am also just too old for you.
My kids are the once getting married now

erm, erm, Is there any of your daughters who is like you? Can we start the negotiation now?

I'll make you an offer you cant refuse

^^See me, see wahala o! All because I am in Christmas mood and I want to be generous.

Trust me Missy, a week with me is more than 7years with many others, and will most likely change your life for good.

And your 'Arab rich man' might just be one of my biz beneficiaries, and even if not I can get the the authority to fish him out and deal with him

Deal or No deal (my offers is not for long)

queue? ME queue? (am too much for that) Do you know how many ladies will queue up in front of me if i just flash 1% of that money in the air?

I dont want her for keeps, I only want her for a week. Pls dont overprice your market o, she might not like it, cos opportunity like this comes only once in a while

I dont know how I got here, but for a moment I thought i was in Romance/Dating section.

Anyway, Madam CC, I can see you are the Iyalode here, can I have Missy B for a week?

I should be in Dubai over the weekend, and i need a good escort, while i do my shopping and attend to businesses/other things

I have about $100K allowance to miscalculate on this trip. and I promise to return her safe for Mr firearm/Snthesis (or whoever)

Deal or no Deal?

@topic
I can do with moinmoin (elemi meje) with some cereal now

safariman:
@Bennyboy11
One cannot compare Accra with Lagos, Accra is much much safer. The last time I was in Ghana was in 2009 and I was in East Lagon area, a very nice place, but even then, we were very viligant.

@OAM4J
I plan to be in Jamaica in April with a team of doctors on a medical mission trip.

cool. I will add you to my yim. keep me posted.

Ujujoan:
Lol    

Leave date matter jor . . . . I still need to try out the 'fish' you promised me. You know I go to the higest bidder na    

I wouldn't want to rush in and short-change myself!        

yeah right, I just put a call to the fish, he needs your current pictures (no photoshop pls), statements of all your accounts (just to confirm how you manage /mismanage/miscalculate money) and your CV, pls send then asap cos there are many candidates to consider 

On a serious note, pls take your time and be sure you are ready to accommodate this man's weakness b4 you say 'I do', chaircover was right about the headache/migraine analogy. The chances of someone changing his personality in marriage is slim. But I also think you have the capacity to adjust and accommodate things, and you can learn the wisdom to 'manipulate' things to your advantage. Just be be very sure before you sign off your future.

JOKYTECH:
The mum left them at home in the morning to the market (herself and her sister), she was healthy then, only to be called at about 4.00pm by the younger one that she is sick. The mum rushed back at about 5pm to discover that her temperature was high, she called their nurse who later gave her some drugs and injection. The temperature later came down and she ate some food but she later complained that the food was hanging on her chest which made her to throw up and later became relieved.

Later that night they tried sleeping, she slept in the mums room but the younger one was still watching cartoon in the sitting room. She now ask her mum to go and called her to come and sleep which she did. Before then, she complained of her throat paining her which the mum gave her one drug and 5alive to swallow it and she continued sleeping.

It was when the younger sister came to the room that she discovered that she (kiemute) was not breathing well. she ask her ' kiemute y are u breathing like this? she replied while sleeping ' is it my fault? All of a sudden before the mum could notice, she has vomited on her body, the mum quickly got up and tried to know y she did that. She lift her hand and discovered that they are weak, then she knew that something is wrong. She grabbed her and started calling her name nd she was responding and she keep saying that the fan is not turning (while it was) and she needs to drink water. This was about 1pm in the early hours of the morning.

They poured water on her and rushed her to a nearby hospital, but when they got there, the nurses could not locate her vein to fix the drip. They also said she does'nt have blood and they adviced that she should be rushed to the general hospital, but she died on the way.

I missed u so much my baby

Thanks to all that shared in my grieve, thanks to the family section of NL, u guys are wonderful, I was'nt expecting it. I was only trying to pour my mind out.

An advice for all parent in the house, Always pray for your children, They need your prayers

Pls accept my heartfelt condolence. May God grant you and the entire family the fortitude to bear this loss. You will all have reasons to smile again, and very soon too.

Ujujoan:
I guess you are right. . . .  I couldn't live with a weak man either; one who answers 'yes' to every thing I say, but I particularly want to be heard too. For me, being 'controlling' is not even that bad, I just need him to consider an alternative point of view . . . sometimes!

   

Dont worry he will consider your alternative point of view sometimes. In the meantime, pls take him to Daddy and get us a date, may be my coming home will tally with the date, at least I want to see the multimillionaire whose money you are about to miscalculate.

mutter:
yodiyokun, I could just give you a hug!!!
It is clear that you are a real emancipated woman. Emancipated enough to appreciate being treated as a woman.
And you certainly are right, on the long haul things change. I remember the first car I bought when dating. I picked it without consulting my husband. By the time we were married we both went looking out for a car together. The last car we bought, I was not even in the mood to go looking, I did not care about anything, even when he brought home the car I could not even be bothered to go down and look at it immediately. Just looked out of the window and said it was okay.
Bukittes you can learn from yodiyokins words, I would advice you to learn them like a little prayer and keep repeating it to yourself.
You crave to be emancipated but are not yet there. After years of marriage, with kids and responsibilities do you want to hold a conference over every trivial issue?
I think you insult Uju by saying that women see guys as a means to fulfil their needs. I did not access her for one moment in such a way. She seems totally independent , just a little scared of getting caged in.
Are you educated enough to appreciate the real role of a woman. Do you know that equality is actually detrimental to women in some cases.
This emancipation thing !! Some women enslave themselves without even knowing it.
We work hard, come home do the house chores, have children etc. Then take on the typical men`s chores. That is over tasking. All because we want to prove to one man that we are equal. That is stupidity.
Let my husband think he is King kong, so far he does the work assigned to King kong.
The other day I asked my husband to give one of the children's room a fresh coat of paint and he told me I could do it myself. Women in Europe do such things with great pleasure. I told him I was an African woman and not emancipated, he should please do it himself. Fancy trying to transfer the workload on me. I would have been a fool to fall for that cheap bait.
When my car breaks down, I step out and make my way home, the rest is left to him. The other day he commented that I just step into my car, turn the key and drive off, not caring about any checks, not even petrol. I blew him a kiss and told him that`s why I married him. How silly can one get. Take care of the kids, cook etc and then also doing the man`s job.
Even when I make silly mistakes and he wants to blame me, I turn the tables and blame him. He is the man, the wiser one, he should have guided me right, that is his duty as my husband. The poor man just scratches his head at a complete loss of words.
An emancipated woman knows how to appreciate her qualities as a woman and make use of them to make life easier for her.
What a wonderful feeling it is to think to ones self, " let him come back and take care of it, he is the man,"
When the kids get older to be able to say,"sorry papa`s words are final, clear it with him." You can even play at being real sympathetic, "okay I will try and talk to him,"
That for me is true emancipation. Emancipated from over work ad over stress at the home front.

Chei! with this attitude, the man go just dey sign any amount you put on his cheques while he brags he is in charge.  

safariman:
@0AM4J
I respect your opinion, as for me, I have been going to Jamaica for the past 20 years and during the '70s I represented Nigerian at the Nigeria vs Ghana games so I visited Accra at that time and I now go there on business.

In Jamaica, I have travelled through Trillani, Via, Montego Bay, Spanish town, Race Course, Port Maria, St Elizabeth and I have met with many  Custors and once made a courtesy call to the then 1990s Nigeria's Ambassador to Jamaica (a Dr. from Ekiti or Ondo state) and I have never once experienced any problem and that is why my opinion is based on my personal experience.  I travelled to Jamaica at least once a year.
When we do business in Ghana our security and business details are totally different preparation wise than when we do business in Jamaica.

Again, I agree with you on some issues that doing business in the inner city and ghettos in any city is quite different than being a tourist visiting Montego Bay, Dunn's River and staying at the resorts, the same could be said about a lot of other countries.  Even here in the US, there are some places here in DC or Baltimore that I don't go at night.

Correct me if I wrong, don't the Jamaicans treat you different (with more respect) than if you were a Jamaican, at least that what I have experienced

Let me know when next you are visiting Jamaica, hopefully I will be around to receive you, I was with the current Nigeria ambassador the other weekend-a very nice Yoruba man. But hey I will feel more comfortable passing the night at the villages/ghettos in Ghana than the ghettos of Jamaica - My opinion

Yeah-man, the bold is very true and am loving it 

MzDarkSkin:
@OAM4J where exactly have you lived/worked in Jamaica? you understand patois?

I have been to all the 13 parishes and most of the cities in Jamaica but am mostly at Montego Bay(living at Bogue Villa/Mango Walk) and Kingston where i do most of my work/business and I also prefer spending my weekends at Negril or Ocho Rios.

I understand patois to a good extent, though there are highly concentrated ones am still  , I even made attempt to speak a lot of it when I started visiting Jamaica until my friends(Jamaicans) discouraged me, telling me they prefer my African accent to my patois  

When are you coming home?

Seun:
Avoid them.  They are not a good fit for you.  Close-minded, domineering 'African' men should marry submissive ladies.  Modern, progressive men should marry modern, progressive ladies.  Don't try to fit a square peg in a round hole; there are many more fish in the ocean.

Seun, the type of 'fish' Uju wants are now very very scarce in the ocean, and 99% of them already have many hooks on their necks. I think this man already scored above 70% on Uju's checklist  

I will rather advice Uju to reshape her peg to fit into the man's hole, and what she cannot change, she should use wisdom to deal with - Let her take some decisions but make the man feel he is responsible as Mutter advised.

So sad!

so sorry about the loss. Do you mind sharing how she died?

mutter:
Ujujoan,
let me give you one advise you would do well to take to heart.
Most women say allot of things but what happens on their home front is totally different.
This " I can never take it, " it`s all lies, sometimes unconscious lies, Most women take allot of poo.
You know all these things you have written so far, I cannot fault this man in any way.
Look at it this way- are two not to be one. So why do you not let him pick the tyres just because you are the one driving the car.
My husband is that way. He takes allot of decisions that, I sometimes felt, should actually not interest him. Sometimes it is something so trivial like the soap we use, or he insists on not replacing the dishwasher. Sometimes one would thing he is totally in control. However with many real important things he gives me my freedom to do it my way.
Well what I did  is when I know he would say no, I just go ahead and buy it without telling him first. When he asked I would tell him I mentioned it, but he was probably not listening to me as usual. After sometime he confronted me, on this tactic and I told him, I knew I could not do it when he said no, so I decided to opt for the lesser evil of doing it without telling him. I turned the tables on him telling him he had instilled so much fear in me that I had to go sneaking behind his back like a child. Well I got what I wanted without hurting his ego. Over the years it has became easier.
I realised that we women sometimes take men so seriously. I hardly get into arguments again because I avoid serious confrontation but mostly use teasing and laughter to get my way- When he gets angry, I hug him and tell him how much I live him and make jokes about it. Later on when tempers are calmed we can talk it out.
You need to learn the secret of moving a man to think that your decisions are his. You need to learn to succumb sometimes. In a relationship compromise is the key word. There are things we compromise and a few we don`t. Words are very powerful and when you learn to speak his language, communicate on his level, he will lean to listen.
You have a caring man wanting to change your tyres. You did not accept that offer? You hurt him with what you did. Letting him know you can handle it. The tyres he wanted, would have done it too.
Certainly women have a better intuition than men but a woman needs to let a man take decisions and also stand by him when the mistakes are made.
I believe that when this man realises that you also respect his opinion, then he will relax.
By he time you accept some of his ideas, I am sure that when you tell him I know you are right but I would love to have it this way, he would not have anything against it.
So what you need to do now, is to apologise to him, for having slighted him.
You might be loosing a good man for nothing.
I know it is hard when one has been independent, to adjust to a man, but you can learn to do so. Men are like children in many ways and when you understand that, you can cope better. When you really love, you can find it easier to make compromises.

This is Wisdom 601- Advance Wisdom for matured and real African wives. (Endorsed by a Real African man - ME )

Damm! the whole story sound ridiculous to me. I cant even start.

^^^ haahahahahahha

MzDarkSkin:
0AM4J you dont know anything about Jamaica. "watch your back" seriously?, they know who is part of what, they dont bother just anybody. This is AMAZING!

Sweetheart I dont claim to be an expert in Jamaica affairs, but it might surprise you to know that I have been living, working and doing business in Jamaica for some years now. I spend more time in Jamaica than any other place in the world in the past 3 yrs, So I have a good idea of what am talking about. My earlier post on this thread is

OAM4J:
Yes the killings per capita in Jamaica is more, but most of these killings are gang/drug/deals related, these guys dont just go about killing anybody. Otherwise Jamaica is peaceful and safe.

But for someone who claims to know Jamaica and Ghana to say Jamaica is safer than Ghana, I disagree. And the fact remains that many of the Jamaica inner cities and ghettos are not as safe compare to Ghana villages/ghettos. You and I know that you really have to be careful and watch your back in some of these places in Jamaica. For instance, someone offered me a free accommodation at Grandville/Montego Bay, but had to turn it down for security purpose. And I can name 3 or 4 other areas in Montego bay, I will not at this time pass the night in, even for free. But I still love Jamaica, and if you are careful and not criminally minded, then Jamaica can be heaven.

I am not not one of the people who stereotype  Jamaicans, there are many wonderful, well-educated, honest and beautiful people in Jamaica, and these people are several times more than the trouble-makers. I also know and understand the Political/America conspiracies behind many of the gangsterism and troubles in Jamaica.