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Simjos:
There is this girl in my area that I'm in love with, i wooed her but she refuse to accept me as her boyfriend but she does come to my house, we play, watch movies together etc. All my friends knows her to a point they are all her friends.
I pretty much close to her family likewise she does with mine family.

Lately I beginning to suspect that she likes one of my friend, each time she comes around she always likes to sit with him, talk more with him, what pain me most is that my friend knows, so, he always make use of the advantage and this has making me feel uncomfortable and pissed but I always act mature at all time.

To cut the story short, yesterday she came around and we were all watching a movie and my friend was lying on a mate and the next minute she lie down with him on the mate. I was so upset but I was calm.

I'm afraid I might lose my temper one day, Guys I need your help what should I do in this situation.

op DT y is gud 2 b a playa during ur younger part of ur youth.ie double dating and learning hw 2 attract ladies.it kills wat u feeling now.wat u experience sum of urs have experience it but later found DT being a mature player at a certain period of ur life help a lot 2 kill jealousy because wen it cumes 2 relatnahip u need 2 b overcome jealousy and heartbreak.because chick BTW 16 to 22/23 are interested in flirting. 4get d lie lie talk about luv and relatnship.na ladies wer don finish nysc dey luk 4 am.if lik sey u get females friends wer dey fyn and dey chop beta gals u b like wet in dey do dis 1.because man wer dey chop beta jellof always no go dey pained if owambe rice no reach am

[quote author=Akcc post=74916813]Hi. I’m a university student and in my mid twenties, I have this problem of approaching girls I see for the first time. I don’t think I lack the confidence really but feel like I have no idea what to say to her especially since she’s a stranger, I’m extremely confident of my looks and I’m well to do for a student usually money gives me this confidence when it comes to approaching girls in clubs but outside there I can’t talk to a stranger I’d love to know. So my question here is what do I say to a girl who I just saw for the first time! Specifically on the streets[/quote.4 sch setting if u know book e dey easy 2 attract esp.d book type of girls.one way 2 catch campus babe is 2 use borrowing her note den u can start 4rm there.because Nigerian ladies are highly defensive.nowadays except d jovial ones.anotha way is to start by making friend wit girls below ur kind of girl den improve 4rm there.y i say this girls like jovial guys but mostly likely guys dt other girls are attracted to.observe guys who have female friends and hw it easy 4 them 2 approach ladies.y some ladies wen they c u wit bam phone dem go want u but it leads 2 blow too much moni or mugu thin which leads 2 u being stingy 2 ur guys.but wen they notice u wit a girl or girls wer dey OK or fyn pass them and u are mature about it.they go dey wonder i wan dey less defensive 2 u

smoke9910:
That shows she's a hoe. They're not worth it.

guys u na no dey try at all because wizkid sing about spending money on woman u na think sey dt d way.smh.

Curvinus:
op maybe you're ugly, skinny, not manly or look a little boy that didn't pass through puberty. looks really matter in life and the blame should go to whoever bestowed you with such shitty genetics.
however, you must learn to accept yourself the way you are and hopefully, over time something may change or you may discover what works for you.

but for now, you should concentrate on your studies and strive to become gainfully employed when you leave school to give you some leverage.

u saying dis because it Neva happen 2 u.4wat am cing here na immaturely on d pple around him.if he no get attitude no mature bros dey laugh or mock e fellow guy

undefeateds:
'm a guy in my mid 20s,and am bored about how things are going for me,why am I always rejected,nobody want to listen to me,no one give a damn Bleep about how I feel,even those that am sure am better than,they always want to make fun of me,they now turn me to joking subject.

For instance,if we are given a group work to do in class,and I try to raise a suggestion, no one will listen, but if everything goes wrong,and I bring an idea and perhaps it works, they will see it as ordinary,but if it works through another guy,the person will be like god.
And this thing has now advance from my academic life to real life,all the girls ve ever asked out in my life do turn me down and d most painful one is d one wey I approach d last time, she is my best friend and she is d one I do confide in,she bluntly told me without feeling any remorse that 'I don't need u,I know wat I want'. That is the most brutal response ve ever heard in my life,since that time am just depressed.

i don't know if i always appear stupid or not,but naturally am an introvert and whenever am doing that they see me as a proud guy,but d more I try to get familiar with people,the more they take me for granted, how do I get out from this,cos right now,everything just tire me.

op ur problem no not b u but ur schmate or d pple in ur sch.environment immaturity.so far sey u no dey proud or look down on pple.if u juz a normal introvert without any attitude then na immaturity on ur sch mates.and again can u watsapp me 08130886416.let me c ur appearance. y am saying dis is because it happen 2 me wen i was in secondary sch my last question hw d boys 4 sch.dey behave because wen u said they turn u 2 a joking subject .bros don't do dt 2 their fellow bro.do they do joke or being sarcastic 2wards u wen ladies dey in u na present

Bespoke i will luv 2 ask which soft leather material use 4 sneakers or sport palm slippers.called in d market

I love 2 ask shoe expert.because am planning of making a shoe and palms because i use size 49
I want 2 know the different types of soft leathers in the market.(mention the nigeria names it called in the market)because if u tell shoemakers calfskin he will jux b luking at u and may use a wrong soft leather.secondly which soft leather is the one DT have smooth surface and is use 4 sneakers and sports palm slippers.

quivah:
Yeah, because being a woman in Nigeria is a big risk now. We are potential victims, runs girl or legit or whatever. So long you are female, they see you as their potential money drawer.
Both young and old. I will have baby girls one day, I have female cousins and nieces and I fear for us.
We can't walk on the street now without checking left and right.
Suspecting that man who just passed by who mistakenly or intentionally rubbed his shoulder on us without checking to see if everything is intact.
We can't date rich guys cause his source of money, we don't know. Who knows if he's a ritualist, kidnapper or yahoo guy?
And poor /broke guys? We are scared too cause most of them are desperate to make money and will use those closer to them as a source. Take a look at those who killed that delsu student, do they look rich?
To keep male friends now na risk, if they dont rape, they kill for rituals.
You know your best male friend since primary school? Doesn't mean you can't be his potential victim if he wants.
That guy on the street who sends his 12year old neighbor on errands might likely do evil things to her the next day.
We can't conveniently dry our underwears outside now, pant snatchers are roaming all about.

Being a woman is Nigeria/Africa is a big risk. And yes I am pained, because people mostly men still find justification to these evil vices. You are a leech, runs girl, make your own money, student, married, single ....we are potential victims!

We can't even walk on the road these days.

I wan ask u sum questions b4 u start stereotyping Nigerian guys and Africa.hw many guys have u heard have being use 4 ritual.and why ladies can't do yahoo plus too and use us guys too so dt ladies can buy I phone x and venza.do u knw why is nt happening because guys dey hear word pass ladies.u jux talking wit ignorance and hate.ladies have tried 2 do yahoo plus b4 by using guys semen but when they get 10 victims guys don alert warning.every guys will start be alert while some guys will go do survey 2 babalawo and knw the precautions nd hw 2 counter it this has happen b4 .that why u hardly see a nigerian guy will allow a lady carry his used condom or buy new condom.as 4 u trying 2 divert d discussion trying 2 use 15 yrs gal 2 cover up d fault of most ladies materialistism.nd immaturity.in reasoning.my dear ritual don te no b 2day.but in other cases in d past esp.in 90s when media even nollywood warn us children we listen dt y as a stranger it might b hard 2 give a Nigerian child sweet and take expect d kid 2 accept dt was there tricks then..but ladies dnt listen and ladies dnt like 2 accept their fault.and take precautions like we did wen we were kids.if i wan 2 use a lady 4 ritual is very easy than children or guy.esp.dis december period bxos every bae nw is desperate 4 a guy who will sponsor them 4 xmas gifts.in reality even on social media ladies discriminate hustling guys or average earners guys.or brothers i dey lie.but our sistaz will always deny their fault even when it affecting them .it in their nature.

TheAgba:
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and frustrate u imagine i go my uni.were I graduate 2 use atm.only 4 gate man 2 say na 4 staff and students and DT full area no get bank.u have 2 go inside twn.juz dey make person vex.sometyms u b like is nigeria cursed.

Kastonkastroll:
em but bro you knew her before you asked her for airtime. Yours is understandable. Or are you telling me you just asked a random girl you have never met for airtime and wellaa, she just sent yoyu airtime cause she is father Christmas

4rm wat i read it didn't shw she a random lady.and guy u were dey talk gal done dash u money or give u airtym hw many gals does DT in dis country.why ur bdy jux dey pepper u na wa 4 u.u no knw sey if a gal Neva invest in ur life and u go marry am.wen hards time cum den u go knw why dis guy acted lik dt

funum:
pls how do I get pass the fear of rejection, cause I think that's my only problem....

we all here 2 help ourselves.d solution 2 ur problem is start with the ladies DT ur confident level is higher or stronger 2 handle or approach.4 example let use female celeb 2 approach Genevieve nnaji or Juliet ibrahim u go jux melt why they high pass u.so what do u do u 1st start 4rm simi later u enter niyola enta chidinma by dis time ur level of confident go dey beta off.another trick is to start making female friends then reduce d love/lust tendencies u knw why because some girls are attracted 2 guys dt are socialable.while others are attracted 2 guys were sabi book but note if na book b her priorities.so brotha try fight this weakness no allow b4 u finish sch nd suffer wat i suffered because e go hard fight am afta graduation or nysc.

[quote author=HigherEd post=73174731]I get your point. But remove private schools from your statement. Graduates of Ambassador college or faith academy are not half baked.[/quote.i understand ur stand but let face reality if u rili get my point u could have ask about d technology gap.4 instance hw can student have a cheap academic laptop or shewing machine DT u give assignment 2 d student.bill gate tried 2 solve d issue yrs back but failed because of exchange rates in Africa currencies.is faith academy d only private sch in Nigeria.most private universities have lectures 4rm public universities. dis issue was discuss on BBC.d problem is practical.curriculum absent.I finish 4rm a well renowned respected private secondary sch.in Benin.and private university and what i discover is DT u Jack ur book and pour it on s exam day.is a gud sch wit gud teacher but using a theory curriculum is like barca or real Madrid teaching football in theory.their gud club using bad course curriculum.see China build more trchnical college in their country. let face reality i can bet u take a practical test on our private sch graduates on things like electrical repairs u b shocked on d results DT why private or public Nigerian sch don't come top in ranking in africa.let face reality 2 solve problems.

HigherEd:
I say part privatisation might just be the way forward for Nigerian higher education.
ASUU has successfully depicted a grim picture of the public uni system. However, this rot isn't peculiar to Higher education.

Our healthcare system is rottened, our secondary schools are rottened, our physical infrastructure is rottened, our power sector is rottened, our security apparatus is rottened so it is impractical to have a sudden surge in budgetary allocation to universities without having negative impact across other sectors.

This is why ASUU must put on its thinking cap and seek for ways to partner with the private sector to generate funds. One of the beauty of university autonomy is that you must ensure your very own survival.

The average federal school is richer than the average private school yet the rot is more apparent at the federal level - this is because the vast majority of problems do not have funding at its core. Even if the problem is funding then respond by cutting enrollment down.

Example: If govt gives Unilorin funding that can adequately support 2,000 new students, Unilorin shouldn't admit 10,000 students. Only admit the number of students ur funding can support. It is not the business of a university to increase access for the Nigerian populace, let the Education ministry worry about that. If Education Ministry ask for higher enrollment, you should ask for higher funding.

One of the reasons why UI is highly rated is that it has a lower student enrolment than its counterpart. So Unilorin collects a little lower in FG allocation but has 150% more enrollment. UI while cutting enrollment for students did not cut staff size therefore govt is forced to pay more to UI than Unilorin which is twice bigger.

Caltech(USA) has just 3,000 students yet ranked top 10 Globally
Rice university(USA)has 3000 students yet ranked top 100 globally.
POSTECH(SKorea)admits 300 students yearly yet top 100 globally
Ecole Normale Superierue de cashan(France) has 1,631 students yet top 100 globally.



Well Lalasticlala this is a must for FP.

even if all listed are met NY fg d universities,will still produce half bake graduate due 2 it theory curriculum.d problem of our education system start 4rm d secondary sch.who use theory curriculum dt y most private uni nd secondary sch produce half bake graduates have u though why private student aren't superb in knowledge.the solution abolish secondary sch curriculum nd bring technical college 2 life because most western high sch are actuately technical college

Abati60:
Jonathan should bury his head in shame. If Nigeria is truly a sovereign and not a vassal state why did his government dance to Obama’s command. How many Nigerians watched Obsma’s speech to Nigerians. Did the hunter in Igbeti, nor the fisherman in eket. His government lost because they couldnt perform. He was sharing hard currencies to anyone who can campaign for his reelection. APC’s cloud of political humiliation is full and ready to pour down.

don't knw y some pple talk lik idiot wat d reality in Nigeria shoo.person dey face hardtimes in d society Fulani herdmen dey kill c wat happening in pleateau kadauna nd benue . common biro na 40naira.eitha u do yahoo or go bet if u wan hope 2 harma.parents dey sell children den u cum here dey talk trash.u well so.u think money dey pple pocket.jux tell us u b paid.

olujastro:
GEJ is still as shameless and clueless as he was as president.
You had the Bokoharam problem since 2010 as president where they were raining bombs all over Abuja, Kano, Kaduna, Suleja, Lokoja, Yola, etc. for 5 solid years. Instead of tackling it head-on, you and Dasuki turned it into a billion dollar looting industry and left the people unprotected.
Then 2wks to the election you decided to perform wonders by pushing Bokoharam away so elections can take place for you to get 4 extra years of looting.
How is this guy some people's hero abeg

Regarding the video, I watched it then and always knew Obama wanted a less corrupt president to emerge. And I already was going to vote out GEJ before watching it.
The US has always believed that once Nigeria gets it right, a large population of Africans will benefit and then the rest of Africa will get it right also.
The US isn't happy to be giving aids and donations to a rich country like Nigeria because of massive looting of their treasury by the leaders.

zombie oooo.so pmb adminstratn corruptn no dey.guy hw much b food stuff.obama 4up big tym 4 africa dt y his nt respected here.

yarimo:
See as GOODLUCK jonathan still they mumu himself, so it was OBAMA that told nigerians to votes you out as an incompetent president abi?

sharappp mumu.what did Obama do 4 Kenya if not 4 China Kenyetta couldn't have provide infrastructure in Kenya and Jonathan tried 4 d economy. so u mumu u like d hardship wer dey naija wer parents dey sell their children.so pmb na competent abi.360naira to a naira.jux tell us u are a apc zombie

EwaTOwa:
sometimes its because you as a guy dont know how to chat to girls, and you are not asking the right type of question that will make the girl talk more

DT a big lie stop being sentimental.wat d guy is saying happen 2 me.until i started chating wit ladies outside Nigeria.d problem wit u ladies in dis country u girls lack open mindedness. wen ever I chat wit a jovial gal mehn i b lik na me dey chat lik dis.for example i can say Mary d chop money lady DT luking lik one very rich man beloveth daughter.if she a jovial person she b like I pray o or rich ke.i b lik ur pics is a witness c hw ur skin smooth and soft lik 2day agege bread.she cum reply lol na u soft pass.but many of u na gals reply na huh.or OK.by doing DT u don kill d vibe.DT lead u 2 start asking hw ur day going.have notice sum of our galz are bush in real life but forming online y others can't chat online or too introvert.also have notice DT oyinbo ladies use emorji a lot in their chat it make d chat livly.

exclusivejayce:
Bros bros, na to get laid be ur own neh. Oga HIV,Gono and the likes dey town o.

I get ur point.but ther is condom.i had those fear b4 but man let face it konji is real even ladies d thin dey worry dem is beta 2 face a problem with precaution dan 2 bottle it 4 mind.because it go dey worse 4 mind nd e get 2 a point wen u go explode.so brotha let help our self wit info 2 bcum beta dude.dt y ladies are far ahead in d luv game because their are more realistic 2 their problem.while we guys na 2 form holly holly b our own.and dem fall our hand.have u nt notice hw g guys dey use money spoil ladies nd hw d thin dey affect we were no dey do yahoo yahoo.

My problem i have nw afta i don take a lady out.2 control dem cum r crib 2 get laid b my issue.y i say dis is i met a lady we bcime paddies b4 i take her out out afta i take her out 2 control am cum my crib disappoint go step in.wat trick or things should i stop doing in dis stage.

Oyindidi:
Bfn= big for nothing

lol ur mouth no gud.

Oyindidi:
Bfn= big for nothing

lol ur mouth no go

Gegz:
Nigerians can para sha

But for everyone saying he cheated her and all. Do you guys know that the class of men asking Nina out are not small men? Men who probably can afford to carry her outside the country every week on private trips? Men who can afford to take her out every week to change her wardrobe?

The point is, let the sleeping dog lie. How much does the miracle guy have that he can use to manage the Nina babe?

Let everybody just dey jo.

na guys lik u dey mak ladies dey misbehave sote dem go demand their male friend 2 giv dem 4k lik say person dey work 4 dem.ur asslicking comment ah u fall my man.u no dey yearn lik bros at all.dis kind talk dey make ladies dey big headed.nw i knw y our ladies of nwadays dey difficult ( everything na moni moni)jux pray u no marry golddigger

Shey u c y one rely on God heavily.because govt no go do jack doctors too wack nd lik moni eh imagine I cut my leg go private hospital na 5k b their card.na 15k I pay afta I beg d doctor about d card d guy use style add am 2 d total bill.police no gud u c y u cum c reason 2 dey religious.i laugh wen sum nairalanders dey gullible dey follow sum foolish atheist and DT OAP freeze wer get moni 2 jet out 2 treat himsef while u dey nija.so who our police na God our doctor na God.we need God my pple and geiuine pastor(s) imagine dis kind thin happen 2 u during dis buhari tym which moni u wan use pay doctor wen u dey scratch 2 chop.meanwhile u get genuine man of God and ur prayers 2 prevent such accident

bammy777:
I pray this does not happen to your loved ones.

no mind am I suspect na medicinal person.

eeewise:
I pity who ever will marry this person
Marriage is supposed to be about filling up
When u love someone u can't afford to see them struggle financially
Its simple she does not love her husband
Where a mans treasure is his heart will be also
Everyone invests in d direction of their love.
A marriage where couples are not financially open and compatible is bound to fail already. Finance is d number one cos of marital failure
Solution: you married a bad one. She won't change. You try to adjust. Be a bit strict with money also but sorry this union is bound to be doomed

na small pikin dey worry DT lady.e Neva c any thin.try such 4 marriage d man go endure 4 a while but wen e done reach am 4 neck e family go hear d issue.d true is there no mature single lady anymore.DT y i don't fancy marriage.DT y b4 u propose 2 a lady check nd recheck her mata wit ur pastors.ladies pretend a lot esp d graduate ones

Eketem:
What is wrong with marrying a partner so one can share bills?

Not every man wants a wife that will take and take, some want working wives so they won't die from high blood pressure in this economy, share goals aspirations and grow together.

His only error was not discussing with her before marriage

u rite d problem wit marriage in Nigeria is DT it over hyped. Marriage is jux like going 2 uni nd told so many propangada nd den wen finish u realise dt degree no get power nd DT na hard wrk moni dey nd u b like hw wish i knw i 4 plan well.in our society we think DT a man go sabi marriage wen such man train himself 2wards it but d truth is not d case.d ideology of go sch no talk 2 girls o finish sch go get job marry na nonsense nd dey affect sum of our guys.because as a guy eh na 4rm secondary u dey train ursef 2 b a man.as u make female friends dey ask questns 2 knw learn nd wise up even me na my elder bro educate about ladies involve marriage because of he exposure he get 4rm teenage about ladies.

adedayoa2:
You got married to her for the wrong reasons, because she works and you'll not have to spend much, oga you never ready for marriage, change your mindset, accept her as your wife, start thinking in your heart that you're working for your family and tell her to cut her coat according to her material.

so a man wife should nt contribute 2 d family na man go everythin because na man maybe by d tym wen it happen 2 ur future son nd his nt reasoning u his mummy den u knw u have a problem.such can mak a guy abandon his mother.my advise 2 d op mak e discuss it wit e momsi or popsi or pastor dt will giv him wise advise.y d op hav such problem is his lack of experience in handling ladies wen young because mehn as a man one needs wisdom in handling women.dt y i always encourage mak boys dey social wit ladies 2 observe nd get wisdom

princeade86:
mumu comedian. why not put d blames on Nigeria defenders that can't mark very well. look at how Argentina are marking , even maschenaro injured his face, yet his marking well. do u know how many times Nigeria defenders lose ball. there are some balls they shud av clear out, but due to lack of their speed, dey will leave the ball to d opponent. ighalo come spoiled everything.

ur head correct.d truth is nigeria no get players esp skippers.sum pple d formation no gud but DT d best formation rohr made little mistake but even if we sack rohr we need a oyinbo coach because local coach go bury our super eagles luk at hw Senegal team play wit low IQ.2 Japan.we should blame our strikers iheancho esp don't knw DT world cup is a tournament use 2 market urself jux lik musa did 2 redeem his career nw beta club go go 4 am.

Tedy i greet nd appreciate ur works.on relationship.so bro i will luv 2 ask is there other or new addition tips on hw 2 act like a bf 4rm day one

enemybulldozer:
one pained afonja spotted!! I know many are on there way coming just to pollute this wonderful thread with their heart filled hate and bitterness.

dt guy is too low minded.can't appreciate ur African content dt is being refined nd is beautiful.na pple like am dey make trump racist.my prayer b sey if 2baba fit talk 2 em colleagues 2 make all artist dey wear only african contemporary cloth 4 their music videos e go help our fashion industry nd artiste like davido wizkid olumide go mak millions eh 4rm their outfit.because identity go cum dey nd wen d we start exporting fashion in Africa den wen d industry don strong eh american fashion designers go dey admire us.anotha na if CBN governor fit ban suit replace am wit senate wear 4 both gender because in fashion e gud make woman wear man cloth it will make our African content fashion.grow nd liberaliEd but trablism have 2 b put into consideration a debate on senate wear have 2 b taken on it whetha it make one an African or Nigerian or mak 1 a Yoruba or Igbo or Hausa etc y because oyinbo cloth won ova ours bcoa it nt tribalistic nd it liberial our women if it passes dt stage den it can b implemented nd let women wear d senate wear if not our African cloth no go fit dey liberal.den lata e fit dey implemented in our sch.y all dis so dt make we african youth dey bold being africian nd luv our content more.

robinso01:
I thought she's on full Nigeria dress. well congratulations.

she rebranding nd refining like wat d okoyes nd style Pius did wit our afro pop nw every bdy lik our music nd nw sum western artiste don dey like am.