Rapmoney: Why Friendship Should Come Before Sex In A Relationship
We live in an era where sex is the first thing most young men think when they intend starting a relationship with a member of the opposite gender. The female folks are not left out. Most young women will 'size' an approaching man from a far. They will not fail to estimate, calculate and approximate the financial status of the man. And if their calculations seem accepted or okay by them, they will not hesitate to start up an affair with the man with utmost alacrity. This is often times disastrous. One mind think sex and the other thinks financial gains (and even sex sometimes too).
Friendship goes beyond sexual attractions. It has to do with having a personal relationship with someone and being aware of both positives and negatives in his/her life. Allowing sex to come before friendship may make both parties to hide vital things about themselves. Most people (especially the female folks) would hide things about themselves after series of sexual acts because they feel there is a bond that has been created which signifies 'commitment' and as such, they would not want the negatives in their lives to terminate the affair.
Have you noticed that you might find it easier to talk about negatives or embarrassing secrets in your life with a friend you have no sexual attachments with than one who you sleep with? It is because true friendship was not formed before you delved into sex. Early sex makes most people to hide things that could practically tear a marriage into shreds later on when they are discovered. Early sex brings with it, bags, bags and more bags of false commitment and attachment.
There are vital things that each partner is supposed to know before a committed relationship is formed. Sex may not allow us to ascertain these things. We have been engrossed in the sweetness of it that we cannot share the shortcomings in our lives in order not to lose the 'sweet flavour of sex'. There are people who see themselves as partners/lovers and have sex regularly yet they might not even know the health status of each other and other little vital things that are easily neglected. That is not a healthy relationship; it is just a long term hookup!!! There are even guys who do not know their girlfriend's surname and vice-versa. They only know him/her as Collins, Fehintola or Kesiena. Sex for these people could be 5 times a week too. If such common information is not known, then which information will you know that is less important than that? t If my post does not harshly condemn or drag sex before marriage on the ground, realize that I am just a social writer who grew up in the streets of Warri and not a moralist. I leave that for the moralists and religionists to flog.
op are agree with u but can u address friend zoning because DT a problem when u wan 2 establish friendship with a lady.hw do we handle DT challenge Nd establish friendship with our potential gf 2 b
donnie: Many times, but the most recent on my mind is when I left CE church last year. I later declared that I wasn't a Christian on Facebook because of some posts I made which were true but which Christians didn't like.
Of course many insulted and even called me false prophet. What shocked me was even those close to me, I found making snide remarks and calling me end time false Prophet. Even more stupid was one guy who's life I had turned around by YAH's grace. He was jumping around my timeline making stupid comments. I introduced him to someone who gave him almost all his major engineering jobs. He even lived in one of the man's houses for free, got married and had a child right in that house. I gave him jobs to do and still had more waiting for him. Well that was it, I had to change him. I even found someone so good that it made this fool look like an apprentice. Christianity actually makes many people stupid.
from Ur read up it shows ur faith is in church Nd nt God.nd u aren't going to a church DT teach d bible.to expose things about passage in d bible.though I don't read d Bible much.but I pray I do.but wat try to knw wetin Christ or God mean in scripture.neva put Ur trust in man but God.for instance there no or few born again girls ( na when dey marry become prayerful)must at dis stage are hypocrite.when u have an employee who always wat u show is a Christian by every giving opportunity or show this pastor like personality.trying to hold prayer session always in ur office always forming holy don't be quick to accept him/her has such.they might be suspect.when u c such Joseph in d Bible should be in ur mind.joseph was a diligence person /staff who make d affair of Ur biz (photifer home) go cool Nd profit margin go turn around.dt make Ur office mgt peaceful Nd orderly Wen he/she arrive.remember Neva preach d word of God in Egypt whether in porphifier house or in d prison.it was his inner personality DT was showing.a Christian is a Christ like .have Jesus Christ personality which are humility kindness no dey gossip.positive thinking jovial friendly full of motivation.he/she presence bring positivity to an environment of negativity.( like he bring calmness in an area wher aggressive stubborn pple dey give person headache).secondly u need to know fake pastor from genuine pastor.which very important in Christianity it has help me alot.fake ones it shows in their sermon because one thing d devil would give u power is to teach d Bible so simple to make pple undastand Nd practice d words of God in their life.also we all sinners but try use d Bible to improve Ur personality Nd wisdom than to seek heaven u fit backslide because it Ur personality DT curved out by d Bible na em matter to access heaven.
ubcandid: do you know what he himself was passing through. The fact you see people in fancy, doesn't mean their pocket is sooo rich.
wat are u saying.if he was passing through challenge he for let him friend knw DT he side get as e b.but promise go call back Nd refuse to pick e call like one lady did me Wen I was looking for funds for my dad burials.
https://twitter.com/NCDCgov/status/1249430068784496645?s=19[/quote]dis covid 19 is becoming sumhw in d news esp DT cnn.the way they address d death number like sey na frequency.they b like d numbers are at is peak.it was low yesterday today is high .Wen u look at number it has a pattern.na pple love ones DT are dead they address like DT.dt y we keep telling atheist dis life u need God join our daily living esp times like dis now c hw scientist are struggling.with d covid 19.na so d news go talk about Ur love ones like numbers frequency God forbid.as we take d precautionary we need God too.because right now imaging wat some families are passing thru loosing their entire family or parents to covid 19 d side effect of DT.imagine if I was an atheist I got don die of hunger by now if nt for God who intervene last year to turn around last yr ending after lossing my dad..hw for take feed dis period.when u think about these things mehn u thank d lord we all sinners but we need God.forget atheist talk here on nairalandis jux talk they would give money to feed dis problem.
MRSAWEDOFF: Ex-Pastor's wife turned runs girl calls out politician's wife for threatening her over her husband
An Ex-Pastor's wife who is now a self-confessed runs girl, went off on a rant last night after being allegedly threatened by an Uyo politician's wife.
Happiness a.k.a Arab Queen disclosed that she is formerly married but now a single mother in her Instalive videos. She also recalled how the politician's wife allegedly slept with 3 different men in a hotel she once lodged in.
Arab Queen who asked the politician's wife to leave and "hustle" for men like her if she is tired of her marriage, threatened to release photos if pushed further.
Shibaraba: Sweet country I have a proposition. I suggest the federal government should, instead of wasting money in the name of nysc for youths, make them dey send every youth go America or Europe for at least three months after school so we go see as people dey live over there. See organisation na. See love. See order . See peace. See equality . Everybody comport. That is a country that works.
If this were to be naija, fight go Don happen since na. See that woman dey wave after she Don drop food. For here she go Don turn Jesus Christ. Dey shout line up, line up. People go dey even bribe them to collect aid. That one na if dem mc oluomo wannabees never carry bottle scatter the whole place.Different headline the next day Explorers headline go read Foodbank turns blood bank as touts clash in abule egba Pm express headline 50 killed as food sharing turns blow sharing Igberetv headline Man divorces wife in ejigbo as he discovers that she slept with officials before food was handed out. Cyriacius izuekwe headline Horror as bloodbath reigns in mushin over food Autojosh headline How to care for you car while queueing to access foodaid And our resident asslicker headline Alex reports Regina Daniels poses with recipients of food aid in abakaliki
By the way,that last picture, I fit bet my blokos na our sisters those hanty be. One back Pikin another just relax. By the way if you no get any of those wrapper for house you're not a Nigerian
but we Nigerians still joint.what have notice about americans is dt they are very charitable they take charity serious Nd is like tradition ova there we might be suprise DT this might be sponsopered by an NGO.dt y USA always get back on her feet.is was them Nd Israelis I got to understand d meaning of charity in d Bible Nd why God love a charity person.meanwhile in Nigeria Nigerians we only preach it but nt practice it.we Nigerians are nt charitable pple only a few.dt y these Western nations move forward Dan us because of their charitable heart.if u watch charity works of common Americans do for their pple u be marvelled.even their women do alot charity for the benefit of women.dy y women empowerment is strong over there here is different our women are very stingy to themselves.u hardly c a Nigerian ladies do charity for fellow naija women.since covid 19 hw many female celeb don give out to their female fans.only d male celeb are doing such Nd is being like this for while but u c American female ferminist giving out to female fans here female celeb only preach Nd react online on social issue Nd slay to their female fans.i rest my case abeg
grandstar: Is this right or wrong? I can't yet say but my instinct says it's wrong. The Japanese government should not give handouts for companies to leave China.
China would appreciate any country that stands with it in this time of calamity. Japan seems to have blatantly done the opposite as though taking the gloves off when there was no need to wear them in the first place.
Yes, China's land grabs has soured relations with Japan but that's another issue altogether. The true belligerent is China's head of state who has a conservative no nensense alienate-your-neighbours attitude to things.
I suspect once he's gone, China will return to its peaceful-rise policy which the present head has thrown out through the window.
DT their president have to resign.china go sweat eh.india might benefit from it.
d effect of covid 19 on china.d Chinese govt Neva c anything.but right now d Chinese govt would love Nd betting on democrats to enta white house to ease things for them.because democrats might nt attack china because of racism stuff from trump.calling d virus Chinese virus.yhey be cool headed with china.so with democrats china will do damage control with it citizens Nd deal with Hong Kong which alot of dialogue for its fuckup. because Hong Kong will leave.but with trump on 2nd term china is a go.d heat will be too much on their economy.hong Kong will definitely go.nd tensions might erupt in d Chinese govt Nd it citizens which will force them to do alot of reforms.but in all d after effect on their economy Nd foreign relations will be negative.yhey no try at all imagine trying to create propaganda against Africans DT we might bring Nd spread d covid 19.they also did it on foreigners.nd u want to b a world leader they Neva c anything.make d pandemic go first
lalasticlala: Lagos State Government begins house-to-house distribution of the Stimulus Package to the aged who had earlier received an SMS from LASRRA.
I want to ask is the local govt autonomy bill passed to law.because my friend said it was passed.but d media don't show attention on lg chairmen/chairladies.i will love someone to clarify for me
Biancah: Why do Nigerians beg alot ? In all social media handles Nigerians like begging, if a celebrity should post anything and there are 2000 comments ,1700 of the comments would be of people pasting their account numbers.
Why do Nigerians feel entitled to someone's money. Even nairaland is not left out, account numbers are almost everywhere on nairaland.
Some were even asking S.eun for giveaway like they are entitled to his money.
Why do some Nigerians feel like they are entitled to a rich/well to do person's money?
my sister no talk am for Twitter dem go drag ur life.u go explain to them hw dey take survive during dis lockdwn.those twitter pple harsh sha
blackpanda: They should pick up this animal and lock him up. Who do u think u are?? Corona doesn't care if u are the pope or a pauper, it will destroy u. Along with the gullible fools that believe your lies
titche Nd offering money don dey finish for him acct.hunger don dey set in.for him to disobey govt order while govt isn't violating freedom of religion ,shws his fake Nd a hustler.romans 13:1 or so explain it
chozzy: Door to door testing is best but their constraint is the test kits. They don't have enough test kits. Jac Ma donated just 20,000 test kits and it will run out soon.
These are areas we needed the president to intervene and coordinate. FG is supposed to have by now placed an order for at least 10m test kits but they have not. Jac Ma's 20,000 test kits can only test at most 20,000 people whereas Lagos alone require about 5m.
See, I foresee gloomy days ahead for Nigeria unless a Vaccine is discovered soon.
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FG has failed Nd very slow .i think d governors like Lagos should wrk out a solution for d test kits maybe by paying for manufacturing of such test kits.d sensitive area of d test kits manufacture abroad and less sensitive area like tube.mabufacture here
Emescot: Nigerians and most especially Lagosians are very stubborn in nature. It will only take the involvement of soldiers to force them to stay home.
chozzy: Oga, though your assumptions are not backed up by any laboratory or scientific proofs but the complain here is about getting access to Covid 19 testing and treatment in Nigeria. For god sake, why is it so difficult? You will call and call and call and call ... no response. When you're fortune to get a response, they will never show up. Why's Nigeria like this?
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the governors should be partial in control of nscdc in their state fed govt has failed the governors should establish test lab in every ward Nd isolatn centre every local govt then do door to door testing of citizen.virus no dey hide for blood.these approach of waiting for Ur citizen to show symptoms go back fire.
CanadaOrBust: How then do u explain the success of the Japanese approach (see below). They neither tested much nor shut down their society
we have pass d stage of preventive.buhari failed to prevent.what u saying about Japan approach is what d whole world is doing including Nigeria states but is back firing.u don't wait for Ur citizen to show symptoms Nd do contact tracing.causalities go high.like Italy .citizen door to door testing as we all stay indoor is d solution.if we can share such solution to our governors it will help alot.nd we be back to work sooner.
Emescot: Hello guys, Let me start by narrating my ordeal, about 2weeks ago I started having my regular symptoms of typhoid and malaria which is back pain, hot breathe, evening fever and change in urine colour, so i rushed to the pharmacy and got malaria drugs.
Fast forward to Saturday 21st,I started coughing but i didn't take it too seriously, but by midnight of that day I woke up with the worst fever and hallucination i have ever experienced, by Sunday morning the fever was gone, but then I had itchy/sore throat coupled with the cough, so i gargled salt and warm water and i got relief from the sore throat.
At exactly 6pm that Sunday, the fever returned but this time more serious than the last one and this time it lasted till Monday morning, at this point I was already on google searching for all the symptoms of CoronaVirus, instantly I called my nurse that I needed injection for malaria and typhoid and she told me no treatment unless i go for a test to confirm if its malaria and typhoid.
The thought of going to the Lab for test made me feel uneasy so i called the NCDC toll-free line (080097000010), I called for 12 good times and each time I was told to hold on but the call gets disconnected, I wasn't going to let myself die of ordinary Typhoid because I want to self isolate so i went to the Diagnosis centre with my nose mask on. At the centre i was dying inside, dying not because I was sick inside or I was afraid of what the result would bring, but dying because I was trying so hard to suppress the urge to cough, because I didn't want to scare people or spread whatever was wrong with me. After 2hrs the result was out and i had malaria and too much typhoid in my body system, I went home gave the nurse the result and she gave me 3 injections for the Malaria and typhoid, and I am much better now than yesterday,and she also prescribed Tutolin for my cough.
I read today about a Nairalander that called the NCDC line today to explain his symptoms and was told they only attend to people that had contact with someone who just came from travel outside Nigeria, with that I can only conclude that there is no seriousness in this Government to fight the Virus, right from the beginning they refused to close all point of entry in the country because they thought its child's play, now they wont even respond to Emergency calls.
Forget the nose mask, the hand sanitizer, once this gets to the common man in Nigeria, who believes they cant get the virus, who still believes the hot weather will kill the virus inside you, who believes the cure for every sickness is either paracetamol or antibiotics, then I am sorry to say, Nigeria might just become worse than italy
Stay safe guys, Stay indoors.
the best way for Nigeria as a nation to content covid 19 while science find d cure vaccine.is for governors to take d south Korea approach which is add testing of all citizen in each state directed by d governors.virus no dey hide for blood who ever test positive with be brought to d isolation centre then tested the 2nd time if d result come negative for instance test d third time(incompetent fit happen)but when it still show positive start treatment which various drug Nd research because u no fit leave person die.america Nd south Africa I think are now using DT approach.d idea of
RapistOnBail: The living faith church of God has created a USSD code for effective online offerings and tithe collections.
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Our Men of God have advanced in Technology.
nairalanders pls kindly monitor this living faith winners Nd big churches whether they will give out food or charity to pple during this period.make we know the G.Os were no get time for money.
what of plans for welfare package for nigerians.because we pray a vaccine cure should come by next week o.because by 2nd week of April hunger will start seriously surfacing.by d end of April unemployment will be high.which is already showing in d u.s
obaseki got to follow suit use ogbemium stadium.schools lands for isolation centre.including campuses.then for welfare package make u na advice sanwo olu to partner with tb Joshua Nd sum beta sensible pastors in Lagos because many on pulpit are idiot hustlers.for d disabilities provide feeding to them
PDJT: -Why is he wearing ordinary surgical face mask? To protect him from COVID-19? Lol I sight a science illiterate.
-That mask, my people, will give anyone wearing it Zero! (0) protection from the Coronavirus. Don’t joke with your life, stay at home.
ask Buhari DT .because d mask DT for covid19 is nt available in d country.so pple are inventing Nd making local made masked without W,.H.O why because of FG failure to atleast link d mask makers to WHO.for directive.
Area4Area: You don't even understand what you're writing, did you just say the FG should print money to reduce inflation, so you don't know that printing excess money and pumping it into the economy would lead to higher inflation? Read up why it happens that way
u guys on economist always speak on economic terms explain it in a lean man level.on how it causes inflation.this d problem with u guys.dt y our govt 4rm obj regime are always confuse about economy.see we are in a hard times pple will start dying of hunger Nd there might be scarcely of agric produce which will lead to inflation.dt d real inflation because Buhari dem don chop d money govt ministry no get funds.it an issue with this administration.so now with this reality about to happen what Ur advise on what FG need to do
hisexcellency34: So they should sit home and die of hunger. What palliatives are you providing?
DT d issue Europe Nd USA are providing money of 1k to their citizen.but come o can't FG mint money to provide welfare package for Nigerians Nd inject to d economy to reduce inflation DT most economist always confuse us with
I wan ask can't FG mint money for social welfare package for Nigerians on one hand Nd inject to the economy to reduce inflation rates DT most economist confuse us with
HigherEd: PRESS STATEMENT FROM LIVING FAITH CHURCH ON CHURCH SERVICE OF MARCH 22, 2020
*Coronavirus: Compliance with Government Order – Matters Arising*
It has become necessary to issue this statement to clarify issues surrounding why Faith Tabernacle, Canaanland, the International Headquarters of Living Faith Church in Ogun State, held church service on Sunday, although with less than half of her regular worshippers.
There have been diverse responses varying from well-meaning concerns to uncharitable insinuations, misinterpretations, and unfounded allegations that the service was held in deliberate defiance of Ogun State Government ban on high-density gatherings, in the wake of COVID-19 pandemic. Nothing can be further from the truth.
For avoidance of doubt, as stakeholders and as a responsible organisation, Living Faith Church fully supports and encourages compliance with all initiatives of government to combat the spread of this dreaded virus. However, information has to be strategically disseminated to the grassroot, noting that the Church is a family and not an industry, it is for this reason that enlightenment and sensitization from the Church platform is a most effective way to get people involved in playing their part in terms of prayers and intercessions and not just staying away from Church without knowing what to do.
Invariably, a press release from the office of the CAN President, through his Special Assistant on media on Saturday March 21, 2020, expressed the same position that members who may gather in church premises, many of whom may not be aware of this regulations should be allowed to worship for the purpose of enlightenment on the subject matter.
As we all know, the Church is made up of both literate and illiterate congregants; many are not in touch with any of the modern platforms of communication and this is what we did yesterday. Indeed, the service was devoted entirely to sensitizing and mobilizing members of the Church regarding the danger of this deadly virus and the need to comply with government directives.
The Bishop has since engaged Ogun State Government at the highest level to clarify this issue and any misgivings and reiterated the full support of the church for the State Government’s efforts to ensure public safety, towards curtailing the spread of this deadly virus. He appreciates the opportunity of direct engagement and the understanding of the government. Cooperation to safeguard public safety is not just a moral obligation or civic responsibility; the church also considers it a spiritual duty.
For instance, to show how law abiding our organisation is and in compliance with government directives, all our primary and secondary schools across the nation have been directed to close down. Also, our students at Landmark University, Omuaran, Kwara State were sent back home, while Covenant University Students, who are currently on vacation were instructed to stay back at home while awaiting further directives from government.
As a responsible and law abiding organization we wish to state that will ensure compliance with the government directives in all our churches across the state .
The Church shall continue to engage all necessary logistics to ensure compliance with government directives and continue to pray for speedy divine intervention to stem this deadly virus.
Pastor Steve Ogah Special Assistant to Bishop David Oyedepo
this statement shows DT dis pastor is fake.trying to find excuse.if u are to go church make sure na genuine pastor be o.carona virus is for the genuine men of God as who don't have jets Nd sch for the rich
CokeBar: The official Twitter account of the Nigeria Centre for Disease Control, NCDC has confirmed the number of COVID-19 cases in the country is now thirty-five.
Edo state has been added to list of states with infected people.
https://twitter.com/NCDCgov/status/1242009696334217216?s=19[/quote]what governors suppose to do to include ban of religious gathering church mosques etc because only 1%of men of God are genuine Nd strong in anointing Nd they look after their members u knw God only recognise d real men of God in time like this.a ban will make dis few of God to provoke heaven for the nation.after DT put med team with police with masks protection on every commercial bus/taxi parks both d ones traveling Nd within d city or town.a curfew will be place on sat still 12pm Nd sun 6pm to 3pm for door to door screening of temperature.to identify pple with high temp. then d FG health ministry call all those African countries DT were badly affected by ebola Nd wHo teams who tackled d ebola outbreak to gain information on how they tackle ebola then in there country to knw the measure this country used due to d fact our society structure is different 4rm d western world.
Gaggi: Third world. We are on our own o. All we should do is stay safe and wait till the civilized world develop a cure. I don't blame any of the medical parties, if you catch anything you are on your own.
DT why one needs a real genuine man of God which are few ( go pray on olive oil dey use plus d sanitizer at dis period. because 9ja no ready.no measures on commercial transport terminals Nd bus parks.which is very vulnerable area of gathering to d spread.
ArmaniUhuru: Scientists are working their asses off day and night to get a cure for Covid19 and our religious leaders are in hideouts. This is the time they should come and perform their miracles. Now is the time people need the real healing. Some pastors are even creating apps for members to be paying tithes in this trying times. Your partnership with God should be a personal relationship with him, not with all these pastorpreneurs
caronavirus is for the real genuine men of God who are 100percent anointed by God.who teach d truth in d word of God regardless on who it offends who don't ask for money before/after they deliver u .for my church bethren if u nt 100percent sure Ur pastor is genuine Nd very strong in anointing Nd his sermon is not full with d raw salvation truth ( he dey water salvation preaching).he too dey ask for money.or dey give VIP treatment to big man/women or he was robbed or kidnapped before my when he was in the world but when he became a man of God.my sister or brother gladly stay at home.dnt be carried away by magician pastors who only shout prophesize.this period is for the hardcore strong genuine pastors.pastor is jux a name
Romance › Re: Why Friendship Should Come Before Sex In A Relationship by Ogaonos: 11:57am On Apr 14, 2020
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