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Hello everyone.
I have an unusual issue at hand and it's really giving me a headache.

I have a girlfriend I met in August this year when I traveled to my state from Abuja. She's beautiful, a graduate, and she's everything I have ever wished to have in a woman or so I once believed.

I loved her and our relationship was going to lead to marriage.

After we met in August I traveled back to Abuja and a few months later her NYSC call up came. She told me about it and we planned that she will serve in Abuja. I paid one NYSC man to work her posting but unfortunately, she was posted to another Northern state.

On her way to the state where she was posted she stopped over at my place in Abuja on the 3rd of November, That night we had sex without a condom and after the sex, I gave her a pregnancy prevention drug tablet I had collected from a doctor.

She refused to take the drugs not until after much persuasions. The next morning, some thick blood mixed with water started coming out of her and she was also having stomach pains so I called the doctor that gave me the drugs and he said we should come to his hospital.

We got to the hospital and after explaining to him what happened the doctor said she was already pregnant before taking the drugs that's why her body reacted that way to the drugs.

She denied that she's pregnant and eventually she had to undergo a pregnancy scan. The result came out negative but the doctor kept on insisting that she was pregnant and that the reason why the result came out negative is because of the drugs she took and how young the pregnancy is.

She left for home angrily that day and I had to beg her to forget whatever it is that happened.

A few days later she left for NYSC camp in the state where she was posted. After two weeks she started complaining to me that she's been feeling cold, hungry, and sleepy often than she used to.

I told her that it could be because of the change of weather and the approaching harmattan season. While she was in camp I was working for her to be reposted back to Abuja and somehow she didn't want to serve in Abuja again. She wasn't really open to me about that but she was subtly letting me know of her desires.

Finally, her reposting worked out and she came down to Abuja three days ago. Today she told me that she wants to go for a pregnancy test and I obliged and escorted her to another hospital different from the one we previously went to the first time she came to Abuja.

After the test and scan, the result said she's 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant. We went to another hospital and the result came out the same.

Remember that I first had sex with her on the 3rd of November. Tomorrow will make it a month I had sex with her but she's already 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant.

I could not understand why she should be 6 weeks pregnant when it's not been up to 4 weeks I had sex with her. I have asked her to tell me if she slept with someone else earlier before she came to Abuja but she has maintained that she did not.

I have equally asked the two doctors we met today plus a few other doctors I spoke with on the phone if they think that I'm responsible for the pregnancy but their answers are all contradicting.

Now I'm confused. She's in my house, with a child I'm certain does not belong to me. I don't know what to do. I'm really really confused. Please, any mature advice would be gladly appreciated.

Thank you!

If you truly love/want her, one way through all of this is to ask her to abort this pregnancy, it's not a healthy one for you, her self and even the unborn child to go through what is ahead if you you guys keep the pregnancy, hence it's better to start all over again without wasting much time contemplating on what to do...

It's not her fault... 100% not mentally stable, a mother can not do this to her children.

RIP little children.

arinpe16:
I'm not fighting God. I'm not used to praying 5 times daily before we met and he knows. I think he's only using it as an excuse. Is it enough reason to.want.a.divorce?

If that's all he is asking you to do, please do it... Just because of this you allowed your family to be in shamble for a year plus, I'm not sure you want the marriage too, because if you are of the same faith and you are not against his beliefs and he is not asking you to do anything extra than pray regularly, young woman check your life...

Beosten:
Thanks, bro. I know no one can challenge me by giving her the name. The name will earn her respect as people will be surprised that the name is often given to men with great ancestral history. From literal interpretation, Aluko is a bird with the color that symbolizes beauty in Yoruba land.

Brother, I don't know your part of Yoruba, but with the little that I know, there is no place where Aluko symbolize beauty... Please check your findings

Beosten:
It means "beauty". But the name is often given to men.

Aluko doesn't mean beauty... Go back to your findings

Goldencheese:
Do you know what personality branding is about? People spend millions to grow their brand. How can you encourage sane people to sit, concoct lies against an innocent person and then employ social media to brand that person with fake news? And this was happening at a very important time in that young man's life. See, if you don't want heat, stay out of the kitchen.

I know the law. If Davido had taken it up, they would go to jail for slander or defamation of character because it was malicious to his reputation and brand.

Quit this mollycoddling...this is the real world. If you commit a crime, apologies won't save your skin.

No body is stop him from protecting his image and personality, what the young woman is saying is, do it the proper way...

Adebowhales:
My baby is just 4 months old and my wife is pregnant again. We tried the family planning methods but it failed.

Presently, we cannot afford to leave the pregnancy. What can we do to prevent further re occurrence and to terminate this one.

Thanks.

Medics in the house.

You don't wash all your clothes on the street... Please don't bring issue like this to social media, there are better ways to approach this, wish you find solution.

fam24:
Confirm from BBC
https://www.bbc.com/yoruba/afrika-46423374

What a beautiful SOUL... reading through your diary, especially the good side of scd makes me see you more special, keep fighting you are a survival.

pocohantas:
That is why they are fathering kids from away match na. Since the problem is never from them, the wife would go outside to test her womb (out of desperation).

Everybody is happy

As bad this may sound like, it's happening and real

SirWhiteFish:
I looked back at the beginning of this year, precisely 14th January 2019 when I started working at a private primary school. Three weeks later, I was told that I had to be taking two primary five students extra lessons after closing (3pm), and the pay was 1k each. With my monthly salary which was 13,000 added to the "1k" each makes 15 thousand.
By
You would think I earned 13k for three months abi! No I didn't. The first salary I got was the half of 13k. The woman just called the staff on the 28th of January and gave me 6.5k. I had no idea what was going on and I thought she was going to balance up at the beginning of February just like she said while addressing us but it was a lie. it was at the end of the term, the third month April, that I got to know I am being ripped off. She said she was going to pay 5000 naira at the end of the term as salary because school opened for just 10 days. It was the greatest shock of my life. A graduate, a grown up man like me, taking 5000 naira home!!
I wanted to leave but I couldn't because I wouldn't be paid for the common entrance lesson and I had not gotten any other opportunities elsewhere.

Sometimes in early February, She called me that I would be handling primary 5 Common entrance lessons which is meant to hold every Saturday and at the end of the third term the money will be shared between Me, a staff that partners me and the proprietress. She said the money will be shared 60%(I and another man) to 40%(the proprietress). The formula was very unfair and strange to me. The sharing formula seemed very strange to me and I challenged it but she enforced it.

Fast forward to early this month, precisely 3rd of July, the proprietress started acting strange and insulting all the workers and all that. The following week she sent one of the oldest staff by to inquire what will be the staff reaction if they are not paid at the end if the term. The staff said they won't agree to such and some even threaten various actions. Fast forward to Thursday 25th of July, vacation day. the woman started up a plethora of complaints deliberately she said she was going to pay 4000 as July salary. The same thing she did at the end of second term. At the end she ended up not paying a dime. She didn't pay any of us. Not even the common entrance lesson which made me stay.

I cried and stayed inside throughout Friday. I had a deep thinking, with my academic background! Was it that I didn't know my worth? with all my struggles to be successful academically I am now slaving in one private school for a paltry sum of 15k, money wey I no fit cope with as an undergraduate! Money wey be say no reach my NYSC allawe!
I really feel for graduates going through phases like this. I really feel for graduates teaching at private schools. I pray better days finds you and I soon.

Brother, please look for a skill you can acquire within a short time... I did same when I was almost seeing my self in your shoe, I went learning tailor and today that I have a good job, I can't still let go of the tailoring business.

missimelda01:
Awwn

These days it's hard to find true love on social media, guys now run to churches to find babes

No, the church has been messed up too, the pastor's are doing more to their members...
Guys are looking @other things beyond just the church

nanauju:
Lol such myopic thinking.
If he spends on me from his own will, How does that equates to gold digging.
Mtchew don't just let me enter u dis night

Just reading through threads...
how far, are you guys back together?

From a care mind.

fam24:
Good morning. I've read the book - Dazzling mirage. I bought it on Okadabooks. It's a really interesting read though it seems rush to me. I love the way it ended. A dazzling mirage becoming a dazzling reality. In reality, the challenges continues and the fight for life never ends. Thanks for mentioning it which encouraged me to search to read it.

How are you doing sir?

Afternoon, I'm so happy reading from you and also glad that you are able to access the book, I have been away from network for some weeks, but all for good... If convenient, I would have love to chat with you outside nairaland, here is my mail address, alfrediyiola80@gmail.com.
Take care and stay safe.

IamTeen:
Good morning everyone,


I know this might sound like a scam but i seriously need help.
I'm a freshman in a Fed Uni with two campuses. I stay at one of the campuses which is not the main campus. Our test began last week and it's computer based, we will have to transport ourselves everyday to the campus. I calculated the transport fee which amounted to #1280 for eight days: 160 to and fro.
I told mum a week earlier about it and she sent #1500. I couldn't tell her my foodstuffs were finished because i know she's also struggling.
But i got to chop!
I bought some foodstuffs and paid those i borrowed little change from.

My first test was Saturday; yesterday.
Currently i have N700 on me, and i still have 8 more tests to go.
I know this won't be enough, please all i need is N500.
No one i know would borrow me such amount and even if they do, i can't pay back.
I don't have an account but I'll sort someone else's like i used to do.

I will provide any evidence you need.
Please, help me.
Thanks a million.

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Modified:

I have posted this few days earlier but no help, I'm still hoping. . Tomorrow will be the day my money will be exhausted. I know it's shameful doing this but I have no choice.

Op, please confirm you got the needed help?.

fam24:
No, I have not read it. I heard about the movie by Tunde Kelani, but I have not been opportuned to see it as well. Do you have the book, if it's soft copy?

Morning, sorry for not responding asap, I traveled out of location.
I didn't get the soft copy, I bought the book.
Hope you are doing great? Have a wonderful day and work safe, regards.

fam24:
Thank you.

Well-done e-friend, just want to ask... In my quest to know more about the fight of a survival, I read a book called " DAZZLING MIRAGE" , have you been opportune to read the book too?

Olukologia24592:
if you don't have anything to say, just keep quiet. Your question doesn't tally.

I agree with the Op, which God are you serving that you can not acquire it too... That's why he's asking if you are serving Satan.

subtlemee:
Hmmm...people don't have shame in this world again,grandmother stripper spitting fire for her colleagues,won't you rather encourage this ones to go to school,get a job or learn a trade?

May your daughters all become a stripper like you as a profession...Amen

You encourage us to ALWAYS BE KIND, but unfortunately you are not kind with your comment, even the innocent unborn child receive from your unkind word... Have a wonderful day, good morning.

Jolenejole:
Beautiful mother, handsome son.


Can't wait to hold my child in my arms

Soon...

fam24:
Good evening sir. I am sorry I kept you in the dark and worried, I never meant to. I'm fine, very fine. The last post was made in a minute of fear and it was all gone in the morning. I totally forgot about it. I resumed back to school last Saturday, so I was kind of busy, reason why I didn't show up here. Thanks so much for your concern. I really do appreciate it. God bless you.

What a beautiful day for me and my family, we long wait for this day and it's seems truly long but @the end it's worth it.
Please kindly check back when you post a message like that, it will be well appreciated... We/ People care.

fam24:
Amen. You are welcome sir. Thanks for following. It's great to know someone like you is patiently reading through. God bless you sir

Please, tell me all is well with you...

fam24:
In as much as most of what I will be posting here are things that will be in my diary, I'm creating this thread to get others' opinion and feedback on certain issues that require such. Thanks

How do I describe how I miss not hearing from you when I needed it most, how do I tell you the pains I have without your response when I wanted it more... I 've grown to love your personality more and more each day, reading through your post, I'm not blaming you for not responding, because I see you fighting the battle you did not create "SURVIVAL BATTLE ", but my pain lies on your last post and when I check the time and hour you send that post, it's sounds even more dreadful, please say something to a friend... He is missing your personality.

fam24:
Interesting

How do I describe how I miss not hearing from you when I needed it most, how do tell you the pains I have without your response when I wanted it more... I 've grown to love your personality more and more each day, reading through your post, I'm not blaming you for not responding, because I see you fighting the battle you did not create "SURVIVAL BATTLE ", but my pain lies on your last post and when I check the time and hour you send that post, it's sounds even more dreadful, please say something to a friend... He is missing your personality.

fam24:
Amen. You are welcome sir. Thanks for following. It's great to know someone like you is patiently reading through. God bless you sir

My prayers are with you... With plenty of love from your e-friend

fam24:
Thank you.

Please someone cares about you, say something to a friend that cares... Praying for you.

fam24:
Amen. You are welcome sir. Thanks for following. It's great to know someone like you is patiently reading through. God bless you sir

Morning, how are you? I strongly believe you are doing great... Please just say hi and that will be all that I need now, God is your strength and please stay strong.

fam24:
Dear Future Warriors,

How are you?
You must be wondering why you are born into a life of pain, of crisis, of complications, you must have asked why. I will like you to know that you are strong enough to withstand it. Blame not God, but ask your parents why.
Some of us have been into it before you. We did our best to eradicate it so that you won't have to go through what we are going through, but your parents (or fate) decided otherwise. Some were blinded by love, some enshackled by faith, some failed by laboratory results. Some claimed ignorance. But in all of these, know that you will survive, just like some of us are. I want to tell you not to focus on the why, because that's no longer important, the deed has been done, but focus on the purpose why you are here, there is a greater reason for that. You must ensure to discover your purpose and live by it. Don't stop fighting because that's what you're born to do. In fighting, some won and live with it, some lose and become heroes. I hope you win, but in case if it turns out the other way, I hope you find rest. I hope you become a star to shine over the other warriors still fighting. I hope you become an angel to guide over them. And I hope you become a martyr.
While you are alive, live, love, laugh and persevere. Make a difference, make impact and set a pace and a path for others. Find a reason and a purpose to life.
You have got sickled cells flowing in your veins, sickle cell doesn't have you. Don't allow sickle cell to cage you in its cell. You are more than a conqueror. Explore your body when you are healthy and manage it when you are not.
You have a strong spirit in a not so strong body, but you need that body to do your exploits, hence pay attention to it, manage it well and take good care of it.
I hope the sickle cycle ends in your generation. I hope science find a cure to it, a *safe* cure that could be *available* and *affordable* to all.
But if not, don't be sad, don't be mad. Enlighten the world, educate them and create awareness. Do your part.
Be the light through which other warriors can see through.

Stay safe warrior. Don't forget you are a survivor, you will sure survive all that life throws at you. Don't you ever give up. I love you.

From a co-warrior,

© FAM

A beautiful morning to a friend and a sister, I woke up with your tot in mind... How are you and hope you are doing great and good, I love to hear from you as soon as possible. I'm concerned about your last post, I believe you are there strong as ever fighting the fight of a survival, God bless you.

fam24:
Dear Future Warriors,

How are you?
You must be wondering why you are born into a life of pain, of crisis, of complications, you must have asked why. I will like you to know that you are strong enough to withstand it. Blame not God, but ask your parents why.
Some of us have been into it before you. We did our best to eradicate it so that you won't have to go through what we are going through, but your parents (or fate) decided otherwise. Some were blinded by love, some enshackled by faith, some failed by laboratory results. Some claimed ignorance. But in all of these, know that you will survive, just like some of us are. I want to tell you not to focus on the why, because that's no longer important, the deed has been done, but focus on the purpose why you are here, there is a greater reason for that. You must ensure to discover your purpose and live by it. Don't stop fighting because that's what you're born to do. In fighting, some won and live with it, some lose and become heroes. I hope you win, but in case if it turns out the other way, I hope you find rest. I hope you become a star to shine over the other warriors still fighting. I hope you become an angel to guide over them. And I hope you become a martyr.
While you are alive, live, love, laugh and persevere. Make a difference, make impact and set a pace and a path for others. Find a reason and a purpose to life.
You have got sickled cells flowing in your veins, sickle cell doesn't have you. Don't allow sickle cell to cage you in its cell. You are more than a conqueror. Explore your body when you are healthy and manage it when you are not.
You have a strong spirit in a not so strong body, but you need that body to do your exploits, hence pay attention to it, manage it well and take good care of it.
I hope the sickle cycle ends in your generation. I hope science find a cure to it, a *safe* cure that could be *available* and *affordable* to all.
But if not, don't be sad, don't be mad. Enlighten the world, educate them and create awareness. Do your part.
Be the light through which other warriors can see through.

Stay safe warrior. Don't forget you are a survivor, you will sure survive all that life throws at you. Don't you ever give up. I love you.

From a co-warrior,

© FAM

Sweet heart, please sleep and have sweet dreams, you will definitely wake up in morning... Please don't let your heart be troubled, all will be well.

These pictures are not from the Ebute -Metta that I know and live in... Where did they get all the photos from?

We all know Subair, most of us passed through him one way or the other... I think the University is just doing a cover up package.

RIP Mr. Subair.

SEONaijaExpert:
Was looking out for Berger...

I think you listed those ones with certain history attached.

This bus stop is key to any body coming to Lagos for the first time, hence it's should be noted as one popular bus stop.

fam24:
They said she's a bitch
Some call her bastard
Some felt it's a he and a beast
People who have met him know how wicked he could be.
He shows no mercy
He comes knocking when least expected
She doesn't wait to be invited
She comes with pain
She destabilizes plans
He ruins your schedule
People who know her wish they never did.
People who don't think she's overemphasized
Some still love and want her
They call upon her and welcome her with open arms
When they meet her, they regret and realize their mistakes
But it's too late
She doesn't come alone
She comes with crisis and complications
She makes hospital their home
She makes drugs food
And makes foods drug
She makes the weak strong
And makes the strong weak
Another child has been put in agony
She makes veins run and disappear
And gives marks via cannula line
She's a product of two carriers
One claiming love
The other shouting faith
How can you be this careless
How can you claim to be ignorant
What's your excuse?
Some call her disease
Some said he is a disorder
Whatever you call her
The features are there
She's a respecter of no one
It's SCD


*© FAM*

Everytime I read through your post, I get excited that I have the opportunity to meet your personality on this platform... So many things I 've learnt and so many discovered, thanks for being a great person. Just to let you know I now have survival noticification on my facebook account, courtesy of you, once again thank you and God bless.