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adontcare:
it's not some women that wrote the law. Face it and stop mentioning me.

Being mentally unstable or lunatic has many sides, some only see their view as the only valid point even when thousands of people are showing him/her the way... That's what are at the moment, check your self little girl, something is wrong somewhere, my little piece.

cococandy:
All these withdrawal method guys.
Una never see anything.

I 've done that over the years for a perfect child spacing and till date we have no reason to do family planning of any kind... It's all about discipline on the part of the man.

bukatyne:
I see two issues:

1. You both are earning below the standard of living you have set for yourselves. In what ways is your husband trying to increase his earnings?

2. Do you have a written budget where you can track income with expenditure so you see where you can cut expenses (I know what you have is not enough however, that will reduce the mental stress on you).

3. You have the classic egoistic Nigerian husband. How do you navigate them? By apologizing when issues crop up whether you are wrong or not. Yorubas call that apology 'gba je n simi' or 'sorry, let me rest.'
So issues come up, it is quickly 'sweetheart, sorry, I did not mean it like that.', 'sorry, no vex' etc.

4. His spiritual life: what happened to the man that wanted to be a pastor? Just how you leaned on him for spiritual growth, you might need to return the favour now.

And good that you have to wisdom to avoid his blows since you are still willing to stay.

Thanks for this analysis... You must have been long in marriage

simplepee:
Very cool but can WE wait?

I like this "CAN WE WAIT" so it's not about the man only, both of you are involve...

I discover the young woman is not married yet, hence her case is like an unmarried pastor counseling couples

Eulalia:
Buahahahahaaaa.. this your meme eh? I don laugh taya.
Well, like I said, there are other ways you can help relieve ogar without him necessarily penetrating. I mean ... It for your own good. As for me, that's what I'll do when I get married. Because after listening to complains of Young mothers who after child birth could not get their hooha back to size, I resolved within me to observe the full waiting period. Our mothers know better.

Hubby will have to chilax o because if anything goes wrong, they'll jump on the next available mhm.. Lol

Now I understand you perfectly... You are not married yet, you are just like the un-married pastors counseling couples

wittyt98:
Eyah! Congrats to her

but whether u choose Islam, Christianity, Buddhism, Hinduism, Jew, Orisha or amadioha. Religion will always be what it is.
(Opium of the people)

Very very true brother, I tot I'm the only one on that page...

Russo35:
Please Google and read more on "Patient 31"
I won't say more than that

Religion has turned them senseless... Leave them.

xendra:
you know what? I forgive you.

Perfect response...

Futurejoy:
Are you referring to your husband as your “housemate”?

Sure, she did... Possibly that's how they roll.

megareal:
You know it is your type I would love to put in the same room with just one of my cousins who are leaders in the occult. Thirty minutes only, alone with one of them and this your supposed educated mentality will vamoose fiam. That is if your mouth will ever be able to say what you have seen. Or if your educated brain would even remain the same after the encounter.
You know why I know and believe God is real and I worship and serve Him? Because I have seen both worlds. The devil is very real too.

Can you please stop responding to some quotes, they know little about spiritism and they can only jab on a faceless platform like this...

megareal:
Yes, but i haven't seen nor call him in a while.

I will love to know him... That's if possible

Chi59:
I haven't been fortunate with guys.
My first attempt at a relationship failed woefully.
And so did the second, third and fourth.
It isnt entirely without a reason though.
I'm SS. I have been a Sickle cell advocate for many years. I don't shy away from talking about it on any level.

Apart from that fact, I'm beautiful, smart, funny, very lovely, outgoing (even as an ambivert). I poses a healthy level of empathy, self esteem and confidence.

Physically I'm tall, slim, moderately endowed. I have been told that I look healthier than some "healthy" people.
So I don't know, what am I lacking?
All the guys I've been in love with, for one flimsy reason or the other just disappear for no reason. Just like that.

Of course, I don't hide my genotype status, but then they seem cool with it. Months later, he disappears and leaves me heartbroken.

Now I find myself liking someone again (the fifth guy). We haven't gotten that close but I'm scared. Should I lie to him? What do I tell him?

Allow love to grow before letting such information out, it's take love to take some risk...

We 've seeing people that marry different types of human of one challenge or the other, imagine a man that marries a blind woman or someone on a wheelchair, what did you think happened? Love don't allow you to see danger and challenges.

Bottom line, let's love come first, don't let it be the first conversation as you have been doing and talk as SS advocate, reality is different from talk, LIFE IS REAL. Manage your personal life and leave what you have been thought in SS meetings and advocacy talk

Epositive:
My apathy towards religion

Same here... Religion is a no no for me

Yenefer:

Bad logic... Non is working

mharyamikeola92:
This is serious,taking paracetamol on top another person’s headache...pls let me know if u need any help...stay safe sweetie

Op, I just love your response... Stay safe.

Commonsense101:
I just came across this thread , and it's quite disheartening how people think and interact in that part of the world.

Oga who died and made you king exactly? ?

If this man was trying to sell a car and he posted "important" information that was inconsistent, I would understand your interrogative stance....

Dude wanted a car,
dude utilized the service
Dude shared a story and experience

There's a big difference between a Lie and an inaccurate account... The difference is human error.

Not all incorrect information is a Lie...

When you Lie you have a MOTIVE ..... One that makes you DELIBERATELY DISTORT , RELEVANT information with the intent to mislead. ....(Note "relevant" . He has no reason to do that.

If for instance he said the report was erroneous, when in fact it was accurate, that's distortion of am important information.

If he said he chatted the man at 1a.m. but it was at 2.am .... How the fvvck is that relevant?

Only someone who is " LOOKING" for a reason to fault will dwell on irrelevant nonsense while ignoring the big picture.....

Did he contact the VIN guy?

Did the VIN guy give accurate information?

Is this thread about his experience with the VIN guy?

Does he have a right to share his experience?

If the above are true then what the fvvck are you people On about!??

What is he lieing about exactly ?!

You need to calm your titties Inspector Gadget.

This is just another sheepish display of caucus mentality on this forum. I see that nonsense all the time, and I just shake my head. Some group of people consider themselves Lords of the
Manor, for place wey dem no buy land.

visit western forums where beta human beings with better skills dey, and see how civil thier interactions are. Some local champions go just dey here dey puff up for nothing.

Radarada!

My long time crush... No vex ( je-ebure), who is making you vent like this?
Regards to hubby, although I was not invited.
Cheers.

darlenese:
so plenary session has been suspended for 2 weeks , all these Senators nor won cash the virus , yet they allowed us to send our kids to school .

shouldn't there be two weeks holiday for school children as well

Op for safety purposes, if you are not comfortable sending your kids to school please do, we don't need to wait for government to keep our kids safe...

Fabolousibk1:
I hate this Freeze Guy.... He blocked me on Instagram bcoz I opposed his opinion on tithe
Idiot Guy

If you are not OK with his idea on tithe, then other opinion that is relevant should be thrown away too... I'm afraid for this generation.

Invisible123:
Good evening all,

I have just found myself in a dilemma that's really disturbing me emotionally. I need matured and candid advice from anyone who cares.

Just recently, myself and my fiancee concluded our introduction ceremony. The wedding comes up middle of this year.

Now the problem :

My fiancee is pregnant, early last month I registered her for anti natal in a very reputable hospital in Lagos. It is standard practice that they run series of tests before commencement of the treatment. After the results came out, my wife didn't disclose the findings to me, she kept it to herself until a day after the introduction.

The results indicated that her genotype is AS of which I'm also AS. Note that we had gone for checks 4 times before committing to each other, on all four occasions the results came out as AA for her. Her mum also confirmed that she is AA, she claimed she got her tested when she was young. Immediately she told me, I got so confused, I started sweating profusely. I immediately took her to another Lab close to the general hospital in my area. We both ran the test, I came our as my usual AS while she came out as AA. Also, Today, just to be sure again, she ran another test in a separate hospital on the Island and she also came out as AA.

My fear:

The hospital I registered her in is a reputable hospital and that's the reason I'm scared. I informed the hospital of my findings, they took another sample and promised to get back to me. It took them two days to call me, they left me and my wife in emotional distress while devising a means to clear their name or confuse me with medical terms. They finally called today and told me she has the AS hemoglobin in her blood but the AA is more pronounced. This got me confused cos if the AA is more pronounced, why release the result as AS in the first place. This is why I find their story hard to believe.

I feel they came up with this excuse just to justify their claim and cover up their mistake. How can 6 clinics and hospitals test her as AA while only this hospital says AS.

Note, just this evening a new test from a separate hospital says she's AA.

Nairalanders, please what do I do? Is it possible for this anomaly to happen ? Is it possible for her to have AS and AA hemoglobin at the same time where one will be more pronounced than the other. And if it's possible, what her the chances of my baby coming out fine.

Thanks Nairalanders.

It possible, you can request for "haemoglobin profiling test", it gives the full details and percentage of it deposition, although expensive than the normal genotype test... Wish you all the best my brother.

JustPerpetual:
So she's my age mate and I haven't achieved anything in life

You will achieve more than you can ever imagine only if you believe in yourself and never give up... Wish all the best in life, cheers.

hensben:
You are wrong. Those are the type of people needed in church so that they can confess and repent of their evil ways. Jesus Christ said he did not come for the righteous but sinners.

Hhuuumm, then going by your opinion here, why are you CONCERNED that the writer says he was arrested in the church

mrbenjame:
No sir I’m not.

my small opinion... Susan is out of what should be considered and the other one is not sure of what she want yet, most girls know what they want after university, hence it might not be the right direction to go too...
Many fu*k & shi*t happen in university and there nothing you can do to stop it and I'm sure you won't be able to live by such...
For me, the two are not your options.

EmpressT:
You're welcome.
Point of correction, I am a woman o

my small opinion... Susan is out of what should be considered and the other one is not sure of what she want yet, most girls know what they want after university, hence it might not be the right direction to go too...
Many fu*k & shi*t happen in university and there nothing you can do to stop it and I'm sure you won't be able to live by such...
For me, the two are not your options.

nairalee:
Which type of foolish headline is "Man Arrested in Church for sleeping with his two daughters"?

What has the venue of where he was arrested got to do wit the story or u just wanted to cause unnecessary controversy?

It's important brother... because such people are not suppose to be found in a place of worship, be it mosque or church and how many of such that are in one place of worship today that are devil in their corner.

izzou:
[color=royalblue]Is this the woman you dated for 10 years? [/color]

Read again, you didn't get the info.

cococandy:
In contact with the ex who fathered her child or some other ex? What kind of things did they discuss?

Per comments on the post: So, I suppose a single mom should deny the father of her child access to the children in order for the new man to like her? Ever heard of co parenting?

If you have a child and end up not marrying the woman who bore the child , do you deserve to loose that child so that she can move on to the next man? Or is a civil arrangement where you both can have your separate relationships and still be in your child’s life not a good option.

Na una dey do una self..

How can I give you 1million like... I searched every where but couldn't find one on this platform, here is your 1million like plus the official one on your comment, God bless you real good.

streetsoldier1:
I tried all I could to save face, just have to end it all after discovering that the single mother I married still contacts her ex regularly...

Despite forgiving her several errors even while we got engaged, she still has the guts under my roof to mess up.

Warning guys, never ever marry a single mother that has been messed up!!!
6 years was messed up!!!

Sorry brother, is the guy she's messing up with the father of her child ?

Citytrend:
Not sure you've been cursed before uncle. Because the man you're insulting is a no nonsense man bros trust me. This is how people like you go about attracting curses upon yourself.

I have worked with this Dude for the past 2 months.
As a third party without any fight as a Web Designer myself. So pray to your God he doesn't see this post

The work you did for me was rubbish... I decide to keep quiet and let it slide.

Go and learn more, I insist.

Brandstudio01:
What a way to celebrate your Christmas.
I think our young men should really guard their heart.

Anyway, I will Build a Professional Logo for your Product or Company For 2k Only. Offer valid Today Only. See my info below to Chat me up

Go and learn the skills of art before using already made logo design app to fraud people on this platform...

shugaboy6102:
This is my story and I will appreciate if the mods can push it to front page so that others can read and learn from me, and I also need your honest comments and advice because you could be saving a drowning man.

I Am 29 years of age, a civil engineer by profession and a sanguine by temperament. Before my youth service @ age 24 I got my girl friend pregnant and I was scared of abortion so we decided to keep the baby with the full support of my mother and she agreed because I was an only son. After that, we proceeded to see her people with my mum and relatives to my girl friends village and we paid something on her head but didn't complete the whole traditional right, but this was not even the traditional wedding proper.

After that we saw ourselves as husbands and wife and we were living fine for sometime. After sometime, the relationship took a different turn as we were always fighting and didn't agree on even the slightest matter. I remember vividly one occasion we fought over a female colleague @ work who sent me a whatsapp message and why we fought was that she came to my work place and fought the young lady openly embarrassing me in the process in front of everyone.

There were times I would try to reconcile but she would blatantly refused, sometimes she will tell me she is fed up of this thing we call marriage and that she's looking for someone that I too should look for someone else.

Fast-forward I met a lady and one thing led to another and I started picking interest in her. It was never my intention to be with another woman but I don't have peace of mind and I feel I am loosing my mind.

Note: I haven't wedded in a church before or done a full traditional marriage. Here comes the question: would it be considered a divorce if I quit this union and marry this new lady?

I am full of unhappiness and pain and I don't want to live a life of endurance and pity. Pls nobody should pressure you into getting married, marriage is not a license to live a happy life. If you are single, I envy you.

Brother, they are all the same... Marry another one and get the worst situation of your life, work on the one you have now, some of us are 10yrs plus now and that's how it was at the early stage, but over time things become great... Wish you all the best.

Richnerd69:
I know right...Almost same thing her elder sister asked, "how long have you known my sister?"... And some other stuffs you're pointing out. I realized everyone was once a stranger and most times we isolate people and observe them from a distance before bringing them close, but I've tried that and it didn't work... For days now she has been thanking me consistently for everything and she's trusting that I wouldn't fail her...


I was more convinced when her elder sister's husband told me things about her and how she handles things. She is very humble with a teachable spirit... She's a good girl, I was told and I have come to see that in a short space of time. But I know people do change, I just hope I'm not making a mistake. I know I might be making one of the most stupid decisions of my life, but I want to believe in certain people and give them the chance to try to prove themselves. I really like this lady, I must confess.

I've informed my younger sister that I would be bringing someone I barely met, over. She's not having it with me tho...lol

What a wicked world, the young woman got posted to Abuja, you call general to change her post, went to her sister without thinking and now you are calling people on nairaland... You must be a very wicked man for knowing that you are too fast now