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Family / Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by olaboy1: 4:02pm On Feb 14, 2018 |
worworgirl: Why do you guys keep making unmatched comparisons. Your BF willingly chose to buy your mum a valentine gift, OP is been requested to do so under the guise of dating her daughter, both are not the same situation. OP has no financial obligations to her and should only help at his own free will if he has the means. Trying to shame him for declining this request sounds very childish. Fellas try and watch Chris Rock Tamborine Netflix special. 1 Like |
Family / Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by olaboy1: 6:21am On Feb 14, 2018 |
Lexusgs430: You never get the part of your comment wey dey vex me. See the part below “A girl he probably sleeps with (free), she cooks for him (free) etc etc et” 2 Likes |
Family / Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by olaboy1: 6:16am On Feb 14, 2018 |
Now it’s very clear Nigerian men are the problem and not the women actually. Like seriously you guys keep talking about sex in a very annoying manner. Can you guys explain what you all mean by he has been f$$king her for 5years. You all need federal restructuring in your brains. I need to stop wondering why Nigeria is so under developed with the kind of mind set on this forum. When a girl friend zone a guy it means she is not sexually attracted to him...note the word SEXUALLY. When a girl decides to date a guy it means she is SEXUALLY attracted to him and believe her sexual needs would be met adequately in that relationship. To help you guys re-set your brains very well, girls on this forum have many times written that they can’t wait to get married so as to safely enjoy constant sex with just one partner. Women have sexual needs just like men and you guys sound like some aliens with all your comments on sex. OP there are times in life you need to make your intentions clear and express yourself in clear terms with no fear. My own blood sister did something to me that shocked me to my bone marrow and I told her on the phone that I am putting her allowance on hold for 6 months because her lackadaisical approach to what I wanted her to do for me cost me a whooping lost of 4.3m Naira, just so you know we are in the 3rd month and she needs to feel the pain also. Are you following Define your relationship at a very early stage with people, let the girls you date understand from the get go that you can support with the little you can and all her financial needs should be directed to her parents. Are you going to miss out on some girls with this approach...ehhhnn sort of, will your life be terrible without them, I don’t think so. If you pay attention to your own personal development, grooming and career, trust me your SMV will be so high and all you will be doing is dating up the food chain. 3 Likes |
Family / Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by olaboy1: 12:14am On Feb 14, 2018 |
Lexusgs430: You need to stop with your comment below. “We are not referring about casual strangers here.... A girl he probably sleeps with (free), she cooks for him (free) etc etc etc” |
Family / Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by olaboy1: 12:09am On Feb 14, 2018 |
Lexusgs430: What’s up with a girl he sleeps with, now you need to stop. |
Family / Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by olaboy1: 12:05am On Feb 14, 2018 |
LaudableXX: That’s because you are still using duration of knowing each other to give your opinion. My point still stands, I’m using what kind of relationship and the possible nuances. Find your comment below, the examples are not boyfriend and girlfriend. “I have seen ordinary teachers help others to pay house rent in rural areas, even when they themselves did not have much. I have seen people pick up medical bills for the sick, even when they were not millionaires themselves. I repeat: generosity is a mindset. But you won't understand it, because you do not have it. undecided The OP has dated the girl for 5 years, so she is not a new girl to him. Instead of showing commitment to her, he wishes to dump her without investigating the reasons behind the mother's actions. And you support such a pathetic decision.” 1 Like |
Family / Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by olaboy1: 12:01am On Feb 14, 2018 |
kmcutez: Yimu yimu... calling someone a monster, anyway this forum has all age brackets, what do I know. |
Family / Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by olaboy1: 11:57pm On Feb 13, 2018 |
LaudableXX: My point is you can’t compare OP and his GF relationship with the examples you gave. The dynamics are quite different. 1 Like 1 Share |
Family / Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by olaboy1: 11:54pm On Feb 13, 2018 |
Sarah20A: The message is when you start having your own daughters make sure you work harder because nobody owes you sh$t. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by olaboy1: 11:47pm On Feb 13, 2018 |
LaudableXX: Sorry your examples are random strangers who need help, it doesn’t play out the same way in this context. Be mindful of how you make outlandish comparison, apples and oranges should never be made to look the same. Work on your logical reasoning. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by olaboy1: 11:43pm On Feb 13, 2018 |
kmcutez: I have not read anywhere that he has proposed marriage to her, and what makes you think the girl desires marriage. These are all assumptions. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by olaboy1: 11:34pm On Feb 13, 2018 |
Lexusgs430: You can assist anyone and it doesn’t matter who they are, but paying for things like school fees, rent or feeding for a girl friend is a no no for me except he is a rich kid with plenty of money to play around with. Why would another man spend raw cash on any would be new girl and her family. I was reading an African American guy’s blog who visited Nigeria and wrote that all Nigerian men use only money to attract their women. It’s up to you if money is the foundation of your relationships. No wonder you can’t go on a date in Nigeria and just have milk shake without the girl demanding fried rice and chicken, because men like you have monetize relationships. 3 Likes |
Family / Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by olaboy1: 11:15pm On Feb 13, 2018 |
OP try and use your money to better your own life first, and if she changes her attitude towards you after declining this request, just know it was never meant to be. The resultant effect is that Nigerian parents will learn to bring to this world the number of kids they can cater for. Many people reading and commenting right now will have it at the back of their minds that the days of popping out many kids are gone in Nigerian history. Now is the time to set things right, so we don’t experience all the immorality going on in our Universities due to lack of parental care. How many jobless friends in their 30’s back home with 3-4 kids asking those abroad for money. People must understand that kids cost money in a society with zero social welfare support. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by olaboy1: 10:55pm On Feb 13, 2018 |
LaudableXX: His role should not be a sole provider for her and it doesn’t matter how long the relationship has been. They chose to enjoy the companionship together and she is not doing him any favor for dating him. You are the one that needs to change your mentality. Chances of her dumping him is higher than any good stock crashing. Once he starts paying her rent and school fees, then no turning back because he has just put himself in a provider role. Her parents should find close family members to lend money from, not a boy friend. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by olaboy1: 10:43pm On Feb 13, 2018 |
LaudableXX: Unfortunately that’s not the reality in Nigeria. It’s amazing how people equate online comments with ones personal life. If I make comments against herdsmen consistently, would you conclude that herdsmen have killed one of my family members, you really need to grow up. OP let me advice you man to man. When you date a girl that’s not your wife, if you have 100 Naira, spend not more than 5 Naira on her and put the other 95 Naira in company shares. If she walks out of the relationship, please don’t be mad, in 5 years try and see how much your shares are worth. People would try to manipulate you saying you have been having sex with her, I want you to know that it’s not like this all over the world. Sex is a mutual enjoyment between man and woman in other parts of the world and not a paid employment. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by olaboy1: 10:19pm On Feb 13, 2018 |
Lexusgs430: We are the ones pushing our young men to crime. I think we should all stop blaming the government. What da f$$k do you guys mean by in law to be, doesn’t he have his own family problems and on what ground should he bare the full financial responsibility of a girl friend, and later if she picks another guy to settle down with you guys will be the first to say let her marry who she wants forgetting you once refer to her family as “IN LAW TO BE” 5 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by olaboy1: 10:09pm On Feb 13, 2018 |
Letzdothething: And when the lady finally becomes successful she suddenly wants someone in her league base on this thread below. You think the likes of Linda Ikeji didn’t get any boy friend support whilst struggling in the university, but now demands are very high. https://www.nairaland.com/4339785/run-away-successful-lady-above/10#64981063 2 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: I Want To Marry Her, But I Am Having A Second Thought Because Of Her Mom by olaboy1: 10:06pm On Feb 13, 2018 |
Double standard comments everywhere. Nobody has asked you what you do for a living because we live in a selfish society. Below was my comment on the attached link. You don’t need to do anything my guy, Nigerian parents should from today be forced to have not more than 2 kids, many mothers have teenage daughters that they don’t give a sh$it about how they survive. School fees, rent and food should not be placed on your shoulder...very heartless people everywhere https://www.nairaland.com/4339785/run-away-successful-lady-above/10#64981063 “Women’s lies are not meant to deceive other women, they are meant to deceive men but definitely not men like me. Nigerian men don’t want their women to succeed more than them, but yet they help her sometimes pay her tuition, send her money for provision, pay her rent in school, send her recharge cards in her struggling days and whilst doing all these the ‘I don’t want my woman to succeed more than me man’ is prolly living on garri and groundnut. You can tell yourself whatever that soothes your mind, the truth can never be faulted, Nigerian men are the most caring men around the world. We are tired of hearing there are no good men, and we get the whole concept of assortative mating of picking a partner in your league but biological clock can’t be reset....I’m just saying don’t wait until those eggs are fried out. In the end, biology wins, and everything else was just an illusion of what people thought they really wanted.” 2 Likes |
Romance / Re: Can Africa Ever Become A Developed Continent To Reach The Likes Of Europe,u by olaboy1: 2:56pm On Feb 13, 2018 |
Look at all the products use around the world and ask yourself where the raw materials come from. Africa has everything to be self sustaining, and Africa can indeed be better than any developed country in the west if corruption is at zero level and we produce what we consume. Let me just pick one example Oil and gas. We are exporting our jobs abroad by refining our crude oil abroad, and also wasting our fossil fuel in gas flaring which should have been use to generate electricity. We are losing $10m daily on fuel importation daily. Now take a pen and list all importations in major sectors. The point I’m trying to make is we shouldn’t be importing in some sectors, whilst in some we don’t have a choice than to import. Africa’s growth will surely affect the west, so don’t ever think they will continue to witness exponential growth. We even import stock fish from Norway and that also places a huge strain on forex. We need government to make policies to cater for what we really need and not what we want, we are not going to die from not eating panla. |
Romance / Re: "Run Away From Any Successful Lady That Is Above 30 & Single" - Physiotherapist by olaboy1: 9:01pm On Feb 12, 2018 |
^^^ This discussion is a general discussion and I see no reason why you are taking it so personal. Atleast have the courtesy to articulate your objection sufficiently, so that it’s not unrecognizably vague and suggestive without any substance. Your assumptions are full of fallacy and you already know that. The question is whether you’re up to revise your misconceptions and confront the facts. But this would mean to abandon your passive-aggressive way of dropping comments on the sideline and actually engage others in a (hopefully) constructive discussion manner. |
Romance / Re: "Run Away From Any Successful Lady That Is Above 30 & Single" - Physiotherapist by olaboy1: 2:08pm On Feb 12, 2018 |
Complex issues are just a little part of it, generally it has more to do with greed. When men become successful they spread the wealth, when women become more successful they go into compulsive hoarding, also known as hoarding disorder. How to spot this behavior in most women 1. She is not ready to spend her money to book a vacation holiday for her and her spouse. Men don’t have a problem with doing this 2. When married she hoards her income and use that for personal shopping, whilst the man is told to be a man and bare the financial burden of the household. I can go on and on and list the double standards of the millennial females. They hate to hear the truth and are averse to the reality of life, and any attempt to point them in the right direction, they become hysterical and try to use emotional manipulation to win the argument. Once again it’s more of greed than complex issues. 2 Likes |
Romance / Re: "Run Away From Any Successful Lady That Is Above 30 & Single" - Physiotherapist by olaboy1: 10:23pm On Feb 11, 2018 |
[quote author=elomez post=64981063][/quote] For centuries men who have been successful have been marrying with no hassles. To you pointing out reality is mocking, that’s interesting to know. I ordinarily wouldn’t have brought up the biological angle but many times Linda Ikeji has made utterances that suggest she has intentions to start a family. It doesn’t bother me one bit if a successful woman choose not to marry and have kids, what I find to be an outcry is saying there are no good men out there just because of her current financial status. It’s amazing how these millennials think, for a fact majority of married men earn more than their wives, if we were to apply your logic of people must marry from same level of finance then maybe you won’t be here. If all successful men start screaming there are no good women out there, how would you react. |
Romance / Re: "Run Away From Any Successful Lady That Is Above 30 & Single" - Physiotherapist by olaboy1: 3:31pm On Feb 11, 2018 |
elomez: Women’s lies are not meant to deceive other women, they are meant to deceive men but definitely not men like me. Nigerian men don’t want their women to succeed more than them, but yet they help her sometimes pay her tuition, send her money for provision, pay her rent in school, send her recharge cards in her struggling days and whilst doing all these the ‘I don’t want my woman to succeed more than me man’ is prolly living on garri and groundnut. You can tell yourself whatever that soothes your mind, the truth can never be faulted, Nigerian men are the most caring men around the world. We are tired of hearing there are no good men, and we get the whole concept of assortative mating of picking a partner in your league but biological clock can’t be reset....I’m just saying don’t wait until those eggs are fried out. In the end, biology wins, and everything else was just an illusion of what people thought they really wanted. 2 Likes |
Romance / Re: "Run Away From Any Successful Lady That Is Above 30 & Single" - Physiotherapist by olaboy1: 12:10am On Feb 11, 2018 |
elomez: What more success do women like Linda Ikeji want, except you are arguing they need an Otedola to become more richer and you know Nigeria is a 3rd world country with very low per capital income and GDP, how do you think they can find a more richer man to marry assuming your definition of success is solely quantified by money. Are you saying an average Joe working in Skye bank can’t support their dreams and aspirations. Money is not everything, and they should know by now if truly they are successful, otherwise they are going to keep on ploughing for that billionaire husband. I am all for self improvement but shutting down eligible suitors solely based on money is creepy and pathetic. You can see for yourself the double standards of women in your statement that women need someone to look up to. Sorry they have there priorities wrong, they don’t need someone to look up to but someone to support their dreams, someone they share same interests and life goals with, and life goals don’t always have to be money. When you say they need someone to look up to remember you are indirectly saying men should always be above women, I don’t think that’s a healthy mind set. And just because they are successful today doesn’t mean businesses don’t collapse, and I’m sure when that happens you find them flirting naturally with the eligible average Joe. 3 Likes |
Romance / Re: "Run Away From Any Successful Lady That Is Above 30 & Single" - Physiotherapist by olaboy1: 9:08pm On Feb 10, 2018 |
wwwtortoise: Can you point to the biblical or religious reference, and my opinion so far has not given you enough information to suggest I’m intimidated by successful women. |
Romance / Re: "Run Away From Any Successful Lady That Is Above 30 & Single" - Physiotherapist by olaboy1: 8:36pm On Feb 10, 2018 |
wwwtortoise: I owe you no explanation fu$ktard |
Politics / Re: How Much You Pay As Electricity Bill In Your State (See List) by olaboy1: 7:39pm On Feb 10, 2018 |
I just got a glimpse of this below. When government makes such a blunder then I don’t think the guys in the affairs of this nation know what they are doing. We are in 2018 now and instead of 20,000MW we are struggling to produce 2000MW. https://www.nairaland.com/1427843/fg-reassures-nigerians-20000mw-electricity |
Romance / Re: "Run Away From Any Successful Lady That Is Above 30 & Single" - Physiotherapist by olaboy1: 5:00pm On Feb 10, 2018 |
elomez: That’s not the message, women when successful should be marrying like normal successful men are doing. We don’t want any woman in abject poverty as you put it. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: "Run Away From Any Successful Lady That Is Above 30 & Single" - Physiotherapist by olaboy1: 4:44pm On Feb 10, 2018 |
You can see the few successful women have refused to marry or settle down, God knows why he put the worlds wealth in the hands of men. No matter what feminism tries to achieve in terms of equal pay, men would always find another higher source of wealth creation, and they have once again done so by creating crypto currency trying to move away from fiat money. Women are so full of pride, ego and very selfish. Very few would spend their money on boo, only to litter your chat with bae, boo and emoticons, abeg this 2018 if you can’t spend that money on boo hide your face. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Romance / Re: "Run Away From Any Successful Lady That Is Above 30 & Single" - Physiotherapist by olaboy1: 3:40pm On Feb 10, 2018 |
Gerrard59: Exactly what I’ve been thinking, hence why Genevieve and co have not settled down yet. Someone wrote here the pickings of good men out there are slim, that’s the female mind set. Pickings are slim when they set unrealistic expectations of how a man should look, but they forget that women are using artificial beauty products to enhance their look by 50%. One thing I know about women is that they act and look fake to a point they have a borderline dissonance from reality, up to age 50 for rich black women (they age better than Caucasian women) they continue to live in illusion, the reality check starts I think at age 50 for them. So I’m sure Linda Ikeji and her cohorts will finally settle down at that age, because they have to hit the wall very hard first way past their prime. Nigerian men know the red flags to look out for, and her success is not one of them. We observe how you treat restaurant employees, your personal driver etc. We are not quick to criticize women, but we will use every available opportunity to call women out to stop the double standards and try to date down also. I think OP points are in order, if you're any higher than a 5 and consistently can't keep a man around YOU ARE THE PROBLEM, you are usually so full of yourselves thinking you’re the shi$t and your obsession with what your friends think about your guy will keep you single for a long time. The whole idea of this thread is to nudge you to reality to stop drooling over shi$t you can't have. This hypergamy is even more pronounced in online dating from various survey showing a 90/10% rule, 90% of women online are f$$kin 10% of high status men available, no wonder they complain the pickings are slim. I can only make an exception for an ugly rich lady, as it’s difficult to tell if it’s her ugliness working against her and not her attitude. |
Romance / Re: When Did All These Ladies Start Playing Hard To Get by olaboy1: 6:13pm On Feb 09, 2018 |
Change is inevitable, you need to enjoy this new wave of online dating like its Blockchain, but just don’t make it your primary source of getting laid. Do some cat fishing by modifying your profile pixs and bio as many times as possible like the girls are doing so your ROI blows your mind. The good thing is with online dating you can suddenly hype your dressing to look like an IT CEO, remember we are in the digital age of dating and not analogue anymore, this time it’s all about the container and not the content. Be like water my friend and stop complaining...x 1 Like |
Romance / Re: ''90% Of Southern Nigerian Women Are Prostitutes, Runs Girls" - Northern Man by olaboy1: 6:43pm On Feb 07, 2018 |
papauju: Both men and women are controlled by what they see and hear to some varying degree. This modern age degeneracy is one that makes it hard to pigeon hole sluttiness to a particular gender, religion, race or society, the sex trojan is everywhere due to the internet. As for me I would rather live in an immoral world full of sex, than an uptight depressing society, because sex is one of the fastest and easiest modes to let out tension and stress through dopemine. No religion can ever go against the basic rules of nature when it comes to sex, that’s why I have black friends f$$$kin Arab women. 2 Likes |
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