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Jonny? Why don't you take a step at a time? Someone had asked you to post your pic. The fact that she had been sending u mail and call you regularly means she want something more. So let see what happen afterward. Am sure she would even "love" you more. Mind you, naija babe don't care how you look, even if you look like monkey, they are for you as long as you meet her minimum requirement. Everybody had her own benchmark.

Should decide to mess with her just because she is Naija, am sure you would meet your match. Our ladies are universally acceptable. They understand all languages except retrogression.

Send her your pic and see what happen. You may need to return here anyway. Goodluck.

In such an instant first impression was negative. But it gave a "take a second look signal" out of curiousity NOT LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT you look at the offending partner and beneath it, you may unravel treasure or gabbage that he concealed. GET TO KNOW YOUR MAN OR WOMAN BEFORE YOU GIVE AWAY YOUR HEART.

Don't find a farting lady funny at all. She can make a point with it. Believe it had happened before. She actually fart delibrately to put the guy off. The guy was a funny type. Always improperly dressed. But he was an intelligent guy. We all know even the offending gal know. So, just out of trial, he approached the gal started blowing grammar. He was so funny. The lady laughed and farted., the relationship wasn't love at first sight. And enemy later became lover.

yes and No!

In Life, you are either a player or a spectator. Even those who are spectator does get injured in the process of cheering their team. they are either partisan or they are neutral. thay only people that deasnt get injured are those who are dead. The injure we suffers must enable us to prevent futher injury and make us stronger and not disable. Only a fool plays to get disabled. only a fool play to lose. you didnt ask me which pat of the team I played? maybe we should have fun since that is your intention. go ahead Zig. i love it

do you mean love is all about shrity things? God bless our women!

I am not experienced, I am experiencing. Funny enough, I learned these at a place where love has no meaning. I am also shy but very observant. So I decided to learn something about humans.

To do this, I had to overcome the shyness. In the process of doing that, I discovered that IN THE GAME OF LIFE, THERE IS NO PERMANENT RULES. ONLY ROLES.

To love is easy. It cost nothing to a sincere man or woman. Love never hurt, when it does, it offer you a lasting happiness. I think there is nothing greater than Love. That is why youngmen and women labour hard to find love to experience it and to make it a part of them.

If only they look for it in the right place, with right intention and at right time, we would save a lot of them from broken heart. If indeed you have been hurt before, sorry. Take heart. You can rise again. Take note however to LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP.

Who told you I broke my relationship last time? You would be stunned to know i have never done that and never shall. That is being honest and truthful. I am a player, but I don't play the wrong ball or try to score cheap goal.

ORO OKUNUKUN OJU KUNUKU LAA FIN WO!

That is yoruba ways of saying serious matter deserves serious attention. I am not yoruba proper, but I know it is true.

By now, the girl would have been confused by the numerous beautiful advices posted on this thread. Each one of them has merrit when adapted to their peculiar situation. I advise the gal to look deeper and let wisdom guide her. As the scripture had rightly posted."LEAN NOT ON YOUR OWN UNDERSTANDING, ACKNOWLEGE GOD AND HE WOULD DIRECT YOUR STEPS"

Be positive. Don't act until you are sure you got it right.

There is something that bother me though. Are you dating him becos u want to travel out ? Are you so passionate about the green card? Can you fund your way abroad if he take you there and abandon you? I just say i mention. Maybe, you know better.

There is something that bother me though. Are you dating him becos u want to travel out ? Are you so passionate about the green card? Can you fund your way abroad if he take you there and abandon you? I just say i mention. Maybe, you know better.

Real love actually don't develop at first sight. That is a fact. However, love is a brainchild of lust. No Lust, No love. That is why people get confused about love. Lust don't necessarily end in love, it may end in bitter enimity.

Making assumption that there is love at first sight can best be illustrated this way. A guy meet a stunning beauty like agbani Dorego or Omotola on the street. We assumes that these two are stranger and had never met before. They started talking and somehow seem to agree with each other as a complement. They LIKE one another. The next day, they started thinking of one another, dreaming of one another. The emotion they felt is very strong. That is no LOVE, but LUST. It is a ok to lust after a man or woman. LOVE would be subject to time, knowledge of one another, commitment and dedication. It is not a mad passion we felt for one another, that soon evaporate after you are TIRED of your partner or met a more beautiful, richer partner. There is no REAL LOVE at first sight but LUST at first sight can lead you there if you are not BLIND.

Seun was right. But it depend on the man you are dealing with. The best advice sometimes has a hole. So if a guy intentionally make a fool of a woman for selfish reason, it is a different ball game at any rate, only the patient know which drug works the best for his ailment. Doctors just prescribes and monitor your reaction until you get better.

That is the best idea, seun. I hope the lady read the hand writting on the wall before she become another story of love ending badly.

My best part; IF YOU MUST QUIT, DON'T SLAM THE DOOR, YOU MAY NEED THE DOOR AGAIN, NO MATTER.

Wao! I love what you did. You have actually began the process of smoking him out of your life. Believe in what he told u that he didnt love you. That is his darkest secret. Play a little bit of game on him and get more evidence to nail him. All this while calmly begin search for your soulmate. But don't confront him. He would find excuse. Arrange to meet him at a convinience location to flirt with you. Let him discover his folly by making him believe you are real< i am talking of your online identity> you can do it in two ways:either get someone you trust to set him up or you act the stuff yourself. All you need is a damning evidence that would exposes his own lies to him. Then, do something fast before he brainwash you.

Why are u sad?

The problem about marrying a virgin is you must also show commitment to keep her after you'd broken her hymen. It does not matter whether she turn out to be of beastly character or not. You must also accept all her infirmities.

Here lies the test of your love. Every virgin must have been either tricked by love or curriousity to surrender their precious possession. What happen afterward is either a discovery of hidden character one could not tolerate or a an unforeseen crude element of fate. For instance, the man may die, or they may seperate as a result of external influence, religion, race, family oppositions, incompatibility etc that is if we look at it from positive angles.

From negative angel, the lady may actually turn out to be a nymph (the same applied to men) so a chain reaction would be established that lead to seperation. Some learn their lessons others turn professional and goes on rampage turning sex into food that must be eaten anywhere regardless of source.

My personal experience actually gave me a deeper insigt and understanding of this subject.
I have seen a virgin trying to trap a man to love her by unleashing her feminine power on him. The guy tolerated her but soon discovered he was dealing with a dangerous virgin. He severed tier from her and cut her off. But the lady was deperate. The guy have every thing a woman want. The lady sought advice from her friends and they told her o "tie" the guy! She did. Tempted the guy and lost her virginity. Thereafter, the guy again tolerated because of his ideal. In the end he had to face the reality. To marry a lady he doesn't love just for virgin sake and live unhappy life or to take the painful decision and accept HE HAD BROKEN HIS OWN VOW live on and get his dream girl. He chose the later. And had never had any regret since. Fortunately, he met his dream girl, pure and intact! That is why i said, the blame goes to lady sometimes. Unless she was rapped.

There is really no big deal in my girl having a male friend. I personally support it. Only an insucered man would block his lady from having malefriends.

Do such men imagine that every ladies that have male pals are cheating ? Or is it just to safeguard their interest, which they would lose, inevitably? In that case do such men think before them, their girl had never spoken to men before or must never have acquiantances, colleagues, associates etc ? I think such men need to be given tutorial on human relation. They won't last long in a beautiful relationship. And if they do, they are actually serving a life imprisonment.

In what sense?

She is my Angel, because she is an Angel

Wao! She simply "my Angel"

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I am not married but my angel is cool. Thanks. I would love to follow you with prayer sha. Email me at oracle_nj@yahoo.com take care. And stay bless.

Jamesod, you have a good point and a wrong judgement. Guys are not cheat. Men are men because they are MEN.

Your recommendation is the best for ladies that want to do it and still retain their hymen.

Saying men were brainwashed is totally unacceptable. We are not! It should be noted that nature favours men in biological endowment. Men don't carry pregnancy women does. It is nature's attempt at protecting women that made virginity more confined to womanhood. Not that there is no male virgin, if definition had to do with having intercourse. But, how many women would believe him?

A man that boasted frequently of his purity would be tagged an OKOBO. It is a great shame for a man to wear that tag. Yet, women made it painful. No woman would marry an OKOBO but every woman with "broken pot" can still get a suitor.

Ladies must accept the fact that nature places an enormous burden on them and keep their pot shut. If the door is shut, men would respect them.

Let me tell you, you statistic is wrong. 95% ? That is a scandal! The whole world is guilty. I agree tha married men flirts. What they sought after marriage is lust. It happens more to unmarried guys.

When people marry for money lust, or just because a lady got pregnant, at time some marry to please their parents, some marry because they are growing old and wouldn't want to be left behind etc all of these are obviously marriage of convinience. Marriage devoid of love in most cases. That is why it would not be stable.

Let me give you a parable. We know that a lot of youths are involved in 419 in Nigeria. Does that mean no honest youth exist is Nigeria? That is what is called fallacy of over-generation. You assumed that because some exceptions occured them everything must be discarded. That is not the way it should be.

Remember, you are also a product of marriage. Is it right to say you are from a useless institution?

Marriage no doubt have been losing it value due to our desire to by pass divine ordinance.

Why not give it a try. Get married to someone you love. Stay away from lust. Channel you energy at positive things. After marriage, keep loving your angel. Bear fruit and bloom, Hold it in your mind that happiness is your birthright, that love, affection are non negotiable. Be determined to love unselfishly, Then wait to see if Romeo and Juliet won't envy you. Don't look failure, it may become your vision. Look at success and go for it.,

your friend marriage failed because of the seed he sow. Seed of lust, unrestraint sexual gratification etc. So they are reaping what they sow. You have a choice, try it or leave it. Every deeds produce a multiplied result.

Sure, that is what most responsible guys does. But the trouble is, when a guy KAGBAKO OBINRIN.

By the way, people that condemns sex b4 marriage can now have a good laugh. If a lady dont want to become an experiment, a handky in the hands of men, she should refuse to do it. Until marriage is sure dnt sleep abt.

I must warn you never to think all nigerian guys are like him. Nigerians has over 200 ethnic tribes with different culture. They are not emotionally stoic even the conservative north shows love. Though not in open. I don't knw where he come from but I know he is more probably hidding something from you.

Nosilla, i really feel like cry after reading ur story. Two factors come to play. Cultural and psychological factor. Your background make you extremely nice person for a responsible African. You are honestly not selfish. You are right to demand affection from him. What you demanded cost nothing and yeild a tremendous result. For your partner to find it difficult is some that he alone can explain. Even shy couples give their partner love and affection.

Your reply actually shed more light to this issue and it lead to my conclusion that your partner is suffering from psychological hang over of his past marriage. This is the way i see it.

He appear to be someone unwilling to bow to women authority no matter how harmless. I suspect that is what he meant by saying he felt like he was married to her ex wife parent. It could be a result of his ego or phobia that the lady would one day control him.
But you seemed to have done your best to assuage that fear. He is black, he is afraid of your independence but he can't say it.

Another postulation is that he didnt really love you. He is probably using you. You are older, you don't have time for experiment. And it is obvious you are being guided by wisdom.

This is a delicate situation. Pls pray to be guided. Try look at his problem from that angle. Talk to him. If he stil feel insecure, take the last option quit. My heart really feel for ladies when they are wasted. May the lord of grace give you something better that would gladden your heart. I believe, He can intervene. Before you leave him, tell your heart if he still think of showing you love later probably when you are fifty, leave him. He is not for you.

I am surprise that you are white, people like you are rare. I believes the living God would guide you. Goodluck

It appears however, the mms msg don't get to their destinations even if the prospective receiver is using correct phone. The delivery report would return after a week to say the mesg is not delivered. Does this problem is network related or a result of the setting?

Thanks.i'l give it a try. Actually, the last time i did it. The reply was that the model was not supported. That i try manual configuration. I'll advic the fellow to try again and give u feedback later. Once again,thanks.