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Crazy kid, supposing you marry a complete partner and something and she, for instance, had an experience that made her lose a part of her body. In short, turn disable. Would you still reason that way?

Stay away from him. You seem to be desperate about having a man, else you won't love a man who love another girl. At least he did not lie about it. Find your man. If you wait long enough, with positive mental attitude, you will get your man.

That is the truth. But how many are willing to control their lust? Men generally don't fall in love WITH ALL THEIR HEART when they meet a lady for the first time. But THEY DO DEVELOP INTENSED (often uncontrollable) LUST AT THE FIRST SIGHT  especially when the lady is attractive. This is one of the reasons men makes the first move even when the lady does not seem to notice. It is therefore a sheer stupidity for any woman to believe that a man actually LOVE HIM AT FIRST SIGHT. I know some people would dispute this observation. If a woman want to test a man love at first sight, let her give the man a scare.

This is the way it goes: A man you have never met, or who had never seen you before approach you and started professing LOVE to you WITHOUT KNOWING YOU BEFORE. Listen to him instead of letting his tongue entraped you. Then GIVE HIM A SCARE. Tell him something like " i really appreciate your undying love bla bla bla." Then calmly tell him you are FOR INSTANCE, HIV POSITIVE. Then watch his reaction. You can use any other examples. A man with a degree of sincerity would not start evading you. But a man driven by lust would begin a tactical retreat if not immediate flight. You may fart, or tell him a nasty story. All these are one of the litmus test for real love at first sight. THE MAN WHO TRULY LOVE YOU WOULD NEVER ABANDON YOU IN TIME OF TRIAL. He WON'T BE LOOKING AT YOUR FAULT BUT WOULD RATHER HELP YOU TO OVERCOME THEM.

When a man is truly in love, IT WOULD SHOW IN HIS BEHAVIOR TO YOU.

Falling in LOVE BEGIN FROM LUST. It does not end there. It is difficult to know if a man is lusting after you or in love with you at the first point of contact. Time, and knowledge would be your weapon to know his heart content. Don't rush and don't rush him. Let the relationship take it own course. If you pray sincerely and use your head correctly, you will know when a man truly love you. JUST DON'T LET YOUR LOVE BE DEFINED BY MATERIALISM. You would be rightly guided.

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Certainly, prayers can move mountain. Nothing is impossible. Our greatest fear sometimes may turn out to be daydream. So, keep praying.

In as much as you have the lady's support, you would eventually have your way. I strongly object to your lying to your in-laws about your faith. At any rate, they already know you are not a muslim. You can only conceal the intensity of your faith. Lying would dent your integrity before them and MAY complicate matter after the wedding.

Don't lie. Keep your eyes upon the goal. Pray, not just for the wedding to hold, but also for marrital bliss and understanding between you and your partner. She alone can make the marriage hold.

I would have love to add more but, for now prayer is what you needed.

Religion is a very sensitive issue that may create a chasm in relationship at any level. The choice however is for the couple to make at the onset. Love alone can't answer the knotty question raised by the difference in faith. Somebody must eventually let go of his or her faith before harmony can be established. People who plunge into marriage without pondering on thorny issue of who let go of his faith and how they would cope with the expected conflicts.

For instance, what would be the religion of the children, their identity etc. In most cases the man had the last say since he is the head of the family. Problems however may arise in future should the woman decide to go strong in her original faith (or revert if she had been converted). It is at this junction that the two would realize what a great error they have committed by ignoring the early signal.

Sentiment apart, it is a great gamble to go into marriage with someone in opposing religion especially Islam and christainity. That is why, I suppose, parent are always reluctant to bless such union. Men do not care who they marry and what faith because, in the end, they have the last say. A women of extra ordinary faith and persuasive skill can however, suceed in turning the heart of a man with little or no conviction about his faith. Such women are rare, so to say.

The bottomline is that couple must think deeply before dating person from opposing faith. They don't normally work IN THEIR BEST INTEREST. Somebody must be sacrificed for peace to reign.

When the woman happen to be a staunch muslim, trouble looms. Why? Two reasons can be cited:
1, it is considered an abomination by muslims for their women to marry non muslims;
2, muslims exhibit peculiar character after practicing for numbers of years, especially from birth. No matter how long they are away from the religion, their minds tend to return back to their faith at a later stage in life.

So be careful.

Ribadu want his actions to speak louder than his words. That is why he kept quiet as he do justice to the thieves,

He is actually talking though, the actions of his men.

Marriage without money spells MARITAL CRISIS and INSTABILITY. Regardless of what we think, money is very, very important. I am not talking of marriage ceremony, but the marriage institution itself. Most of the conflicts in marriage resulted from money matters. Therefore the two must go ahand in hand. Couples must endeavour to have a solid plan for money as they head toward marriage. The problem with most of our youths in that age bracket is that they want to have everything before proceeding on marriage. There must be minimum that would serve as foundation upon which future acquisition of money can be build. You can't have it all. People who suceeded in amasing large carche of money during the period without a trusted partner, often have to struggle to get a GOOD wife as a result of too many candidates, most of who are just after the money.

I think it is wise for couple to let the two go together. Marriage without money, or at least a WORKABLE PLAN for money is like building a house on the sand. When the storm of life become too harsh, the occupants would vacate the house before they are swept away by elements of fate.

Denex, thank you for your observations regarding my last post on this thread. Pls do yourself a favour and review what I said about loving a stranger.

Your comment about me would have been ignored but for the fact that you look serious. I have a only two enemies in the world. LIARS AND THEIR LIES. Therefore, I would rather shut up than lie to please people like you. Two, I am strong opponent of love at first sight. Love without idea of who you are dealing with. You are speaking from your heart not from what you read if you ever read at all. Three, NEVER TRY TO RELATE ONLINE NICKNAME of anyone to their real life personality UNLESS YOU HAVE CLEAR EVIDENCE TO DO SO. Fortunately for you, the usernames are meant to be phony. It would surprised you to know that some of those using absurd names are actually responsible and far above you in status and wisdom. Check it out and you would learn courtesy as a second language. I once met a guy online (not nairaland) who bore a funny name and 'acted' I got on well with him. I later discovered he works in a bank. People like that are in nairaland. Learn to respect everyone unless they give you reason to do otherwise. Enjoy the jibe and try not take it personal. It is foolhardy for anyone judge without evidence.

I refrained from calling the boy a MUGU for personal reason. I believed that he had been hurt already. If he had wanted to have fun, he would not have taken pain to write such a lengthy exposition. He knew he was being taken for a ride but sought your input so he can move on.

I do not need to add salt to his injury by calling him silly names. I happen to have a useful knowledge of classical study and psychology so I quite understand you.

As for my English, it doesn't bother me. I don't even read my post before sending them. You may wish to help though. Just be informed I have written 2 books already. But I would welcome any improvement from you,

Let them come home! It is high time they return. The last census figure show that Men out numbered women even though more baby girls were being born. It is obvious our girls fled the country. They let their men at home only to freeze in foreign lands.

They should return and if they want to die their, done!

United Shame of Africa, what use would that be? Let just hope we get it right this time.

Itohnimo,
I have a feeling you are undergoing intensed emotional rumbling right now. I would want you to email me at oracle_nj@yahoo.com there things I could not just post on this thread because of the presence of daughters of Eve. I wouldn't say you are mugu because you are not. However, I would say, you allowed your heart to rule you.

To begin with from your story, you committed a great blunder from the way you started the affair. You handed her the key to your disappointment by showing TOO MUCH ATTENTION AND DESPERATION. The girl noticed how you responded when she told you her dad is in US.

It is obvious the girl is never interested in you from day one. She starte SHOWING INTEREST in you when she saw money. While your first should be forgiven, I strongly admonish you for using your schoo fee to satisfied her lust. The fact that she know the source of the money and still take it pointed to her naked greed. She even asked you whether yov are broke! She is as dirty as her prank. She played on your emotion. She made a fool of you without remose.

My man, NEVER SHOW WOMEN TOO MUCH ATTENTION WHEN SHE PLAY HARD TO GET. I know this sounded strange I am sure great guys out there know how truthful that words is. Even women does, though they won't admimt it.

DISDAIN WHAT YOU CAN'T HAVE. SHOW NO ENTHUSIASM FOR AROGANT LADIES. She would die(within) of starvation if her clamour for attention wasn't met.

My advice to you is simple. Accept what had happened. Stop dreaming of her. She doesn't love you. You are a man, stop calling her. If she call you ignor her. Let her do the chasing if he want you. Focus on your future. If you are actually travelling out, you can turn the table. Find your lady elsewhere. She is not worth your effort. Don't allow any lady to take you for a ride again. Learn from. But if you want to punish her, that is another angle. You can do it without lifting a finger. Be bold. Forget her. She is of the lost world.

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Good talk. He would learn with time when those things ends in dustbin.

Then we cage it and let it fly within our own boundary. Visitors can enter but they can't take it away.

Then we cage it and let it fly within our own boundary. Visitors can enter but they can't take it away.

Yeah let go to the topic. I didn't say she can fraternize with another guy. In fact no guy can tolerate that. What I mean is that, a harmless relationship like work colleagues, associates friends isn't a crime. On the field of play, we handshake our opponents and exchange jersey. Yet we must still score goal to win. When you know your opponents, you can easily device a mean to win the game. If you keep away from them, you would be beaten flat even if all of you are strikers. Let her have a degree of fredom. That is the only way you can know her fidelity and make her trust you. If you do otherwise, she would beat you behind your back. You lose, eventually.

Coach zignor??! Hmmm ? Is it Mourinho style or Wenger? Or a Fergie? They mean different thing to players.

You seem to know football enough to believe a goalie can't score? When the game end in a draw the goalies are the heroes. Anyway, the point is not what you play but whether you achieve you goal at the end. I supposed you would be a play maker. Thank God, i have that skill also so that when the strikers had been badly injured and pulled out, the game would continue. I like your humour. It made me thinks. Stay glued to nairaland.

You seem to know football enough to believe a goalie can't score? When the game end in a draw the goalies are the heroes. Anyway, the point is not what you play but whether you achieve you goal at the end. I supposed you would be a play maker. Thank God, i have that skill also so that when the strikers had been badly injured and pulled out, the game would continue. I like your humour. It made me thinks. Stay glued to nairaland.

Oh not a dreamer. He is a new era David,trying to battle Goliath for a useless cause. A lost battle.

Anyway, I think the best way is to match your rival NAIRA FOR NAIRA! If he take the lady to Mr Bigg, take her to Transcorp Hilton Abuja. Or better still book a place in Dubai. Just try to outshine him in every departments. The girl won't trip for you again. She would actually stay glued to you try it.

Oh not a dreamer. He is a new era David,trying to battle Goliath for a useless cause. A lost battle.

Anyway, I think the best way is to match your rival NAIRA FOR NAIRA! If he take the lady to Mr Bigg, take her to Transcorp Hilton Abuja. Or better still book a place in Dubai. Just try to outshine him in every departments. The girl won't trip for you again. She would actually stay glued to you try it.

That is why you must believe me. By the way, who told you only strikers scores goal? If a striker score 10 goals and open his flank, everyone one the other side score cheap goals. So just like striker, goalie plays a part in winning. You just need a winning team. Fortunately, there are some chaps on the bench yearning for action while others screams their head off cheering the players.

By the way, which part do you plays, zignor?

Johnny, i am happy you have been following nairalanders. Sure Naija gal can be like that gal. But, you would be surprised at what would happen next. Just give a try. I hope you have a heart made of plastic so that when it break we can moultd it back for you. If you heart is made of glass, God help you.

Sincerely, if a lady says she doesn't care how the man she want to date look, i think such a lady can marry monkey. Maybe, they exists somewhere in Naija, Who knows.

Thank you for the correction. She'd better not be a naija. I was wondering if a naija babe can actually love without idea of how you look. A responsible naija would never truly love you without seeing you. They aint fool. Though they can be greedy. Sometimes not everytime. All the same show the lady your colour and wait for next step. You would be glad you do.

Zignor, you are interesting to chat. You've got a sense of curiousity with humour. I love that. To be sincere, I am a goal keeper! If you like you may ask me why. Then I would simply open a thread for you to have fun. Luckily Naija know how to have fun.