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You don't get customers that way. You are rdiculling your site. And reducing it value. In fact, you don't appear to have any value in it. I wonder Why do we have such people like you around?

You don't get customers that way. You are rdiculling your site. And reducing it value. In fact, you don't appear to have any value in it. I wonder Why do we have such people like you around?

You don't get customers that way. You are rdiculling your site. And reducing it value. In fact, you don't appear to have any value in it. I wonder Why do we have such people like you around?

You are not alone! I am an Egba outcast! People thought I am hausa! I hope someone will help.

Ifyalways,
thanks you. What is "thank you" in Isoko?

Liftedone,
I am not Isoko. I thought the thread is to propagate Isoko language and culture? Or is it just for gossip?

We have friends among you and want to learn your languages too. The only way you can prevent the language from dying is to encourage non native to learn it. Isn't that how Hausa and Yoruba attained national spread?

Because you said "nagode".

Let me pick it one by one. I am not a profession. But I saw a simple case being made complex. That is if you are real.

You can't solve the problem at once. That is point one. Two, the problems can not go away unless you are willing to act. 3, you need to be open minded.

If all these aplied. Let start. Since, you don't like making friends. Can we chat on YIM once a while? I don't want to be your friend but I would at least try and see if I can make you so bore as to yearn for friendship. Let start from there!

Is it a joke? No! I don't believe in abraccadabra. I belives in practice. Do it right away and trust me to do my best.

Next, since you don't like friends, coming to nairaland is one such path to solution. Keep checking this thread. Make enemies. Why? Because, enemies sometimes show you the value of friendship.

I was once in your state. I don't like socialising. I still don't like it today, but I makes friends now. Thanks to my foes.

Next, read the book recommended above. I have not read it but I know it would help. Stop reading and watching emotional stuffs. Read funny stuff. Jokes, humours. Watch comedy and not tragedy. It would change your mindset.

On the last part: spendthrift, indiscipline, etc. Watchout for my reply. Let see how you react to the above. Get angry. Condemn it. Laugh it off. Do anything. But act it!

Next? Wait. . . . Let me see, . .

I donno!

I need to re-read your post!

Before then, are you from the north?

While the girl had said she wanted to follow her heart, it is clear she is confused and undecided. Her words is not yet her action. I say this because, she wouldn't have seek advice if she does not need it.

It is apparent she got scare of the priest telling her he would hurt himself if she refused. That is empty treat. A man can die for a woman but not in the manner the priest is going about it.

If he dies, he would head to hell straight!

Let the girl decide once and for all.

The reason I asked het to take a break is to assess her man. Is the man truly in love with her? Is marriage is on his mind? All these will help her avoid running from fry pan to fire. We know that no every man that profess love want to marry. Some are just playing games.

Demon? Please who is under demonic influence and who is the prophet that envision the hidden evil?

@topic,
having researched the issue of marriage between a great one and the christain, I can tell you that it can work. It does work. Just like any other marriage between couples in the same religion, it can also fail.

My guardian is a great one and married a christain. But today, he is no more and the wife is still a christain.

Individual attitude and mutual understanding is the key. We must stop acting as if every marriages that have two couples in the same religion produce pious kids. The goal we seek is diversed.

I admits that it require hard work and rancour-free communication. This should be achieved during courtship. I also admits there is tendency for either of them to change faith in future. I noticed that this only work if it is done without force. It can happen either way.

My opinion is that this kind of union is no more an issue. It is in fact on the rise and it appear that those who make success of it are those who are determined to make it work. And they are many. I envy such family and pray to be part of the success story if I have the opportunity.

What does that mean? Ify? You made me enter the tread. Can you teach the language?

wmd?

Lol
take it easy o.

I am fine. I don't know you would be here today. Hope you are chilling in cash?

Lol
take it easy o.

I am fine. I don't know you would be here today. Hope you are chilling in cash?

Lol
take it easy o.

I am fine. I don't know you would be here today. Hope you are chilling in cash?

@Dri,
I like your input and I am glad you said it. Some guys just need to know that fact and stop trying to programme an intelligent ladies.

@poster,
like drinolli had said, you are lucky. Such girls don't fall in love easily and they won't deny you in time of trial. I had had female friends with no string attached, I had studied some of these girls and I can tell you that they are neat. If she is not dating the male friend in the first place, then you much know she had her reason for that. You have to show yourself as mature responsible and worthy of her time. You have to put up with her male friends, at least, while the chasing last. And if you are smart, get closer to the male friends and be friend with them. They may turn out to be the password to your girls heart. It depends on individual. You have to study the situation to take the right step.

The golden rule is: BE YOURSELF. Not all women are dumb.

Seriously, lust is beneficial. But it can be destructive.

Without lust, love can't exist. But lust driven by tetosterone is without doubt infatuation. It is the highway leading to heart breaks

Seriously, lust is beneficial. But it can be destructive.

Without lust, love can't exist. But lust driven by tetosterone is without doubt infatuation. It is the highway leading to heart breaks

Turkey,
somze is iice grand chilly. He isn't in hell o. He dwells in paradise. Can't you see ?

Somze,
you have a point just as iice has a point. Some men are boys. And some women are teenagers when it come to the art of love.

If the two meet and fall in love, it is even. I am sorry to say the problem is maturity and not age.

@topic,
I don't think women fall in love when a man is not ready. Don't forget the man went up to her and actuated her love homone. Maybe the man wanted a one night stand, but find out that the lady want a home. Since he was not ready, he tried an excape route after the show and sadly discovered the lady "has taken in".

That is my understanding of the topic. If a man is not ready, he should not go after a serious lady. Our streets has enough cash n carry cunts without customers that can serve irresponsible men,

Somze,

I feel you! Hope you come goody goody?

iice,

3 seconds love? That is "lust". It is never meant to last.

A man met a fine lady. He liked her, eyed her, and then went home dreaming of her. Through the night, he rehearsed what to say, how to act, what to wear, and what to buy to win the lady's heart. Then, in his best attire, he walk up to the lady and started brainwashing her (or is it toasting?). The lady fell for "Mr Perfect" and her world "rock and roll." Roses and chocolates were exchanged.

They fell in love and fell in bed. Then came the life storm. The guy suddenly noticed that some babe are more beautiful. And the lady finds that the guy's pocket is not enough for her. Dream turns tisttle. Things fell apart. Hearts broke, liver melted. And the 3 minutes love suddenly transformed to lifetime acrimony.

I know men and women of values don't rush at love. For those who rush in would sooner rush out fast.

iice,

3 seconds love? That is "lust". It is never meant to last.

A man met a fine lady. He liked her, eyed her, and then went home dreaming of her. Through the night, he rehearsed what to say, how to act, what to wear, and what to buy to win the lady's heart. Then, in his best attire, he walk up to the lady and started brainwashing her (or is it toasting?). The lady fell for "Mr Perfect" and her world "rock and roll." Roses and chocolates were exchanged.

They fell in love and fell in bed. Then came the life storm. The guy suddenly noticed that some babe are more beautiful. And the lady finds that the guy's pocket is not enough for her. Dream turns tisttle. Things fell apart. Hearts broke, liver melted. And the 3 minutes love suddenly transformed to lifetime acrimony.

I know men and women of values don't rush at love. For those who rush in would sooner rush out fast.

@ufobabe,
i must agree with you on the life versus time input. I think the two are superimposed. Once time expired, life would ceased.

To live rightly, we must learn to love, we must learn to experience both positive and negative side of life. We must laugh and cry while passing through hardening phase of life.

You said love fails but genuine love last forever, But it is clear that sometimes, it hard to recognize genuine love until the you have been tried by circumstances outside your influence. At such moment, many folks lost their love while searching for security. And many miss the oppotunity to identify their ordained soul because they never learn to know that the "beautiful butterfly they are searching is in the cartapillar they just thrown away."

I think genuine love is scarce. Only the courageous dare to love deeply.

These laydees are still rocking? Gosh!

Why do you like picking out married ladies?

While you communicate with the priest, never show any sign that you agree with your friend or that you can influence her. Just tell him you will try your best.

3. What would he live on if he leave priesthood? If your friend refuse to marry a priest?
4. What would happen to him if he walk out of the seminary and marry?

Meanwhile, tell your friend to stop communicating with him. A priest, who can walk out on God in pursue of women is not serious human being. I see in him a dangerous trait that are yet to manifest. Ordinary people can be excused, but priest must provide explanation for his actions.

To your friend:
tell her to evaluate herself and be sure of what she wanted. Without doubt, I blames her for everything. For texting the guy in the seminary. Who knows, she might have send some powerful words to him during the period. The type that heighten the priest obsession and gave him hope that he can still win her.

While you communicate with the priest, never show any sign that you agree with your friend or that you can influence her. Just tell him you will try your best.

3. What would he live on if he leave priesthood? If your friend refuse to marry a priest?
4. What would happen to him if he walk out of the seminary and marry?

Meanwhile, tell your friend to stop communicating with him. A priest, who can walk out on God in pursue of women is not serious human being. I see in him a dangerous trait that are yet to manifest. Ordinary people can be excused, but priest must provide explanation for his actions.

To your friend:
tell her to evaluate herself and be sure of what she wanted. Without doubt, I blames her for everything. For texting the guy in the seminary. Who knows, she might have send some powerful words to him during the period. The type that heighten the priest obsession and gave him hope that he can still win her.

@poster,
since you are closer to the priest, why not do what I will tell you now?

First, I won't say that the girl should go back to the priest or not. Rather, I want you to tell the girl to "go on vacation". Cut off link with the new & old guy with a smart excuse,temporarily. She may switch off her phones & leave the area for a while. But she must not make it so obvious.

The reason: let the old and new guys panic. Let her absence reveal something about them. The new guy may in due course show his true colour by going after another lady. If it happen, then, he is not ready to marry your friend. He is not serious. That would hurt your friend but would at least know that the guy she loves don't care. Another point, she should use the period to meditate on the affairs. She want someone badly but that someone is yet to make commitment, by words or deed. That is strange! She must find out if she is on course or not. If she is in-love or at lust.

In essense, tell her to concentrate on what her heart tell her and find out if her heart is on the right or wrong path. This is important. Very.

On the priest, since you are close to him, you are the best to do this job.

Find way of chatting him in confidence. Be open minded. And asked him the following questions as the basis of your discussion:
1. Why did he go to seminary? What goals will he achieve from it? If he were to leave the place now, what kind of impression is he giving God?
2. Supposing the lady had married or had been engaged, would he rather wish that she broke her engagement and marry him? At what cost?
Tell him the following story and ask him for advice:
that a was dating a man he loved so dear. But the man travelled & they lost communication. The lady had now found another man and engaged. Now the old man is back to claim his love. If that lady were his sister what advice would he offer as a man of God?
That story is meant to expose his mindset.Hear him but make no comment. Pls give us a feedback soonest.