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Poverty.

Cheijemba,
that is cool.

Wahala wa!

You need to do deep self-examination. Didn't you noticed those traits before you marry her? How did you end up in that mess?

Well, o ba ni ko ti baje. It is not too bad. You can still work it out or walk out.

I get you! Thanks.

Ufo is on easter vacation. And possibly slugging it out with her books. I hope she get here and assume the podium sooner.

I get you! Thanks.

Ufo is on easter vacation. And possibly slugging it out with her books. I hope she get here and assume the podium sooner.

Hahaha had provided a link. It is not my habits to do that. You can google it out. Find organisations near you that help nurture talents.

I will try and find out if the woman can help. It has been long I communicated with her and I can't just throw your request at her. Anyway, I am aware she used to visit nairaland until that incidence I mentioned earlier. I will try and see if I can persuade her to read this thread. I know it may be hard sha.

Lol

you funny, yet right. I know about that. I know that most churches have responded to that by organising "singles summit" and other spiritual retreats for the DSS. That is Desperately Single and Searching. I don't blame them. At times the DSS were victims of circumstances beyond their control.

Seriously, there is crisis. It seem family materials are now endangered species. You are damn lucky you escape the perilous time.

Lol

you funny, yet right. I know about that. I know that most churches have responded to that by organising "singles summit" and other spiritual retreats for the DSS. That is Desperately Single and Searching. I don't blame them. At times the DSS were victims of circumstances beyond their control.

Seriously, there is crisis. It seem family materials are now endangered species. You are damn lucky you escape the perilous time.

Lol

you funny, yet right. I know about that. I know that most churches have responded to that by organising "singles summit" and other spiritual retreats for the DSS. That is Desperately Single and Searching. I don't blame them. At times the DSS were victims of circumstances beyond their control.

Seriously, there is crisis. It seem family materials are now endangered species. You are damn lucky you escape the perilous time.

Does it really matter? BsC or SSCE, you will be surprised to find that even graduates are not wanted. If you are wealthy with no SSCE, you will still get graduates fighting over you.

The primary motivation of most people that prefer graduates, (otften hid under literacy) is materialism. It is a general assumption that only graduates can do well in life even though reality show this to be fallacy. Even among graduates, you will find those who will never marry OND, HND, and some even prefer Masters. That is individual choices.

Whatever. I think the question should be whether literate people make a better lovers or family.

I have learn never to equate people's personality and character with their level of literacy. I look for education, mostly informal since that mould the man. Formal education as we presently have don't impact moral, they merely teach you how to move through the crowd whether by honest or dishonest means.

Give us an update how it go. So someone can expose any shortcoming. Don't make an issue out of it though. Keep a cool head and face you mission until you achieve your goal.

Give us an update how it go. So someone can expose any shortcoming. Don't make an issue out of it though. Keep a cool head and face you mission until you achieve your goal.

Have you tried that before, Almondjoy?

Well, the poster have an issue with women. He is right if what he meant to say is getting a decent girl. It is not a news that decent ladies are not evenly distributed. It is also possible he had been moving with undesirable elements.

Just mumouring! Nothing special.

I wonder how she can turn you down with that mini CV.

Something is missing though

@topic,
YES, if she is educated. There is a great difference between literacy and education.

Some of the so called literate graduates are Educated ignoramuses!

Gosh! No luck!

You don't have to panic. Try the link given you above if you love it.

Enrole for reality shows. Your talents can never excape the right viewers.

Find someome to talk to your parents. Even when you get noticed, they may need her consent to take you away.

America had alot of platforms for telent hunt, check them out.

Thank you for that reply.

Before I go on, I want you to know that I asked because of my experience in dealing with people. I can guess when something is amiss.

I won't tell you more than that because we have alot of liars on the prowl. I prefer studying them discreetly and avoiding them if they are incurable by logic.

Again, the fellow that dropped his music plan for you without asking for certain detail committed a serious blunder. I will keep mum on that though.

Having said that. I can tell you that I am neither a musician or entertainer. But I can link you to a friend in states who is in that profession. She is planning something on exposing young talents. I don't know how far she'd gone since she told me this last year. I believe she could at least direct you to someone credible since she had worked with some of the entertainers in the past.

My only grouse is that, I CAN NEVER drop her contact just like that. A guy had tried scamming her last year when she wanted to help her. It took divine intervention for us to stop the guy.

Now, how do I know you enough to recommend you? How do I know that you are a serious type? How do I know what I need to know to trust you?

***following with rapt attention***

Though , I have not read the above before, I admit they work quite well provided there is trust. I am using them and it work wonder.

The couple should also find time to be together physically if it is possible.

The great thing about long distance relationship is that it does not give room to physical exploitation. It also promotes self-control and give the partners room to work on their dreams. I totally agree with the above.

Condition applied: TRUST, AND COMMITMENT must be there.

@sonye,
when you are together, and he says "I love you" he neednt hear your reply to know what you feel. Sensible men can read your feeling by just looking at your face. That is why he did not make any issue of it. However, when you are miles apart without seeing one another, your words count. You need to be open and express yourself as clear as you can. Your keeping quiet when he expressed his feeling is sending wrong signal to him. His imagination would run riot and create a living picture which may be different from the reality.

In short, your action might have been the reason for his change of attitude. To be honest, you have problems on hand. You have to find a way of re-assuring him that you love him. By that frequent quarell, something is broken already and it may be a decider on how far you two go.

My advice is that you find way of communicating with him. Mend the fence and re-ignite the trust.

That is impossible if you are living in Nigeria. The language of the poster is that of a matured adult and not a 12 year old.

The following assumption can be deducted:

you are a gifted child raised carefully under a guardian, who may be your parent;
2. You are deflating your age for reasons best known to you;

whichever the case, I have an input but I can't say now until I hear from you. Gifted children don't go looking for exposure on internet. It would be a waste of their talents. But then, anything can happen. Let us know your true state.

Ify, do you mind using this medium to teach me the language? I promised myself to learn it and surprise my friend. Can you help?

What does this "wadoo" mean? What is the most courteus way to greet in isoko?

Let start from there. That is the greetings.

Ify, do you mind using this medium to teach me the language? I promised myself to learn it and surprise my friend. Can you help?

What does this "wadoo" mean? What is the most courteus way to greet in isoko?

Let start from there. That is the greetings.

Interesting!

@poster,
are you sure you are just 12? Or is it a typo error?

I once had a heartbreak, but I never pray it happen again. It turned out to be a blessing in disguise.

To minimize it occurence. I suggests openess and watchfulness.

Heartbreaks hurt because we infested considerate energy, love and trust in it. The party must be open and be alert at things that could damage trust. I believes, this two can go a long way in minimising if not preventing heartbreak. I assumed that the parties trust and love one another.

He just disappeared after posting a thread that look like he was searching. I was aware some good women posted on it.

I just hope he got the right one.

Ms. Lucker,
thanks for that. Some circustances are indeed hard to wish away. Like iice have said. If one or both of the delibrately hurt the other. That is why couples, whether dating of courting, must always be alert at some factors that could sow seed of permanent discord between them. One or either of them may find that unforeseen circumstance may bring them together with either side needing one another badly.

Let me give you an example. A guy I know very well had a relationship with a lady. Both eventually seperated under acrimonious circumstance.

2 years ago, the guy had problem at school that would have ended his education. But the lady happened to know a lecturer who can help. You can imagine how this tough talking guy became as soft as butter.

He needed the lady badly and had to send his friends to beg. Eventually, they met and the lady assisted him.

My point: I think any man or woman worth his/salt must be ready to tread very, very carefully when love is concerned. Hurting other people at a go, is irrational, stupid, and potentially dangerous. Though some folks get away with it. The question is "how are you so sure that the law of average would favour you?"

therefore, we must while guarding our heart against emotional injury be prepared to nurture the spirit of forgiveness because we may need it sooner.

Ms. Lucker,
thanks for that. Some circustances are indeed hard to wish away. Like iice have said. If one or both of the delibrately hurt the other. That is why couples, whether dating of courting, must always be alert at some factors that could sow seed of permanent discord between them. One or either of them may find that unforeseen circumstance may bring them together with either side needing one another badly.

Let me give you an example. A guy I know very well had a relationship with a lady. Both eventually seperated under acrimonious circumstance.

2 years ago, the guy had problem at school that would have ended his education. But the lady happened to know a lecturer who can help. You can imagine how this tough talking guy became as soft as butter.

He needed the lady badly and had to send his friends to beg. Eventually, they met and the lady assisted him.

My point: I think any man or woman worth his/salt must be ready to tread very, very carefully when love is concerned. Hurting other people at a go, is irrational, stupid, and potentially dangerous. Though some folks get away with it. The question is "how are you so sure that the law of average would favour you?"

therefore, we must while guarding our heart against emotional injury be prepared to nurture the spirit of forgiveness because we may need it sooner.

Ariblaze,
well said.

Where have u been? I thought you were taken?

I agree with you D-reloaded.

Some of those ladies singing that mantra are better avoided!

mishooo:
@Olanajim, hmmmmm

Nice to be back. I can see you're still doing a nice work on this thread. more kudos to you.

Going with the flow above, i love this definition of love : Ability to forgive someone and get back to former times, after they've really hurt you.

Then and only then can love really be tested - i mean when we take someone as they are with no strings attached and no gains in sight.

it is really tough to forgive. But it is a symbol of strenght to do so. Love is always build on the tough concrete of life. A love built on the sad of merriment would not last when the storm of life hit it.