₦airaland Forum

Good people can hurt if there is no better alternative.

Lol

why don't you take up the challenge?

What of "how are you?"

Please don't follow your heart in this matter. It would lead you to temptation. I will rather ask you to use your head gnd not your heart.

Your heart mislead you in the first place and matje you run after unknown beauty. Don't trust it again!

Emma,
could you link me up on YIM? Get the mail on my profile.

@topic,
I also love it when people tell me I am wrong instead of bottling it up. At times however, depending on the circumstance, it is better to forgo those issues that may lead to rancour.

I throttle between the two line using my discreetion. At times, I will tell you that you offended me. At time, I will just shut up and let go. Sure, I may bring it up later in future. I do that for three reasons:
1. To let you know that you didn't eat you cake and have it. That I wasn't ignorant of your misdeed. I do this in a way that would not bring back old wound and with intent to close the chapter. Often, I have never, when it happen demand apology. It is useless. The important thing is to stop it.
2. To inform. When you do something, you may not be aware you are hurting someone. I have that in mind. Hence, when I tell you, it would be purely infomative.
3. When I can't take the shit no more, when my system is about being poluted, I had to tell you especially if you keep hurting me knowingly or unknowingly. The response you will give will determine my judgement.

So study your baby, find time to talk to her on that element. I know how it hurt to know that someone bear grudge against you. My mind won't rest and I would keep asking you what I have done wrong. Believe me, it hurts more than hot water. That is why, I don't hesistate to tell people they hurt me unless it is either useless (and I don't even bother about people hurting me) or it would spark violence or bitter acrimony. By studying your lady, you would find out why she keep grudges. Since you are far apart, you have to use your wisdom to establish the right answer. I think it would be hard but if the two of you are open, you can do it.

When we chat, we'll go further.

Emma,
could you link me up on YIM? Get the mail on my profile.

@topic,
I also love it when people tell me I am wrong instead of bottling it up. At times however, depending on the circumstance, it is better to forgo those issues that may lead to rancour.

I throttle between the two line using my discreetion. At times, I will tell you that you offended me. At time, I will just shut up and let go. Sure, I may bring it up later in future. I do that for three reasons:
1. To let you know that you didn't eat you cake and have it. That I wasn't ignorant of your misdeed. I do this in a way that would not bring back old wound and with intent to close the chapter. Often, I have never, when it happen demand apology. It is useless. The important thing is to stop it.
2. To inform. When you do something, you may not be aware you are hurting someone. I have that in mind. Hence, when I tell you, it would be purely infomative.
3. When I can't take the shit no more, when my system is about being poluted, I had to tell you especially if you keep hurting me knowingly or unknowingly. The response you will give will determine my judgement.

So study your baby, find time to talk to her on that element. I know how it hurt to know that someone bear grudge against you. My mind won't rest and I would keep asking you what I have done wrong. Believe me, it hurts more than hot water. That is why, I don't hesistate to tell people they hurt me unless it is either useless (and I don't even bother about people hurting me) or it would spark violence or bitter acrimony. By studying your lady, you would find out why she keep grudges. Since you are far apart, you have to use your wisdom to establish the right answer. I think it would be hard but if the two of you are open, you can do it.

When we chat, we'll go further.

Emma,
could you link me up on YIM? Get the mail on my profile.

@topic,
I also love it when people tell me I am wrong instead of bottling it up. At times however, depending on the circumstance, it is better to forgo those issues that may lead to rancour.

I throttle between the two line using my discreetion. At times, I will tell you that you offended me. At time, I will just shut up and let go. Sure, I may bring it up later in future. I do that for three reasons:
1. To let you know that you didn't eat you cake and have it. That I wasn't ignorant of your misdeed. I do this in a way that would not bring back old wound and with intent to close the chapter. Often, I have never, when it happen demand apology. It is useless. The important thing is to stop it.
2. To inform. When you do something, you may not be aware you are hurting someone. I have that in mind. Hence, when I tell you, it would be purely infomative.
3. When I can't take the shit no more, when my system is about being poluted, I had to tell you especially if you keep hurting me knowingly or unknowingly. The response you will give will determine my judgement.

So study your baby, find time to talk to her on that element. I know how it hurt to know that someone bear grudge against you. My mind won't rest and I would keep asking you what I have done wrong. Believe me, it hurts more than hot water. That is why, I don't hesistate to tell people they hurt me unless it is either useless (and I don't even bother about people hurting me) or it would spark violence or bitter acrimony. By studying your lady, you would find out why she keep grudges. Since you are far apart, you have to use your wisdom to establish the right answer. I think it would be hard but if the two of you are open, you can do it.

When we chat, we'll go further.

How much?

How much?

Emma,
I am sorry, you are bringing a new dimension to your own thread.

Let me tell you that pidgin English can never be symbol of nature to African. It is purely an attempt by ignorant people to imitate their colonial master. It is not natural at all. But we have grown up to take it as second language. Secondly, I grew up among people who speaks pidgin, but I am not a fan of pidgin. I use it when I want to have fun and never had anyone tell me I am un-natural for that. If you want to be natural, speak your native language. Sure, we must disagree here. Fact remains that pidgin can not make anyone natural. Maybe down there in US, that is the definition of natural. I need help to grasp that idea here.

Talking of temperament. I didn't say emphatically that all hot-tempered people are violence. I was giving an extreme example of how it hurts. Look, beyond physical assualt, hot-tempered people can destroy your psychic if the habit is frequent. I grew up under a caring, loving, and hot tempered mum. She was never violence. But she had a way of hurting you with that temper that would remain etched in your heart forever. So the solution is to walk away and talk another day. I learn my spirit of endurance from there. I also spent my life with a quick tempered guardian. He was a violence man and would hit you at the slightest provocation. In all the years I stayed with him, he only hit me once while my colleagues got beaten everyday! Sure, it wasn't because I was loved more than others. Rather because of how I handled him.

And while I had to fled my cold-tempered mum, I am comfortable with my hot tempered guardian. Yet, other guys did the opposite of what I did.

What am I driving at? Whether cold or hot-tempered, the way you deal with them decide whether they would be violence or not. Whether you will be comfortable with them or not. I want you to consult an expert on that statement. I am ready to learn.

The bottomline is that, it has little or nothing to do with Love.

Emma,
I am sorry, you are bringing a new dimension to your own thread.

Let me tell you that pidgin English can never be symbol of nature to African. It is purely an attempt by ignorant people to imitate their colonial master. It is not natural at all. But we have grown up to take it as second language. Secondly, I grew up among people who speaks pidgin, but I am not a fan of pidgin. I use it when I want to have fun and never had anyone tell me I am un-natural for that. If you want to be natural, speak your native language. Sure, we must disagree here. Fact remains that pidgin can not make anyone natural. Maybe down there in US, that is the definition of natural. I need help to grasp that idea here.

Talking of temperament. I didn't say emphatically that all hot-tempered people are violence. I was giving an extreme example of how it hurts. Look, beyond physical assualt, hot-tempered people can destroy your psychic if the habit is frequent. I grew up under a caring, loving, and hot tempered mum. She was never violence. But she had a way of hurting you with that temper that would remain etched in your heart forever. So the solution is to walk away and talk another day. I learn my spirit of endurance from there. I also spent my life with a quick tempered guardian. He was a violence man and would hit you at the slightest provocation. In all the years I stayed with him, he only hit me once while my colleagues got beaten everyday! Sure, it wasn't because I was loved more than others. Rather because of how I handled him.

And while I had to fled my cold-tempered mum, I am comfortable with my hot tempered guardian. Yet, other guys did the opposite of what I did.

What am I driving at? Whether cold or hot-tempered, the way you deal with them decide whether they would be violence or not. Whether you will be comfortable with them or not. I want you to consult an expert on that statement. I am ready to learn.

The bottomline is that, it has little or nothing to do with Love.

Emma,
I am sorry, you are bringing a new dimension to your own thread.

Let me tell you that pidgin English can never be symbol of nature to African. It is purely an attempt by ignorant people to imitate their colonial master. It is not natural at all. But we have grown up to take it as second language. Secondly, I grew up among people who speaks pidgin, but I am not a fan of pidgin. I use it when I want to have fun and never had anyone tell me I am un-natural for that. If you want to be natural, speak your native language. Sure, we must disagree here. Fact remains that pidgin can not make anyone natural. Maybe down there in US, that is the definition of natural. I need help to grasp that idea here.

Talking of temperament. I didn't say emphatically that all hot-tempered people are violence. I was giving an extreme example of how it hurts. Look, beyond physical assualt, hot-tempered people can destroy your psychic if the habit is frequent. I grew up under a caring, loving, and hot tempered mum. She was never violence. But she had a way of hurting you with that temper that would remain etched in your heart forever. So the solution is to walk away and talk another day. I learn my spirit of endurance from there. I also spent my life with a quick tempered guardian. He was a violence man and would hit you at the slightest provocation. In all the years I stayed with him, he only hit me once while my colleagues got beaten everyday! Sure, it wasn't because I was loved more than others. Rather because of how I handled him.

And while I had to fled my cold-tempered mum, I am comfortable with my hot tempered guardian. Yet, other guys did the opposite of what I did.

What am I driving at? Whether cold or hot-tempered, the way you deal with them decide whether they would be violence or not. Whether you will be comfortable with them or not. I want you to consult an expert on that statement. I am ready to learn.

The bottomline is that, it has little or nothing to do with Love.

Emma,
I am sorry, you are bringing a new dimension to your own thread.

Let me tell you that pidgin English can never be symbol of nature to African. It is purely an attempt by ignorant people to imitate their colonial master. It is not natural at all. But we have grown up to take it as second language. Secondly, I grew up among people who speaks pidgin, but I am not a fan of pidgin. I use it when I want to have fun and never had anyone tell me I am un-natural for that. If you want to be natural, speak your native language. Sure, we must disagree here. Fact remains that pidgin can not make anyone natural. Maybe down there in US, that is the definition of natural. I need help to grasp that idea here.

Talking of temperament. I didn't say emphatically that all hot-tempered people are violence. I was giving an extreme example of how it hurts. Look, beyond physical assualt, hot-tempered people can destroy your psychic if the habit is frequent. I grew up under a caring, loving, and hot tempered mum. She was never violence. But she had a way of hurting you with that temper that would remain etched in your heart forever. So the solution is to walk away and talk another day. I learn my spirit of endurance from there. I also spent my life with a quick tempered guardian. He was a violence man and would hit you at the slightest provocation. In all the years I stayed with him, he only hit me once while my colleagues got beaten everyday! Sure, it wasn't because I was loved more than others. Rather because of how I handled him.

And while I had to fled my cold-tempered mum, I am comfortable with my hot tempered guardian. Yet, other guys did the opposite of what I did.

What am I driving at? Whether cold or hot-tempered, the way you deal with them decide whether they would be violence or not. Whether you will be comfortable with them or not. I want you to consult an expert on that statement. I am ready to learn.

The bottomline is that, it has little or nothing to do with Love.

Emma,
I am sorry, you are bringing a new dimension to your own thread.

Let me tell you that pidgin English can never be symbol of nature to African. It is purely an attempt by ignorant people to imitate their colonial master. It is not natural at all. But we have grown up to take it as second language. Secondly, I grew up among people who speaks pidgin, but I am not a fan of pidgin. I use it when I want to have fun and never had anyone tell me I am un-natural for that. If you want to be natural, speak your native language. Sure, we must disagree here. Fact remains that pidgin can not make anyone natural. Maybe down there in US, that is the definition of natural. I need help to grasp that idea here.

Talking of temperament. I didn't say emphatically that all hot-tempered people are violence. I was giving an extreme example of how it hurts. Look, beyond physical assualt, hot-tempered people can destroy your psychic if the habit is frequent. I grew up under a caring, loving, and hot tempered mum. She was never violence. But she had a way of hurting you with that temper that would remain etched in your heart forever. So the solution is to walk away and talk another day. I learn my spirit of endurance from there. I also spent my life with a quick tempered guardian. He was a violence man and would hit you at the slightest provocation. In all the years I stayed with him, he only hit me once while my colleagues got beaten everyday! Sure, it wasn't because I was loved more than others. Rather because of how I handled him.

And while I had to fled my cold-tempered mum, I am comfortable with my hot tempered guardian. Yet, other guys did the opposite of what I did.

What am I driving at? Whether cold or hot-tempered, the way you deal with them decide whether they would be violence or not. Whether you will be comfortable with them or not. I want you to consult an expert on that statement. I am ready to learn.

The bottomline is that, it has little or nothing to do with Love.

Emma,
I am sorry, you are bringing a new dimension to your own thread.

Let me tell you that pidgin English can never be symbol of nature to African. It is purely an attempt by ignorant people to imitate their colonial master. It is not natural at all. But we have grown up to take it as second language. Secondly, I grew up among people who speaks pidgin, but I am not a fan of pidgin. I use it when I want to have fun and never had anyone tell me I am un-natural for that. If you want to be natural, speak your native language. Sure, we must disagree here. Fact remains that pidgin can not make anyone natural. Maybe down there in US, that is the definition of natural. I need help to grasp that idea here.

Talking of temperament. I didn't say emphatically that all hot-tempered people are violence. I was giving an extreme example of how it hurts. Look, beyond physical assualt, hot-tempered people can destroy your psychic if the habit is frequent. I grew up under a caring, loving, and hot tempered mum. She was never violence. But she had a way of hurting you with that temper that would remain etched in your heart forever. So the solution is to walk away and talk another day. I learn my spirit of endurance from there. I also spent my life with a quick tempered guardian. He was a violence man and would hit you at the slightest provocation. In all the years I stayed with him, he only hit me once while my colleagues got beaten everyday! Sure, it wasn't because I was loved more than others. Rather because of how I handled him.

And while I had to fled my cold-tempered mum, I am comfortable with my hot tempered guardian. Yet, other guys did the opposite of what I did.

What am I driving at? Whether cold or hot-tempered, the way you deal with them decide whether they would be violence or not. Whether you will be comfortable with them or not. I want you to consult an expert on that statement. I am ready to learn.

The bottomline is that, it has little or nothing to do with Love.

Emma,
I am sorry, you are bringing a new dimension to your own thread.

Let me tell you that pidgin English can never be symbol of nature to African. It is purely an attempt by ignorant people to imitate their colonial master. It is not natural at all. But we have grown up to take it as second language. Secondly, I grew up among people who speaks pidgin, but I am not a fan of pidgin. I use it when I want to have fun and never had anyone tell me I am un-natural for that. If you want to be natural, speak your native language. Sure, we must disagree here. Fact remains that pidgin can not make anyone natural. Maybe down there in US, that is the definition of natural. I need help to grasp that idea here.

Talking of temperament. I didn't say emphatically that all hot-tempered people are violence. I was giving an extreme example of how it hurts. Look, beyond physical assualt, hot-tempered people can destroy your psychic if the habit is frequent. I grew up under a caring, loving, and hot tempered mum. She was never violence. But she had a way of hurting you with that temper that would remain etched in your heart forever. So the solution is to walk away and talk another day. I learn my spirit of endurance from there. I also spent my life with a quick tempered guardian. He was a violence man and would hit you at the slightest provocation. In all the years I stayed with him, he only hit me once while my colleagues got beaten everyday! Sure, it wasn't because I was loved more than others. Rather because of how I handled him.

And while I had to fled my cold-tempered mum, I am comfortable with my hot tempered guardian. Yet, other guys did the opposite of what I did.

What am I driving at? Whether cold or hot-tempered, the way you deal with them decide whether they would be violence or not. Whether you will be comfortable with them or not. I want you to consult an expert on that statement. I am ready to learn.

The bottomline is that, it has little or nothing to do with Love.

Emma,
I am sorry, you are bringing a new dimension to your own thread.

Let me tell you that pidgin English can never be symbol of nature to African. It is purely an attempt by ignorant people to imitate their colonial master. It is not natural at all. But we have grown up to take it as second language. Secondly, I grew up among people who speaks pidgin, but I am not a fan of pidgin. I use it when I want to have fun and never had anyone tell me I am un-natural for that. If you want to be natural, speak your native language. Sure, we must disagree here. Fact remains that pidgin can not make anyone natural. Maybe down there in US, that is the definition of natural. I need help to grasp that idea here.

Talking of temperament. I didn't say emphatically that all hot-tempered people are violence. I was giving an extreme example of how it hurts. Look, beyond physical assualt, hot-tempered people can destroy your psychic if the habit is frequent. I grew up under a caring, loving, and hot tempered mum. She was never violence. But she had a way of hurting you with that temper that would remain etched in your heart forever. So the solution is to walk away and talk another day. I learn my spirit of endurance from there. I also spent my life with a quick tempered guardian. He was a violence man and would hit you at the slightest provocation. In all the years I stayed with him, he only hit me once while my colleagues got beaten everyday! Sure, it wasn't because I was loved more than others. Rather because of how I handled him.

And while I had to fled my cold-tempered mum, I am comfortable with my hot tempered guardian. Yet, other guys did the opposite of what I did.

What am I driving at? Whether cold or hot-tempered, the way you deal with them decide whether they would be violence or not. Whether you will be comfortable with them or not. I want you to consult an expert on that statement. I am ready to learn.

The bottomline is that, it has little or nothing to do with Love.

Emma,
I am sorry, you are bringing a new dimension to your own thread.

Let me tell you that pidgin English can never be symbol of nature to African. It is purely an attempt by ignorant people to imitate their colonial master. It is not natural at all. But we have grown up to take it as second language. Secondly, I grew up among people who speaks pidgin, but I am not a fan of pidgin. I use it when I want to have fun and never had anyone tell me I am un-natural for that. If you want to be natural, speak your native language. Sure, we must disagree here. Fact remains that pidgin can not make anyone natural. Maybe down there in US, that is the definition of natural. I need help to grasp that idea here.

Talking of temperament. I didn't say emphatically that all hot-tempered people are violence. I was giving an extreme example of how it hurts. Look, beyond physical assualt, hot-tempered people can destroy your psychic if the habit is frequent. I grew up under a caring, loving, and hot tempered mum. She was never violence. But she had a way of hurting you with that temper that would remain etched in your heart forever. So the solution is to walk away and talk another day. I learn my spirit of endurance from there. I also spent my life with a quick tempered guardian. He was a violence man and would hit you at the slightest provocation. In all the years I stayed with him, he only hit me once while my colleagues got beaten everyday! Sure, it wasn't because I was loved more than others. Rather because of how I handled him.

And while I had to fled my cold-tempered mum, I am comfortable with my hot tempered guardian. Yet, other guys did the opposite of what I did.

What am I driving at? Whether cold or hot-tempered, the way you deal with them decide whether they would be violence or not. Whether you will be comfortable with them or not. I want you to consult an expert on that statement. I am ready to learn.

The bottomline is that, it has little or nothing to do with Love.

Emma,
I am sorry, you are bringing a new dimension to your own thread.

Let me tell you that pidgin English can never be symbol of nature to African. It is purely an attempt by ignorant people to imitate their colonial master. It is not natural at all. But we have grown up to take it as second language. Secondly, I grew up among people who speaks pidgin, but I am not a fan of pidgin. I use it when I want to have fun and never had anyone tell me I am un-natural for that. If you want to be natural, speak your native language. Sure, we must disagree here. Fact remains that pidgin can not make anyone natural. Maybe down there in US, that is the definition of natural. I need help to grasp that idea here.

Talking of temperament. I didn't say emphatically that all hot-tempered people are violence. I was giving an extreme example of how it hurts. Look, beyond physical assualt, hot-tempered people can destroy your psychic if the habit is frequent. I grew up under a caring, loving, and hot tempered mum. She was never violence. But she had a way of hurting you with that temper that would remain etched in your heart forever. So the solution is to walk away and talk another day. I learn my spirit of endurance from there. I also spent my life with a quick tempered guardian. He was a violence man and would hit you at the slightest provocation. In all the years I stayed with him, he only hit me once while my colleagues got beaten everyday! Sure, it wasn't because I was loved more than others. Rather because of how I handled him.

And while I had to fled my cold-tempered mum, I am comfortable with my hot tempered guardian. Yet, other guys did the opposite of what I did.

What am I driving at? Whether cold or hot-tempered, the way you deal with them decide whether they would be violence or not. Whether you will be comfortable with them or not. I want you to consult an expert on that statement. I am ready to learn.

The bottomline is that, it has little or nothing to do with Love.

Emma,
I am sorry, you are bringing a new dimension to your own thread.

Let me tell you that pidgin English can never be symbol of nature to African. It is purely an attempt by ignorant people to imitate their colonial master. It is not natural at all. But we have grown up to take it as second language. Secondly, I grew up among people who speaks pidgin, but I am not a fan of pidgin. I use it when I want to have fun and never had anyone tell me I am un-natural for that. If you want to be natural, speak your native language. Sure, we must disagree here. Fact remains that pidgin can not make anyone natural. Maybe down there in US, that is the definition of natural. I need help to grasp that idea here.

Talking of temperament. I didn't say emphatically that all hot-tempered people are violence. I was giving an extreme example of how it hurts. Look, beyond physical assualt, hot-tempered people can destroy your psychic if the habit is frequent. I grew up under a caring, loving, and hot tempered mum. She was never violence. But she had a way of hurting you with that temper that would remain etched in your heart forever. So the solution is to walk away and talk another day. I learn my spirit of endurance from there. I also spent my life with a quick tempered guardian. He was a violence man and would hit you at the slightest provocation. In all the years I stayed with him, he only hit me once while my colleagues got beaten everyday! Sure, it wasn't because I was loved more than others. Rather because of how I handled him.

And while I had to fled my cold-tempered mum, I am comfortable with my hot tempered guardian. Yet, other guys did the opposite of what I did.

What am I driving at? Whether cold or hot-tempered, the way you deal with them decide whether they would be violence or not. Whether you will be comfortable with them or not. I want you to consult an expert on that statement. I am ready to learn.

The bottomline is that, it has little or nothing to do with Love.

Emma,
I am sorry, you are bringing a new dimension to your own thread.

Let me tell you that pidgin English can never be symbol of nature to African. It is purely an attempt by ignorant people to imitate their colonial master. It is not natural at all. But we have grown up to take it as second language. Secondly, I grew up among people who speaks pidgin, but I am not a fan of pidgin. I use it when I want to have fun and never had anyone tell me I am un-natural for that. If you want to be natural, speak your native language. Sure, we must disagree here. Fact remains that pidgin can not make anyone natural. Maybe down there in US, that is the definition of natural. I need help to grasp that idea here.

Talking of temperament. I didn't say emphatically that all hot-tempered people are violence. I was giving an extreme example of how it hurts. Look, beyond physical assualt, hot-tempered people can destroy your psychic if the habit is frequent. I grew up under a caring, loving, and hot tempered mum. She was never violence. But she had a way of hurting you with that temper that would remain etched in your heart forever. So the solution is to walk away and talk another day. I learn my spirit of endurance from there. I also spent my life with a quick tempered guardian. He was a violence man and would hit you at the slightest provocation. In all the years I stayed with him, he only hit me once while my colleagues got beaten everyday! Sure, it wasn't because I was loved more than others. Rather because of how I handled him.

And while I had to fled my cold-tempered mum, I am comfortable with my hot tempered guardian. Yet, other guys did the opposite of what I did.

What am I driving at? Whether cold or hot-tempered, the way you deal with them decide whether they would be violence or not. Whether you will be comfortable with them or not. I want you to consult an expert on that statement. I am ready to learn.

The bottomline is that, it has little or nothing to do with Love.

Let do some thinking together before thread crashers destroy the thread.

Another point on your list is the temperament.

You see, I agree with you that when woman bottle up anger, it can be dangerous. However, the danger lies not in failing to express her emotion but in ability to let go. If after she revealed your old sins, she forgive and forget then it is safe. If however, she does not forgive, please do deeper meditation about her.

Quick temper is however worse. If I had to slap you every time you offend me and later beg you, then, you will carry lot of scars that would make you hate me each time you look at yourself. I hope you get the point of that parable?

Do some thinking! Oops, have you ever bother to find out if your US admirer has secret lover at home? Have you ever ponder on what her reaction to your impending proposal would mean to her? Please add it to your meditation.

Finally, remember to remove "pidgin" from the list. It is useless. Don't ever rate a lady on language. Pidgin for that matter.

Cheer.

I believes you!

You have identify a problem. Openess. One is open the other is not. Get a paper and write more. Talk to your heart. This is where you need to work on. List what you dislike about your home gal and what the US gal have got to compensate for them.

You will be amase how clearly you can see. Don't rush into decision.

Think, Think and Think until you find a way.

Sure, I understand you.

Try it today. Be patience. Don't rush at a decision. Somehow, the US lady must also have a fault. Did you know it?

D-reloaded,
you know some people just take it for granted to go into that part. Maybe because of poor reading culture or laziness.

As for those who are not active, it is very important to cross-check them before jumping at them. That doesn't mean they are all bad. Infact many of them are good but remain inactive for personal reasons.

Looking at pictures on profile is not my pastime since mine is not there. But once I know someone enough I forwards it to him if he ask.

Emmanual2u,
It is a pity that some of us have never learn to understand that in life nothing is perfect except perfect.

Temptation is one of the greatest destroyer of joy. You get one today, you will find another tomorrow. Every relationship is based on commitment, love, and trust. These three are the tripods upon which successful relationship stands. Your case was clearly a case of temptation and natural consequence of being in long distance relationship. There is no way you would go after your US gal without hurting the lady at home. I want you to ask yourself the following:
1. If the US lady were to be poor, ugly, yet maintain those traits, will you still fall for her?
2. Is your fiance missing one or all the traits you found in the US gal?
3. Run through your system, try honestly to evaluate yourself: are you feeling this way because your fiance is far away from you? What would be your reaction if your fiance were to be in your state? Is your engagement to your fiance formal or just an agreement you entred to prevent her from going after another man? Before you met the rich woman, did you have plan to bring your fiance over to you?

If you can answer sincerely those questions, I may find the missing link.

Let me tell you that every action has reaction. You should follow your heart, but be fair to the innocent naija lady you have tied down!

Gentledove,
if your account is true, then I blame you for that. Before you agree to meet anyone on nairaland, koboland, or dollarland, you must have run personality check on him/her.

When you chat on YIM and he said he worked in bank, your curriosity heightened. Maybe if he'd said he is a gabbage collector, you will never have given him your office address. Look, you guys are creating problems by looking down on honest people. That is why he'd lied that he was a banker. To be on safe side, NEVER DISCLOSE YOUR OCCUPATION TO A STRANGER YOU DON'T TRUST. And never give your address to irresponsible people.

It is wrong to castigate the whole world just because you had encounter with a dumbass.

The good thing about nairaland is that you can run character check on anyone without seeing him or her. Unfortunately, not everyone is endowed with the gift to detect lie from written words.

When you want to know about someone on nairaland, go to their profile. Sadly, most people, I observed, just look at the picture, YIM and maybe birthday. I tell you, if I go to profile, and I hardly do unless I want to run character test on Mr annonymous, the MOST important thing I check is their past and recent posts. From there, I know if a fellow is worth my time.

I must confess, by this act, I have met as many good people as I can both online and real world and would have met more if not for distance and other barriers.

There is this lady who is always lashing at people (I won't mention her. Beside, she would read it herself).I was amased at her wits and ability to run people down if she got the chance. Well, once our path crossed, I quickly went to her profile. She had more than one ID, I read a bit of her past posts and my result show that she is a very intelligent young woman. She may yab you, but she would tell the truth. I went after her and found that the lady is one of the finest specimen on nairaland! Yet, many think she was a trouble maker.

I got a guy like that too.

QED

Gentledove,
if your account is true, then I blame you for that. Before you agree to meet anyone on nairaland, koboland, or dollarland, you must have run personality check on him/her.

When you chat on YIM and he said he worked in bank, your curriosity heightened. Maybe if he'd said he is a gabbage collector, you will never have given him your office address. Look, you guys are creating problems by looking down on honest people. That is why he'd lied that he was a banker. To be on safe side, NEVER DISCLOSE YOUR OCCUPATION TO A STRANGER YOU DON'T TRUST. And never give your address to irresponsible people.

It is wrong to castigate the whole world just because you had encounter with a dumbass.

The good thing about nairaland is that you can run character check on anyone without seeing him or her. Unfortunately, not everyone is endowed with the gift to detect lie from written words.

When you want to know about someone on nairaland, go to their profile. Sadly, most people, I observed, just look at the picture, YIM and maybe birthday. I tell you, if I go to profile, and I hardly do unless I want to run character test on Mr annonymous, the MOST important thing I check is their past and recent posts. From there, I know if a fellow is worth my time.

I must confess, by this act, I have met as many good people as I can both online and real world and would have met more if not for distance and other barriers.

There is this lady who is always lashing at people (I won't mention her. Beside, she would read it herself).I was amased at her wits and ability to run people down if she got the chance. Well, once our path crossed, I quickly went to her profile. She had more than one ID, I read a bit of her past posts and my result show that she is a very intelligent young woman. She may yab you, but she would tell the truth. I went after her and found that the lady is one of the finest specimen on nairaland! Yet, many think she was a trouble maker.

I got a guy like that too.

QED

Aj,
while congratulating you for a good catch, I urge you to pray and fast for those friends of yours that God may enter their stony hearts. I also want to let you know great guys abound. But they keep finding the wrong ladies. Ladies are not helping matter by looking for ready-made husbands.

Dating now aday is like what you called "recharge". People just break hearts at wish while looking for Mr and Mrs Perfects specially made and designed in heaven.

When we work at our relationship from the scratch, it helps strengthen the bond provided we are since.

The sight of DSS people made me open my heart for penetration. We must learn to love with empathy and utmost respect, trust and commitment before we can locate the missing link. Of course, magnets attract both sand and iron, an individual with wisdom who had discovered him/herself should be able to seperate iron from sands. Unfortunately, that is the missing link. To escape labour of refining crude Iron, men and women with desperate missions jumped at the fine sands and build their marriage on falsehood. It doesn't take long for the dream to crumble before their eyes.

Instead of learning from that failure, they says "good people are hard to find!"