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True words. The question should have been: why do Nigerian women love to entertain unreasonable promises.
The man who make a heaven and earth promise must have done it at the insistence of the woman.

So if heaven refuse to come down must the man kill himself? I think it is wrong on either side, not just the man.

Hmmm!

Is Nlck that desperate?

It doesn't work! It used to work that way before right now, it would simply refuse to open even though your status is registered as 'online'. What is happening?

I have been reading about people being banned and unbanned. Is this really an issue to warrant such an  outpouring of emotion? Why would anyone go about doing what displeases others in the name of freedom of expression?

Anyway, I don't see any sense in banning people without a means to stop them from reappearing under a new username with devilish intention.

Personally, I don't think banning should be use frequently. It would lose it power to deter. It rather embolden the culprit the more. I think Seun must learn to gauge people's opinion and ensure he is fair.  

As for me, banning is not an issue. There is need to change tactic.

@seun,
you are living up the Egba legacy. The Egbas cannot be intimidated. Keep flying our flag but be careful as you use your power.

You have a more decent reason, really. It is useless posting it on the forum. And if you insist on knowing one of them, I would mention the sallah meat.

Are you amending the rules or making new ones?

Are you amending the rules or making new ones?

It is because of people like you that such holidays come once in a year. Well, you still have a long wait ahead.

Personally, I am also looking forward to the holiday. But not for the same reason as you.

So iice had been to jos before? Wao! How was cold? I was there in 2001 to 2002. I love the weather. I didn't lodge in hotel though. I stays around the university quarter.

How was your experience there like iice?

Read my post again. I didn't insinuated anything. I said I won't marry for Love and I mean it. Love is not that sacred.

Believe me. When you learn to see what I am seeing, you would never question my creed. For your information I don't have loveless relationship. You don't even know whether I am into one or practicing celebacy. You have the benefit of imagination. One thing I can tell you is that, I have never found myself in a loveless situation. I am always surronded by love and lovely people. Though it takes me long to recognize it.

If you live in water, you would not need to fear the river.

Read my post again. I didn't insinuated anything. I said I won't marry for Love and I mean it. Love is not that sacred.

Believe me. When you learn to see what I am seeing, you would never question my creed. For your information I don't have loveless relationship. You don't even know whether I am into one or practicing celebacy. You have the benefit of imagination. One thing I can tell you is that, I have never found myself in a loveless situation. I am always surronded by love and lovely people. Though it takes me long to recognize it.

If you live in water, you would not need to fear the river.

So is my reply fit those parts I tackled? Would you rather want me go through everything, Ariblaze?

So is my reply fit those parts I tackled? Would you rather want me go through everything, Ariblaze?

So far, the poster had not made any comment. Maybe, waiting for something. I reserve my comment.

So far, the poster had not made any comment. Maybe, waiting for something. I reserve my comment.

Na wa o!

Don't misunderstand me. Let me clarify.

It is like builing a mansion. You first select a site, then have a plan and design how your dream house must look like. Then you lay a foundation, get workmen and build your dream home. Thereafter, you give it a good outlook. You Paint it. People don't see the foundation or the work input you have invested on the building. They don't see the composition of the building. Just the painting and it beauty. When the storm visits the building, a building with weak foundation and substandard materials, no matter how beautiful, would colapse like colapsed Lagos buildings.

A building with strong foundation and quality materials, no matter how ugly, would stand.

That is the way it is for me. Love is just like painting that make your relationship complete. The criteria Ariblaze was talking about are like the materials use to lay foundation for the building. People who fail to grasp this ideal would always have a tale to tell of love. Love is nothing but emotion. Like anger, you can control it or let it control you. The choice is yours.

That is the logic behind my stand.

As for being disappointed, I cannot be disappointed by love again. With what I had seen, heard, and known, my disappointment would not be from love. Maybe I need a really wicked babe to prove me wrong. I am waiting! She would end up on the other side!

I hope you contracted the Bug? The Happy Bug. Life is beautiful when you live on secured side. No heart to break, and none to mess yours; No worry, No fear. Just me and the living one doing our thing. My happiness is non negotiable!

I am optimistic that you are getting the "happy Bug" if you haven't yet!

Just yesterday, I watched a News on TV and behold the bad (?) news for lovers. "in few days time, Muslims' Ramadan festival would begin!

Ramadan? That word made hearts of randy men and hotpants jiltery. Not only must you go hungry and thirsty for a whole month, you must live like saints. No kissing. No coming near babe or bobo. No drinking. No lewd talks. Even sending errotic messages is considered a violation of the holy month!

It would have been better if only muslims are affected. If your babe or bobo is muslim, NO SHOW for one full month! If you lives around muslims, or have muslims friends, you have to 'adjust' at least throughout the month. Even normal businesses are affected. I think condom makers would be most unhappy.

So, nairalanders, what do think of this? How do you hope to keep the steam hot without losing your muslim friends, babes, and bobos? What do you think generally? Let hear your views.

P.S. Respect their faith just comment. After all we would be living together through the month.

I am bubbling. Happier than ever. And you, hope you are refreshed for a new week?

Ariblaze,

you did a good job pasting the thread again. You didn't humour me at all. You did what everyone had been doing while quoting others. Even iice did the same above. So, you are not silly but smart. You are reasonable. I love you.

I would pick them one by one.

Ms Gold digger:
would eventually dig a grave for her happiness and joy. The illgotten treasures she had been saving would later block her her heart, making her unable to feel real love.

I don't do business with gold digger, but I know alot to avoid them when they set their eyes on me as the target. They are just like football in the hands of players and therefore need no sympathy.

Ms Freak is playing with heartbreak. AIDS and black eyes await her coming if she stay secret. She would reap the fruit of her labour. If she didn't snatch men, she may be lucky to get a home. But, if the man is already married, she is playing with fire. I had once had business dealing with Ms Freak, so I know what they could be. If she break your heart no would believe you ever cross her path.
They are not for me!

Ms Independent:
Good for lazy men. At time domineering. They don't stay long in relationships. Single parents, sugar mummy, are candidates here. Their best match would be a gold digger, or someone with either crazy humour or fat pocket.

I can handle them, but one must be careful not to get a husband puncher.

Others to come later.

Wao! The polybad and monogood still trying to sort out a simple matter?

Ariblaze,

Loveless marriage is a product of ignorance and neglect on the part of the couple. Love being a cripple is an illustration of it dependency on other factors. Tell me, what is LOVE without TRUST, CONVICTION, CARING and DEVOTION? All of these are the wheelchair upon which LOVE derive it mobility. Without them, what you get is nothing but LUST, INFATUATION that lead straight to heartbreak. Please prove me wrong, Ariblaze!

Real Love is BUILT on conviction. Have you ever thoughu of why there are so many 'cracked' love?

When you begin to understand the mystery of Love, you would realize the truth underlying my statement.

No, I won't have a loveless marriage if I stick to the creed. Why, because Love blossom out of a CARING heart. An INTELLIGENT man or woman would know how to build a solid foundation with a strong conviction. Upon all these, a fertile ground is prepared for Love to germinate and bloom unrestricted for ages.

Ariblaze,

Loveless marriage is a product of ignorance and neglect on the part of the couple. Love being a cripple is an illustration of it dependency on other factors. Tell me, what is LOVE without TRUST, CONVICTION, CARING and DEVOTION? All of these are the wheelchair upon which LOVE derive it mobility. Without them, what you get is nothing but LUST, INFATUATION that lead straight to heartbreak. Please prove me wrong, Ariblaze!

Real Love is BUILT on conviction. Have you ever thoughu of why there are so many 'cracked' love?

When you begin to understand the mystery of Love, you would realize the truth underlying my statement.

No, I won't have a loveless marriage if I stick to the creed. Why, because Love blossom out of a CARING heart. An INTELLIGENT man or woman would know how to build a solid foundation with a strong conviction. Upon all these, a fertile ground is prepared for Love to germinate and bloom unrestricted for ages.

Ariblaze,

Loveless marriage is a product of ignorance and neglect on the part of the couple. Love being a cripple is an illustration of it dependency on other factors. Tell me, what is LOVE without TRUST, CONVICTION, CARING and DEVOTION? All of these are the wheelchair upon which LOVE derive it mobility. Without them, what you get is nothing but LUST, INFATUATION that lead straight to heartbreak. Please prove me wrong, Ariblaze!

Real Love is BUILT on conviction. Have you ever thoughu of why there are so many 'cracked' love?

When you begin to understand the mystery of Love, you would realize the truth underlying my statement.

No, I won't have a loveless marriage if I stick to the creed. Why, because Love blossom out of a CARING heart. An INTELLIGENT man or woman would know how to build a solid foundation with a strong conviction. Upon all these, a fertile ground is prepared for Love to germinate and bloom unrestricted for ages.

Angelchi,

I disagree with your generalization. You made it look as if full blooded Nigerians are born liar. If you are a Nigerian, I am sorry to hear that kind of thing from fellow Nigerian. Pessimism will get you no where. Learn to seperate black from white, and you won't go astray.

You know how it could be for someone who don't poke his nose into ladies' business?    
I had to take time to read the whole contributions.

First, you stuck to your criteria. That show you are a man of sound ideology and strong commitment to cause. I LOVE people with that traits!

Vivasimple, had said my view on this matter. Everybody had a criteria that is proportional to circumstance and individuals. For instance, a lady's definition of a caring man may mean someone who spoil her with gifts. We all know that our minds work differently. Nevertheless, we all have minimum criteria we look for consciously or subconciously.

Since you insisted we stick to your rule. My criteria (from your list) :

Intelligence: (this doesn't implies she has to be an academia).

Caring.


Love is a cripple! It can't stand alone. So I don't rely on it. With the two criteria above, anything is possible, even Love!

If you ask for my own criteria, you already know one of them. A woman of consistent value! Good or bad, I must know my woman. That way, I would know how to handle her when the case arise. The other two are as stated above.
INTELLIGENT, CARING.

Like I said, love is a cripple; a child of circumstance. I don't use it as a criteria. If fact, I may choose to love my enemy, must I marry her?

You know how it could be for someone who don't poke his nose into ladies' business?    
I had to take time to read the whole contributions.

First, you stuck to your criteria. That show you are a man of sound ideology and strong commitment to cause. I LOVE people with that traits!

Vivasimple, had said my view on this matter. Everybody had a criteria that is proportional to circumstance and individuals. For instance, a lady's definition of a caring man may mean someone who spoil her with gifts. We all know that our minds work differently. Nevertheless, we all have minimum criteria we look for consciously or subconciously.

Since you insisted we stick to your rule. My criteria (from your list) :

Intelligence: (this doesn't implies she has to be an academia).

Caring.


Love is a cripple! It can't stand alone. So I don't rely on it. With the two criteria above, anything is possible, even Love!

If you ask for my own criteria, you already know one of them. A woman of consistent value! Good or bad, I must know my woman. That way, I would know how to handle her when the case arise. The other two are as stated above.
INTELLIGENT, CARING.

Like I said, love is a cripple; a child of circumstance. I don't use it as a criteria. If fact, I may choose to love my enemy, must I marry her?

That is just the begining. Ensure you don't think much of your disability. As someone rightly said: Know your limit and ignore them!

Sir? It would be a pleasure meeting you too, mellow.

Gentlemanliness has nothing to do with perfection. A gentleman must know when decorum and sanity should be the only language.