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Iiiiiiiiiicccceeee! Please come settle this matter!

How many grand kids do you have? Let this overtly intelligent guy know so he can learn a little decorum.

O.y.o. Means On Your Own.

I am glad you didn't believe in love at first sight. It means you are not a potential candidate of Heart break. I love that.

Thank you! Thank you!! Thank you!!!

You are not really putting me on the spot, everyone in the forum is on the spot. Again, thank you. My email is on my profile, you can IM me. I have not be checking it lately. But when I do, I will reply.

I have other email which I check regularly but, I couldn't put it on public forum to avoid distraction.

I would like to know you more if God permit.

Don't worry about being far away from home. The spirit of friendship do not fear distance. A truthful soul has nothing to fear, only a corrupted mind flee from his own shadow.

Keep your mind upon the goal. Stay focused where ever you maybe. Always remember, "you left our land for a purpose, you must work asiduously toward achieving your goals. I believe that you will achieve your goals in the mighty name of the living God. This is not for you alone but for all Nigerian in Diaspora.

I prays for you all!


Peace, be still!

Thank you! Thank you!! Thank you!!!

You are not really putting me on the spot, everyone in the forum is on the spot. Again, thank you. My email is on my profile, you can IM me. I have not be checking it lately. But when I do, I will reply.

I have other email which I check regularly but, I couldn't put it on public forum to avoid distraction.

I would like to know you more if God permit.

Don't worry about being far away from home. The spirit of friendship do not fear distance. A truthful soul has nothing to fear, only a corrupted mind flee from his own shadow.

Keep your mind upon the goal. Stay focused where ever you maybe. Always remember, "you left our land for a purpose, you must work asiduously toward achieving your goals. I believe that you will achieve your goals in the mighty name of the living God. This is not for you alone but for all Nigerian in Diaspora.

I prays for you all!


Peace, be still!

What make you think so Ariblaze? Because I didn't believe in love at first sight? Or because, I refused to belive love, as currently defined on nairaland, is sacred?


And why bring grand ma into this? She had played her grandmotherly role, let her enjoy the fruit of her labour. Abi I no talk well iice?

I would be the happiest man on the planet. Randy men would be forced to leave other people's babe alone. Women would learn never to sleep about. Failure to comply would attract severe penality.

Churches and mosques would be attractive to sinners especially those who had lost their way of salvation. People would be forced to practice abstinence, life would, a world without condom would be safer, I think churches would be the biggest beneficiaries.

On you? That mean you are using it as a shaving mirror.

Mine is still working wonder.

I am speechless!

To be candid, I had never noticed all these observations. I just do my thing and leave the rest for others.

I must add that alot of great guys and gals abound on Nairaland. I would be a failure if I fail to acknowledge their input.  

Let me be quick to add that there are some wonderful guys here who spice to topical issues. At times some people just deserve stupid reply to their stupid post. Yet, we must learn to understand and respect everyone even when they disagree with us.

In everything, at everywhere, to everybody, let us learn to uphold our integrity, ideal, and focus. Let us relate with others with a primary objective of "leaving it better than we see it" (Apology to Ariblaze).

"season may come seasons may go. Everything whither in due course you know; but one thing would remain as bloom and as shining as dew: THE LOVE AND AFFECTIONS WE SHARES ON NAIRALAN!

Whatever you do, put others in the picture. Just like a diehard liverpool will say, "you will never walk alone".

Peace, be still!

@poster,
the question is unnecesary. It is common except on nl. Illiteracy is not a vice. If your woman can learn then it does not matter.

I know alot of people go to the villages to get a wife when the city girls are reluctant to go into serious affair.

Education is not all about literacy. Ever heard of educated ignorants?

Babeelove,
so I am now a pastor? Kai! Anyway, I just want to let you know that some people get ears, but as words enter their right ears, it escape through their left leaving nothing for the brain to digest. I am warry of such people. That is why the lord said I must never be a pastor. At least, I don't own a church. Please attend church o!

Seun,
don't let the sane female folks hear that.

You are always looking for source of a story. I hope you understand that some people post from news paper articles? In that case we may not be able to get internet link, especially if the fellow don't know how to get it.

What does that mean babeelove?

Ika must have been a retired urologist. He know so so much about it.

The hilarious nature of your reply is enough to solve the guy problem. Please come out of retirement, nl patients need your expertise.

I-man was dead right. I will advise the poster not to waste his time running after the gal. It may end badly. However, he may be luckiy if the family give him the green light and if the lady want to risk everything for him.

However, if she is a strong muslim, please forget her. It is in your own interest. If you eventually marry her, you would discover that the real battle would unfold. This time, between you and her with no third party. Let her go and find a yoruba christain if you are bend on getting a yoruba babe.

Take toyinrayo's advice. It is 50-50.

Whose post? Mine? Lovemajek? Or the gardener's wife?

Do you really mean it? Can we share some of the things you wish to do for the world that could make it a better place?

You certainly can't do it alone. I am looking out for a reformer who would help soothe the pains the world had been plunged into.

I hope, your vision is not Hitler's type? Awolowo, Edison, Ford, are great to emulate. Bin Laden is another type of role model, just as everyone know. In stating your vision I would be honour to know your role model. The man or woman that is driving factor behind it.

Lovemajek,

you must be very close to the couple. I say this because you speak with confidence about. This is a honour well deserved.

Since the lady is now "happily" married to the gardener, she owe us a little favour. We want to learn from her experience. Could you tell us whether the rose he gave her was fresh one or the typical "plastic" roses commonly on display in Naija? And why would she be so ashamed of her own love that she quietly got married and probably live in fantasy Island where nobody will see them?



As for those who crucify the gardener wife for falling in love with a gardener, (I may not believe in the story), I can tell you that it is possible.

MKO Abiola was worse than a gardener when he was dating Simbiat, his first wife. He confessed Simbiat was a very important factor behind his success. At that time, he was even a nobody, selling firewoods!

Chief Okoya of Eleganza industry was once a tailor, Dangote was also from the rubble when he first fall in love. Bill Gate didn't meet his wife when he hit Billions. Go into the life of 20 most success couple, you would find that they didn't fall for materialism. Our generation is losing in the game of love, because in most cases our primary considerations are materialistic in outlook. Goodjob, University Degree, Car, good face, good lies, anything associated with glamour, fun and romance. In waiting for the accumulation of these elements, we lost considerable time, energies and oppotunities experimenting, falling in and out of love, with bitter sweat tales of love and hate mingles with passion. After all the white wedding and glamour, the relationship crash landed in divorce court. Then, they start all over looking for perfect love! Will they ever learn?

P.S.
I am not backing the gardener wife( until she show up), I am just making an exception to the rule made by those who don't believes men and women from opposite social class and status can forge a strong union against expectations.

I doubt that. How come she didn't announce it like other happy couples did? Maybe the gardener messed up!

But they could always find a way to frustrate you. Especially if you are the weak type.

Lovemajek,

have you any creed? Let hear yours.

I am sure that if you do just that, you would be grateful. She need it.

Cheer.

Live a day at a time? Hmmmm that is a sound ideology.

What does it mean to you and how do you ensure that you remains focus in the midst of distractors?

It is difficult to say. Why? If two parallel censors can produce two different results, then both are unreliable. For instance FG result gave lagos population at less than 10MILION but parallel censor conducted by lagos govt on the same day and world bank estimate gave lagos population at over 15milions. Obviously, someone is lying. That is why I would not believe in the Nigerian figure whatever. At least not now.

So what had happened to the gardner and his angel?

I am fine. How come you catch me at a gay forum? God forbid!

@topic,

I strongly believe you are the cause of the girl's action. She may truly love you. But from your words I could see that you are not giving her enough reason to trust you. I made the following observations:

1, the girl had been faithful to you until "sometime ago". What would have caused her to suddenly wake up one day and stop being faithful to you? Is the new guy rich, older' better or something? Did you bother to do a research?
I am afraid, if you didn't bother to know the root, then the problem will return again! Women may not make sense, but sometimes it pay to look at their complain when it arises.

2, you obviously forced the girl to call that guy in your presence. If that is correct, then I am sorry to say that is a wrong tactic. If a woman want to cheat on you under your nose, she may have her way! You have given her an excuse to feel guilty and stupid before another guy. She could meet that guy and beg then the passion may be re-ignited! This time, you would lose her for good! To prevent that, why not find out what you are lacking that drove her into the arm of another man? Why not show her you are a better option through action, rather than words?

3, you claimed "you don't want to promise her". Supposing she were the one that told you the same in similar circumstance, how would you feel? You are telling her, by that refusal, that: you cannot guaranttee her future with you. That is the way any sane woman would interprete your action. So far, you professes to love her, probably in words. What she need is assurance that you will be there. If you can't give her, then she had the right to cry for another man. Who knows, the other man had given her those assurance! In fact, you said it yourself. She said you are "not ready to put ring in her finger".

I think, you have alot to do if you truly love her. She love you, but she is not sure you have her in your future plan. The ball is in your court. Don't blame the lady, blame yourself.

@topic,

I strongly believe you are the cause of the girl's action. She may truly love you. But from your words I could see that you are not giving her enough reason to trust you. I made the following observations:

1, the girl had been faithful to you until "sometime ago". What would have caused her to suddenly wake up one day and stop being faithful to you? Is the new guy rich, older' better or something? Did you bother to do a research?
I am afraid, if you didn't bother to know the root, then the problem will return again! Women may not make sense, but sometimes it pay to look at their complain when it arises.

2, you obviously forced the girl to call that guy in your presence. If that is correct, then I am sorry to say that is a wrong tactic. If a woman want to cheat on you under your nose, she may have her way! You have given her an excuse to feel guilty and stupid before another guy. She could meet that guy and beg then the passion may be re-ignited! This time, you would lose her for good! To prevent that, why not find out what you are lacking that drove her into the arm of another man? Why not show her you are a better option through action, rather than words?

3, you claimed "you don't want to promise her". Supposing she were the one that told you the same in similar circumstance, how would you feel? You are telling her, by that refusal, that: you cannot guaranttee her future with you. That is the way any sane woman would interprete your action. So far, you professes to love her, probably in words. What she need is assurance that you will be there. If you can't give her, then she had the right to cry for another man. Who knows, the other man had given her those assurance! In fact, you said it yourself. She said you are "not ready to put ring in her finger".

I think, you have alot to do if you truly love her. She love you, but she is not sure you have her in your future plan. The ball is in your court. Don't blame the lady, blame yourself.

@topic,

I strongly believe you are the cause of the girl's action. She may truly love you. But from your words I could see that you are not giving her enough reason to trust you. I made the following observations:

1, the girl had been faithful to you until "sometime ago". What would have caused her to suddenly wake up one day and stop being faithful to you? Is the new guy rich, older' better or something? Did you bother to do a research?
I am afraid, if you didn't bother to know the root, then the problem will return again! Women may not make sense, but sometimes it pay to look at their complain when it arises.

2, you obviously forced the girl to call that guy in your presence. If that is correct, then I am sorry to say that is a wrong tactic. If a woman want to cheat on you under your nose, she may have her way! You have given her an excuse to feel guilty and stupid before another guy. She could meet that guy and beg then the passion may be re-ignited! This time, you would lose her for good! To prevent that, why not find out what you are lacking that drove her into the arm of another man? Why not show her you are a better option through action, rather than words?

3, you claimed "you don't want to promise her". Supposing she were the one that told you the same in similar circumstance, how would you feel? You are telling her, by that refusal, that: you cannot guaranttee her future with you. That is the way any sane woman would interprete your action. So far, you professes to love her, probably in words. What she need is assurance that you will be there. If you can't give her, then she had the right to cry for another man. Who knows, the other man had given her those assurance! In fact, you said it yourself. She said you are "not ready to put ring in her finger".

I think, you have alot to do if you truly love her. She love you, but she is not sure you have her in your future plan. The ball is in your court. Don't blame the lady, blame yourself.

I agree with you crazykid, but it appear there is more to that. Sincerely, not everyone go for test at 11th hour. In fact, majority of Naija couple wouldn't go for the test! It is only recently that awareness start growing.

Something that baffle me as pointed out is why waste so much time on the relationship before asking for test? The case of genetype is particularly worth of mentioning. If you believe so much in genotype theory, why must you invest heavily in an affair that could end without any result? Honestly some people out there need to be alerted of the furtility of their efforts.

I think those falling in love at first sight are more vulnerable. It is better to begin from friendship, that would allow everyone to know one another better.

Maybe she still dream to have one. She might be a bold "V".

Maybe she still dream to have one. She might be a bold "V".