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Hmmm Iya Agba!

Then u don't have problem. All you need do is recline and rest, faww.

Keep shaking, it is appreciated. I happy you guys are getting along. Maybe romance may develop as often the case after roforofo fight.

But that is unrealistic, you know? It is not a secret that average age of Nigerians graduates is betweem 28 and 30. Don't forget that HND, spends minimum of 5 years. While some OND holders ended in Universities after graduation.

Somehow, there appears to be conscious attenpt at screening out the generation of Nigerian youths that were educated during the dark era of Nigerian history. Yet, those youths suffered for Nigeria. See what is now happening?

No wonder, Nigerian growth is stunted!

But that is unrealistic, you know? It is not a secret that average age of Nigerians graduates is betweem 28 and 30. Don't forget that HND, spends minimum of 5 years. While some OND holders ended in Universities after graduation.

Somehow, there appears to be conscious attenpt at screening out the generation of Nigerian youths that were educated during the dark era of Nigerian history. Yet, those youths suffered for Nigeria. See what is now happening?

No wonder, Nigerian growth is stunted!

But that is unrealistic, you know? It is not a secret that average age of Nigerians graduates is betweem 28 and 30. Don't forget that HND, spends minimum of 5 years. While some OND holders ended in Universities after graduation.

Somehow, there appears to be conscious attenpt at screening out the generation of Nigerian youths that were educated during the dark era of Nigerian history. Yet, those youths suffered for Nigeria. See what is now happening?

No wonder, Nigerian growth is stunted!

I know mellow is a gentleman. But, at time a gentleman can be wrong. Gentlemanliness has nothing to do with perfection.

As for the offending ladies, she may well be trippin for Mellow, you know? Maybe she want to knw how mellow react to pressure. Anything is possible.

Make sure you buy my mirror so that you can be more accurate in future. You have shown you are a gentleman, and every gentleman get my mirror.

Are you sure? Why is coconut associated with cough? And why are most people ignorance of these facts?

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Osa

have you got a tool to identify those "useless" and "jobless" girls? What criteria did you use?

Who says Olanajim had been silienced? I was just on break.

I still hold tenaciously to my conviction that polygamy is a blessing to womenfolks. Like it or hate it, the practice will remain till end of time. Any attempt at outdating it would create imbalance in family system. Worse than what you are presenlty experiencing in western countries.

Someone even said it is due to cultural variation that the polygamous nations are experiencing family stability. How would she reconcile the fact that western nations began gradual slide to family instability when the natural order were interupted? How would you people explain the increasing rate of divorce cases in monogamous nations, most of which were tied to infidelity? It is no more news that when a man want to marry another wife in those morally corupted nations that you are examplifying, he would upset the system and file for divorce at slighted opportunity. Meanwhile, he would have started enjoying the second wife even before wedding! You girls are just being natural, Ladies hate rivals. They are insecure and generally jealous. Exception abounds and I have seen ladies fit perfectly. But so far, I had been disappointed by the venominous attacks on men on this forum whereas ladies are the real culprits. It is no surprise anyway.

Let me reiterate my point, under some circumstances, polygamy is justified. In fact, IF I FOUND MYSELF IN THAT CIRCUMSTANCE, I WOULD HUMBLE THE OPPOSITIONS.

As for those who think polygamists are stupid, male or female, I would give you the benefit of doubt. But could stupidity now be defined upon the concept that WHEN A MAN OPPOSES YOUR VIEW, AND DERIVES FAVOUR IN WHAT YOU DISLIKE, THEN HE AUTOMATICALLY QUALIFIED AS "IDIOT", "STUPID"? By that concept, the polygamists would equally consider you as "STUPID".

Undoubtedly, polygamy sustains the world. Rather than crucify the practitioners, we must seek to EMULATE them. If you no get the power, just shut up!!

Who says Olanajim had been silienced? I was just on break.

I still hold tenaciously to my conviction that polygamy is a blessing to womenfolks. Like it or hate it, the practice will remain till end of time. Any attempt at outdating it would create imbalance in family system. Worse than what you are presenlty experiencing in western countries.

Someone even said it is due to cultural variation that the polygamous nations are experiencing family stability. How would she reconcile the fact that western nations began gradual slide to family instability when the natural order were interupted? How would you people explain the increasing rate of divorce cases in monogamous nations, most of which were tied to infidelity? It is no more news that when a man want to marry another wife in those morally corupted nations that you are examplifying, he would upset the system and file for divorce at slighted opportunity. Meanwhile, he would have started enjoying the second wife even before wedding! You girls are just being natural, Ladies hate rivals. They are insecure and generally jealous. Exception abounds and I have seen ladies fit perfectly. But so far, I had been disappointed by the venominous attacks on men on this forum whereas ladies are the real culprits. It is no surprise anyway.

Let me reiterate my point, under some circumstances, polygamy is justified. In fact, IF I FOUND MYSELF IN THAT CIRCUMSTANCE, I WOULD HUMBLE THE OPPOSITIONS.

As for those who think polygamists are stupid, male or female, I would give you the benefit of doubt. But could stupidity now be defined upon the concept that WHEN A MAN OPPOSES YOUR VIEW, AND DERIVES FAVOUR IN WHAT YOU DISLIKE, THEN HE AUTOMATICALLY QUALIFIED AS "IDIOT", "STUPID"? By that concept, the polygamists would equally consider you as "STUPID".

Undoubtedly, polygamy sustains the world. Rather than crucify the practitioners, we must seek to EMULATE them. If you no get the power, just shut up!!

Who are you refering to? And how do you hope to change the world? Pls tell us. It is going to be interesting.

When an imagination run riot, every conceivable acts flashes to mind. And when it garner enough energy, it leads to suspicious of high intensity. Only TRUST back by ACTION can douse the flame. You made feeble attempt at assuring him of your faithfulness.

4, that his friends and third party contributed to your problem is a possibility expecially as you keep flocking with your old male friends with unsatisfactory explanation regarding your relation with them. You said it your self it was later that you started noticing the insecurity in him. He was a complete gentleman before then, I supposed. Think about it, a good man can't turn bad overnight. Something must have trigger it. Did you bother to find out?

With the above observations, I disagree with you that he was insecure or jealous. That he went to pick an UGLY lady after you further show the he care less about your beauty. What then will make him insecured? From your story, it is obvious you treated him with disdain. The way turned down his marriage proposal, the way you acted when you are "bloody broke" all further made him suspect you are either cheating him or not taking him "seriously".

Any man in such circumstance would "react". He made attempt at making it up, but you didn't recognize what the problem is. In short, he tried his best but you misinterpreted it.

That guy loved you. But both of you are two generations apart. It is good you didn't marry.

Stop hating him; plotting revenge. He might turn out to be innocent. Don't forget to blame your immaturity whenever you look back review what happened.

Jenny2007

After reading your story, I made few observations which make me see the guy as opposite of what you have in mind. I am sorry to say that if what you wrote is exactly the case, you share a large portion of the blame. In fact, I don't want to blame him until you provide a clearer picture.

To every crisis, there is a foundational cause. To any problem; to unravel any mystery, we must get to the root.

Your guy may not be insecured. This is manifested from what you wrote.

1, his history with women and his age. At that age, you are probably not expecting someone who had never courted a woman. Insecured people don't like to lose the object of their obsession. They won't give up without a fight or emotional outburst. If your guy didn't show any sign of lost after you left him then he was not insecured. Rather, he didn't trust you as deeply as you thought. The problem is LACK OF TRUST AND NOT INSECURITY.

2, you said women fell all over him courting his attention but he didn't choose them. Such a man had, at that age acquired adequate experience to know that most women that run after him want his money. That he didn't pick any of those girls revealed that he was choosy as far as women are concerned. He wanted someone he can TRUST. He found that someone in you. Unfortunately, you are young. He didn't pounce on you. The relationship didn't start as love but as family friend.
3, what the two of you have was technically a long distance relationship. There is no doubt that your age and immaturity contributed to the problem. Long distance relationship that is intended for marriage demands a high degree of TRUST.That you are faithful to one another cannot be shown by telephone conversation. Those little things like missing his calls, staying away from him, calling or receiving from male friends may not be a problem if overlooked. They are however signs that you need to answer questions. You need to asure him that you are faithful. These acts fire up imagination. And

Jenny2007

After reading your story, I made few observations which make me see the guy as opposite of what you have in mind. I am sorry to say that if what you wrote is exactly the case, you share a large portion of the blame. In fact, I don't want to blame him until you provide a clearer picture.

To every crisis, there is a foundational cause. To any problem; to unravel any mystery, we must get to the root.

Your guy may not be insecured. This is manifested from what you wrote.

1, his history with women and his age. At that age, you are probably not expecting someone who had never courted a woman. Insecured people don't like to lose the object of their obsession. They won't give up without a fight or emotional outburst. If your guy didn't show any sign of lost after you left him then he was not insecured. Rather, he didn't trust you as deeply as you thought. The problem is LACK OF TRUST AND NOT INSECURITY.

2, you said women fell all over him courting his attention but he didn't choose them. Such a man had, at that age acquired adequate experience to know that most women that run after him want his money. That he didn't pick any of those girls revealed that he was choosy as far as women are concerned. He wanted someone he can TRUST. He found that someone in you. Unfortunately, you are young. He didn't pounce on you. The relationship didn't start as love but as family friend.
3, what the two of you have was technically a long distance relationship. There is no doubt that your age and immaturity contributed to the problem. Long distance relationship that is intended for marriage demands a high degree of TRUST.That you are faithful to one another cannot be shown by telephone conversation. Those little things like missing his calls, staying away from him, calling or receiving from male friends may not be a problem if overlooked. They are however signs that you need to answer questions. You need to asure him that you are faithful. These acts fire up imagination. And

Unless you guys are mugu. I can tell you that the owner of this thread has sold you off. Thanks to my mirror. He had been making frantic effort at attracting people to his site, more possibly, to sell something. At a time, he told people a wife caught someone masturbating. At another he simply dump the thing on serious discurse. I am sure that his strategy is paying off this time. He do what I know well. He went after the oldest and one of the most popular figures in the land. True to his permutation, #landers rush in to see what is going on. I am sure the thread would go on with more dummies trooping in to see what iice is up to. They would then have to go through the site.

I love that chap. He know what drives #landers.

I see. I would have to confirm. She kind of know how to avoid my mirror. She know I would demystify her.

At any rate she is a friend and don't have to worry. I just hope she would use what she learn from me.

How old are you and what do you do? Have you underwent HIV test? And what kind of man do you want? Human? Cobra? Vipers? Dogs? Just be specific. So the right candidate would give you a call.

Babeelove,
I missed you! Well, at least you enjoyed your bobo which is better. I just hope she is a nairalander. I am angry though. You can only pacify my by giving me my own cake. Just throw it. I will get it.

As you can see, the mirror is as clean and shinning as ever. I just learn how to protect it from smatchers. They can be merciless!

Hope you stumble on Doyin13? I won't be surprise to find him on politics. He is in order.

Chiegemba,

that mean acid drop is still a capital 'V' with all her experiences? Mogbe! Then she should rightly be the last Nigeria virgin. But, I caught professing love in one of the threads. She is a mystery!

Oga ma!
It is good for you o. I hope the lord multiply your treasure. The more you have, the more time you would love to share with nairalanders.

Well, there too many threads to read that one may not be able to read all.

As for the mirror, I am serious, it is more than just a mirror. Through I learn to see fellow man and accept the way they are without contracting their negatives. As an Oga, you would find application in dealing with your customers, workers et al. E get values. Cost nothing. Even acid drop don buy am!

As for me, well as I relate with people, I found sheep, goats, lions, cobras, gorillas, and the parrots among human being. I noticed that lion would always want to devour you even if you are bitter. Cobra wants to inject her venom in you. The gorillas simply look like human, she is animal. So what do I do that I may not fall victim? That is my next stage. I can now cuddle gorilla, and still distinguish my human nature. I can hold lions by their jaw and still leave with my life intact. Oh, I am having fun. I know when I am with humans. Use the mirror, you would thank God!

Breastfeeding? When did you take in? How come you didn't tie the knot before swelling belle? And who is the lucky guy?

Breastfeeding? When did you take in? How come you didn't tie the knot before swelling belle? And who is the lucky guy?

You would notice people are announcing their marriages lately. Everybody had been busy. Please, time is going fast. And,

Whatever! Just tell me where your heart is. Abi you no won settle down?

Acid drop,
you haven't given me reply yet. I may commit another blunder later. By the way a guy had been trippin 4u!

Chiegemba
hi, tis' been a while. Hope oga wasn't the one that kept you away? Sure, the thread remains. I hope it outlive 2007.

My mirror still work. If you apply it better, e go beta. As for me, I had gone to higher level. I don't need to carry mirror any more. People are my mirrors.

I am sorry, maam. You know I was indeed too busy to listen. But now, I want to know.