So how did they na get married? If she said she did not agree to his proposal and nothing from this post suggests they ever got married, what divorce is she asking for?

"I do not want to go through that route again" the second woman that pinned her boyfriend's child on her husband. It means she has killed someone before - probably the father of her daughter because he died 1 year after she was born.

Fear women ooh

You guys are very funny honestly! You are 29, a lady and have someone that wants to marry you and train you as well but you're considering rejecting his proposal because a relative promised to train you if you drop the marriage issue. Quick questions:

1. Where was this your relative all these years. At 29, you should even be done with your master's and have work experience. Where was he/her all these years?

2. Assuming you decide to proceed with the suggestion of your relative, so you will finish school at maybe 34/35 (depending on how ASUU behave and how fast you're able to secure admission), then you will start looking for a husband at that age. Don't you know the older you get as a lady, the more difficult it gets in finding a man and when you eventually find one, child birth gets difficult?

3. I hope you know is not like you will just walk up to a man after your studies and marry him? Finding a man (that will tick most of the boxes you want) will be more difficult as you get older.

4. Are you not aware of some people who are in school and they're married? In my days in Law School, we had a retired Deputy Inspector General of Police in my class. What are my saying? You can still school while in your husband's house.

5. Lastly, you may not even NEED to go back to school again. Note I said NEED not WANT. If you have a thriving business and you can communicate well (read and write), the pressure to go to University should reduce. Is only in Nigeria that we view people who did not go to the universities as "failures" even when they're better off than the "educated ones".

Think about it.

Two points:

1. I had a similar experience like you. She said they're just friends and she do go to his house to cook and sleep over (even though i have met the guy). I warned her only twice to cut ties with the guy, when she repeated it, that was the end of that relationship.

2. I do not understand how you guys allow ladies to be threatening you. Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaketh. The rule for me is simple: a lady will not get to threaten me the 3rd time. If you do it the first time, i will call you and politely warn you to stop. The second time, i will warn you and the 3rd time, i will ghost you - end of relationship.

You must be in charge of your relationship. If she does not respect you up to that level, you will be in trouble if you marry her.

In fact, make i just tell you. She is with you because the Seyi guy has not proposed. If he does today, that your ring she go return to you through dispatch ridder. What she is trying to do is to hold the bird at hand so she does not completely depend on thousands of birds in the bush.

Shey na for village where you will no pay house rent, utilities una go live abi na where?

The problem is, cars are necessities in Nigeria. Unlike in Europe where there are alot of alternatives such as trains, trams and government buses, that is not the case in Nigeria. Necessity will still drive people to buy car. For for once cannot live in Nigeria without a car.

Bestmanfornow:
Nigeria is the more you look the less you see

The question is, who own Dangote Group Limited? This is a private company not public. I believe that is the holding company Dangote is using to hold shares in other Dangote businesses.

Workch:
Today I got a job offer with a salary of 350k and an official car just because I know a strong person in the company.
I use to work for another company at Ajah, I go to the office once in a week from thr mainland and it's not easy. My salary is 200k and I don't really like the work environment, I am tired of the job and this new job is not far from my house, its in Ikeja. My girlfriend whom I have known since 2011 when I was doing my I.T (WE dated then broke up, she came back last year January) connected me with one of her friends that I use to know back then. This her friend is married to the nephew of the CEO of this company and she works there herself.

She got my CV, 3 months ago, waited for a vacancy and made sure that it was not advertised. See, the interview, na only me dey there, the job was kept for me. It was not even an interview, it was a conversation and they were just telling me about the company, no stress. That's the power of knowing somebody, this will not be possible i didn't get a strong referral.

This morning I got my appointment letter. I asked them to give me 1 month to tidy up my account in this current office.
Try and build connections, know somebody that knows somebody that knows somebody. Ask for referrals, it's going to make the whole job hunt easier.

I forgot to ask, date girls that have substance. Don't date girl wey be liability

You called it "connection" now but if a politician uses his position to secure a job for his daughter now, Hell will be let loose. The job was not even advertised, you dey see am abi?

nlfpmod:
As shared by Vashti Vash Offo:



https://twitter.com/Vash_Offo/status/1660702453648465927?t=iG_-zSFySZJMgg1RI7BOoA&s=08

Ladies are very funnny - "she is a life of a party and when they got married he stopped her from seeing her friends". So a married woman should be partying upandan abi? She should be clubbing?

Obviously her friends have influence on her and if she continue hanging out with them, they will drag her back to her old life - the more reason they must be cut off.

On the issue of her taking up afternoon shift jobs, what is wrong with that? You did not sound like the man need the salary she will make from working night shifts. If a man decides that he has the capacity to provide for his family and don't want his wife to work at night, what exactly is wrong with that?

You people should go and sit down.

Anfield247:
Recently, let me say two to three weeks ago, my mom came back from church, discussing about an upcoming traditional marriage and wedding ceremony of the daughter of one of her church members with my dad. They were busy, I mean my mom and dad were busy talking about how the groom is a wealthy man and how the marriage will be glorious

I didn't even pick interest because I got better things to think about.
The bride-to-be is a graduate from akwa ibom, while the groom-to-be, on the other hand, is a pastor of one popular church in Nigeria, I won't mention the name of the church because not all their pastors are the same.

When they started the relationship, the pastor was rushing everything, he was like he can't wait to marry this pretty damsel.

According to the story, the parents of the both families have met each other, and some part of the traditional marriage has been done.
Everything was going according to plans, they even brought out a pre-wedding photo, which I myself saw on her Facebook. Here is how the marriage took a new twist,

Now, three days to the traditional marriage, the groom-to-be came out and said he's not getting married to the Bride anymore, that is no longer interested in the marriage.

When they asking why, he said it was because of the bride price list they gave to him.

Now, his church said there's no problem about that, that they will sponsor everything, the pastor still vehemently insisted that he is no longer interested in the marriage...

The parents of the girl said the marriage list is always open for negotiation, that it is not compulsory to pay everything at once, or even everything no the list to be paid,The young man still said no.

Now the marriage has been called off and the girl is heart-broken.

My Mom follow the mother of the bride-to-be to do the shopping.
They even invited so many people to the marriage ceremony but it unfortunately ended in the most unbelievable way...

What could possibly be the reason behind his decision?
Can a man go as far as performing some traditional marriage rite just to sleep with a girl?
Could it be because of the list?
Or can infantuation drive a man to do the unthinkable?
Could it be spiritual manipulation or just the matter of choice?

Why should bride price list be subject to "negotiation"? Are they selling a goat or a cow that you will need to price? What is wrong in giving your in-law to be a reasonable list?

Why are SOUTH-SOUTH and SOUTH EAST people like this? Don't come and attack me, I am from the SOUTH EAST too. I think State Governments need to step in and put a cap on the price list that bride family can hand over to a groom to be.

Ofunaofu:


https://dailytrust.com/you-must-give-full-account-to-tinubu-matawalle-rejects-emefieles-study-leave/

Why not just resign and leave the country ahead of inauguration? Once an investigation is commenced against an employee, he can no longer resign until that investigation is completed and decision taken.

Whether Tinubu will probe Godwin, we all know the answer to that question is "yes".

lovediehatelive:
I met this pretty homely girl sometimes ago.

She was reluctant the first time I toasted her and won't want to date me. However, I persisted till she succumbed.

She's everything I want in a lady. She didn't want to visit me when we started dating until one day I promised that I won't touch her.

She visited and was so graceful that I thanked the heavens for sending my soul mate to me.

We discussed a bit and I made her feel comfortable because she was really uneasy.

As promised, I didn't touch her. She felt so free that she rested her head on my chest.

The urge to kiss her became so strong, but I resisted.

What's the use of spoiling things now when she can be mine forever?

She later left and we became really close from then.

I was happy because she's madly beautiful yet so down to earth.

I was thinking she is a virgin but I needed to clarify.

So one day, I used talk to bring talk and stylishly told her a bit about some rough life of my past for her to feel uncomfortable.

She later opened up to me about her first kiss and how the guy went on to have sex with her even though he promised her nothing will happen.

She was 19 years then.

Since then she stopped visiting guys and is no longer in contact with the guy.

She swore that she hasn't kissed or had sex since then.

Now she's 23.

The thing is I really deeply love this girl because she's just exactly what I needed. But I promise myself that I will marry a virgin and nothing else.

My love for this girl is beginning to affect my thinking.

Should I ditch her and keep looking for a virgin?

Or should I continue with her?

I'm planning to see her people this December.

Apparently this is a joke. If she had lied to you that she is a virgin and it turns out to be incorrect, you can let her go (i have done that before), but she was honest to you and very important, she is not a hoe. Drop her number, me sef dey find wife.

What does a 67 years old woman plan to do with inheritance to the extent of hiring assassin to kill her own children? It was our Lord Jesus Christ that told us that in the latter days the love of many shall wax cold

Una dey take risk sha. Dey knack olosho without CD, hiaaaaan.

beekind:
I am a 38 year old Nigerian American citizen dating a 26 year old Nigeria girl.
I grew up in Nigeria but travelled out to the USA when I was 25 years old, I am a citizen now and doing really well for myself.
I met a beautiful and godly Nigerian girl on facebook and we have been dating for some months now we are now thinking of marriage, she is in Nigeria while I am in the USA.

Some weeks ago my dad asked me to do some tests and send to him, (He is a medical doctor), I did them, turns out to be fertility tests and all was perfect.
I just told him about my fiance and my plans to get married in some months time and he said she has to do fertility test before he can agree to the marriage.

This was very shocking for me as he insisted that it is his position, I haven't told my fiance cos I dont know how to and my fiance is scheduled to pay my parents a visit for the first time in Port Harcourt in 2 weeks time.
My fiance is from Delta but lives in Portharcout as my parents while we are from Port harcourt.

My dad has said if I cannot tell her that he will, what do you guys think ?

Honest advise please and admin kindly push to front page for wider advise.

Thanks.

First of all, couples intending to get married do all sort of tests including HIV, Blood Group, Genotype etc. If these tests are important and people don't find fault when they are called upon to do them, why should fertility test be an issue? Beside you also did the same test.

Based on how some couple suffer before getting children these days, it may not be out of place to do it unless you are telling me you don't what to have a child.

Thank you for the post sef, because this will form part of the test I will ask any lady i want to marry to do.

Trulydude:
All offers are at hand

A. A Federal Polytechnic Assistant Lecturer job that offers around 150k Monthly Gross. (High job security, more relaxing time to run one or two things)

B. A full time job at A Multi National Company that offers 350k Monthly Gross. (Less job security, tight schedule)

All offers are at hand ✋

You are funny. What exactly do you mean by job security? If you have the opportunity to work for a Multi-national company for a few years, you are an asset. You would have acquired more experience that can open bigger doors for you. Relieving you of that job does not do any harm to you. I had similar offer after school - civil service work or a great private sector job. I went for the latter and I have been in the private sector for 6 years now and have never received any threat of sack from the two firms I have worked for.

You also mentioned "tight schedule". Well, i assume you are a young boy/girl, burn the candle now. Build skills and add value to yourself. Work hard and shy away from laziness because it will not help you on the long run.

Lastly, with this whole japa movement, little experience from a multinational will scale up your value in the market because big and small companies are looking for experts to hire without success.

All the best.

Una still dey sleep with people's wife?

Sucre6:
I don't support polygamy but if I am to be on your shoes I would get. Side chick that satisfies my sexual needs, I have a very high sex drive, on a norms if my babes comes around we for the weekend we have can have sex more than 15 times, not exaggerated before she goes, during lock down, we had to go do family planning for her not to get pregnant because i was tired buying condoms everytime, the pharmacist in my area self don tire to dey sell condom for me , 😂

I ordered one carton on Jumia, I was just taking and using, one day I checked and it aff finish 😂,

What am saying in essence is that no one should be in prison in the name of marriage, the op is really suffering, me I can't endure such

Thank you for this information. Na from Jumia i go dey order my own now.

BRIMBRAM:
Marry a second wife.

I agree with you. It will make her step up.

Curiouscity:
Please, I need everyone in the family section to give their view on this. There seems to be a trend in modern day marriages, where everything is about "what makes me happy ". I have a few questions
1. What is loyalty in a committed relationship like marriage?
2. Is loyalty expected in modern day marriage?
3. Can there be love without loyalty?

There is a couple going through a rough patch in their marriage. The major issue is that one of them regards outsiders' opinion more the partner's. They can discuss and sometimes agree to do something a certain way, but one person will do it the opposite way. When investigated, it will be discovered that the brothers/parent of the defaulting partner countered the couple's decisions. Yet the other partner wasn't informed.

More explicitly, the guy may tell his wife, let's do so and so. The wife will oppose it. But if another person, sometimes the husband's friend, make same suggestion, the wife will jump on that same idea, and pester the guy to do it. The couple can have a discussion that is supposed to be private, sometimes just mere couples gossip, but one way or the other, that discussion will get to the wife's family. Yet the wife keep "singing" how she loves her husband.

The examples above can be reverse, where the guy is the disloyal spouse.

4. How do you handle disloyalty between couples?

Abeg, is marriage all about happiness or sacrifice? Because me I am not understanding what is going on in our society again.

Married men and women should be answer this my question.

Cassandraloius:
Nigerians like anything sex ehn.

That is why we no dey develop. European countries, China, South Korea and Japan dey think of economic growth and wealth creation, we na sex we dey think about everytime.

Zukwanu ike.

The wife no dey follow am ooh.

Oga dey never swear you in you done dey do inspection. I hope this is not Igg (Initial Gara Gara).

IyaebeTheGreat:
Big men don't complain. But you see these kurukere boys ehn, their wahala is too much . This is not me supporting what she did but there's too much complains over irrelevant things

If is irrelevant why is she asking for it and why are you unease because she is being criticized? Abi you too dey do am?

IyaebeTheGreat:
My Dad's friend and his family are in a mess now as the second wife (now ex) sued him over willing more than 90% of his properties and other valuable possessions to his first and second daughter.

It started long ago when he got married to his first wife(now ex) who had two daughters for him, they were childhood lovers and they lived perfectly.

However trouble started when he got a job in portharcourt and he met this other woman who came for IT , he discovered this woman is from our home town and he got more attracted and decided to keep her as a mistress, but the woman wanted more.

So, the affairs started over there and she was practically living with him while the wife stayed back home. Soon information started reaching his wife about this other woman but the wife always discard such information saying her husband isn't such type of person.

When the same information keeps reaching her, she decided to pay him an impromptu visit and boom she met this other woman there already acting as a wife, she confronted the husband and he told her he intends marrying her as his wife, she got angry and left back to base(home town).
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When this other woman came home, she informed this man that she was beaten up by his wife's mother and siblings when she was passing by their house ( it was all lies) and the husband came home and arrested his wife (her 1yr old baby was in the cell with her as well), her mother and all her siblings and further went ahead to marry the other woman.

It was so messy that divorce was the only option they had left, he also forcefully took her two daughters from her and they were now under the care of the new wife. That was how the other woman became his wife and had three children for him( a boy and two girls).

After several years, the children are all grown, he gave them the best training and he endured so much bad behavior from this second wife to save face not until he caught her with charms inside a sack of garri that was sent to her by her mother and that was the last action that led to their separation. He married another woman making it the third one.

The third woman came and couldn't conceive because the second woman made a vow that as long as she remained married to her husband, she'll never bear children. Till today the third woman never had any child but she remained in her marriage childless.

Now, this man has come of age and decided to have a will on all his properties and other possessions. Surprisingly he willed over 90% of his properties and all other possessions to his first two daughters from his first wife leaving his only son from the second wife with only a landed property.

The second wife got hint of this and vow to deal with him by all means. She has sued him to court and involved his kinsmen but this man insists that that's the only compensation he can give to the first wife who never offended him in any way and maintained that he's not going back on his decision.

As at now family and friends are on his neck to have a change of decision considering the fact that his only son is very responsible and does not portray any form of threat or irresponsibility but he's obviously not listening and maintained that nothing can make him change his decision.

Please is he right with such drastic decision?

Is there sense in willing almost all you posses to a female child who will take such inheritance to another family?

How best will you handle such type of situation?

How did the first wife knew about the content of the Will? Forget what you see on Nollywood movies, the content of a Will is secret and is meant to be in a safe custody such as the vault of his lawyer.

Haven said that, it is good the man is still alive. He can gift those properties to his two daughters now that he is alive as a GIFT. If the man pass on, enforcing that Will maybe very difficult because the 2nd wife and her kids may start claiming that he lacked mental capacity to make will or he was coerced in making that Will. Na 30 years case be that in Nigerian courts.

However, if he gift those properties to those girls now and they enter possession, when he died (or even while alive), it will be defficult for the 2nd wife to go for those properties.

Lastly, what about the 3rd wife? Wetin she do am wey em no wan give her anything?

MrBrownJay1:


the above dude is not a womanizer (as a womanizer will go after babes with OR WITHOUT money)... he is simply a h0rny dude who doesnt have enough money/sex in his life. thus why he only focusses on sex when he can pay for olosho.

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I agree with you. What he is doing is not womanizing, he is just following Oloshos upanddan. I think his problem can be cared by marriage or having a "willing girlfriend".

Generally, to be successful, you need to be bold and assertive. In most cases, where the women are more successful than their men, they tend to forget where to draw the line between work and household. They subconsciously begin to disrespect and usurp the power of the man in the house.

Also, women by their nature prefer men who are more successful than them. Men understand this principle (with my above explanation), so men ideally will want to go for ladies they are more successful than.

In other words, the more a lady becomes successful, the lesser the number of men who can fit into her taste. Cos if she is making 3m per month for instance, she will ideally want a guy who make similar amount or more and the number of guys who make such amount are few, thereby reducing the eligible pool of men for her.

[quote author=tonicyril post=122625836]U left Ur mate to marry someone 12yrs younger than you...why?? That means u re after his money one way or the other...that one no be love, if na love I am sure u would have seen Ur mate u were in love with before hackimey.


I don't even care if she was after his money. The bitter truth is, people marry because of different reasons and money is one of the major reasons. The main problem I have with her is for demanding for 50% of his assets. If she decided to just divorce and discuss modalities on how they will take care of the kids, I will listen to that. But asking for 50%, that is crossing the redline

Is this man not supposed to be cooling off in Police cell by now?

efficiencie:


Strange women do these things and even worse. Strange women, olosho incorporated, are capable of every evil under the sun. They can cook up all manner of false charges to spite anyone. The strange woman has leveraged the laws of the West to finish the man and he deserves it. Men deserve their wives because they chose their wives based on their desires. And if your desires are immensely stupid you can expect the result of these desires to lead to catastrophe. I only hope he doesn't commit suicide. He should count all his losses as school fees, the price he needs to pay to learn the lesson he should have learned before getting married, move out of the UK to escape prison and restart his life afresh. If he survives this he will become a better mentor for others who are entering marriage as a compound fool but if he is overwhelmed by this and succumbs to depression then it is such a shame.

You are going to far - 2Pac is a good example. After the mother came up with useless reasons why she had to leave the man, she went further to lie to 2Pac that his father was dead. However, when 2Pac was shot, the father came to visit him in the hospital. It was then he found out that the father was paying child support to the mother and has been making efforts to reunite with the son but the mother blocked it.

Not all women, but a good number of women in the west will cut you loose just to that your property. Is even worst with the "version" of feminist that are telling women that they do not need a man.

He should start work from the Mortuary first na before he can transcend to another role.

To make the matter worst, they gave him the least of all the votes

How can the winner have about 76k votes while the second runner up has only 1k votes