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KingErnesto:
I'm not a typical f**k boy, I'm neither a saint and I've got raging hormones. In my previous relationship my girlfriend tried initiating the romance of which didn't really go down too well because I'm kinda spiritual.

Well go on ahead n be the nice guy n watch this on slip away

Hi,
Well I want to know if I can go for an undergraduate course in UK with just my waec and without having A level. Because from the website this is what I am seeing.

Cc. Justwise

KingErnesto:
We've been friends for 2months now and we've only hung out thrice, at my place only , tho we belong to a mutual association and we often see.

She agrees to come over without hesistation.
when ever i say i want to see her, maybe in 4days time, she would rather make plans to come over the following day ... And she keeps me company for hours without complaining. We gist, eat , laugh and have fun together ...
I never made a move to touch her nor cuddle her for once, i gave her that respect and now i want to define our friendship/relationship...We've hugged a few times and she held me the night i took her out on a eat out and walk .

A certain time, she asked me a question and asked for my take , she painted a scenario where a girl who is older than the guy decides to like him to want to date him for the mean time, and these two belong to a mutual association...
I didn't want to raise or deduce a false impression, but i sensed she was passing a message. I could be wrong. But she's older than i am a little.

On call yesterday, she told me she doesnt keep close friends and she doesnt like much friends, she likes her privacy and all. But she said its not the same with me, and then i moved on to ask her what was i to her , immediately she paused and then stammered for seconds, like she was searching for the right words to refer me, and then she eventually said, "you're dear to me".

Should i ask her out already? Or have i been friendzoned?

Make a move. Tell her come over that you are cooking dinner... Then make a move... Lean in for a kiss.

Jaybnjamin:
Keep applying the ones he already dished out while wait for his home coming.
That dude is something else.

Seconded jareh

Martinez79:
Don't mind him.


@op

You are not serious and you are yet to take some red pills. She is not your girlfriend; she doesn't want you; and you are forcing yourself on her. Never love a girl that doesn't love you. No mutual love is better than one sided love. Person wey no like you no like you and you no go fit love the one you no go fit love. Stop trying and stop giving yourself unnecessary headache.

As a hustling student, leave girls alone and focus on your hustle and establish yourself. When you make it, you will still see girls. Girls no dey finish. It's not written anywhere that it must be that particular girl. No girl is special, irreplaceable, and indispensable. They can always be replaced and you can always find another one. Forget women and hustle. When you have too much money, you can get the best of them.

Whether you like it or not, as far as girls are concerned, their heart goes to the highest bidder (financially) that they can find. If you no get money, hide your face. That's how it is with women. Make sure you read my topic in my link below


When you are ready to settle down, pick one and marry. Don't do love, instead pick the one that will give you beautiful children and can play the role of a housekeeper. Romantic love is a scam.

I would have clicked on the like button to make it even, but I like 69.

Martinez79:
Sweet talk? Why are you acting like ladies don't know what they are doing? It's common for guys to ask ladies out, so why call it sweet talk as though the guys were brainwashing and manipulating the ladies into a relationship? Do guys asks ladies out for the sake of love or to play "chess" with them? Face the facts, boys are the ones that are usually used, sucked dry, cheated on, and dumped cold despite the sacrifices and investment in the relationship. What was their undoing? Falling in love. If you can get all these for loving someone, what does that say about the person you love? Do you still think boys are the heartless manipulators?

It happens many times and we see that by the threads with stories and pleas by unfortunate boyfriends seeking the advice of nairalanders. Despite all these, you act like boys are the manipulators and girls are the victim? Are you serious? Mind you, I am not saying that there are no bad men in relationship.

It's not news anymore, except you want to pretend, that romantic relationship is called a scam for a reason. Do you know the gender of the usual victims of this scam? That's your assignment.

- Martinez39

Cc. CAPSLOCKED, astroG, healthserve, ubunja, lukui, JONNYSPUTE, emmaodet

Niggie. Tag me in all threads, comments. And shi.t

Selfkontrol:
thanks for your observations. Using the f word for her it’s nothing. She has said worse things than that but i try not to take those things serious because I know people say a lot of things day don’t mean when angry. If my mom could tel me she regret paying my fees becos she had a bad dream about me and told me to go to church and fast and I refused lol. I know she never meant that but people say things when angry.

And for meeting new person better or not. I really don’t know. I just hate starting things afresh. This is like a girl that knows everything about me same with her. We have been together for 6 years. The love is there. Sometimes she’s just obsessed about me and when I don’t play to her beats she nags and say things. I’m really going to miss her to be honest if we break up because i know it’s hard getting a girl like that. But the same time how long can I cope with such behavior. I always feel she would change with time but how wrong or right can I be

Look man, I used to be like you. Thinking of starting over used to scare me. I used to think 'how can I meet a new person and start getting to know that person, can I actually do it?'. But when I saw what I was into wasn't healthy for me I had to start all over. It's easier than you think. Just tell yourself this, 'I'm gonna meet someone better, but peradventure I meet someone worse, I'm just gonna walk out n keep trying till I meet someone my taste'.

It's not a must you will end up with her.

Guest007:
Our resident 16 year old is back... Seun's juju has no competition, you will remain on Nairaland

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Selfkontrol:
Good morning everyone. I had to create a new account just to post this to stay anonymous. Forgive any grammatical error pls.


I have this gf of over 6 years.(note: there has been breakups between this period and even one that lasted for two years but we always come back) We started dating since my 200 level in school and there has been ups and downs between us. Quarrels, fights over all little things. She’s 24while I’m 28. Well towards final year we broke up because of a lot of things that happened. I want to be brief as possible.

I must say she’s a loving, supportive gf through out my university days but threw in the towel towards final year and started dating someone else because she couldn’t cope with my brokenness anymore. Well a lot contributed to that too. I was hurt and bitter for weeks but I didn’t blame her because she tried staying up to that moment. Even my friends where surprised becos she’s a beautiful girl. Al those period she never cheated. But to be frank, I have never seen an insecured, controlling, immature, obsessive, nagging gf all my life. I know I also had my shortcomings but this girl is worse. All our fights we had was not because I cheated but because she always assume I do. She always suspect. She’s too fast to conclude even when I’m so pure to the heart.

Fast forward to months later when things became well for me, for the fact she never cheated on me, and she really helped me during school days tho never stayed still the end. Well she was still young and immature. Being so kind and grateful, I rekindled the love we had becos we actually do love our selves. I don’t know if I was stupid doing that or just being grateful for all what we went through but one thing I know is I never regretted my decision.

Time has come and gone and we are still dating and also dealing with her nagging attitude and sometimes very rude when she’s angry. ( after school she went back to Lagos where she is based while I’m based in Warri) so I fell distance contributes too. But honestly I do ask my self if this is the girl I really want to wife because I actually love her and wants to wife her because she’s a good girl. But she nags a lot, too rude, verbally abusive, wants to be controlling. Because of this girl I never had any female friends in school because we where living together after some point. Well mostly because I couldn’t afford my own rent in full so we had to team up and rent a house. I was also isolated from my male friends.

I’m really in a big dilemma to be frank. Sometimes I’m scared if I can’t get a good girl that can be faithful and loyal as her because girls of nowadays are something else. Or I’m just stucked with her. I have actually not tried having a real gf durin our breakups because I wasn’t just ready for something new so I really don’t know. I’m confused as hell. . This girl don’t give me peace of mind sometimes. This moment she’s cool then next minute she’s something else. One incident that happened. I was on a video cal with her and an urgent call came in. I told her baby give me a few Sec to pick the call. After picking that call this girl flamed up and started giving me attitude. That I was supposed to finish that video cal with her before picking any call without even asking me who was calling. Well I’m just stating that to give you guys the kind of silly attitudes she exhibits.

The one that happened just of recent. Just last night. We didn’t speak the whole of Friday because we where avoiding each other so Saturday I called her but she gave me attitude. I left her. Later in the evening I said let me hangout with my friend. A female friend tho Out of the blues her calls came in and I picked. She asked me where I was I told her I went out. She said with who. I said must I go with someone if I want to go out like I can’t I go out alone. She started nagging and requested for a video call. I picked the call and showed her around to tell her I was alone but she never believed anything. She kept on nagging. Kept calling me repeatedly oo. See me case. Someone that didn’t have my time earlier. Well it got to a point I never picked her calls nor video calls anymore partly because the place was very noisy and because it’s embarrassing shouting on the phone and explaining to a gf in present of people. Well I have said enough.

Guys I need advice. I feel like breaking up with this girl. I don’t know if I’m just being selfish or making the right decision. I might look stupid to some people right now but all critics is allowed. I will share screenshots of the messages she sent me when I wasn’t picking her calls

First, I want to commend your written English. It shows your school fees wasn't paid in vain.

Secondly, I like your girl. I like the way she uses the 'F' word like it's nothing. Believe me such girls are rare.

It's good thing you know she's the nagging type.
She does love you n don't say she has never cheated on you, you just haven't caught her. What you should know is this, y'all have to sit down n bare you differences so you two can understand each other.

N for the part of walking out of the relationship n not meeting someone as good as her, that's a lie. In fact the beauty of this taking your pride n leaving is you don't know whom you are gonna meet next, n if she doesn't fit your standard, one thing is sure, you will still walk out of the relationship n meet another. Till you get your type. Don't be delusional about not meeting someone as good as she, you know why?

You'd meet someone better.

Psalm2423:
Sandra8

Ah swear bro...

Crazyemberr:
Wrong. Try again

Sandra8 then

Crazyemberr:
The moniker i have noticed has been the center of various mischief. Including one in which i got tied to. But i have forgiven him. Ignore dear, thats the best option.

She used dear... Are you thinking what I'm thinking?

MrMike96:
Rekhina
denreledave
martinez39
lukui
newguyhere
omar09

Bro you tag me, you want make I deactivate?

I no go anywhere. We die here

Oh no. I don't not even for one day.

Iogobenz:
I know but I don't just want any gift.
I want something that can excite a girl her age...
That was my point.

Look man it's your cash... You should feel good giving her the gift. It's your feelings that matters not hers. Whether or not she likes it will determine your next step with her. If she gives you the slightest impression that she doesn't, dump her so you won't cry foul later. If she likes, thread with care. Bi.tches ain't worth it.

Too bad I was beginning to like that girl Lilly something something. Well shi.t happens.

victorian:
Hmmmmm!

Well everyone is not the same . There should be an exception to few people out there and I happen to fall in that percentage of exceptional people .

So don't worry he's in good hands and company .

I won't hurt his feelings .

OK. You are very much correct.

ah swear

allandutch:
As in ehn.... The guy even mention seun to show how serious the matter be.

victorian:
Lol

I don't know o


But inbetween what's your own sef? If I friend zone him or not ?

Ayam not understanding again o

Nothing oh, but I'm just stating the obvious. Been there

Blackivy27:
Story sounds familiar!

Cause you've fed a guy the same bull crap.