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Can you imagine..I thought he wanted to say he is about 3ft tall.He is not serious

I cant remember the last time I ate a man's money or begged him for one .All my phones and other expenses over the years, I bought them myself. I learnt this from my mother that there is dignity in spending the money of your sweat. So guys chill, not every woman eat from you.
Relationships have come and gone and cant remember asking them for money except they give me in form of gift without me asking for it

I feel embarrass asking guys for money, If ladies can be content with what they have and spend only what they can afford, I dont think our male folks will be this bitter or calling us gold diggers.

Well ,as for the students, .guys what else do you expect from your girl friends that are students? even uncles and aunties give them money to support them too..so stop complaining when you are dating a student.

FrLukas:
this is very true. i know a number of people who fell victim to this kind of trap back in the day.

Christmas and New year celebrations are near and people want to make the money they didn't make from January to November.

I was once a victim to that trick..I was asked about a location by a man that pretended to come from Cameroon.He said he is a merchant and was left stranded by his Nigerian friend, so he wanted a warehouse he can take his product to..Immediately I answered, That was it. I was immediately hypnotized. Suddenly, another guy pretending to be passing bye heard our conversation and joined us, unknowingly to me they are working together.
.I later found myself in a remote village outskirt of the city and was asked to go to parent house to collect money and gold as they are out of town for a relative's burial. I still did not see anything wrong with their request, so on our way back to my resident, I was saved my former neighbor who wanted to know what i am doing in such a remote area.That was when they both disappeared ..the rest is history
Thank God they were not ritualist but thieves. So it is true..you would not recollect anything until you are back home(if you are lucky to) that was when everything started replaying out to me..I felt very stupid and drained.Thank God I am still alive.

Black women that bleach their skin are the ones with very low self esteem.They are a disgrace to the black race.

Miniso:
i have a nokia 3.1 for sale 30k dm me for more details lagos only

10k nko!!I need a phone for my younger cousin

majamajic:
Bar or Church

Church ke..haba na!!

AmuDimpka:
Yoruba man... South West is it Ogbomosho, Akure or ibadan that is biggest slum or is it Ado or Ilesan or okitipupa

Abeg which South West again apart from former capital which is Lagos and have been divided by Igbo and hausa with Ijaw tribes


Tell me one South West city that is better than Onitsha which is not a capital or more industrialised than Nnewi which is not a capital


Why is the average Yoruba daft and stupid ?

I dont think the OP intent is to steer up any anger or tribal bashing here ...It is just an innocent question that i found fascinating too. I too from the Niger Delta sometimes do wonder why so many Igbos travel to the east during the festive period especially in Decembers; even if it takes them to start their journey on the eve of Christmas and arrived there on Christmas day..It is just a question that requires a simple answer to educate others. Though this practice is not only peculiar to the Igbos but the Igbos travel more than other tribes to thier villages during the festive period and it is a big deal for them...Anyway sorry you took it the wrong way.

I did not see any booing ..all i saw were people applauding this man for his speech with a only a handful of person who did otherwise..Lai was not booed.We Nigerians are cowards ..and our men are worse off.

0ppa:
Talking 'bout celebrations, JW do commemorate Jesus' death. Can you cite any bible verse urging us to celebrate Birthdays, New Year or, say Christmas? I'm waiting.
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JW refuse blood transfusions, and yes, there are other acceptable means for one's life sustainability. Please ask me questions.

ur stupid religious belief about blood transfusion ended her life.she would have been Alive today had she not join ur yeye religion.I don't know what she found in JW.Now the husband is remarried..life goes on.pls don't quote me again.bye

Yeye religion.My cousin joined this religion and lost her life becos she & her husband refuse any blood transfusion during her complicated delivery. Now she is dead and life goes on.
They are the most weird and boring people u can ever be with .They are totally cut off from every celebration of life..even muslims pertake birthdays and new year celebration.
They are hypocrite that just like quoting the Bible .They pretend to be holier than others meanwhile they also engage in these devices that they accuse non JW about.I don't like them.

if all the women u have come across are stupid with have nothing to offer, then it means u are either too broke to go for the intelligent and independent ladies or you are just as stupid as the ladies you usually date.You only attract your kind.This is why there is room for dating in order to determine if the lady is someone u can start a relationship with or not .Well what do u broke guys do these days ?u ask a girl out for a Mr Biggs date, then the next thing is "when are u coming to my house "..then after several random sex , u come to naira land and rant of how useless Nigerian women are.Thesame women that are wives to so many men , they support their husband both financially and emotionally without announcing to the world about their deed some are even bread winners .women like ur mother that went through so many sacrifice to raise u up.Are u saying ur mother and sister ,cousin and aunties are all stupid with nothing to offer?remember they were young ladies before they became women of substance .Pls stop abusing all Nigerian women .we have the good the bad and the urgly among them.

crackhaus:
This is very good to know, I had heard of this but still had my doubts considering the noise being made by gender equality advocates about Nigerian women not being allowed to inherit property.

I guess they made that up as usual, and the truth is women do in fact inherit properties from their parents.

Maybe in the East..women are usually deprived from inheriting their parents properties

crackhaus:
First of all, please list those places where married women can inherit properties.
Single unmarried daughters could be given an inheritance, but I'm not so sure about the married ones.

Is this happening to someone you know?
If so, where?

I'm interested...

when my mum died properties were shared among her daughters both single and married.Delta state

Janelle08:
Hi Nairalanders,

What is your opinion on this topic.

In a situation where a woman receives some inheritance from her father or a share of her late father's property, is she expected to hand over her inheritance (money) to her husband?

Married folks over to you. Women, how will you handle your inheritance? Men, how do you expect your wives to handle her inheritance?

I will tell him about it and any proceeds that comes out of it will be use for the family but it will be named after our children.

APC supporters hope u guys are very proud of your government in the way they organize this election?Helicopter discharging tear gas on the populace just becos of election and u guys would rather look the other way and feel all is well. This is pathetic and sickening.

Na Delta state and Akwa Ibom remain for APC to win.Anyway..APC & PDP are not any better. Election is over so, Well let the suffering continue then.

DNAconverter:
I actually boarded Dana flight piloted by Indian captain and first officer from Lagos to Abuja earlier this morning and the experience was not good at all.

pele.I am the sure take off and land was not smooth..

JaceBlaze:
Nigerians have given Africans abroad a bad name with their human trafficking and drug peddling crimes.Why should anybody defend or live in the same community with your kind? and you guys are known to be the biggest tribal & religious bigots amongst yourselves in Nigeria....Hypocrites make me sick

Then what are you doing in thier community..You see how pathetic you seem? Why are you interested in their activities if you cannot stand them? hmmm!! Even if we quarrel online and act as if we are about to kill one another here online..it does not reflect in the real world.Remember we have so many children and teenagers on the internet and hiding behind their phone and laptop to spew out rubbish..if you take every thing people say online hook line and sinker from the internet then you utterly not that intelligent.
We use event happening on ground to assess who we are and not what happens here.We intermarry every day here in Nigeria.If you were to go by what you see here, you would think we do not see eye to eye but we do. The divide only occur here and when election come to determine who to vote for.
I am done with you. I shouldn't be talking to you because you are my enemy.Please do not quote me back.You don't belong here.So get out.

dhardline:
I have totally stopped dropping trash on the road/streets even as little as a sweet rapper I put it in my pocket till I see a trash can at home or the office.
Anywhere there is a queue I gentle wait my turn and avoid jumping queues.
I avoid giving bribes to get things done faster. I allow it to run its due course(if every single person does this all who ask for bribes will desist)
I don't just criticize but will proffer solution if need be.
E. T. C

same here. I dispose of my waste appropriately even when I am on the road,I do not throw waste on the street and drainage. I Reuse my plastic cans that could have easily be thrown away.
I hope Nigerians with start treating their environment with upmost care , so that we can have a cleaner environment.Lagos is filled with alot garbage with polluted canals, lake and lagoons , street and drainage. Everywhere is dirt that oozes all around the place.A terrible sight to behold

TMKsouth:
We get along very well as black South Africans which is more than i can say about you "black" Nigerians. Go through any page on this forum and you'll be met by the most ghastly tribalism that black South Africans cannot even fathom. So don't tell me about "MY OWN KIND".

And if you wanna preach to me about brotherly love how about you Nigerians stop selling drugs and running prostitution rings. You gonna deny it but let me remind you tht just a couple of years ago your own country was in the midst of a codeine epidemic at the hands of your own brothers and chemists. So you should think of the many black lives that have been lost due to drugs and the associated crimes here in SA before you cry about your blood shed during xenophobic upheavels. YOU DESERVE IT.

Yes we might be tribalistic and quarrel on the internet but that does not reflect in the real world.what matters to the world is what happens in the real world and not in the virtual word where I do not know whom I am talking to.I prefer that to your peaceful internet relationship and on the other hand engaging in violence ,rape and xenophobic attack against other people. Well we might have our own internal issue just the way families have problems but still come together in time of danger to defend one another..our internal fight is ours to ponder over just the way you have internal issue in your country which we do not meddle into. But when you go about killing other Africans becos you guys are too lazy to work but would rather blame your problems on other people then something is wrong some where in that brain of black SA .
Yes Nigerians have been tag drugs peddlers(Both the guilty and the innocent are caught up in the cross fire) that is why you killed ,maimed and looted their shop..Right? so what about the Mozambicans, the Zimbabweans, the Somalians, and other African people that were also attacked in the xenophobic attack or even attacked at certain time ..Are you saying they deal with drugs and prostitution too? so all the foreigners are the criminal and you lot saint.
You guys are really pathetic , lazy and Ignorant.You hide under the "they are selling drug,they engage in prostitution,they are taking our job and stealing our woman" just to perpetuate hatred toward other African nationals, just becos they can do jobs that you guys are too lazy to do. Pls spare us the excuse for justifying your nonsense act.
Come to think of it, if you hate us so much, then what the hell are you doing here?..why are you in a Nigeria forum, we dont want you here? we are drug peddlers and prostitute? so why are you in their forum and interested in their in house fighting? why don't you go to your SA forum where your folks celebrate your xenophobic activities and spare us the headache of justifying xenophobia and plans on how to make the next kill. I am yet to see a SA black man that is not filled with hate..with nothing to offer to the world. He engages in all kind violence and Rape against even their own women after drawing and exchanging blood from one another with needle just to get high ( oooo! Nigerian are the Rapist too? waaoooo!)..you guys are even more messed up than we Nigerians, even with our numerous problems.How can you guys use needle to drag and inject yourselves with blood from another person who just had cocaine so that they can also get high..who does that..did Nigerian teach you guys that too.I saw the video and it is was troubling and pathetic .

TMKsouth:
We get along very well as black South Africans which is more than i can say about you "black" Nigerians. Go through any page on this forum and you'll be met by the most ghastly tribalism that black South Africans cannot even fathom. So don't tell me about "MY OWN KIND".

And if you wanna preach to me about brotherly love how about you Nigerians stop selling drugs and running prostitution rings. You gonna deny it but let me remind you tht just a couple of years ago your own country was in the midst of a codeine epidemic at the hands of your own brothers and chemists. So you should think of the many black lives that have been lost due to drugs and the associated crimes here in SA before you cry about your blood shed during xenophobic upheavels. YOU DESERVE IT.

Well we might have our own internal issue just the way families have problems but still come together in time of danger to defend one another.Our internal fight is ours to ponder over, just the way you have internal issue in your country which we do not meddle into, but when you go about killing other Africans becos you guys are too lazy to work and would rather blame your problems them for you pathetic life .Yes Nigerians have been tag drugs peddlers that is why you killed ,maimed and looted their shop, so what about the Mozambicans, the Zimbabweans, the Somalians, and other African people that were caught up in the xenophobic attack or even attacked at certain time ..what is their crime?Are you saying they deal with drugs and prostitution too?
You guys are really pathetic , lazy and Ignorant.You hide under the "they are selling drug,they engage in prostitution,they are taking our job and stealing our woman" just to perpetuate hatred toward other African nationals just becos they can do jobs that you guys are too lazy to do. Pls spare us the excuse for justifying your nonsense act.
Come to think of it, if you hate us so much, then what the hell are you doing here?..why are you in a Nigeria forum, we don't want you here. We are drug peddlers and prostitute? so why are you in their forum and interested in their in house fighting? why don't you go to your SA forum where your folks celebrate your xenophobic activities and spare us the headache of justifying xenophobia and plans on how to make the next kill. I am yet to see a SA black man that is not filled with hate..and nothing to offer to the world. He engages in all kind violence and Rape against their own women after drawing and exchanging blood from one another with needle from their folk who just finish taking cocaine or heroin, just to get high .You guys are even more messed up than we Nigerians, even with our numerous problems.When I saw the video of the extent you guys can go in getting high, i decided to doff my hat for you black SA...

WorWorBoy2:
BlackSaints is a Nigerian.

Then he is a disgrace..of all people to support/defend..certainly not black SA.

BlackSaints:
Clown it is Nigeria women you are defending? Nigeria women that are prostitutes all over the world. Prostitutes in Italy,Spain, Germany, France, all over Europe, all over Asian, all over Americans.

Women that are prostitutes in shilhole countries like Ghana, Cameroon, Togo, ivory coast , Senegal, Mali, Burkina Faso and co? and I'm sure they are also prostitutes in south African as well. The reasons they are not getting married to black south men is because, black south Africa men do not find them attractive. If not, you could have see your so-called Nigeria women getting married to black south Africa men en-masses duh.

Nigerian women( all of them? including the ones you know?) though we might have some Nigeria women doing degrading things for money but it does not mean we are all prostitutes. We have hard working women in Nigeria and some abroad working their ass out for a better life.
Please next time, learn how put some and not paint all of us with one brush for if that were the case, then it will mean that you will be painted with the same brush the drug dealers, scammers/Fraudsters, ritualist are painted with.etc.

Nigerian women are really not into SA black men becos majority of them are Lazy,irresponsible and a nuisance to their society..the little good ones left are rushed off by their SA women. So why should we go there when we have so many responsible and hard working Educated men in Nigeria that are striving to keep their head up above water against all odd.

TMKsouth:
Before u bash the blacks - again - u should know white South Africans are some of the most racist in the whole wide world. She's gonna have a very tough time integrating into his social life. Where's his family and friends in these photos. All i see is a million Nigerians and just 2 whites. Goodluck to her and to u for the white d1ck riding.

We all know the the white south Africans are bloody racist and their actions toward another race especially the blacks are terrible and sad. But what you black south Africans have done and still doing to your own race is even worse off.. Even Animals in the jungle protect their own and fight for anothers' survival. please watch Animal documentaries and see for your self.

You black south Africans are worse than the racist white. You have killed and maimed your own kind due to your own insecurity and ignorance, just becos you feel you are better off than them and they are vulnerable .You guys dont know what community is, if you do, you would not kill another black man that did you no wrong, but rather will fight with him against any aggression from another race just like the way the rest of Africa stood by you guys in the dark years of Apartheid. Before accusing the racist white which we Nigerians know they are, Kindly remember to point at your self and your South African brethren for your xenophobic tendencies against your fellow race.You and your kind are not any better.

Ladiesdoctor:
Igbo girls: Dem go tell you say dem be Ada and Ada no dey marry outside, but immediately an oyibo man come say he wan marry her the Ada syndrome will be forgotten sharp sharp. Why na? Dem no dey do Adamma with oyibo?
*Ada syndrome is a scam*

Edo girls: Any oyibo man is welcome, whether Afghanistan, Iraqi, Chinese, Bolivian, Fiji, Guyanese, international albino all na oyibo man to Edo ladies. I just hope say dem no go transport witchcraft go there one day.
Step ahead for olosho factory business.

God of heaven!!..why you funny like this?..I busted out laughing reading this your mischievous comment

AyakaDunukofia:
NO, she is Igbo from the EBIGWEI family of Ogwashi Uku. Her uncle Dr. Sylvan Ebigwei used to be the Ohaneze Ndigbo scribe.

Then why she kon dress like Benin woman...?

TrendingGist:
Linda, one of the stars of the original LITV reality show, Oyinbo Wives of Lagos, wed her Caucasian fiance.

Recall Gistmore reported their pre-wedding photoshoot, below are pictures from their traditional wedding.

Gist from Gistmore : http://gistmore.com/traditional-wedding-photos-of-south-african-man-and-his-nigerian-bride

Is she the mother of those kids? then she has a wonderful body for a mother of five..Cute wedding anyway.

Madam you are a good wife and many men do take advantage of women like you especially when they have them as wives..
I am sure if he married a selfish, nagging and an inconsiderate wife , he would have hit the street looking for job at all cost.
So many men like this are dreamers and they like building castles in the air.They will count millions that they have dreamt about over and over again and continue to put all their hope in that virtual project that is not feasible.
I had an elder brother like that..he is a dreamer . I was in secondary school (back in mid to late the 90s) when he started talking about how he is about hitting it big with millions from one project after another...he has always be interested in politics but the funny thing is that all those he used to call his boys back then, are far gone in politics but he is no where to be found..He refuse to work for anyone for he felt it was a waste of time..so he continued his life like that till he got married and still continued dreaming.
They always dream and get involve in politics and hope that one day they will make their millions through politic or other gigantic project that one cannot even see; They do these without caring on how to provide for their homes and families. He is in his mid fifty now and he is still dreaming with nothing to show for it ( his wife have left him ,she is fending for their children without any assistance from him because he does not have money to support them).

Tell your husband to look for any job that can bring money on a weekly or monthly basis ...if he can drive, then what stop him from doing UBER while he continues to pursue his dream?( you can look for UBER providers here on Nairaland that are looking for good drivers to drive their cars .
If he has pride he should swallow it for the well being of his family.

I hope he is not a lazy man. A real man does not feel comfortable when his wife becomes a bread winner for a long time without him feeling odd and out of place..most especially when they are physically and mentally fit to work.
You can some times massage his ego so as not to make him feel less than a man but at the same time you self need to put small pressure or fire under his ass to get a job and be a provider while you both still hope for the big thing to come.

femi4:
The man was occupied with school fees, house rent ...the woman should give it a joint name

What the hell are you talking about..? do you know women are silently sole providers in their various house holds without even a fly knowing about it? this they do quietly in other to support their husband. They do not say it out in other not to embarrass thier men, since society expect a man to be the provider of the family , while the women support the home.

Here you are talking as if you are still in the 80s and 90s. Things have really changed oo! I think these women should be celebrated for adding more work to their natural load that nature and society already expect them to do.

Let couples discuss and decide what works for them.,If the husband has an archaic mind set such as "women must not have properties in her name becos she is a wife whose dowry has been paid so what ever she get must be in the family name" then the woman must do the needful to protect herself and children from any unforeseen circumstances.

okusebi:
I think, if the couples are legally married, except there is a prenup that says otherwise, all properties belong to both parties regardless of whose name is on the documents. if there is a divorce, the properties will be shared accordingly based on their resolution. most Nigerian women really don't know their marital rights.

This one wey you dey talk only applies when dem do court marriage oo! if na only Traditional and church..how you won fight am pass for this yeye country where case dey drag for years.

PHIPEX:
That one is no more a wife but a competitor. This whole thing stems from lack of trust in a family. Does it mean because my wife's name is not in my car particulars she can not go to court to claim it in my absence? Are we saying this applies to the chairs, TVs Fridge or is it only for landed property?

This kind of advice create artificial problems in homes in the name of civilisation. If the wife should own a property in order to will it to the children, what different does it make if the husband wills same property to same children?

It now depend on the environment where this stuff happens. Like in the East and some SS states, if anything happens to the man, (God forbid) his family will come and fight the woman over properties especially when there is no will to protect the woman and her children. Women are not seen as fit to own properties in those regions and some other society in Nigeria. What about if the woman has only girls with no male child and she wishes for her daughters to inherit her properties without some stupid tradition getting in the way. There are many injustice against woman especially when the husband is deceased, so it is good for the woman to have some form of security in her name against any unforeseen events.Women (especially when they are educated)have more liberties in the cities to fight for their late husbands properties than other less civilized society where these injustice is still being practiced.

Sanchez01:
My point is, your mindset reveals you have a space already reserved for 'wàhálà', particularly when your other half buys something solely in his name. Before it gets to that point, spend more time looking/talking for/about these stuff prior to marriage.

If you sit a male down and he tells you that he sees no reason why he should buy properties in both your names, then by all means bail or walk away to avoid future problems.

The idea of doing things seperately, particularly property related voids marriage design. I know some would claim 'anything can happen tomorrow'. The idea of 'anything can happen' in itself gives an idea that they are going into a lifetime commitment with a higher probability of bailing tomorrow.

I sincerely wonder what people discuss in courtship these days.

Even the bible says we should guard our heart with all diligent for out of it flow the issues of life"..She is referring to while she is married and not before it..Of cos one would bail out from any relationship where either of the party is self centered .

Now in a situation while you are blissfully married and the man or woman pulls that kind of stunt, what would you have her do? purchase a property and include the mans name too? Some people are wired differently when it comes to their properties. They can be lovey-dovey all the way but not when their properties are involve.

In this situation it is better they both have their properties and include their spouses and children as their next of kin. It does not change anything, nor does it mean they do not love each other. My grand aunt and her husband had this same arrangement with their properties and their marriage lasted for 50 years. They are late now and their children inherited both properties. Couples should discuss this among themselves and practice what ever work for them, as long as there is openness in whatever they do, I dont think there will be any issue..we too dey attach sentiment to things for Naija sha.