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Classicqueen, you've posted pictures of people I know Sequins is a fresh, modern fabric for a bridal train. Just ensure that the bride's outfit really stands out so she doesn't get overshadowed.

For fresh flowers, please call Mrs Ogbonna (08033249570) or Rosety gardens. This is one of Mrs Ogbonna's bouquets. Excellent work and it's cheaper to call them rather than buy from a Wedding Florist. Try and use tropical flowers as well as imported flowers (below was Coxcomb, Flame of the forest, red roses and Gerbera Daisies).

Cakes by Luella also do great cakes.

These are all based in Lagos.

Please join in the conversation. These pictures are just to ginger our professionals into pushing themselves to the next level. A new year is coming and whilst the economy looks bad, people will want more value for their money and will only spend on the best. Rather than get a ho-hum cake for N8000, I'd rather pay N25, 000 for a cake that will wow my guests and make everyone get the baker's contact info. So please use the pixtures and practuse your craft as there are too many people out there baking so the exceptional ones have to stand out.

more cupcakes as wedsing cakes

Cupcakes as wedding cakes: my friends did this at their wedding recently and it was a lovely idea. Try pitching it to that unusual bride you meet who is looking for something to wow her, as it's very modern and fresh.

Birth announcement cakes

Rainbow cakes look so delicious but imagine if the outer part of the cake was covered in candy to match the inner colours...

This is a marvelous cake that looks like an aquarium, the maker says she melted candy to get the look.

More...

cakes that showcase the client's tastes, whether an animal lover, a dressmaker or a film buff, would be so much fun from. the standard cakes.

These are unique birthday cakes here, character cakes taken to a whole new level using Disney and other cartoons.

Hello!

In the spirit of the season, let's look at some fantastic looking cakes that bakers can aspire to create. Starting with some unusual wedding cakes, I really love the one with flowers.

Southern Sun breakfast buffet is nice, especially after church on a Sunday.

TUTU MAKING TUTORIAL

I haven't made one but I made something with the concept for an adult, so it's not hard.

If you have a day, you can make it (I don't know any tailors right now).

You can find all the materials pretty easily: the knit base is the same they use for hairbands or just buy elastic and tulle. Shikena. And you don't need to sew (because I can barely sew but it's easy).

If you don't want the tutu layers to be the same length, cut the top layers shorter than the bottom layers. So if your lower length is 6" cut 4" for the top layer.

Measure the tulle into the length for the baby and then tie it round the band, add more tulle to make it full. Fluff when you're done or add a bow.

If you know your tailor can do it, let him/her do it. But a tutu is really easy to make.

Barcholder,

How many people can afford solar power? And if solar was the way forward, why are more developed countries struggling to adopt it on a wide scale?

Can solar power run a fast-growing industrial economy, cheaply?

I'm asking as someone who once supported alternative forms of energy (clean and cheap was my motto) but is looking at the realities on ground.

Hmm, I'm conflicted about this...

Where I stay, we pay a high tariff. As in, ridiculously high. But we also have light 12-18 hours daily. I mean, once in a while 4 hours of no light will occur but in general I am usually surprised to find no light at home. Where my brother stays, high tariff but almost 21 hours of light. The management uses diesel generators so no-one is having sleepless nights about fuel scarcity and gens. I can plan laundry and cooking and expect light to be available, rather than hope for the best, yet be paying bills (which is what most Nigerians are getting).

Granted, it is really bad and the rates are high and the surcharges not pretty. But at our former place, bills were reaching N38, 000 monthly with 5 hours of light on a decent day if we got lucky.

Would you prefer to pay high and get it? Or keep fighting and spend money and be stressed on generators?

goldmine:
Thanks for the response. Yes, nipples are cracked and sore. DS seems to latch well but DD's mouth is small. Even getting the nipple alone into her mouth successfully is when she's practically screaming. Would keep trying to get them both to latch properly.

Ask her pediatrician to check if she has either Upper Lip tie or Tongue Tie. There's a Yoruba name for it. It's a piece of muscle which develops pretty thick and stops babies from being able to open their mouths properly. They usually cut it or laser it off but some people leave it and hope it reduces by itself when the child is a teenager.

So, what is stopping the masses from stoning these guys every time they appear in public? Just imagine if they are their families lived in terror of messing up because they knew they would be held responsible.

Or are you guys still waiting for God to come and do it for you?

Okay.

igb400:
Thanks for the reply... my DD will be 1year jan. want to start giving her tea to drink. Pls which is best for her? Milo, hollicks, bornvita or any other u can suggest.

my dear, I dunno. I think all 3 are the same in my eyes. Perhaps other mamas can answer better.

Newmum15:
Pls what technique did you use for her to collect cereal?Cos I need to start feeding my baby.If my son wakes up fully in the middle of the night,I can as well kiss any hope of sleep goodbye that night.Lol

Singing with the spoon. Seriously and let baby constantly watch you eat so they get used. to. the idea that food comes sitting upright and in a spoon and not a bottle.

Keji3 and Newmum15,

I'm totally in the same boat and Baby E is constantly waking at night. We are trying to sleep train her but shes just starting cereals. We will have to ignore her cries at night and we've noticed that if she wakes up less, she sleeps better. So it's to get earplugs and hope for the best till she learns how to self-soothe.

rezzy:
Nothing is wrong with it. When my baby was doing that, his day care nanny asked me if I ate snail while pregnant. She said whenever he does that, I should use turning garri stick to turn him.

Did I answer her? Hell no

For the sake of curiosity, could you give her a doll and a garri turning stick to demonstrate the technique for posterity sake.

igb400:
Good evening all the mama's in the house. Pls has anyone taken fenugreek supplement to aid the flow of breast milk. I really want to breastfeed my 2nd LO. Thanks

It works. I took it for months. Just keep dehydrated and eat well.

[quote author=jadelyn007 post=40924417]Why is everyone saying the op is too young at 21 to be married? And why is it an impossibility to get married and go to school at the same time? My parents did it, a lot of my female relatives have done it and it worked for them, one even graduated with first class.[quote]No-one is saying 21is too young to marry, but her maturity version of 21is too young. And I had many married classmates: they were constantly dumping their schoolwork. on us when it came to group assignments because they had other responsibilities. It drove me mad (why do I have to do your job because you made a choice that doesn't concern me?! ) its not easy and the OP was blithely sailing into it.

romance007, it seems you guys have a plan. But don't marry now or next year. You cannot control pregnancy (one of my sis got pregnant on an IUD) and your mini business has to be super-successful to fund your schooling if things get tight for him. Please don't let him pay your school fees as when he gets frustrated, he will resent you and you won't understand why he "forgot" he wanted this. And do start paying a bill in your home now so you know what it feels like. All the best.

romance007:
I appreciate you all for your contributions. Though i still got some perturbing questions. Pardon me if am silly.
When it is said it's not easy combining marriage and academics, BESIDES CHILDBIRTH, which other troubles are there?
I currently go to school from my parents home. Thus;
I got a multitude of dishes to wash daily whereas i may end up washing just 2 pieces in my husband's house.
I got several rooms and the compound to sweep sometimes twice daily whereas only some few with less dirt in my husband's house.
I got a community to cook for whereas i got to cook only for two in my husband's house.
I got Mummy, Daddy, and siblings to attend to their errands even after the stress of school whereas it's just my husband's errand i have if married. That's besides the possibility of having a househelp if it becomes too necessary.
I got my siblings assignment to assist with whereas my Husband's assignment would only be on Bed
Daddy wont assist me with that school assignment neither will mummy whereas i believe my husband will be there to assist.
I dont have to chat for hours on call or whatsapp with him since he will be having me around almost always meaning less distractions.
Plus i dont get the pressure of selfservice since he's gonna be there almost whenever needed
favoured234, vilight

Moreso, i dont contribute anything financially to my parents at the moment; Its gonna be the same thing with my hubby too until i graduate of course or he establish small biz for me as we are already planning.
So i ask again, besides the stress of pregnancy and child rearing, anyone wanna educate me on other troubles i havent seen cos of love blindness? Pls dont mind my foolishness if any, Its just LOVE . Thanks

Oh sweetie.

After this comment, your mental age in most people's eyes dropped from 21 to 18 (or even younger).

See, washing plate and sweeping is not the hardest thing in marriage. Cooking is actually one of the easiest things in marriage. But the one thing you are under-rating, is the biggest one that will cause most of your issues:

PREGNANCY AND PARENTHOOD.

Everything is easier until you have to care for a child. Your parents did it and because they didn't tell you how hard it was, you now think it's easy.

Cooking= 2 hours by yourself, max
Cooking with a child= good luck finishing up in 3 hours

Chores with your siblings=1 hour as long as you marshall them into working
Chores with your baby= well, if your baby will eventually agree to sleep on your back, you'll have more time whilst you tiredly move around your house.

Bills with your parents= what bills? Buying credit is not a bill
Bills with your husband and child= let' s see, one immunization injection can go for N14, 000 (minus the 10 more you will need), you will panickedly start asking for cheaper diapers than Pampers, then creche is never cheap, and good luck finding a nanny who doesn't resent the constant wailing of your child and you need fuel (babies shouldn't sleep. in the heat abi), oohh right, food (formula is like N2500 per can for the cheap ones), then you need to do your hair, look nice, hubby needs fuel for the gen (and there are queues) etcetera...

Frustration is the most common emotion in these parts and it takes a lot of maturity and patience not to transfer it to your spouse. So please calculate the number of people managing their frustrations properly by reading the crime section, family section and health section. Remember too, that every horror story you read, started with a happy couple. And some were more prepared than you.

I was actually going to tell you to wait 2 years but now I'll increase it to 3 years. You're not ready and you're walking in blind and naive. And you will probably learn the hard way that marriage is more than egusi soup, sweeping and washing clothes. And there is a 65% chance that you will end up watching your words very carefully in that house or courting a beating from your husband, especially with the age difference (my love this is Nigeria, where every wife beater loves Jesus more than the Disciples).

If you really wanna be a bit more ready, either face school or start a business and start contributing to your family's expenditure. Why not start paying NEPA bill monthly, so you'll understand how frustrating it is to count out money for something you don't have often (that is how Nigeria works). While you're assuming that bill, go and read this thread below:
https://www.nairaland.com/971395/new-born-babies-u-new
so you can see what mothers go through.

Because at the rate you're going and how short-sighted you are (the economy is crashing and here you are rushing headlong into being a man's liability by expecting him to open a business for you or support you financially and he won't remember he was encouraging you to to not think of your future carefully, nah slap e go use chase u the day he comes home tired and broke and u start asking for money for business, money for diaper and househelp, money for church sowing seed blah blah), I really dont want to see you on NL later on, sounding bitter.

We already have too many bitter men and women here, don't add yourself to that number darling.

modath:
I can't get over the fact the pulling & twisting hasn't helped anyone who isn't putting in regular work to maintain muscular /joint flexibility/ dexterity..

watch " So you think you can dance" on youtube & one of our numerous dance shows, then compare & see what years of constant practice & sheer dedication in contrast to picking up interest in something at a more advanced age as is obtainable in this clime....

Practice makes perfect..

@ onegai, we sabi bata & atilogwu dance for here, so we know sonhin pass eyinbo.

please please please! They have not even been sharp, to use their Atilogwu and Bata to start a cultural centre and showcase and teach classes and translate it into film and television, thus keeping the culture alive and at the same time generating a good source of income. Nigerians can have half-baked reasons for doing unnecessary things. At least in China, when they stretch the toddlers in Gymnasiums, we know they will end up on a podium somewhere in the future.

I used to love So You Think You Can Dance o. Have you watched any performances by SPAN here in Nigeria? They're not bad and they train abroad.

daretodiffer:
I have seen this scenario before

The mother was invited to live with the family but other family members came along(at least that was what they kinda did). They are always visiting in the name missing mama.

The man is not strong enough jare. A man that cannot control his family must be divorced!!!

This scenario is common and after he has beaten the wife to nonsense (especially during her pregnancy), once the wife decides to leave, hot tears start flowing and the man starts running everywhere begging people to tell his wife to stay and at the same thing threatening the wife if she dare leaves.

By the 3rd case in which I heard this, I wanted to ask the man "but you say this wife is bad that is why you kept beating her till she lost her baby. Why are you now refusing to let her go? "

I simply don't understand.

livelystone:
d same with my MiL o....twist hand, twist leg, massage waist, massage neck with hot water. I won d agbo thing easily with her cos she dey fear fear easily all I need to do is tell her one ugly story. That's how she said I should be pouring hot water inside my 1wk+ baby's anus to prevent Jedi. Baby wey I born at 35wks+ and still suppose dey womb.

Story. My mum stopped doing that for all grandchildren when we asked her to write down a list of all Nigerian gymnasts or competitive cheerleaders who had won an award. Children will be flexible no matter what.

The one that annoys me is the throwing up and down and dangling with one hand to shake the baby. Le Husb's aunt tried it once and since then, I haven't gone to see her (she refused to hear "please stop).

proudmom38:
Hello mothers. Pls can I give my 4wks+10days baby follow-on formula? Dh mistakenly bought d follow-on formula instead of d infant formula.I dont knw if they wil change it 4 us tommorow wen he get they as it might be 2 late. Thanks.


cc:modath,kimony,rezzy,onegai,mytestimony,mummy2be,tcwinnie n other sabi mamas.

I have no idea, but why not try first, maybe they'll exchange if the receipt is presented.

Beryl15:
Pls mamas, anyone know where I can get it in Lagos? I've check the stores around me & didn't find.

It's on the island, I've seen it at Ebeano but also check Shoprite (they may have it).

If you play string or wind Nigerian instruments, you will be in much demand because there are a lot of drummers but fewer wind and string players. So go to your village and learn them. I know a lady who went to Badagey to learn Talking Drum and now British Council supports her.

Package your culture and people will throw money at you. I know people who toured the U.S. teaching Nigerian languages and got paid. Same with music, people are requesting for drumming classes and if you are skilled, they are willing to fly you out to teach them.

Hello old thread!

I've got some info to share.

Instead of everyone trying to rush into Naija pop music (its the most visible but only a few will actually make it there, please explore other avenues).

Do you know you can get grants from the British Council and others if you play a local instrument like Talking Drum, Goje or more? Just be very skilled at it (they will test you on it).

Also, playing local music is beginning to get attention as good film. directors are now looking for musicians to score their movies. Kunle Afolayan for one and a lot of documentaries shot in Africa prefer local music.

If you can get together and form an orchestra with modern western instruments and local instruments, MUSON will be willing to listen to you.

Also improve your skills by playing publicly. Get some acoustic guitarists and local guitarists and busk in places like Unilag Amphitheatre and Freedom Park. Keep working on your craft.

A lot of people. are now interested in local African music and we should stop ignoring our African instruments and competing with people who have mastered their own instruments for years.