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I use clothe nappies, the modern type. They are not harder to use than disposables and I prefer the fit and look of them. I chose them for their looks, economy and environmental factors (it's also preferred by doctors abroad because cotton is a breathable fabric and lets air get to moist places on baby's bum, so fewer rashes). im avoiding exposing myself and baby to so many harsh chemicals and you'd be surprised how many they are in most mainstream products targeted at babies. i have a washing machine though and the Nigerian sun is the best bleach ever. I like matching the nappies to her outfits. Nappies are not hard to use and we get so many leaks from disposables (especially the a nigerian-made ones). Even with washing nappies, I can reuse them for multiple kids so they will always be slightly cheaper than disposables (though we use disposies at night because hubby is on diaper duty then). The modern cloth nappies are super absorbent and don't need bleach, not the old Terry cloth types. There's a push in western countries towards a more organic lifestyle but it's yet to get traction in Nigeria (some few of us are. into an organic lifestyle).

I think you shouldn't force anything on your wife, both of you need to agree on everything.

homesteady:
All these girls here are shameless set of evil witches! SMH!
Did Dr Adadevo know Patrick Sawyer medical history before detaining him and possibly sedating him? Stop displaying your sexist ignorance, Almost all sedatives are safe for everybody!

You are not educated. If you were, you won't say that.

Is this what Nigeria is producing as graduates? So Lexotan and all Barbiturates are now safe for everyone??

homesteady:
Yes I called her a terrorist! Isn't she one? Or do you think you must have bombs strapped all over your body for you to be a terrorist? She is a bioterrorist, whose wish is to spread HIV to innocent people.
Who keeps demands for an HIV test from his girlfriend? Be realistic here! Did your boyfriend ask you to perform HIV test ? Note - not fiancé/fiancee. He was keeping to his words of no unprotected sex, but we know how females are with their unreasonable and unstable character (like you people are displaying on this thread) , She would have continued to put so much pressure on the guy.

For the umpteenth time I'm saying this here- Didn't Dr Adadevo forcefully detain Patrick Sawyer and performed tests on him against his wish?

Dr Adadevoh DID NOT! They drew his blood with his permission and had run all other tests pertaining to the man's medical condition and information he gave them. It was only when am other tests came back negative and his travel history said he just landed from Liberia that she told him she wanted to run more tests and when he insisted on leaving, she informed the person he called to get him that she suspected he had Ebola. Stop speaking about things you don't know of.

This OP drugged a person who could easily have reacted to the drug (I have drugs I react to, a lot of people do). NOTHING stopped his friend from walking away from that relationship. When other mo.rons start drugging people in order to carry out tests and someone dies, I'm sure you'll applaud.

Tamee:
@Docmann, in a civilized country, your IP would have been traced and you would have been apprehended and thrown in Jail to rot there.
One, you drugged a persons drink without knowledge of her body make up/how she reacts to drugs, what if she took the drink and died in her sleep?
Two, you drew a persons blood without consent and then proceeded to carry out a very sensitive test without first seeking consent..you DO NOT have the right to seek or divulge a thirds party HIV status without their consent.

See, I know you are in Nigeria and so many sh!ts fly, I think women should begin to get more education as regards basic rights before getting in a relationship with you folks out there?

On the flip side, you decided to help a friend? Is your friend missing some chromosomes that he can't take decisions for himself. If his sexual orientation is different from that of his partner, what stopped him from walking away? What stopped him from asking the girls permission for the instant home-test and if she refused, he ends the relationship!

You guys never cease to amaze me, so coz you live in a lawless country, you suddenly feel you have the right to drug people, draw their blood and carry out tests on them.. wow!

Cc Roland4lif I dunno why you haven't commented on the Ops actions, you support him huh?
Cc Docmann, something else will surely kill your spineless friend one day if not pre-marital sex cos we will all die eventually and YOU MUST keep violating people to save him okay.
Cc Seun, people drug women and then post the details on your forum. What a wasted generation and a wasted country.

I was beginning to wonder if everyone on NL had lost their senses till this. Thank you.
Common malaria medication, people have adverse reactions to it. This fo.ol now gave someone medicine without knowing her history. Had she died, the same group of I.diots clapping for him will insult the girl for going to a boy's house.

Why couldn't your friend not tell her it was over if she refused to take the HIV test??

adaphik:
Hi mums, pls I gave birth last month n d paed said I shouldn't rub my LO powder until after the neonatal period ( 1 month) . Pls does any one know why? Thx.

Probably because powder (especially Talc) is very irritating to babies' lungs. Its particles are too big and easily settle in newborns' lungs, eventually causing future questions like "my baby has a cold", "my baby is always coughing" "my doctor prescribed Augmentin/strong antibiotics for my baby" etc.

Most pediatricians don't like powder, especially dusting powder and they don't really help with rashes (powders work by absorbing the excess moisture around the area, keeping the area dry and airing it/exposing it to air works even better).

scholes0:
Not surprising.
English is actually at least 30% French.
Most French words entered English through the Norman (old French) invasion of England. If the French mainlanders hadn't invaded England, You and I in Nigeria would have probably sounded more like those cranky Germans and guttural Dutch people today.

If those Germans had been Nazis, we wouldn't sound like anything because we wouldn't exist

Trousseau

Avant-garde

Facade (it has a cedilla at the bottom of the "c"

kendlez:
Good evening mamas. How una dey? Pls I need help in getting a car seat for my Lo.
I want something durable and also something I can carry along into church etc (detachable) and which my baby can use upto 1yr.
He was weighing 6kg @ 6weeks.
I saw the graco snugride classic connect 30. I wud like a review and other suggestion especially on the ones u have used.
I also want advice on a baby carrier and walker to buy too.
Thanks!

Cc: Onegai, tchiwinnie, Zaynie, favoredgal, Ahnie, lovinam, beedam, Ozycy; Biko help out.

Grace and Chicco make the most popular mainstream brand of car seat review. Most of then are pretty decent and btw, just Google the car seat you want to buy, enough reviews will pop up. Get the Infant carseat you can carry everywhere rather than the convertible car seat. How much your budget is will determine how good your baby carrier is: Ergobaby has a pricey carrier that distributes the weight on your shoulders so it doesn't hurt but it isn't sold in Nigeria and costs over $200. Perhaps you shouldn't buy any of those fabric-wrap carriers as they offer the least amount of support and are mostly good up until 6 months (when baby starts to weigh a ton). What you can do is check Amazon's customer reviews on what you're interested in and there was a website I used to see the best car seat reviews (Google it because I can't remember its name). HTH.

Btw, I bought a Graco convertible car seat Mysize65 and I used the Chicco Nextfit a friend loaned me. I like both

Mystikal888, toss the list.

I have done 6 and a half out of that list and even did more not on the list. And I'm going to say this so listen carefully please:

Don't force your desires and expectations on your child.

Because you didn't do it when you were young and you see other kids doing it, doesn't mean your child will love it. And what's worse is that they will resent you for it. I'm speaking from experience of myself and from experience of those who brought their kids to me expecting me to crack their heads open and instil a love of such activities inside a child who all he/she wanted to do was go and play.

A child shows some excitement and likes playing his keyboard. You, the overzealous parent, rushes to look for a teacher for them and as I teach the child, he/she looks at me, pleading with their eyes to be let go because it was JUST A HOBBY AND A FUN ACTIVITY, NOT A TALENT. Then the pleading eyes turn to sullen resentment and a child who is crying for no reason, having upset stomach every time you say you're taking them to the activity or just acting up by sulking. And I hate myself for wasting my time and I dislike the parent for not being attuned to their child's needs, rather than selfishly pushing the child to be what they're not.

Very common scenario.

Introduce new things to them as fun activities and If they show interest, encourage it. If they don't, let it go. It sounds tough especially when you think. you won't have bragging rights but honestly there are so many successful adults who didn't do all these things.

Btw, I hated sewing till I grew up. I can sew basic stitches but when I casually mentioned I wanted a sewing machine and my MiL jumped on with eagerness, it reminded me of my childhood and I spent the money instead on something else, deliberately. I loved painting and I will always love playing the piano and the violin will always be a demanding mistress to tame, love and conquer. French will always remind me of friends and my dad's old cassette tapes. Martial Arts was fun because of my brothers.. All what I loved, I loved doing. They were never accomplishments, just old friends i liked hanging out with.

I know, however, that I'll still see children in total misery being forced to do things they don't want to do

temi4fash:
Good day madam,

Great write up you have here madam. God bless you for these ma.

Would love to send you my c.v and cover letter for you to help me evaluate.

Thanks

Hi. I'm really bad at checking emails from my NL account (I don't remembe the password and it isn't my primary account). Could you block out your name and perhaps change the names of the schools and former places of work, to protect your identity? Then paste it here, some other eyes may be able to look at it.

KanwuliaJara:
You mean women like Linda Ikeji?

You're back! I'VE MISSED YOU!!

PresVA:
I seriously think the problem is your nationality. . It's so hard for an Igbo guy to marry outside his tribe, how much more outside his country.

Actually, this is no longer so true. It is hard for an Igbo guy to marry outside his tribe if the girl is a Nigerian from another tribe. But they find it easier to marry white girls. Go to festac and see all the white ladies with cornrows walking around with their children. A lot of Europeans and Asians ladies. Even in the U.S. it's more common to see an Igbo dude marry outside his race than another nigerian tribe. They'd propose to their German/Lithuanian girlfriend faster than they'd propose to their Yoruba/MiddleBelter girlfriend.

AnnaOyibo:
@ Onegai: The church is called " House of praise"

Okay. But RCCG policy does not stop members from marrying non-members. Your last writeup is you trying to understand and give excuses. There are none. I had a relationship counselor (also white) who once said "it doesn't matter the reason why, but the fact that the man has broken up with you means he's just not that into you. And that is all you need to know". And that's the truth: I've seen interracial, interfaith, age-and-pay difference issues not stand in the way of 2 people who truly want to be together. This man doesn't want to be with you.

It's in your best interests to move on and forget.

And the reason why I may sounded judgemental is that I have seen this scenario play out, a lot. I had a male friend who had a foreign gf and she went everywhere with us and was friendly to me. Meanwhile, he was asking me to marry him and when I asked about her, he told me pointblank that if I agreed, he'd come with something to tell her as to why they could not end up together and one of the somethings would be "mama cannot accept a foreign chick". Rarely will a man have the courage to say to your face "I'm not that into you, we can't keep going on, I'm sorry", he would prefer to give you countless excuses (you dated for almost 2 years and your race and religion suddenly became a problem, he's been fine with you supporting him through his rough patch but now no more, you've lived together, discussed marriage, yet not only does he not want you back in his home, he wants you gone from his life?? Oh honey... )

Mindfulness:
He is the only poster you said thank you to because he said what you wanted to hear.

Truth.

OP, what's the name of his RCCG branch in the U.K.? Is it Jesus House? That place is a hunting ground for single Nigerians looking to settle down with each other. I'm gonna say that most of us on the forum will tell you: A knew he couldn't marry you, but enjoyed the relationship and now, maybe he wants to get serious about settling down, maybe he's met a girl in church. But it's over between you two. So move on.

Btw, Redeemed doesn't stop marriages between members and non-members, they use that to increase their flock knowing the spouse will eventually be brought to church. He broke up with you when he could have simply righted wrongs in the eyes of God and the church by both of you attending his church and not co-habiting (the church will still marry you as long as you're not pregnant as at the time of wedding). He didn't want you attending his church because in Nigerian culture, taking a girl to your church is a public announcement that you're interested in a committed relationship with her and don't mind who knows this. Sorry.

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dohyn:
as expected, the idiot called Cramjones has pulled up a story in the UK to back up his points. like we all don't know the difference between Nigeria and UK is night and day.
If you are who you say you are,then you should be grateful you are in a country that lets you roam the streets and not be in jail. Rabid dog. As if it's not you and your ilk that turned Nigeria to the pitiful state it is now.
Anuofia

But why are you arguing with this creature biko? It's because of people like him none of my siblings pay for patients in the hospital. They have stopped putting their own licenses and welfare on the line for ungrateful. Nigerians.

Just leave Nigeria for the typical Naija person, my brother

lovinam:
Hahahah. You wiked o! You want him to go to market and come back with a black nylon wondering if pickpockets handled him!! So you want him to bring out every item he bought and crosscheck the prices the 100th time. Chai! You wiked gaan! When he finally realises na 70k de d black nylon, he will swear for plenty people here!
Sista!! You wiked gann!! Rotlf!
Hopefully team sebamed will not come here! Lollz
Merry Christmas! Keep up the good work on baby thread!

aaahhhhhhhhh!!!! I forgot Team Sebamed o!!!!

Body milk: N5,500, shampoo: N1250, soap N2, 200 even better when your baby starts reacting to Johnson's and your pediatrician recommends Sebamed.

Thanks o. It's learning together. That thread taught me some stuff (especially on local baby food as i would have idiotically been buying Heinz and Cow and Gate Applesauce expensively) and truly we need encouragement (especially when your baby wakes up 5 times a night and clings and you start shaking and crying out of exhaustion, frustration and wanting to give up).

Miami11:
I can excuse the pregnant woman because she is overwhelmed, every pregnant woman can appreciate a little help

I know what it is to be heavy but simple words can diffuse a small issue. Instead shes already reading meanings into stuff that hasn't happened and planning for war in the future (in her mind she's calling it "setting boundaries". Had she told that girl and she refused to help, ehen...

Miami11:
And as a responsible sister in law, why did you not offer to help your brother, instead you walked out?

my dear...

Oyind17:
As his younger sister, I am hurt

Osolobua, truly women are other women's problems. One is complaining about one 18 year old female cousin instead of minding her pregnancy, this one is accusing her SiL of doing jazz because her brother has become a considerate person.

Chai!

Dear OP, you're absolutely right!!

If you continue down this path, I assure you, we'll see you in the future opening a thread to wail about problems in your marriage and how your in-laws don't want to call their son to order. Do us all a favour and don't change your moniker so we can see this thread and know precisely what you are

After all, a simple "Okay, here's the kitchen and stuff. Try and help me please with washing up after dinner, I'm usually too exhausted to stay on my feet and afterwards we can watch Telemundo/ZeeWorld/random TV station together!" but nooo.... you wanna act like a crazy Naija wife, amirite!!

Heck you're already pissed your husband used his car, the "$#^&*!! car, to pick up his niece for a holiday. Because in your mind she's not a human being...

(I sincerely hope this is your pregnancy speaking on this thread and would seriously advise you to back down right now about your wrong thinking).

lovinam:
Baby things are not that expensive but its always better to with uality stuff that will last for a while. That might make the list a lil on the high side.
You can introduce your wife to the pregnancy thread in the health section. The ladies compare prices and also share the best palces to get good bargains.

Please don't give him sensible advice. Apparently those of us that said things are not cheap are all exaggerating or are troublemakers and he'd rather listen to most people who actually haven't had kids. Let him go and find out himself.

Merry Christmas btw

Sit tight and weather the storm. That's what I deduced a while back. Right now, if you can flip large amounts of forex, that's all that will bring in some profit. But otherwise, I haven't found a single investment worth taking...

CHILDREN'S CLOTHES

For some reason, we like imported children's clothes. But I think this will slow down soon and there's a need for nigerian-made children's clothes. Sewn in an attractive manner, I'm beginning to see them. being sold in shops and Ruff n Tumble is still doing well.
I found myself recently looking for a wool cardigan this Harmattan for my baby and couldn't find one. And I knew people who used professional. machines to knit school sweaters for kids in the past.

Why not get a couple of friends who can sew and use a knitting machine, but a couple of readymade children's wears, deconstruct them so you can see how they sewed them and use them to make a pattern and then make children's wears in native fabrics and things like cardigans and sweaters? Sell them cheaper than boutique price but competitively against imports (whose prices are rising with dollar costs).

Firstly, you don't write well, you're not expressing yourself well. So I suspect your CV looks average and you're maybe not presenting properly to potential employers. I'm not trying to be mean but I see a lot of youngsters like you and I tell them the same thing.

https://www.nairaland.com/1899177/why-youre-not-getting-job

Go through that and get ideas on how to improve your CV.

Now, get a job as a salesperson or marketer. And work your butt off. I mean, work with a foreigner's work ethic, don't think like a Nigerian there (complaining, sitting around, bumming off). Work in a way that the manager knows you and relies on you. That job will. give you some cash and some experience and someone to vouch for you when you are going to another job.

Tell your mum what you're going through. Get her to send you just a little so you're not dependent on your cousin for now.

ifyalways:
Sorry o.

Maybe if you had stopped. Judging your SU neighbour and the one(s) that dry their pants outside, they would have given you a plate or two.

Merry Christmas. May 2016 shine bright on and for you.

Ouch OP

HappinexEdixon:
Pls Pls n pls who is d nigerian baker dat baked d first glitter dat like a casino?

Modified: i made a mistake, that was an international baker. However, for the nigerian lady that you asked me for before:Her name is Luella Cakes, I met her through a friend and i know she is based in lagos. Here are her designs.

Your life is in danger so I would not advise you to stay. Try and move out first, but keep in contact with her family for updates on your child. This is avoid her saying you ran and neglected your child. Gather all evidence so you can fight for custody and contact a lawyer. Finally, use this time to heal. Pele.

Abiagirl777:
(sighs),wish we have a milk bank where I can donate cos my breast runs lyk a tap.I've tripled breast pads,worn small towels,visited my gynae even starved but no success.I don't know wot to do.
@Ayobarmy hope she isn't in pain ,stress or worryof any sort cos that was my case initially until I healed.

Do you know that would be so nice, especially to IDPs and hospitals where they are more likely to have newborns requiring milk. I know a lady that her milk dried up 2 weeks after birth and she was determined to give her son bm exclusive for at least 3 months. She not only got donated bm but she would ask her friend who had plenty milk to come over and nurse her son twice a week. My brother's gf tactfully suggested the same thing (her friend had oversupply and she wanted to donate to me) but my mum was already acting like a typical Naija woman (craze and all) so I didn't take the offer and supplemented with formula and cried my eyes out.

vybzkartel:
I have a little daughter in her second year.
There is this trend however on-going that i hate but dont know the best way to approach it
Peeps in and around my wife are fond of giving her food.
If its biscuit and baby stuff, i dont really have a problem, but often, its like they are spoon-feeding her with the same spoon these people are also eating with. I think it is very unhealthy and spiritually insecure. But how do i approach it, without offending people?

Cant people just mind their own business?
There people that will deliberately "worry" this my little child to cry and i so hate it.
Other especially males will want to touch her buttocks

what is all this?

please help

Excuse my french, but are you having a brain fart?! With the part I just bolded, are you truly still worried about offending these people rather than protecting your child?! Are you waiting for your 2 year old toddler to be the next victim in a thread titled "Man of such age defiles 2 year old girl" before you realise you should carry your pikin away to safety, whoever wants to feel offensed should hug a live transformer instantly. Haba.

I don't think there's any spiritual harm to your child however it isn't sanitary for anyone to be feeding her.

You need to sit your wife down and show her all those threads on NL about child abuse cases and tell her that innocence can never be recovered and all the parents of all the victim's never suspected the abusers. Speak sternly to her and let that be the last of anyone doing anything you're not comfortable with, to your child.

A few cakes that caught my eye are:

Watercolour cakes: this is a technique used to paint cakes.

see some more...

Coloured cakes: it's getting boring seeing the usual traditional design for traditional wedding cakes (the talking drum, red beads or the couple). How about making their cake resemble their asoebi instead? Take a page out of Indian wedding cakes and encourage your bride and groom to try these instead:

So how does one know an organic-farmed chicken? Are all the chickens sold in markets not from agric farms?