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modath:
I get where everfaithfulGod is coming from, i was given same advise with my 1st, fortunately i made ANC a priority & being a strong willed soul i didn't capitulate to the Amipiclox advise @8days.....

Later being friends with profs in the baby field just made me happy i dodged that bullet... Folks will make you feel guilty for anything...

My mum said she won't give my kids PCM without my express approval cos what my friends don't disprove, internet will say it is wrong & asked me sarcastically once if i appeared in her life fully grown..

How is our wifey?

She's good how is small Oga?

I'm so scared of the bad advice thrown at mothers. Antibiotics are not sweets to be licked for no reason and babies are safer when one is pregnant that outside.

everfaithfulGod:
Good morning all. pls help a first time mom o. last week I noticed 2 boils at d back of my DS neck,I started putting ori and it has healed bt to my surprise I noticed another 4 dis morning (very big o). Pls what can I do bcs he is not comfortable at all. I will be going for his immunization on Wednesday so I intend showing doctor but how can I ease the pain bfor then? my neighbour said I suppose to have given him antibiotics since 8 days after birth so as to avoid this bcs as a newborn I need to cleanse all dirty things he has swallowed from me out of his blood with d antibiotics. please is this true? bcs I've not been giving him drug o. even the vitacee or so. He is 45 days old today. please help me out o.

Is your neighbour a doctor? I have personally never heard of any antibiotics to be given to a newborn because he needs cleansing. Why would your baby be exposed to dirty things in-utero, at the most crucial stage of his life? Why won't your Gynaecologist mention this info to you all through pregnancy? Please that information is false and untrue, don't drug your baby because of someone who knows nothing. Take your baby to the hospital and show them the boils.

Unless a PEDIATRICIAN told you to give your child vitamins, do not give anything to your baby.

See how someone will harm another person's child with wilful ignorance. Please avoid that neighbour henceforth because that info he/she gave you is not just false, it is dangerous and harmful to your child.

toparie:
Is ebeano reopened? I heard about the fire that gutted the entire building

They've always had 2 branches, the second one is on Chevron drive. I held out for a piercing gun but the hospital didn't have needles so they used the manual, old school surgical earring and it worked fine.

toparie:
Another question....
My DD is 2 months and I've not pierced her ears yet. Her dad wants it done though, son my question is... Is it too late now, like would it be really painful now that she's not that much of a new born anymore and how soon does it heal cos the only way she'll sleep is on her tummy and I'm worried about her resting on the pierced ears. I'm also worried about breastfeeding cos she tends to rest on her ears whilst in my arms.... And carrying her on my chest....! Sigh!
I wish I could avoid it and save her the pain. It's quite upsetting actually.
Thanks mamas

the U.S. is funny, I had the same issue with piercing with Baby E (meanwhile in the U.K. remains small for them to pierce ears as the baby is born). It won't hurt, it's more the shock of it that made Baby E cry (though I hear some babies don't do too well and need Tylenol). I didn't give her any medication but ask the nurse to use their numbing cream in the spot 10 minutes before piercing. The nurse advised Methyl spirit to clean after but Olive oil (ped recommended) is better as it keeps the place away from moisture (so no sores) and you use it to rotate the earring (so it doesn't stick).

toparie:
Thanks mamas

@aye88 where do you get the DREFT in Nigeria? I used it in the US, just got back and would be grateful if I could get it here cos it was too heavy to bring back P/S: I live in Lagos

Ebeano Supermarket in Lelki has huge bottles of the stuff. Dreft detergent.

toparie:
Hello mamas, what detergent do you use for baby's laundry?

Persil non-bio powder, it's supposed to have less fragrance and stuff that won't irritate baby's skin as much.

This is such an interesting thread!

Nairaland Rules for Men (Facts to make a way of life):

Dear men,

Life is hard for everyone. But because you're a Man, you get a cookie! (even though you had no choice in the matter and but for the grace of God, you may have ended up a cockroach). As a Man, your only job is to be yourself! It's not even your job to make another person happy. Your only job is to just be You.

Making you happy is a slave's, I meant woman, job. God may have told Adam it was not good to be alone, but you and I have translated it to mean "you deserve a humble slave" (not a servant, servants have feelings, get tired and want to be treated right. A slave doesn't need that kind of consideration).

So get yourself a slave (I meant woman! gosh, what's wrong with me). It's her job to make you happy and die trying. That's the only way she can make Heaven: by denying and subjugating herself, she's not meant to have feeling or get tired. Ever. She will follow these 30 rules above constantly, because it is her ONLY job to please you and make you happy forever and NEVER ask for anything else (infact her Christmas gift should be an iron and some cooking pots, to make you look nice and cook your favourite meals ). If you have a wife who is not doing all this constantly, 24 hours, 7 days, 365 days a year, replace her. Because you deserve better. And one day, you will watch your. daughter lie down so a Man can wipe his soles of his shoes on her back and sit down and demand a meal and ensure she pays her share of the bills. She can never be treated right, she's a slave (arrhhhhh I meant woman. Darn autocorrect)

So, your only job is to LIVE!


If you're a woman reading this and you're single, marry a guy who's not on Nairaland. You'll be treated better. But if you're really looking to score, marry a White guy or a Naija guy who you're a human being . All my friends who are married to white guys tend to post selfies looking happy, relaxed and fulfilled. My hubby thinks im a human being and not only did he spend last night getting up to take care of his daughter all night, he helped dress her this morning to church.

Reflect on that, ladies.

Chibaby87:
Is the way modern churches does nowadays. Being pregnant before wedding is very good cos of evil people. One woman was pregnant before their wedding day but she aborted the baby cos she wanted to adhere to the rules and regulations of their church and after their wedding she didn't conceive again. Marriage of 8/9 years

Same thing happened to our neighbour: got his fiancee pregnant and convinced her to abort because the church won't marry them. They had their lovely white wedding. 7 years later, still no child in sight (botched abortion led to complications), he went to his village and dropped Palm wine and yam and impregnated a 20 year old girl and proceeded to do trad wedding and marry that one. First wife had to move out. He and 2nd wife now have 3 kids and I have no idea where 1st wife is.

tchiwinnie:
Mama na all night she talk na. I don't think any mama will use one diaper for a whole day.

I dey fear. cutemum22 no vex

Keji3:
Mama abeg what can i use for my baby's lips this harmattan season. Thanks y'all

Is. it dry? Something edible like Shea butter since they are constantly licking it.

cutemum22:
Has any mum tried "Baby Hugg" before?

I was introduce to the diaper at trade fair when I was searching for Huggies stand.

One of the nursing mom told me I should stop wasting my money that I should try it. She told me I will stop using Huggies and since then I have been using it.

My baby do use one from night till the next morning and she is 3month and suck like 4times during midnight..

Just feel like sharing ....

Errrmmm, ejoor... please even if a diaper states proudly that you can use it for 12 hours upwards, please abeg DON'T USE ONE DIAPER ALL DAY. The diaper area has a lot of moisture around it and it breeds a lot of stuff. You may not be seeing diaper rash now (most diaper rashes starts as the child gets a bit older and their urine starts to become like adult urine. If you notice, infant and newborn urine is clear and odorless and mostly sterile because they're not eating a lot of different stuff, just milk. That doesn't last). So the diaper rash bad times are waiting ahead for most babies (unless you are constantly changing, cleaning up and airing the place and using some barrier cream from time to time). Please eh.

Disposable diaper is made up of paper, plastic and S &P (that's a petrochemical product that helps absorbs the urine) and a lot of chemical stuff as well. I don't think even the makers would keep their baby in one diaper for 24 hours unless it was an emergency (no-one wants their child that exposed to harsh chemicals for prolonged usuage).

cedaraustine:
Onegai, this is aside but please indulge me. I am doing some work on organic baby food in Nigeria.

What do you think about the concept, particularly the Nigerian angle. In a society like this where many do not actively research on the best for their kids but follow norms, would the idea fly? The ones around are expensive, aside costs and enlightenment, what other issues may abound.

Thanks.

Hey. It would work. But price competitively and start small. There is a market for it. There is a small but growing movement of people choosing to live an organic lifestyle in Nigeria. It started from the ladies who wanted to return back to having natural hair (chemical-free). They developed hair care that was organic and went further and developed organic skincare and even baby products. They eat healthy as well. And they blog about it. And they have a strong base (I'm one of their followers). These people are also reaching out to food now (encouraging meals made from fresh and not packaged stuff, free from even things like Maggi) and asking mothers not to start exposing their kids to processed foods and juices so early). And they are all very educated (engineers, doctors, artists, entrepreneurs, agribusiness owners etc) and like encouraging local business (so no importing stuff and just repackaging it here).

They have regular meetups with workshops and vendors in cities like Lagos, Abuja, Calabar and Enugu. Google Naturals In The City (next one is. in Lagos next weekend) and start contacting the organiser from there.

Just make sure your stuff is fresh and affordable and liaise with them. All the best.

tchiwinnie:
Mamas, I got this from d Ask The Paediatrician grp on Facebook and thought to share. U cld join d grp, u ll learn a lot from professionals.
This s just a part I copied, u can get d full info from d grp.
FACT 1 - the Nutrition Society of Nigeria has endorsed indomie Noodles....guess they are comfortable with that...for such an organization to do so means a lot

Nutrition Society of Nigeria (NSN) Certificate of Endorsement:

In 2006, a Certificate of Endorsement for Indomie Dishes was issued to the Company by the Nutrition Society of Nigeria at the 37th Annual Conference and Scientific Meeting held at the Cultural Centre Kuto Abeokuta, Ogun State. This marked the first time the NSN has endorsed any Noodles brand in Nigeria.

What!! How....

Please. wait a minute, let me find some. quick research. How can they endorse something high in Sodium and low in nutrients and fibre? It's not even recommend for daily consumption by any doctor I know.

vislabraye:
Mackerel is salt water fish so the best way to keep it alive is by refrigeration. Unless you know a fisherman that can give you a fresh one .
IMHO, salmon is nutritious since its in the same family as mackerel and tuna. But from what some expert say is that they are usually polluted with heavy metals.

I guess my concern is frozen, how and from where? I had no problem eating it outside the country but in Nigeria (where shady practises are a norm and they could be importing stuff rejected elsewhere or improperly frozen here), I'm more worried. Some gist went round that Nigerians were importing fish caught in areas around Fukushima.

So, do we buy heavy metal fresh fish or chemical-laden frozen fish?

(and both of those names sound like they'd be awesome alt. rock band names )

Living4christ:
This topic is for your contribution as why our foremothers are more succesfull in child training and family management than this out\r morden mothers aka 21st century mothers.

21st Century woman

In my own opinion this is why.

Child training

My dear, above are your words. And that is why I called you out. Because you stated your opinion like you had some experience. Which you don't. There is nothing wrong with having an opinion but please keep it to yourself until you have experience to back it up. Now, if you had said "I've seen this phenomon or I read this somewhere, or do you think", that would be you asking for more experienced opinions. Let me break it down:

If I go to the Football section and declare "I believe Giroud should win Ballon D'Or", I will be stating an inexperienced opinion. I may have watched some football but I have zero idea about whom is at the top of the table right now. And everyone will tell me to keep my lack of knowledge to myself.

Honey, please allow me to tell you something I'd tell my child "anyone who encourages you to state your opinions about matters you know nothing about, is encouraging you to be a fool". That's advice given to me as a child myself

Maybe rephrase your words. If you wanna learn, ask, don't talk as if you have noticed it or are speaking from experience.

[quote author=Marisley post=40679568][/quote]I noticed that too, re: Pampers made in Nigeria diapers and wipes are very inferior in quality.

So I'm assuming Molfix, Angel and all those other diapers, do they perform better than Pampers (Nigeria)?

Before anyone answers this thread, please. look. at the. OP's profile. HE. IS. AN 18. YEAR OLD.

Feel free to decide whether or not you wish to dignify this with your replies or save your words, time and mb for a more mature person who has at least EARNED A SALARY, PAID RENT ONCE, HAD A MATURE. CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN OR FATHERED A CHILD OR ADOPTED ONE to debate on something he/she knows about. The year 2000 is a loooonnnnngggģ time ago in this poster's life....

I am trying to stop us from fighting over words thrown carelessly about by people who write all sorts on things they have zero idea about. This trend is causing fatigue amongst smarter posters and keeping them away. The Family Section should not be run by people who have not entered university or had any real responsibility
Thanks.

hotmum:
I've used Sheabutter mixed with coconut oil and palm kernel oil for my baby. After few weeks he started looking darker and when i stoppdd for like 3days his complexion came back brighter. Can i get these essential oils in supermarket or pharmacies

Some of them sha. So you use only Shea butter now and he's not so dark?

hotmum:
Now dat av decided to go the sebamed way it has become scarce. Thank God its harmattan season. Sheabutter all da way joor....... (saving my money)
Pls has any1 used sheabutter mixed with glycerine oil. How good is it?
My baby is 15 month old

Glycerine can feel hot a bit for me even though it's moisturizing. Why not use that Shea and maybe almond oil or Coconut oil or olive oil, add a drop of essential oil like lavender or rosemary or citronella, melt them all together in a double boiler (put a pot on fire, add water then place your container of ingredients inside. the water). You can even use a whisk to make it nice and fluffy.

I've been looking for containers to do mine since everyone else in my family obtained the last few I mixed.

Nita2013:
I guess it depends on d kind of diaper. My son uses pampers swaddlers size 4 with 144 in a carton. He uses maximum of 3 a day that's only if he poops during d day or over drinks water. Otherwise he uses 2 daily because it's 12hours protection. D diaper absorbs d urine so well that one would wonder how many times he actually urinated.

Goin by my calculations he uses one carton in 6-8weeks. He has never had diaper rash. I use blue seal vaseline as d protective cream on his butt.

Thanks. I've used Pampers Swaddlers (disliked them so much I didn't bother using it up ). However I'm surprised you're using just 3 per day: that their dri-weave on the diaper tends to leave marks or pull soft skin if left on for long (I and a few other mums had that experience and yeah, it was the U.S. manufactured ones we bought). Since your boy is. using size 4, im assuming he's passed the stage when he's constantly peeing but pees more volume but less. often, right?

Any other mamas share their diapering experiences? A couple of my friends are doing research on what to buy for their babies next year and I promised them I'd give unbiased answers for a lot of methods and brands. Thanks.

My mum mentioned this as well about Catfish. Is Salmon safe I wonder? My problem with eating Mackerel here is that it's not fresh, it's frozen.

Thanks mama's. The reason I'm asking is that they recommend changing diapers often, like 6 times a day. This is to avoid diaper rash and having to buy treatment creams which are pricey. But if you can buy disposables for N4000 per month, it should be easy to change that often, right?

Mamas, please. could. you answer: all these disposable diaper brands you're mentioning, how long do they last? How. long does. it take to go through a pack and how many in a pack? I'm trying to do a study. Thanks in advance.

raumdeuter:
There are many things that make a person not just being married. Most women are actually self centered.

The guy was that way before he married, He had other things that made him happy. After work A guy has weekly Chess or Tennis clubs games, have weekly bible studies to attend, have Saturdays dedicated to football to watch, Maybe goes to the gym 2 hrs for 3 days a week. These are the things that make him who he is for her to desire a marital union with him but as soon as he gets married, he has to drop all those and just stay watching the eyes of the wife.

Its usually with girls who have no social life and nothing going for them hoping to dump all their emotional burden on the man post marriage

Let her go ahead and get that someone real quick so both of their lives wont be miserable. The guy is sad because the wife doesnt want him to be who he is, the wife is sad because the husband isnt who she wants him to be

Even Zukerberg or Obama you think they dont have other things they do with their lives? If sitting down to stare at the faces of their spouse is what makes them who they are today. You think Obama made the connections to be popular in Politics and become a president by staring at Michelle's eyes day and night?

Those men that became Bank MD, that became partners in their firms that became succesful people do you think they made it by sitting down at home all day starring at their wifes face? Yet na the same wife would tell him after a few years that why isnt he succcesful like Mr A and B.

If you know how many business deals are completed at the typical Boys night club hangout, Golf course or Tennis club

Why isnt the man forcing the wife to be in his own image rather its the women always looking to change their husband

Rather than have 2 unhappy people she should serve him divorce papers and go pursue her happiness

Of course women don't know! Our brains are apparently too simple. to comprehend how Networking works. We may be doing the same things in our lives, we may have grown with actual chairmen of board of directors or economic advisors to heads of states or doctors or professional people as parents (who strangely had enough time for their families) but that's not important, amirite

Sigh. It's Christmas everyone! Who wants to go salsa and samba dancing this Christmas

raumdeuter:
If marriage means you have to drop what makes you happy like your hobbies, your Sports, your friends your family your career then its really a cage

Sigh. You guys like to fight unnecessary battles in this section.

No-one in this world can have it all. When in school, you didn't have enough time to read HARD and party HARD. Same with work: you weren't hitting the club on a Thursday or drinking away all night in a Sunday. So why get married and think you'll have all the time in the world to juggle work, a family, quiet time and friends and social life EQUALLY? Something has to give and if you can decide what your priorities are, you'll give time to your wife and family FIRST. Or don't get married so you don't have to juggle them.

No-one is stopping anyone from going out once in a while and keeping your hobbies but to do so at the detriment of the most important person in your life is idiotic. But if your wife is not the most important person in your life, tell her upfront or better yet, DON'T GET MARRIED. Trust me, she will find someone else (you're not Mark Zuckerberg, so yeah, you're easily replaceable like everyone else). And you can continue your Bachelor lifestyle in peace

All the guys who took the time to stay home and let me quote one of them "stay home and help her develop her confidence as a wife" are the guys whom their marriages are great

OP, you've gotten a lot of good advice, mixed with a few bag eggs but you'll know the ones to listen to

Tell him how you feel. Him pretending not to. hear you speak to him is immature on his part. He seems to be resenting you for something small. You two should have Date Night(s) every week (when kids come you won't have time to. even sleep). If he's glued to his screen, you keep yourself on your screen too. My hubby developed that habit when he was by himself for a while, I complained and he got defensive. So I got glued to my screen to the point he started coming to check what was making me laugh or keeping me engrossed.

A lot of men don't realise that being married means things change. They ignore their wives and cling to their friends desperately because they're scared that letting go of their old lifestyles means they're getting older/not as fun/changing too much. Then the kids come and their neglected wives focus solely
on them and the men begin to feel neglected. So they either stay home or go out even more with their friends.

A lot of this stems from the fact that guys feel marriage is a cage, not a blessing. So they are always trying to "fight off shackles".

What city are you in, if Lagos I could recommend places for you to go (but you have to make an effort to go there).

cuteboy2:
The same Indian company, Olam who used to grow cotton in Nigeria under the Afcott banner, but soon closed down all their farms and resorted to whole scale importation of De Rica tin tomatoes, now wants to buy every drop of paste from this upstart by another Indian Mehta who has zero experience running business in Nigeria.

Meanwhile Eric Umeoffia of Erisco Foods that is already producing tons of tomato puree, Olams is silent on buying from them to stop their wasteful importation. Who is deceiving who?

Olam see cartons of Ric-Giko tomatoes here made in Nigeria. Stop this hypocrisy.

Please read the links you provided. Erisco Foods is still importing tomato concentrate themselves. Whilst I commend him, he is not yet making tomato paste locally. Still, I'll definitely keep an eye out for news of his company and the minute he starts using locally grown tomato paste, I'll be one of his biggest supporters and even help him market for free. Thanks for at least telling us his name.

simpleman1:
Sabi mamas Pls help oooo what do u think it may be wrong with my two n half month baby she squeeze her body a lot crying and wake up like 7times within 3hours she doesn't av sound sleep am so worried and seriously crying as am typing dis,I know somtin is disturbing her cos she wasn't like dis before n she has bin like dis for d past one week,mothers Pls help me out what could u think it might be wrong with her ,her temperature is ok don't know wat else might wrong pls help me help my baby out

Does the crying happen at around the same time daily? If it does, it may be colic. But Google symptoms of colic.

If your baby doesn't have colic, it could be something else: hunger, stomach upset (maybe a change in formula or watch what you're eating if BF), heat.

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stadora:
Pls mamas I noticed since after my DS 6 wks imunization. He s bn havin watery poo dat sounds diarhea-like, acompnied wt bowel movement sounds durin feedin. But he s stil active n feeds wel. Pls is ds normal? Am actualy bothered But I dnt want 2 conclude yet its diarhea.
Cc: kaffy4bill, tchiwinie, eminya, onegai, sabi mamas abeg oo

Please look up Diarrhea and dehydration symptoms in babies. If none apply to your boy, then he may just be having explosive baby poo (which is normal, all babies have it from time to time when they're young and on BM especially). If you're still concerned, ask your doctor, especially if it's happening more than once a day.