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PresVA:
Hi, did you still get the washing machine? If yes, what brand and amount? And did you buy from d market or the brand syore?

We got an LG front loader, about N80, 000 (? ) from the store. It came with a warranty.

Sheweezy and any other mama's, please let the banana start going brown before pureeing it. At that point of almost going bad, it tastes very sweet (all its natural sugars). Red apples are sweeter amd anything green, most kids hate them (sweetpeas, green beans, avocado). Which is why i liked that sweet potato-titus fish mix, i could smuggle the green peas in it. Baby E likes potato chips (and she has no teeth, she uses her gums to mash it and likes it as a gum massager) and her eyes light up when she sees Garden eggs (weird because I don't like the taste of it particularly). Meanwhile, all those Cow And Gate cereals drove her mad with vex. I think all babies don't like eating but get used to the different flavours and more importantly, textures, eventually. Just keep trying.

Chartey tell her I said well done because it's hard to find female sculptors in the art scene, beck female artists are few in Nigeria. She should come hang out with us one day in Lagos. And ask her to look up M. Odunsi and Ndidi Dike and more

http://www.africanartists.org/programme/female-artists-platform

sheweezy:
Happy new year everyone. It shall be a year of bountiful harvest for all of us. Please can i give my 7 months old baby yoghurt? He stopped sucking breadt himself and m trying to see how i can make him take balanced diet. Please what else can i give him apart from cereal and water as thats the only thing he is takingfor now.

Do you have a food processor? If you do, boil and peel and core red apples and puree it. Same with carrots and bananas (don't boil bananas). Pap and formula and crayfish is also good. Also plum. Yesterday Baby E fought us for the chance to have white garden eggs, so I chewed off the skin and gave her the fleshy part and she loved it.

sheweezy:
Happy new year everyone. It shall be a year of bountiful harvest for all of us. Please can i give my 7 months old baby yoghurt? He stopped sucking breadt himself and m trying to see how i can make him take balanced diet. Please what else can i give him apart from cereal and water as thats the only thing he is takingfor now.

After multiple tries, I finally copied this from where I saved it! What a great achievement! this, along with taking my bath today, has been the crowning moment of today #MotherhoodIsNotABeans.

Someone posted this here a while back and it works and seems nutritious as well as delicious. Don't do soybeans, pap, crayfish and milk in the same combo, your baby will not only dislike you, he will threaten to get a tattoo when he's 12 (because that's what my 6 month old did).

Anyhoo...

I use president or oldenberg..any foreign butter sold in the supermarkets is fine. Someone also taught me her method. Get carrots, sweet pea, fish (titus) and potatoes. Boil the carrots, peas and potatoes together. boil fish seperate, de-bone and mash. once boiled, put the potato mixture into a blender, add the mashed fish, a little water and blend. It produces a smooth nutrious pudding. Keep in freezer. when you want to warm, dethraw the food, either use microwave or put a little president butter on the frying pan and add the food for warming. Tastes delicious. I also followed the advice here, bought basmati rice, boiled it, grinded it into rice pudding. Then I served it with either milk or my special stew sauce. Stew sauce: buy tomatoes, onions, pepper (shonbo-non peppery), beef, chicken and fish. Boiled all the meat and fish. debone and mash fish, meat. For the meat, I used my salad grater to grate the beef and chicken. Blend the tomatoes ingredients. Put on fire to boil with a little oil. when cooked, add the mashed meat/fish, including little salt to taste and mix. Voila -tomatoes sauce with mashed mixed meat. Its not been easy trying all the recipes I get here becos I work all week, take her with me for office creche and can't stop at the market on the way home lipsrsealed but I now a system of cooking her meals on Saturday for the week, freezing it and bring it out when I need it. Thank GOD for improved light situation. grin Please how do u boil d protein.

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Swissheart:
My baby banks with Skye Bank (Rainbow account).cant remember the exact amount we opened it with...either 5k or 10k then in 2010.They have packages for them though depending on the fatness of the accountblnc.

okay, that's good to know. Thank you.

Any more answers please? I'm sure I'm not the only one thinking of this.

Mindfulness:
Seriously? I thought you were rather cool-headed.

You are a smart lady and you have your maternal instincts. You will do the right thing. I am sure.

Aww thanks.

Mindfulness:
If not you, who then?

Story! I'm a drama queen and when I told le hubbs that people on NL think I'm mature, he almost gave himself a hernia laughing.

But I want to know how to handle my kids, when to speak calmly and when to shout. Shouting at this boy would have deterred him for now, but the day he would see something else he wanted badly, he would struggle and who knows if the struggle would have gone the right way. This method, made him proud to do the right thing.

Seriously, this is what good parenting looks like.

I pray I can have such wisdom.

Hello Family. Happy New Year

(behave yourselves on this thread or else no ice-cream for you on my birthday ! )

I'd like to ask about bank accounts for children. I want to open a bank account for Baby E. I remember that when I was growing up, my Union Bank had all sorts of perks to it (a chance at a scholarship, advice about shares and stockbrokering etc). So I'm looking for something like that.

I went to GTB and met the most unconcerned account officer there. The interest rate is lousy (1%) but I understand it's a savings account.

So my question is, which account from which bank are you using for your child and do you like the service? Thanks.

ifyalways:
Wedded in August, had a baby in December?

Oooohkay

stop counting and just congratulate and move on

Try and go to a better hospital like General hospital Lagos island (they have a lot of consultants there ) or Federal hospital Abuja. You need to get yourself checked properly.

And go for your dream. It may not work out but I have a relative who was just like you and entered late into university. He got a beautiful (as in, beautiful job) and he impressed the owner of the company so much that he's almost a partner. His job has him attending meetings at Ota farm and Aso rock. No-one cares when he entered school. So don't give up, never ever give up.

I really am sorry you're going through all of this. Did this start immediately after marriage or was there a gradual build-up with a turning point?

I'm trying to understand this. I've seen something like this (with differences) in another couple's life and it makes no sense why someone will change so drastically. And that physical violence on her part, you should NOT take that from her or anyone.

feddy27:
Please help with answers.

Cc: firsttymum, onegai, beryl15, kaffy4bill, tchwinnie, modath

Thanks in advance

we don't know why it started. So why not please post a picture of it, when it started and think back, did anything change in diet/washing? No itching or fever sha. It's probably nothing serious (Baby E had a mild rash on her face that cleared up within 3 days and I was told most babies tend to throw out rashes from time to time).

shalomp:
She wants him to divorce me. She is so desperate that she
made him to go into another marriage without being
divorced. So how do I protect myself?

Babe,

you and I know deep down that this is not true.


Your husband had no excuse to pursue the relationship with her, because he apparently didn't need her for you to get papers as his wife. He had a relationship which is why she's pregnant and now it's time for you to come over, and he's wondering how to explain the fact that he has to pay child support to another woman, to you. It seems more likely that your man is covering his ars.e

I have never met a man 100% forced into marriage talk less of forced into bigamy. It will surprise you to find out she has no knowledge of you or worse, he swore to her you were forcing yourself on him.

I hate to say this, but just start thinking like a single woman, for now, if you're planning on travelling. But to be honest, don't travel. Don't get yourself into this, don't profit from this. You don't know that country, he does. If you go as his wife, then what? If she calls immigration and alleges a fraud and duplicity on both of you, they may tend to agree with her.

It's illegal in Europe and I don't know if it will affect you. Why not stay in Nigeria rather than rush into that situation? Do you want to remain married to him?

Miami11:
Pray and fast for your wife
Talk to her calmly about the issue
Divorce is a sin
Knee down and ask for forgiveness
Treat her right
Talk to your pastor
Take her for deliverance

Abeg add "wear red bra and black pant"

"Don't leave, do you know what the next woman is like? "

"stop neglecting her, give her whatever she wants, whenever she wants it. Have you put on weight recently, lose it".

"Don't listen to all these agents of divorce, they are unhappy. Please stay and fight for your marriage".

"It is well"

adaphik:
Hello mums, pls my baby has this eye discharge more from the right eye. That when she sleeps n wakes up the eyes r shut up. Could it be an eye infection? What do I use. Thanks. 5weeks old.

NoQualms1:
Thanks rezzy. Happy new year to you and yours.

What can I do to stop my baby's cough and cattarrh that has refused to go? It's been about a week it started.

I've asked before and no one responded. I hope I get a response this time.

Happy New Year mamas.

Ladies, please speak to a paediatrician. The eye infection could be caused by anything and I don't think anyone should casually be using penicillin without asking her doctor first (you don't know what is causing the discharge). As for the cough and cold, keep baby warm and go to the hospital. You've tried handling it for a week and nothing has changed. Don't you think it's time to consult a doctor what you can do in the meantime is stop using any sort of powder for now (so as not to aggravate it/make it worse), it's already been mentioned but if you've tried saline drops, steam and co and no improvement, then see a doctor.

a Please when is your next class? I want to take a floral arrangement course (more for centre pieces and Ikebana arrangement rather than bouquets). It's just for pleasure. Will you be able to accommodate that? Thanks.

Oh dear. You sound like me and my hubby.

Things are improved now but I can't tell you what to do, I'll tell you what NOT to do.

Don't scream at him. I know it's frustrating and go-getters tend to be a bit low on patience. But don't scream and go into flights of shrieking hysteria. It will work, but it will cause its own problems.

Take a break. Get out of the house, away from him. Deep breaths.

Nigeria is a crazy place particularly if you hate the word "Hustle" and are used to a more organized environment (there are people hustling abroad and there are some people that that word "hustling" is a dirty job).

Aim to get pregnant maybe half way this year. You've got savings and plans, so start deploying those plans and savings. Start trying for a baby after June/July. Some guys, a child wakes them/snaps them back into focus. Your hubby is acting apathetic, he's mentally given up but can't say it and he hates himself for not providing but is grateful that you are. He feels lost right now. Trust me on this so he needs to be woken up. And not by screaming and howling and general crazy but by putting him on the spotlight with upcoming responsibility. The only reason I'm saying this is that you said he's a hard worker (some guys are leeches, but your man isn't according to you, just that he feels a bit lost right now).

Every day, ask him about what he did re: job search. Discuss it but don't give advice, listen. Yes it is hard to do that but he wants you to listen, not railroad him with "did you try this, do that? ". You may think you're being helpful, but he's gonna think you're being bossy. Kinda talk to him like his friend (because if you talk to him like his wife, you're gonna lose your cool and end up in tears, shouting and maybe a few broken stuff ). So sound like his paddy mi, infact forget the ring on your finger and act like his besto.

Give the sex a rest for now. I don't want you doing it with resentment in your heart and once in a while, if you feel frisky, go and do your own version of awkward-sexy dance in front of him (laughing of course). Try and take deep breaths from time to time and then find a smile somewhere for him. I don't think he's a bad guy, just a lost boy right now (I hope so).

I just really want you to survive this time with your sanity intact. Take the unpaid internships and learn how to cook delicious meals under N5000. Also start Danfo Appreciation Week (no cabs) and pare down your expenditure.

If all goes to plan, by August, you should have a paying job and be able to support a pregnancy (be ready to buy secondhand goods for that baby o! ) and he should be in a better place (everyone is hoping things stabilise during the 2nd half of this year).

He will soon pick himself up. And you guys are going to be fine. And don't let any guy on NL make you feel bad for being human and feeling angry, upset and demoralised.

You're doing great!!

All the best, sweetie

amayodimeji:
...I so concur,but I will like to ask you this, are the striation (ethic mark) are the naturalistic or stylized?...

It depends on the era and the origin. For the Bini ones, it was probably naturalistic because Bini people tended to value those markings as signs of beauty. They would use a broken edge of a calabash to scrape their skin. That motif is now replicated on modern traditional menswear/attire in Bini culture (by order of the Oba).

damiso:
I was going to call you to this thread

Those nappies are so cute .. Pity I don't want to go through that again but I would have definitely gone for them .. na 1 year maternity leave we dey get so no wahala

Will check them out on Amazon and buy some for my sister , I have passed her the baton

Get her some pocket diapers, either Grovia or Alvababy. My friend has some Alvababy and some charcoal grey inserts for her son and she hasn't stopped singing happily about them. Me, i need some cotton prefolds and some more colours in my stash to match a few more outfits. It's very addictive

babyme1:
Sis pls are these available in Nigeria? I think I love this.

I'm sure they sell them in Nigeria but you can easily get them off Amazon. They're super cute, I have a whole stash of them and when they're dirty, I toss them into a wetbag until wash-day. No smells, no wahala, we use an organic diaper rash cream (you can either mix one easily or use plain coconut oil) and anyone who tells you they're unhygenic is being ignorant as they actually help better for rashes.

Happy new year to everyone. Have a blessed 2016 and nothing but goodwill to all. May we all continue to grow in love and strength and may out babies never stop bringing us joy and happiness.

Laeroy:
SOMEONE PLEASE HELP A DEPRESSED STAY @ HOME MOTHER,I QUITTED MYJOB EARLY THIS YEAR TO JOIN MY HUBBY IN HIS RESIDENCE, HE HATED D IDEA OF PRACTISING DISTANT MARRIAGE AND SO I CONCURED TO HIS RESOLUTION OF ME QUITTING MY JOB, BUT THEN THINGS HAVENT BEEN D SAME, I RESIGNED WITH D AIM THAT I WILL QUICKLY SECURE ANOTHER JOB BUT I WAS SEEING JOB OFFERS WITH RIDICULOUS AMOUNTS (10,000/15,000) SO I TURNED DEN DOWN, IN BETWEEN I TOOK IN AND I CULNDT CONTINUE D SEARCH SO I STAYED @ HOME UNTIL I GOT DELIVERED OF D BABY AND I'M STILL STAYING AT HOME....I HARDLY GO OUT COS WE RESIDE IN A G.R.A WHERE U HARDLY SEE NEIGHOURS EXCEPT ON FEW OCCASIONS....
FINANCE HAS BEEN D MAJOR CAUSE OF DISAGREEMENT AND QUARRELS IN OUR MARRIAGE AMONGST OTHER THINGS THAT WHEN IT GETS HEATED UP TO A POINT MY HUBBY WILL ASK ME TO PACK MY THINGS AND LIVE ALBEIT HE'S A VERY CARING GUY AND DOES HIS BITS IN IS OWN LIL WAY.....
NOW HIS SALARY HAS BEEN MORTGAGED COS HE EMBARKED ON HIS HOUSING PROJECT AND HE WILL NOT BE GETTING ANYTHNG UNTIL THE END OF NEXT YR.....WE HAVE A BABY AND I STILL DONT AV A JOB....SO MANY BUSINESS IDEAS KEEP COMING TO MY MIND WITH 30,000 LEFT ON ME...(HUBBY IS OWING ME 150,000) BUT I DONOT AV D COURAGE TO START....
(1) I WANT TO LEARN TAILORING BUT OF COURSE I'LL NEED MORE DAN 30K TO KICK START D COURSE...
(2) I WANT TO START SELLING RECHARGE CARDS FROM HOME BUT WITH FEW PEOPLE IN D NEIGHOUR HOOD AND D FACT DAT WE STAY IN A FLAT DAT HAS A GATE SECTIONED FROM OTHER NEIGHOURS, I DONT KNOW HOW LUCRATIVE DAT CAN BE.....
(3) I WANT TO DEAL IN 2ND HAND CLOTH BUSINESS A.K.A OKRIKA BUT OBVIOUSLY I'LL BE NEEDING MORE DAN 30K....E.T.C
GIVEN ALL THESE IVE NOT BEEN ABLE TO COME UP WITH AN TANGIBLE DECISION....

I'M CONFUSED AND TIRED OF STAYING AT HOME ALREADY....PLEASE MOTHERS WAT DO U SUGGESTHELP ME OUT

I agree with Zaynie, sell pre-package snacks for now. Ask amongst your friends and in church if anyone has a school you can supply.

proudmom38:
Mamas pls answer o.

cc.nurse kaffy,modath,zaynie,onegai,mummy2be n other sabi mamas.

No to egg yolk and adult dairy products, yes to formula, pap, mashed fruits, small mashed adult food that is well-cooked.

deph:
it's nt a matter of Nokia 3310 in 2015.....its a matter of usin sometin dt d name won't leave ur mouth cos of d cost.... sometin dt is ordinarily won't hv bn taken too serious... bt ur considering it as greatest marriage headache... buying pampers.... lol.... sorry to say ds bt If u hv bn says ds... does he kno hw much pampers cost.... den ur nt supose to use it.... check d alternatives or rather more affordable ones....

The point everyone is saying is "don't force anything on your wife". If you're going to insist on nappies, you better make sure it is easy for her to handle by either helping her with the washing or getting her a washing machine. Simples.

If you cannot afford Pampers, buy a cheaper disposable diaper (several Chinese brands exist on the market). I've heard of Angel, Molfix, Bleer Bluer etc.

You apparently may not realise this, but women are also human beings who get tired and exhausted and there isn't a person alive on this planet that went "Housework and chores, yippee, hooray! " ever.

lovinam:
Laeroy, depression kills so try to snap out of it very fast. You have some money so you can start somewhere. Don't allow the little issues happening now affect your marriage. It is a phase and will pass. The way you handle it determines how long your marriage will last. I wish you all the best as we enter the New Year!
@Onegai @ ahnie can you guys help cos I know you have lowcost biz ideas.

I can't find the original poster. But what skills does she have please. Laeroy, abeg answer thanks.

beedam:
I never thought of horlicks and complan o. Our last born used it then. I will go and read about Complan. Sis, am I to buy the two?
I think horlicks is like milo while Complan is like milk? Am I right? Can't really remember anymore.

Where can I get palm kernel oil? Supermarkets?
How long did it take your baby to adjust to no breastt life style?

I really really appreciate your response.

(walks carefully and gingerly into this thread, so as not to start another ministry and Le hubbs kills me)

www.sheamapo.com, his name is Deji and he sells everything organic from a farm in Ogun state. He's pretty good.

(walks out carefully )

thorpido:
Miracle baby.
Some pregnant women don't know the difference between the urge to poo and labour contractions.

I don't know how they can make that mistake. One is deeply uncomfortable and gets worse, the other just feels urgent and a need to release. l