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 Health › Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by Onegai(f): 9:31am On Nov 11, 2015 |
[quote author=Jenonye post=39900463][/quote]Thanks, it looks neat. How much did it cost and is he in Lagos? |
| Family › Re: Nigerians, We’ve Got A Sexuality Problem by Onegai(f): 7:37am On Nov 11, 2015*. Modified: 9:58am On Nov 11, 2015 |
pansophist:No-one owes you sex. No woman was put on this earth to please you as part of her job description. If any man cannot get laid, it is his fault. Does he complain and blame companies when he cannot get a job? (oh wait, I just realised in Nigeria, everyone never takes responsibility for their actions but blame even the devil  )I've met men who were conservative, enjoy healthy sexual relationships with women that they didn't pay for it. So no excuses. It is this thinking "I deserve to get laid" that leads to rape (she says no, but you feel she owes you because you gave her attention or spent some money or she's a child and she dresses in tights and you feel she must want "it" since she wore it and ran past you on errands for her mother). 4 Likes 1 Share |
| Family › Re: Nigerians, We’ve Got A Sexuality Problem by Onegai(f): 7:25am On Nov 11, 2015 |
Enoquin:Chasing the slangs won't help us parents. We cannot monitor our children 99% of the time. All we hope to do is train them that they know it's wrong. Some of us waited till university days to have consensual intimacy and kept partners in low numbers and others took pride in waiting till marriage. Some men were proud of the fact that they didn't have so many sexual partners and didn't feel the need to prove their masculinity by sleeping around (that proves nothing and makes immorality in marriage more likely). We all need to support the Mirabel Centre as they are the only place I know for sexually abused people with counsellors. And the sad fact is that Nigerians will view everything through a lens of Spirituality: an ill-equipped pastor (Theology school doesn't confer counselling skills) will be called before a psychologist. And Pornography is a terrible thing: what starts as curiosity ends up as an addiction and a sudden weird desire to perform unnatural acts. 2 Likes |
| Health › Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by Onegai(f): 9:22pm On Nov 10, 2015 |
Bisiswag and Peach45 and any other mama out there Please stop with the black soaps and random creams which one cannot guarantee how they were made. Black soap dries out my skin (and I have oily skin), talkless of sensitive baby skin. The ingredient list for Dudu Osun has Lime in it, and that is very harsh and drying. Firstly, write down when the rashes started and what they look like. It could be an allergic reaction to a cream or a food. Johnson's products have been known to cause allergies, and all these random soaps and creams that are formulated in Nigeria under whatever conditions I wouldn't trust. WHat you both described doesn't sound like an allergy. Baby's skin is very sensitive and you can use Olive oil, Coconut oil, sweet almond oil and shea or cocoa butter to moisturise and it will keep it soft and smooth. Avoid using baby oil, it is Mineral oil and does nothing for the skin except create a thick layer on top, not allowing it to breathe. You can use Sebamed and all those products (I've got one of their shampoos) but frankly Baby E has great skin (I didn't even realise this until everyone kept saying they see babies with rashes all over a lot) and shes been on Olive oil from Day 1. Sebamed is pricey but quality Olive oil? Affordable. Apply immediately after bathing the baby, whilst skin is still moist. Baby powder (again Johnson's is the top of the worst offenders) can actually be a trigger in developing Asthma or other breathing concerns (if it continually gets in the lungs by being inhaled during application). If you are determined to use powdery substance, try Cornstarch. Most foodgrade products are safe for babies (Olive oil, Coconut oil, cornstarch etc). Once you pat the baby down after her/his bath, apply the oil. It helps seal in moisture and that's what you need. I'm speaking from the experience of having a Clinical Dermatologist on speedial (he has to answer me or I throw a shoe at his head and his besto is a consultant paeditrician) and with all their experience, he recommends babies use oils first before having to use creams (he would recommend Sebamed if you have tried all else). Personally what cleared up my baby's ezcema on her scalp was a simple organic cream which is easily mixable and has as its main ingredients Olive oil, shea butter and beeswax. That's it. 9 Likes |
| Health › Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by Onegai(f): 9:21pm On Nov 10, 2015 |
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| Science/Technology › Re: Visit To Griffith Observatory by Onegai(op): 5:50pm On Nov 10, 2015 |
MathsChic:I hated textbooks as a child. The ones here were boring. To understand Geology more, I went to the Grand Canyon. I even visited Hoover Dam in order to learn. It makes so much more sense to visit and see things. Some lecturers here in Nigeria try but we can do more. |
| Science/Technology › Re: Visit To Griffith Observatory by Onegai(op): 5:46pm On Nov 10, 2015 |
I've met a few people interested in Astronomy here. in Nigeria. Why not you guys start crowd funding for money to build yours? Start small, build a sundial and look for apparatus. Get a small building and write to universities and observatories to see if they have old equipment they can give you. Charge as little as possible so people can visit and I'll tell you other ways to get funds. You can start the first observatory in Nigeria  2 Likes |
| Family › Re: Will She Ever Regain Her Husband's Confidence, Trust And Respect? by Onegai(f): 1:53pm On Nov 10, 2015*. Modified: 2:40pm On Nov 10, 2015 |
Shndy, you've heard from someone who went through the same. Don't use the pregnancy to guilt him, it will make things worse. Let your friend say "I'm sorry, I screwed up, and I'm not. going to let this ruin our marriage". It will take a while. of careful rebuilding to get your marriage back to a good spot but it can be done. 2 Likes |
| Health › Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by Onegai(f): 10:15am On Nov 10, 2015 |
Newmum15:Baby E has the same. I was told it's normal though. Maybe other mamas can help. |
| Health › Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by Onegai(f): 10:01am On Nov 10, 2015 |
[quote author=Jenonye post=39861529][/quote]please post a picture of his work. Thanks. |
| Health › Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by Onegai(f): 10:22pm On Nov 09, 2015 |
babeabike:You can have it made (but good luck finding a great stress-free carpenter 8 months pregnant) or you can have it assembled separately. Buy the crib, measure its length and use that number to buy a chest of drawers. Then buy a changing pad to put on top of the crib. You can then get a carpenter to paint it the colour you want or diy AFTER you give birth. I've seen an assembled changing station but it was open shelves and seemed made of hard plastic, about N45,000b(?) at Ebeano supermarket. 1 Like |
| Family › Re: How To Deal With A Terrible Maid? by Onegai(f): 10:12pm On Nov 09, 2015 |
gratefulme40:Bearded Catfish is only for Wise Men and Women. Oya, show your wisdom or begone   1 Like 1 Share |
| Family › Re: How To Deal With A Terrible Maid? by Onegai(f): 10:02pm On Nov 09, 2015 |
Nelsizzy:May I please buy you:one bottle of Schnapps, a bundle of kolanuts, 3 kegs of palm wine, one complete native outfit from any culture of your choice, 2 bearded catfishes, 1 ram,10 white chicken, 5 tubers of yam and a black-and-white nanny goat as my thanks for writing this beautiful and succinct answer? This reply was so filled with wisdom, that Wisdom itself came out of my laptop and shook hands with me just for reading what you wrote for the OP. 44 Likes 2 Shares |
| Family › Re: My Husband Has Finally Fulfilled his fantasy of having a thr3esom&e by Onegai(f): 2:26pm On Nov 09, 2015 |
Pack bag. Now. Do you have somewhere to go? Go there now. Turn off your phone. Don't let anyone tell you to stay and swallow this and forgive, he did this premeditated. He is expecting you to stay. Leave first. Let him decide whether he wants to keep having fun with razz girls on Badoo or whether he is a responsible human being. Just go right now. If you stay and people convince you to "forgive and draw close to God blah blah", when you are feeling bitter (and honey he will do it again), none of those people will be there. It's time to teach a bad child a good lesson. Shey they told you before to forgive him when he was just thinking of it. How did that work out? 21 Likes |
| Family › Re: Clear Out The Stretch Marks For Good by Onegai(f): 2:13pm On Nov 09, 2015 |
thorpido:I did the coconut oil and Shea butter and it worked. One of my brother's put me on an Olive Oil diet: we cooked everything. with olive oil and made me take. walks daily. I also went swimming till 7 months (I complained but then he showed me his friend who went rock-climbing 6 months pregnant and I shut up ). 3 weeks to my due date, people still. assumed I was only 5 months preggers. 1 Like |
| Family › Re: Will She Ever Regain Her Husband's Confidence, Trust And Respect? by Onegai(f): 12:13pm On Nov 09, 2015 |
@ujujoan, there is nothing wrong with wanting to carry her own child (like her fellow women). So why is she complaining, the husband is exercising his right to cheat like his fellow husbands na Did you read the story? They agreed to wait (it does not matter if she did it to please him, she should have spoken up and said "I no want", others have). Instead she listened to others, made her decision and then without informing him, stopped taking her birth control (it's in the story). Meanwhile the unsuspecting husband was still there, planning for the future. She got pregnant, said nothing for 2 months (so the pregnancy would be viable and it would be more expensive and more dangerous to terminate it), then told him. Then got his family (whom he may not have wanted meddling in his marriage) to gather and do roundtable and browbeat him into accepting it (they even blamed him for not using a condom, when the only reason he didn't was because he trusted his wife). In the name of God, what was she expecting to happen? If this pregnancy ends up complications that require expensive medical treatment and since it was unplanned, he hasn't had enough time to gather funds, will you dip your hand in your wallet to assist them, since you are so understanding? If this pregnancy ends in multiple birth and the husband absconds, will you not be one of the first to condemn him and say "this is why people should not have children they didn't plan for"?? okay, so if someone made a plan not to have kids and his wife and family connived to overthrow it, it is his fault . If someone has children that he didn't plan for, it is his fault. Moral of the story: it is always your fault, don't complain. Do you know why that last line sounds familiar? because that is what we tell women when their husbands cheat: it is always your fault, don't complain. Well whaddya know, we've finally achieved Equality for All Sexes. 5 Likes |
| Family › Re: To The Mothers,I need help o. by Onegai(f): 10:20am On Nov 09, 2015 |
LewsTherin:Morning Sickness |
| Health › Re: Help !!! Help Save Light; A Great Fighter by Onegai(f): 10:13am On Nov 09, 2015 |
Ayolight Please inform the staff at the check-in desk that you have a special needs passenger and explain. Ask them to please give yours seats in the middle of the plane and not at the back where turbulence is felt worse. Ask them to please inform cabin crew about your special needs passenger. Get formula for the baby or juice, when the plane gets pressurized and moves away from the gate to take off, give it to the baby to drink and insist she keeps drinking till the seatbelt sign is off. If she doesn't drink, please put her to sleep before you take off. This will ensure her ears don't pop from the change in pressure and she won't cry. 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Family › Re: To The Mothers,I need help o. by Onegai(f): 9:58am On Nov 09, 2015 |
e yah. But this is pregnancy. I used to wake up with headaches and sleep with headaches. Maybe something is triggering her headaches like smells (even perfumed soap is craze-inducing). Why not take a load off her, no cooking or cleaning Just sit with her and maybe cuddle and watch a movie. Help her to the bathroom to clean up after she throws up. Give her dry bread or crackers to. keep. some food in her stomach. Talk about the baby, discuss names, rub her feet. Keep the room cool. There's no cure for MS so buckle up And don't abandon her to your mum. She needs you, not your MiL. 9 Likes |
| Family › Re: 3-Day-Old Baby Abandoned In Front Of A Church In Lagos (Photos) by Onegai(f): 9:33am On Nov 09, 2015 |
Thank God the parents of this child at least put the child somewhere safe where it could be found easily, wrapped up warmly. This baby was loved but some circumstance made it impossible for the parents to keep it. I pray it gets a good home. 1 Like |
| Family › Re: Clear Out The Stretch Marks For Good by Onegai(f): 8:56am On Nov 09, 2015 |
snowebony:Why not offer a small, free sample of your product to some mothers to try here. A 30 day trial and their testimonials will sell your product better than trying to convince us to pay before seeing results (or because you said it works). Maybe 5 women with different amount of stretch marks and age (stretch marks 5 months ago and stretchmarks from 2 years ago) Nigerian people don't know how to offer free samples or massive discount to introduce their goods into the market. It's always "why not give us a try? " One should factor this into your business plan. 1 Like |
| Family › Re: Clear Out The Stretch Marks For Good by Onegai(f): 8:53am On Nov 09, 2015 |
cococandy:Religiously rub coconut oil+ Shea butter during pregnancy. It acts like tanning lotion so they are less visible. Wear your marks with pride ladies. 1 Like |
| Health › Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by Onegai(f): 7:26am On Nov 09, 2015 |
lovinam:I'm actually November 7 but I celebrate my birthday on Nov 7& 8 because I'm gangster  Happy birthday o, I hope you killed and fried one bearded catfish 1 Like |
| Family › Re: Will She Ever Regain Her Husband's Confidence, Trust And Respect? by Onegai(f): 7:06am On Nov 09, 2015 |
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| Family › Re: Will She Ever Regain Her Husband's Confidence, Trust And Respect? by Onegai(f): 4:58am On Nov 09, 2015 |
damiso:The baby means a massive change of plans for him (which is painful) but he will be delighted when he meets his child. It is the conniving behind his back with his mother and sister that is hurting him. Nothing stopped her from going to him with her suggestions and saying "bae this is what your mum and your sis said o, should we rethink? " Imagine you and your hubby plan Christmas trip and contribute money towards it. in August. Then in December, after you've packed, you enquire when you guys are leaving and he turns to you and says "oh I used the money to give my elder brother to start a business in his village because my father convinced me. I didn't tell you because I knew you would be upset but I'm sure you will be happy in the long run when you see him doing well, he will repay in 7 months' time". Won't you run mad? Wouldn't you come to NL and open a thread and all of us will start shouting "Nigerian men are useless! They never tell you anything, just be changing plans as if you don't matter! " then the male section will show up and be speaking long English (that usually is pointless and meant to rile up). Then one male poster will agree with the women and the men will insult him that he's a lesbian masquerading as a man and one female poster will agree with the men and the women will shout her down that she's a submissive idiot who has no agency over her life. And that was just about money that you will probably make back and forget. talk less of a life-changing decision like a child. They both have to work on boundaries and trust and honesty. It's no excuse but the husband is reacting like a human being: pained and flawed in his thinking. But she did this to herself, na she boil hot water pour am for her bodi. 9 Likes 3 Shares |
| Family › Re: Will She Ever Regain Her Husband's Confidence, Trust And Respect? by Onegai(f): 11:08pm On Nov 08, 2015 |
Mindfulness:Do you know I met a couple who have been married 7 years and do NOT want kids? Nothing wrong with them but they simply don't want kids. The pressure from living in Naija society with that mentality must be crazy... |
| Family › Re: Will She Ever Regain Her Husband's Confidence, Trust And Respect? by Onegai(f): 10:52pm On Nov 08, 2015 |
Mindfulness:You can still do it. It's just that you have to find a way to put the baby down long enough to take a bath. Let's start from there. Your life is not complete until you are peeing and holding your baby in resigned sorrow or wondering why 2 sessions of Immunization at a private clinic costs N81, 000 (I mean you can book one night's stay at a hotel for that amount) you need to see the number of flashy cars that queue up at Local Govt in order to get free immunizations 1 Like |
| Family › Re: Will She Ever Regain Her Husband's Confidence, Trust And Respect? by Onegai(f): 10:33pm On Nov 08, 2015 |
EfemenaXY:Ahswear. Even me that I waited till I was old enough and had some finances and had small experience with kids, was still blindsided by having my own child. Talk less of if hubby and I had planned to wait then outsiders convinced me to con him |
| Family › Re: Will She Ever Regain Her Husband's Confidence, Trust And Respect? by Onegai(f): 9:53pm On Nov 08, 2015 |
veave:Your eyes have not cleared. You sound like this guy's wife.Because you are rushing blindly into something that will overwhelm you and like most Nigerians, are expecting positive outcome from lack of planning. Sorry for insulting you it was this comment you made that made me angry. oya let me explainYour baby needs to be weaned so you bring out formula and a bottle. Your child starts to scream because the affordable FrisoGold (N2500 per can) and made-in-china bottle you bought him and only wants Aptamil (N5500 per can) and Tommy Tippee bottle (N1190 per bottle). Until you buy the right formula and bottle, he insists you breastfeed him and so you find yourself awake every 2 hours (12am, 2am,3.45am...and by the way, he has to be held asleep pr he wakes himself up) like so until you get him what he is satisfied with. He finishes that can every month and poops through N10,000 monthly of disposable diapers happily. But guess what, most Nigerian men will not lie down beside you and help you carry the baby at night, they will sleep in the parlour and leave you to do it all by yourself and still go to work the next day, after having slept 4 hours in a 24 hour cycle. And the toll such behaviour and that baby will take on your marriage, your husband (a typical Naija man) will start hanging out at the viewing centre on weekends to avoid a screaming baby and you will one day cry yourself to sleep because you are so tired YOU CANNOT EVEN SLEEP. And we have not called Immunization money, doctor money, creche money, clothing money... And that is the behaviour of a NORMAL baby. And you want this so badly because "your mates dey dia". Nigerian people are not honest, they will never paint a clear picture because Misery loves Company. This man's wife is a slowpoke. Two came together as One and made a plan as a team, he probably took his time to explain everything: maybe they need a cheap plot of land to build a block of flats to rent out and increase their income, maybe start a business, maybe get to know each other better in marriage (because children are the most dividing thing in marriage). Yet this idiotic wife of his went to listen to MiL and SiL (who will conveniently disappear when she needs someons to help her carry baby so she can go to market or will start grumbling that she should back the baby and go to market herself)decided to take their advice and deceitfully pull this stunt on her husband. What next, they will plan another thing and the landlord's wife and the pepper-seller she calls "auntie" will convince her to go behind his back?? She screwed up royally and he is deliberately punishing her. She should go and beg, yes beg, and swear to never break any agreement they both come to. And delete all numbers till she is sure her stvpidity will not allow one friend from Primary School and that Uncle that never talks to her unless he wants something to sway her once she has taken a decision involving her marriage. 8 Likes 3 Shares |
| Family › Re: Moms Get In Here by Onegai(f): 5:52pm On Nov 08, 2015 |
babygirlfl:Google them ma (I'm more conversant with US stores) but I know Bambino Mio is U.K. start from there, also www.amazon. co.uk http://www.thenappylady.co.uk/ http://www.mothercare.com/reusable-nappies/babycare_nappy_reusbalenappies,default,sc.html http://www.clothnappyshop.co.uk/ I know Mothercare sells. 1 Like |
| Health › Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by Onegai(f): 5:34pm On Nov 08, 2015 |
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| Family › Re: Moms Get In Here by Onegai(f): 5:27pm On Nov 08, 2015 |
BleSSedMee:Thanks the diapers (depending on which you get) are not cheap upfront but pay in the long run. If you buy online from the US or UK, you'll get either a free diaper or some other nice gift. Plus they can help. you make choices from a wide variety of styles of diaper (AIO, AI2, pocket, fitted, prefold). |
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