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No you are not a bad influence.

maclatunji:
anny101, you seem to have married a recluse. I am reclusive with outsiders like crazy too but not with my family. Although, I am now forced to relate with people.

I think your husband will be difficult to crack. However, let me advise you thus:

We men are programmed to appreciate two things; great food and sex (even for guys who are not crazy about it).

So, do you know the kinds of food he really likes? If you don't find-out. Then, prepare them in excess, let him eat and eat. By the time he is full-to-the brim you will have in the palm of your hands. Enjoy him after that.

I know some of us men are not crazy about sex but that does not mean we don't like it- only that the conditions have to be right.

You are a woman, provide allure to your husband. This is not necessarily about wearing skimpy clothes, it is about engaging his mind. So meet him at the moments when his attention is engaged on something and subtly embed yourself in his thoughts; football, news, politics, gaming whatever. Let it be that whenever he thinks about his favourite football club or whatever, he also thinks about what you his wife says about them. Over time, he will value your inputs and companionship and there is a small limit to a man valuing his wife on anything without him wanting to make love to her. You should learn to maximise these situations.

Always sit by his right side not his left, humans have been found to be more willing to do things whispered into their right ear.

You have a lot of work to do to grab your husband's attention, but whatever you try don't be desperate.

N.B: If all of this fails, just go and sit on his laps (preferably when your daugther is not around). He is your husband, you have a right to do that. #Laughing.

She did not marry a recluse. He hangs out in the evenings and weekends with friends. Recluse indeed. This topic is not about her husband ignoring her. This topic is about her suspecting that he has found interest in another woman so he does not need her for those things

Call of the wedding

Scrap NYSC. Millions of naira being wasted. Divert those funds to other things

This is why when I tell younger Nigerian women of nowadays to expand their horizons people feel I am on a hate Nigerian men agenda. it is very far from it. It is a trend that I have noticed for quite a while. It is hard to find a honorable one. One who finds pride in being respectably monogamous. Most of them even are of the opinion that they are entitled to it. I know there have always been cheating people but growing up it was not at the rate it is today. Times are changing I know but you cannot change the color of respect. A man with no self restraint is not a disciplined person. You don't take someone like that home to your parents. Don't marry them and then complain

I swear to God I can pull two gorillas and two gazelles maybe a possum (just in case) from the jungle and they will do a much better job of governing. Nigeria is a fuching joke. These people are so shamefully and painfully incompetent I want to hide

Instead of focusing on educating their peers on stretching their money for the duration of the time they are here or at the very least have some sort of health insurance policy for members of the guild they are here gisting at a restaurant. How many Nollywood actors/actresses have we seen now not even be able to afford medical treatment when we know that some of them have no reason to not be able to afford it. Sometimes I honestly can feel God's frustration at the daftness of people. They want to be spoon fed and not get solutions for their issues

Worst place to be a woman . . . .

Tell them how stuopid they are. It is just sheer ignorance. There is no other word for it. How can you go to doctor and lie about the duration of your symptoms or your age. Foolishness

I prefer male obstetricians. They are professionals. I am sure that if it a matter of life and death you will not care if it is giraffe that is saving someones life

LOL. Old people are so cute sometimes. It's not a big deal abeg. Don't sweat it

He should be cooked slowly until he is well done. Animal

Why does it even matter. Take whatever you get and thank God that it is healthy

Don't compare him with his peers and do not frustrate him from learning. I will recommend seeing a doctor to see if there is anything you need to be doing. What do you mean by he likes playing with his hands

May her soul rest in perfect peace.

Happy Birthday CC How old are you now. Talk true. May the blessings of the Lord overflow in your life. May everything you love and touch blossom in Jesus' Name. Amen o

mutter:
How does your SIL come in . I am confused.
If he is against the registry marriage start with the traditional one. With time the other one will come.
I do not like the word control, could it be that you want to have control over the man yourself?

I have to disagree with you. No be by force to marry. If teh sister inlaw is part of the reason why he has refused to go to the registry it is because that wicked woman knows that going to the registry means that the wife gets her right ful legal position. She does not want that because she has the mentality that she must chop "her brother's money". The man is not ready to marry why force him. The only part I agree with you is that she should not blame the SIL. Blame the child that she is forcing to marry her

Why are they going right to the government. Why not camp out at the Principal abi vice chancellors office or house. Why not start there? Was money not allocated to the school by the state. Have they demanded that they see what their schools allocation was used for. Everybody jumps right to the government because that is what everyone else is doing. Why not light a fire publicly under the people that were appointed to run the school. Na the government go come make sure say your toilet dey work.

What a shame

I don't understand why people get surprised when they create a monster and act shocked when it acts like a monster. I feel sorry for the children. If your right hand will make you sin CUT IT OFF Nonsense

Why did you let her live with you for two years. You caused your problem. Better go get a lawyer and get your child back. I think there might be something wrong with you because I just cannot believe that a man that wants his child can know where the child is and not have the child. Please tell another story

Your cousin is mini me. As far as I am concerned there are germs on everything. And before anyone comes in and calls me obsessive compulsive please don't bother. I hear it everyday. It's not going to change anything. If you know the number of people that pick their noses and dig in their yanshes and then shake your hand you will even wear gloves everywhere you go.

Confront him but start looking for a new place asap. His wife will definitely make life unbearable for you guys especially that poor girl. It's really encouraging to read about people who care about the welfare of their house helps. No wonder she put herself at risk to protect you guys. Please move for the sake of your help and your daughters

What country do you reside. People change their names when they marry and change it back when they divorce so I am guessing you can

I also remember doing one with my older son because I had an accident when I was pregnant with him and I was spotting a little after the accident

I am surprised by Canada though. In the US it is at about 16-20 weeks and you can opt out. It is even recommended that you do not do it if you can avoid it. The only times ultra sounds are necessary is for possible health issues. I had them with both my boys to check their sex and honestly that was not even necessary.

I highly doubt that an educated woman like Bianca said that

LMAO. You still have not treated this your vomitting. I vomited too. Just a little in my mouth