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If you are a christian do both. The only legal one is the one you do through the courts.

Why are you worried about what they are staring at. Would you just rather have her stare at her feet. There are no spirits oe babies in heaven that she is staring out. She is just doing what babies do

Runs back in to look. Speaks more tongues. Runs back out

Please can you guys have some respect and not post Chris Attoh. I am a married woman and I cannot be tempted. Get behind me satan. You worker of iniquity. Speaks in tongues and runs out of thread

Please define fit. because the way people are throwing out names is scary. very soon they will have Ejike Asiegbu on the list

I dey fear for men o. I can imagine any african man seeing this from behind and going crazy. That ATL sefl

I have never liked seeing little kids sucking their thumbs but now I even have more reasons not to like it.

I will post this on my facebook wall as for the family they should hide their heads in shame. A man that beats his wife that is pregnant did not start today. i think there is a curse woven into the culture that says peoples brain should stop actively working until a human being is dead. Unfortunately this poor woman is not the first and she will not be the last. All those people that are appealing to the police should be arrested for obstructing an investigation. maybe when they see that they can end up in jail they will run and hide . Elders my ass

Every couple is different. I tried to push my husband out of the way a little when I had the first one. Not that he was not good enough I think I felt that I could just do it better. Eventually we fell into a routine. He never left the room. In fact I was the one that left initially so I could focus on my baby and that was very unfair on my part. The man is simply talking because the baby is not here yet. Once the baby gets here all that nonsense will change. The woman might feel like the man is a nuisance by being there and he might end up being the one that wants to stay and help with the baby. They will have to figure out what will work for them. There is no one rule

No unless they earn income. Pocket money is not earned income.

99% of it. Too much to list

I am starting to not believe these stories. I know in laws can be crazy but this is extreme. I grew up in Nigeria for the most part and this never happened. There is more to this story. How can you say that you had to get dstv in every room so that your in laws who you want out will feel comfortable or that someone left her matrimonial home because her husband asked her sister to leave. It sounds like either you people are allowing the behavior or some of it is just not true. Buying food and hiding it in the bedroom so that someone does nto eat it is ridiculous. Your wife is tripping for even reducing herself to that. Why can you not tell them not to eat it and if they cannot follow your rules they have to leave and go somewhere were there are no rules.

[quote author=~Killz~ link=topic=865547.msg10150531#msg10150531 date=1328712291][color=#000030]It's obvious he has a deep sense of respect for his mom! He doesnt want to lose his mother's support over a wife issue and he doesnt want her to choose for him either! Telling her point blank and to the face "to go play with her husband" is not only rude, but insulting. Some guys are very close to their mothers and from personal experience, mothers do this out of love and are scared most times that they will lose their beloved son to a foreign lady, therefore, they endeavor to put up a diligent search of a wife for their son. A woman they - sometimes erroneously- believe is the "best" for their son. If you dont handle such matters with care, you'll lose your mothers affection and later in life, when you have a serious misunderstanding with the wife you chose, the wife you mother suggested comes to mind and you cant but wonder if you actually made a good choice of wife! You would have actually eliminated such feelings if in actuality, you checked out the girl mumsy suggested in the first place! Mind you, mothers too make a good choice, and they are by far, more experienced than us in matters of marriage. Even after marriage, we still go to them for advice, so i dont see it wrong if they suggest a wife for you. It's just that most times, we fit don go promise one kele say we go marry am, before momsy go scatter the runs. So the actual dilemma is how you will renege on a promise made, and your sense of pride. Most people believe they are old enough to make decisions. While that might be the case, i believe they should also be old enough to accept suggestions and weigh issues critically, from a different point of view. So in other to avoid "unnecessary" conflict, agree with her to later disagree!  [/color][/quote]It doesn't have anything to do with respect for his mother. Have you thought about the embarassment for the girl. we are not talking about the US here were people are not desperate to marry. Imagine someones mother finds a "wife" for him. He leads both mother and girl on. Both families start to call each other in laws and then he does not want the relationship anymore. I just think it is selfish. His mom is still a human being and should learn to understand that no is no. There is nothing diplomatic about hurting someone all the name of keeping mom happy.

How old are you and how old is she?

I'll have to come back to this. Don't have time now to write

So he should lead the girl on just to please the mother. How about telling his mom to go play with her husband so he can find his own wife.

Na wa oh. Look at a husband reduced to counting the numbe rof indomie packets that his inlaw is eating. Why do you have grown ass people living in your home in the first place? These days I am not a morning person and I know I will be irritated if someone turned on my tv at 6:30 in the morning or maybe take it off the weather channel were I usually have it ON A DAILY BASIS FOR MONTHS. LOL. That will be serious. I am pretty sure that your wife will not pu tup with that from your people. I know I will not put up with that andneither would my husband

Okay I just remembered something LOL. This guy I know said that he used to date this girl that sucks her thumb. EVEN DURING SEX. LOL. I am still trying to play it in my mind. He said sometimes she would take it out and moan but then she would put it right back LOL. I was speechless o. I thought I had heard everything I could hear. Everybody was laughing but I was schocked. When he was asked if he stopped he said why? The mumu kept going back for more LOL

I have never heard of a woman with a man eating her right crying out for help because it was just so bad it was unbearable. Rollseyes. If your spouse hates sex then half the problem is yours especially if she is not getting it outside of the marriage

So sad. May his soul rest in peace.

If you can keep the fact that you are financially stable from her for a while that will be better for you. I know the way the average Nigerian thinks so I would advice that you make sure whomever you are dating is dating you for you. Many families will even ask their daughters not to marry you until they find out about your money. Be careful. In the end you will find love but don't rush it