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RomanceRe: Tragedy Of Love by pendo89(f): 10:10am On Oct 18, 2012
Ok then tell her to stop acting silly.
Break the engagement and move on.
CrimeRe: Uniport Killings: Suspects Charged With Conspiracy, Murder by pendo89(f):
I have watched the video on youtube and I am in shock!! Nobody bothered to listen ? just listen? Even the devil listens!!

Can these people be dropped in a Piranha filled pond please? >> like this
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JQIo9r8ZcjM

Very disturbing. cry
Foreign AffairsRe: Jubaland: Africa's 55th Country by pendo89(f): 8:32am On Oct 18, 2012
Kails where are you? grin

Somebody is just about to become minced meat.
PoliticsRe: THE Top 10 Countries With The Strongest Army In Africa!! by pendo89(f): 8:27am On Oct 18, 2012
Tanzania in the East?? Onila c'mmon.
RomanceRe: Your Dating Mistakes That You Have Learnt From by pendo89(f): 8:24am On Oct 18, 2012
Falling in love with the first date!
RomanceRe: Why Can't We Find Girls Like Mary In D Bible Again? by pendo89(f): 8:19am On Oct 18, 2012
djeezy: Απϑ what aя̩̥̊ε̲̣̣̣̥ the qualities?
Joseph was no ordinary man. He was a man of compassion, integrity, decency and love.
He was a man who honored God’s will in his life, and was totally committed to doing God’s will.
Joseph was a humble man who was more concerned about what God wanted out of his life than about what he himself wanted.
He was a humble man chosen for a heavenly mission.
He possessed certain characteristics that mark him as a special man.I am almost sure that the Lord will not call you and me to go through what Joseph went through.

When he took Mary into his home, he refrained himself from physical contact with her. He obeyed the Lord and preserved her virginity until after Jesus had been born. Here is a man willing to bear the shame and reproach leveled at him from the community, and he is also willing to place his own desires, needs and rights on the back burner. He wants nothing more than to do the perfect will of God.
Do you have such character? If you want a Mary,then desire to be a Joseph.

Hi Sauer. smiley
RomanceRe: Why Can't We Find Girls Like Mary In D Bible Again? by pendo89(f): 9:30pm On Oct 17, 2012
Dondav: I believe I do.
That means you possess Judas' qualities.
RomanceRe: Can Love Exist Without Jealousy? by pendo89(f): 9:25pm On Oct 17, 2012
[quote author=Mrs.Chima]let me share you something personal...when a man approached me at the market my husband didn't do anything until he saw the man getting beside himself and he simply called my name asking me to meet him over where he was at. He quietly asked me if I was okay or do he need to check him?

In America, people can be arrested for public disturbance so my husband didn't want to cause issues unless imperative. I gave my husband the okay and he handled it. That was an act of love.

My husband may been jealous when the guy approached me but he balanced it by behaving maturely and asked if he needed to step in. That's balance between jealousy and love. I expected my husband to be jealous since I am his wife and I would have felt the same way but react maturely. No need to act a fool with a fool.

I grew to respect and admire my husband more so therefore our bond strengthened and we had a good time.

What do you think of the analogy?[/quote]I love it.
Means that One's reaction to a particular situation will tell if it stems from jealousy or love.
As in, if one behaves in a disordely,unprotective and violent manner, just to get his message across,it's obvious what the root cause is.
thanks
Foreign AffairsRe: Top 10 Most Liveable Cities In Africa -- Nigeria No Where To Be Found by pendo89(f): 8:46pm On Oct 17, 2012
grin grin
RomanceRe: Why Can't We Find Girls Like Mary In D Bible Again? by pendo89(f): 8:14pm On Oct 17, 2012
Do you possess the carpenter's qualities?
RomanceRe: Can Love Exist Without Jealousy? by pendo89(f): 8:09pm On Oct 17, 2012
[quote author=Mrs.Chima]Jealousy is a natural emotion however balancing jealousy and love can be delicate therefore can ruin a relationship.[/quote]I love that.It made me think.
Where do we draw the line? How do I tell if my partners reactions/attitude are prompted by love and not jealousy?
RomanceRe: Tragedy Of Love by pendo89(f): 7:35pm On Oct 17, 2012
[quote author=Rolling.]The only worry on her mind is how she will feel if the first guy comes back and find out what hapens considering the fact that they were engaged before he travelled.Her conscience is sort of hitting her.[/quote]Why drain life out of the very thing we commit ourselves to,by failing to communicate?
The passion will die with time and then we start looking elsewhere!That is human nature. A romantic relationship needs constant communication to keep it burning and the flame in this case died long ago.Whatever remains of it exists only in her head.That is why it was easy for her to get pregnant for another man.

Now guilt and regret is not going to help here because the deed has been done is manifest.
Who knows what the guy has been up to for the 2 years anyway? Could he have impregnanted a girl? he is a man rem.
Well here is what,They both failed, but heavy responsibility lies on the girl cz she's soon going to be a mother!

You still haven't answered my question though.What is the second guy's position on this? Is he willing to marry her? Has he accepted responsibility?
Do they have a good relationship going on? Does he know about the first guy and the engagement? His stand?
Another angle to it is this,even though I blame lack of communication here. If one can be unfaithful during the engagement period to the extent of getting pregnant/sleeping around in case of a guy,how much more when she/he marries?

Anyway always put measures in place to safeguard or forget about long distance all together
RomanceRe: Tragedy Of Love by pendo89(f): 2:57pm On Oct 17, 2012
You are mixing issues here.Your question is 'comfusing'.
There's a pregnancy involved plus talk of marriage.Those two do not go hand in hand because they are not yet committed to each other.
If she fell in love with the second guy and chose to get pregnant for him,where does the abortion come in?
Has she has been rejected by the second guy or does she harbour hopes of reuniting with the first?

And what is the second guys opinion regarding the pregnancy?
If he fails to own up,then she must take responsibility as a single mum to be.That is what responsibility is about, not avoiding because it will come back to haunt.
Can't help thinking what could possibly go wrong in the process and what she stands to gain by aborting.
RomanceRe: I'm confused, what should I do? by pendo89(f):
Discomfuse me.

lemmie see if I can try.

31 yrs old.You plan to marry a girl that's joining school in a different state.
You want her close, but the only way is for her to school in your state?
You are not willing to bear the cost of transfer and education till you make her your wife?
Can't you see how you are BLACKMAILING HER?


Now I understand why you are comfused.
RomanceRe: I'm confused, what should I do? by pendo89(f): 9:04am On Oct 17, 2012
Comfusing thread full of comfused posters.

I don't know why I read 'Marri' as 'Garri' But Honestly I don't want to believe that you are 31 yrs.
RomanceRe: I'm confused, what should I do? by pendo89(f): 8:59am On Oct 17, 2012
Roflol!
Who is comfusing you and why are you allowing yourself to be comfused?
RomanceRe: I'm confused, what should I do? by pendo89(f): 8:50am On Oct 17, 2012
huh you are what?
RomanceRe: Woman Buys Giant Billboard Ad To Blast Cheating Husband by pendo89(f): 8:45am On Oct 17, 2012
grin
RomanceRe: How Do You Prove You Love Your Partner? by pendo89(f): 10:22pm On Oct 16, 2012
through loving them.
Begin by understandng what love is, then practice it and you have it.
Nairaland GeneralRe: Sex Differences by pendo89(f): 10:20pm On Oct 16, 2012
lol sholly vs shy round 2! grin
RomanceRe: I Need Matured Answers Please..its Urgent by pendo89(f): 10:15pm On Oct 16, 2012
I haven't,Fluid,but it seems as if desh has really had it rough. 3 threads about the same woman?
But what I meant was, 'he shouldn't try to offer her counsel, even if she throws tantrums or shows remorse, for obvious reasons.
The person who ruined it (mum) should shoulder that burden.Whether good or bad now,he's out of the pic.
RomanceRe: I Need Matured Answers Please..its Urgent by pendo89(f): 9:26pm On Oct 16, 2012
This is too much garbage at ur doorstep.Marriage,pregnancy,drugs.
All I can say is watch your back cz you never know who's keeping track of her.
If it's help and counselling, I believe her mum can do a good job.
Find a new girl.
PoliticsRe: Picture & Names Of Kidnappers Of Osun Speaker’s Wife by pendo89(f): 6:58pm On Oct 16, 2012
the guy on far left has a broken arm.
Foreign AffairsRe: Top 10 Most Liveable Cities In Africa -- Nigeria No Where To Be Found by pendo89(f): 8:41pm On Oct 15, 2012
proud of my country.
Democracy and firm leadership
Nairaland GeneralRe: Sex Differences by pendo89(f): 7:59pm On Oct 15, 2012
Ifilinwa: Why do guys find it hard to forgive their partners when they found out that she is cheating, when they always want d ladies to Forgive them when caught
It's the animal Kingdom.Wild animals provide good examples.Have you ever watched bulls fight for females and how protective they are of those they mate with?
This is what I think.

A man in love 'can be /is' possessive of his woman.A woman cheating on him is equal to kicking him below the belt cz it questions his manhood,his ability to make a woman stick around.
It exposes his sexual/overall weakness and that hurts to the core.

Now I know women feel the same way if not worse,but this what I think;

A 'wayward' man feels like a conquerer whenever he sleeps around.The act gives him a feeling of superiority,above the other males in his group.
Something to boast about because he conquered new grounds.A perfect hunterer.(unfortunately most end up hunting HIV and other STDS in the process).
'Some' women find it easy to forgive such men, because they seem to attract women.They seem valuable in their women's eyes and therefore men believe their women ought to be proud of that fact>(in high demand)

A 'wayward' woman on the other hand feels guilt and shame.If she lets her guard down she loses credibility/worth in the sight of her man.The man doesn't view her as one who's being 'sought after' or in demand,but as a failure.

So while cheating by a man to some women may be an act of bravado,to a man,a woman cheating is a sign of defeat.
RomanceRe: Are Girls Afraid To Be Seen Without Makeup? by pendo89(f): 6:53pm On Oct 15, 2012
www.nairaland.com/attachments/852285_goldie1__jpg753e5dbbd3f4ab3b493b90a56ffe6275

I am shocked beyond words. shocked shocked.
average make up is fine for all ladies but those who can't do without have deep issues.
Foreign AffairsRe: Top 10 Most Liveable Cities In Africa -- Nigeria No Where To Be Found by pendo89(f): 2:42pm On Oct 15, 2012
Why is Mogadishu missing? tongue
FoodRe: Amazing Uses Of Coca-cola by pendo89(f): 12:32pm On Oct 15, 2012
Recent laboratory test have found out that Coca-Cola, Pepsi-Cola, Diet Coke, and Diet Pepsi contain high levels of cancer causing chemical called 4-methylimidazole (4MEI). This is a colourant chemical that gives these drinks the distinctive brown colour.

The red flag was raised by American watchdog, the Centre for Science in Public Interest (CSPI) who commissioned the test.

The fact that 4MEI does not contribute to flavour means that it is not necessary but just a ‘cosmetic’ additive.

In the whole world, only the state of California has set a limit of 4MEI in foods to 29 microgram per serving of food or drink. Astonishingly, Coca Cola contains 142 -146 micrograms in a 350 ml can or bottle which is almost four times above the limit. Pepsi on the other hand has even higher quantities 145 – 153micrograms.
FoodRe: Amazing Uses Of Coca-cola by pendo89(f): 12:08pm On Oct 15, 2012
deniceguy: Foreign coca-cola,right??...I dnt beliv d type we ve here can actually do all these..
Thought coke has a formula?? Same all over? The only difference is water quality.
FoodRe: Amazing Uses Of Coca-cola by pendo89(f): 12:05pm On Oct 15, 2012
You are right. Esp the cleaning toilet bowl bit.I stopped drinking 'sodas' esp coke years back. All this carbonated stuff don't form part of my diet.
Nairaland GeneralRe: Ayanle456 Should Be Banned From Nairaland by pendo89(f): 10:57am On Oct 15, 2012
Perhaps he should stay.
He's lost flavour and I want to regurgitate him.

grin grin

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