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Gentle Naaz: She snores deeply @ 9t; fearsome atimes . I once ran away by 2:30 am

You broke my ribs!

LOL @ Anglehoney and 190.

No chemistry no relationship. Stop forcing and trying to make it work.She's even told you that she's selfish.
Will you come crying after a heartbreak?
And true, give her a total blackout and see if she comes calling.If she does she misses you.

Tolaaaaannni: -Too loud,
-Arrogant,
-Too superficial(Completely obsessed with his looks)
-Not articulate enough (Uses too much vulgar words/"has a limited vocabulary",
-Talks/acts like an idi.ot,
- Dresses like an id.iot (Pants down to his ankles),
- Doesn't look tidy,
-Obviously disorganized,
-Mentally unstable


The list goes on.

LOL @ the bolded.

There's a look which I dislike in a guy I am trying to understand.A lustful look, which makes him look like a hungry hyena ready to pounce.
But those talking about pads,how do you get to see them unless the girl is a careless and dirty one?

jovie50: Girls note: Not every guy that talks or plays with you is sexually attracted to you and make una stop that childish attitude like say na una fine pass.. ~red eye~, mtcheww see their head like kote fish,...,

Ok all was well till the Kote Fish part.
What happend??

I know a man who saved his gf no. as 'Missed call'.Whenever it rang while he was away, the wife would remind him of a 'missed call'.
Well he got busted one day. Silly.

lol! I think it's a chemical used by scam artists to 'wash money.'Seen a documentary on youtube.
goodgirl please confrm

jellyface: @ happy98 is right, she is my boss who is married with kids.
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thought so,now let the book be cz she may have read it and get her something to hang on her office wall or table.

And be a good employee or else you may feel the urge to throw it into the trash can when you cross lines.

vivian chinaza: Well, he is in his 30s. The points you mentioned are the reasons I'm scared. Thank you!

You need not to be.He is only a 'friend' so caution must be exercised.Make it a platonic relationship and use that platform to 'advice' with wisdom.
Try to throw in hints eg.Refuse high cost dinners and a flashy lifetyle and let him know why.Emphasise more on saving.
If that doesn't ring a bell at all, then give him space.I am sure he will find a lady to waste his money on, but he will forever be gratful to you whether you end up with him or not.
They always come back to their senses when they run bankrupt and all friends are gone.

When you are in a real good relationship,you will not need advice on how to avoid guys.
It will come naturally.Instinct.

Depends on how they play the game.
If all a brother talks about is End times,Judgement,Prophecy,What the Lord is saying at the moment all the time and carries a bible even out on date then he is a bore.
If the only place he takes his girl out to, is for night vigil or church missions then he's one boring fellow.
One must be spiritually natural and naturally spiritual without compromising his faith.

okosodo: Laptop and modem

That is a gift for an 18 year old high school graduate.

You have a big hurdle to jump.
Seems like a very mature (age)man from the story. Some people have cash, but managing it is the challenge.
These are the millionaires today and bankrupt the next.
They sleep at Intercon today and tomorrow under a bridge.
They Dine and Wine in Paris today, then soak 'garri' the next week.

Well.. give it a try but don't let your guard down.Talk to him and see if he listens cz if he does, it means there's room/hope for improvement.
You don't have to commit yet.You see,whether we like it or not some of these 'careless behaviours' spill into marriage and end up causing couples to live in continous debts.A financially unstable man is a big headache.
Let him prove his maturity in spending as a single man before you both get entangled in debts as a couple.

lefulefu: wich normal man go want to date a troublesome woman?

I think you would cz you love trouble.

nenergy: Hahaha. Listen, Just because a guy "doesn't mind" your slutty fashion sense doesn't mean he likes it. He might just be tolerating it,so as to get enough of what he really wants.

I understand what you mean and you are right, it happens.
But you will be suprised at what some men/women find tasty in real life.
A gangster looks sexy to some women than the cool reserved guy.So does a 'slutty woman' to some men.
And don't say they aren't willing to settle down with them, unless you are living in paradise.
I'ts a big world full of different people with varied tastes.That you must know.
Thing is,men and women get dumped because an aspect of their relationship failed to work.
The reasons you mentioned above work both ways cz men get dumped for the same same reasons.

jstringz: Exactly what I thought bt dem babes fit make u feel so guilty.

Exactly what I thought bt dem babes fit make u feel so guilty.

Guilty why? You should only feel guilty if you have made a serious commitment to her and a serious commitment to me means engagement.
I love it when a man has his secrets.I don't need to know it all.No.I love feeling there's something yet to be discovered.
But hey we are all diff.

Again,just wondering why I should know his earnings if I am comfortable in the relationship.I will not feel comfortable disclosing mine either because that is my privacy.Only my boss should know.
Comfort here meaning enjoying the basics of dating.

proper.

A motivational book.

mawojuuche: what do u xpect when even a gal hawking banana is also pinging...

u guys are crazy.

But no.Life is about choices.I see no sense in one destroying her/his life just cause a person let them down.Passing blame is not the answer.
These money excuses also don't make sense.A relationship needs to be properly defined right from the word go.
I keep saying,if you woe a girl using money,you will need lots of it to sustain her, or else she goes searching when you run dry.
Remember that money comes and goes and everyone is working hard at getting rich, so your money is not good enough to sustain a relationship.
Use the skills and talents you have to get a girl then decide how much you wish to spend on her.What keeps her there are those qualities.
A good relationship imo is one where both partners chip in something at least for respect sake.

Define Godly woman /man.

it messes up her skin besides other dangers.

There's no formula poster.
Women are not all the same,neither are relationships,
What some men find repulsive in a woman, other men find it attractive.eg,some men love stubborn women,while others prefer them cool and reserved.
Others don't mind the plastic surgery and makeup, if anything, they are more willing to pay for it.

I would therefore say that a woman is dumped because the relationship just didn't work! And the reason that it didn't, is limited to that particular relationship not all.

It's immoral. I can't dare ask my sis or brother how much they take home because it's none of my biz.It shouldn't be!
I mean that's like intruding into ones' privacy.
In the case of a husband and wife that is okay for purpose of budgeting.
But a GF/BF relationship? I say no,because a girl will start planning the budget in her head.And we are blessed with calculating to the last cent, so woe unto you if you disclose the figure earned, but fail to account for the expenditure.
Some things should be left where they belong for peace sake.

It's lovely.Scrub and massage each other.
But in the mornings the rush doesn't allow.

26 years= 15 men?

Wow! I can't comment

The people of Somalia will forever be grateful to Kenya for helping them liberate Kismayu and other towns in the south of the war-torn country.
This is the passionate message to Kenyans from Somalia President Hassan Sheikh Mohamud.

“The Somalia government is truly grateful to Kenya for the contribution it has made to peace and stability in Somalia since 1991 up to recently when the Kenya Defence Forces (KDF), the African Union Mission to Somalia (Amisom) contingent and our national army liberated Kismayu,” the Somalia president says.

Speaking to The Standard On Sunday through his government’s Ambassador to Kenya Mohamed Ali Nur, President Mohamud said Somalia had reached “the lowest of the lowest,” but was confident that with Kenya’s and the international community’s support, the country is on track to recovery.

He appreciated KDF for helping the Somalia national army break Al-Shabaab and expressed confidence the few towns remaining under the influence of the fleeing AlShabaab would also be liberated soon.

“The KDF soldiers shed their blood in helping us liberate Somalia and we will never forget that,” he said. He also thanked the other Amisom supported countries of Uganda, Burundi, and Djibouti for sending their sons and daughters, some of who lost their lives in the war effort to bring back law and order to Somalia.

Civil war

Nur recalled that since 1991 when former President Mohamed Siad Barre’s government collapsed, Kenyans living close to the border had welcomed Somalis running away from the civil war and received them in their homes even before Dadaab and Kakuma refugee camps were built.

“We will never forget such gestures and the charity of Kenyans when they received our people with open arms and open hearts,” Nur says.

As the Somalia President is busy preparing to appoint a new Prime Minister and forward his name to Parliament for approval, he is also scorching rumours that the neighbouring Kenya will have leeway to install local temporary administration under the watch of KDF troops.

Mohamud is further assuring that the seaport city of Kismayu liberated from the Al Shabaab militia by KDF and the Amisom contingent will soon have an inclusive local administration. He says the Mogadishu-based government will widely consult with stakeholders, particularly the council of elders in Kismayu before naming an interim administration.

The new Kismayu administration would be inclusive and local council of elders would be involved to come-up with a broad-based initiative.

Kenya hosts more than 500,000 refugees from Somalia in the refugee camps, and Nur says his government appreciates the care.

He recalled talks, which helped establish peace through elders meetings in Mbagathi that saw the election of the late President Abdulahi Yusuf and 275 Members of Parliament, resulting in the creation of the Transitional Federal Government (TFG) in 2004 until August this year, when President Mohamud was elected. He says his government has appealed to the international community, donors and United Nations agencies to provide humanitarian assistance to refugees, especially those who fled Kismayu inside Somalia so that they don’t come to Kenya.

The impact of refugee influx and the sending of Kenyan forces into Somalia have severely strained the country’s resources.

Addressing the UN General Assembly in New York last week as Kismayu was being liberated, President Kibaki appealed to the UN and the international community to help in the resettlement of refugees back to Somalia, once stability is restored.

Nur says the next move is to establish interim administrations in the liberated areas before they can organise to hold elections and vote independently after law and order is established for the reconstruction programme to start.

But efforts to set up an administration in Kismayu could face a greater challenge than the military operation to control it. Since 1991, Barre’s military commanders, warlords, and Islamic and clan militias have fought to control the port with varying degrees of success.

Clan interests

Al Shabaab in Kismayu managed clan interests among more powerful Darod (Marehan and Ogaden), Harti (Majerteen, Warsengeli, and Dhulbahante) and Hawiye (Hawaadle and Sheikhal) clans, and the less powerful Bantu and Dir clans.

The Somali government must perform a delicate balancing act to fill the power vacuum successfully amid serious clan tensions. It appears that some elements of the former TFG in co-operation with Igad, AU and UN authorities want to re-unify the regions of lower and middle Juba and Gedo under a renewed Jubaland administration (it also has been referred to as Azania State).

At a conference in June held in Karen, Nairobi, representatives from different groups in Kismayu discussed power-sharing among in the proposed Jubaland state.

Representatives included the then TFG deputy interior minister Abdi Ali Hassan, Gen Abdullahi Sheikh Ismail “Fartaag” of Gedo Defense Forces (Hirale’s forces), much touted Jubaland/Azania president Mohamed Abdi Mohamad alias “Ghandhi”, Sheikh Mohamed Yusuf Mohamud alias “Aw-Libaax” of Ahlu Sunnah Wal Jamaa and Maalim Mohamed Ibrahim of Ras Kamboni Brigade.

Though this initiative has not been approved by the Somali parliament, it raises concerns in its exclusion of some regional clans and past controversial attempts to establish clan-based governments in meetings held outside Somalia and with dubious representatives from the involved clans.

Kenya sees Jubaland as a “buffer zone” against violent extremism in setting up the new administration. Al Shabaab’s heavy taxation and forced recruitment in Kismayu were unpopular, but communities would not welcome leaders consumed by their own personal interests.

The port in the Somali government’s backyard in Mogadishu has long been plagued by corruption, which further points to the need of a credible authority in Kismayu and more broadly in Jubaland.

Kismayu was Al Shabaab’s last major stronghold on account of the revenue that the group has been generating through exporting charcoal and levying taxes on imported goods. Tonnes of charcoal remain abandoned at the port, after the militia fled from the might of the allied forces.

Businesses in Kismayu are re-opening and the locals’ daily routine is slowly returning to normal. KDF is in control of the port, police station, port city factory, former state house and the two airports.

The Somali government is also preparing mediations between the city’s stakeholders in order to establish an inclusive local administration. President Mohamud has been getting regular briefings on the situation on the ground, in Kenya and from Amisom and is satisfied with the progress so far.

The Government also appreciates the support being provided by the Intergovernmental Authority on Development (Igad) to jointly come-up with a suitable framework to build a local administration.

Nur said the talks between all stakeholders in regard to Kismayu stability that were held in Karen, Nairobi, were productive, adding the guidelines that were crafted will be of useful in setting-up administration.

He said a major conference will be held in Somalia to come up with best leadership structure.

Nur says he just came back from Somalia and there is already a big change. Somalis from the Diaspora are returning home and engaging in construction of big hotels, offices and residential buildings. There has been a great improvement in security and the biggest indicator of the closer links to Kenya and the strengthening of the bonds between the two countries is that a year ago there were only three flights a week from Nairobi to Mogadishu. Today there are three flights a day booked in advance.

“We can see light at the end of the tunnel now. We are very optimistic. We want to feed ourselves soon. We have the longest coastline in Africa and two big rivers. We used to export fruits and seafood to Europe and other African countries. As soon as peace is restored, we want the people to go back and help in reconstruction and recovery,” says Nur.

The people of Somalia and their government’s optimism does not seem misplaced, thanks to Kenya’s support.http://www.hiiraan.com/news4/2012/oct/26278/we_will_forever_be_grateful_says_somalia_president.aspx

You are at liberty to imagine all you want, but if somalis think they can claim anything kenyan, they are in for a rude shock.Forget the few corrupted guys whom you think represent kenya.Everything changed.
I am just glad that you guys like occupying one place,thereby making it easy to flush you out.You will run faster than the elshababs from Kismayu.
It wouldn't even take a day.Only hours.

not good enough.
same old boring slave story. Tell us something mindblowing,

nah, sorry.
Just tired of the same old tune you keep blowing,Tune ur guitar and tell me something new that will make me tremble.

smh