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kokorunna:
I personally will punish him or beat him until he learns, if you leave him to grow up he will get worse.

JustGood:
Your first post says it all. The man who would come into your life was for helping you. . .isn't that what your first post implies?

Ok. congratulations on your French citizenship. If you love him so much and he also loves you, why cant you tell him the truth?

JustGood:
I could never have done so.
I'll never advise any young man I know to do so, except in certain exceptional circumstances.
Love is nothing these days

JustGood:
It's obvious you married him to get papers and to help yourself achieve something in your life. Good ambition but the wrong way to achieve it.

If you have got your papers, better to tell him the truth. If he wants to leave you, you will have your papers and you can live without your conscience pricking you every night.

2Legit:
i dont want 2 know about being a single parent. thank u
u no fit plan ur life come dey tell us about board meeting.
board meeting ko, pako meeting ni.
na dia u go kpeme wey u want dey talk for here.
afta u go born 4 anoda man cum go find anoda one again.

Busta:
I always told myself that i wasn't gonna date an only child or an only son.
reason is because their parents get too attached to them

to make it worse, now i am dating not only an only son but also the only child.
his mum raised him alone and sometimes i feel so sorry for masef,
not cos of him but the way his mum is soooooo attached to him and
all hell is loose if she doesn't hear from him in a day. I am the first person
that she calls saying that she is looking for her son.

looking at it in different angle, I can't really blame her cos he is all she's got
especially in this part of the world. To raise a son, give him good education
and now he's all grown up, got his focus right, and got a good job.

talk about "NEVER SAY NEVER"!

2Legit:
comot 4 road if u be woman wey don become afta 1.
comot 4 road if u be person wey be single parent
comot 4 road if u misplan ur life

JJYOU:
brb

@Poster

You have revisited what slave trade did to our fore fathers - selling their birth right because of food, common, can you do this to your black brother? You lied to him just because you want to marry him, you sold your conscience in place of a white di ck, who told you your family will forever be dependent on him? you need deliverance and forgiveness from your entire family, i weep for you and your likes.

Kunleenzo:
u know ur problem?Na longer dey worry u.U for invite all d people wey dey your village make dem come dey eat for your husband house.yeye!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Let the poor lady be, haba and stop this juvenile attitude of claiming things you don't you.

What's your fucking business anyways if she married the man for papers? na your brother? Your "I am better than you" attitude has really gotten too much. You are nothing but an arrogant bitch. Get off her back and if you have nothing sensible to contribute, buzz off!

@ poster
If you feel comfortable with it, keep posting about your problems. Not everybody here is like some dickheads who just pop up to say the usual crap because they can't keep their dirty fingers still.

~~ThInK aBoUt HoW yOu TrEaT oThErS aNd ThInK hOw It EfFeCtS yOu~~.

2Legit:
i don read some more. i feel for this woman. she has gone through a lot to try and make smthg for herself in life. I nearly wept reading through the rest of the posts- i am a softie.

i will b praying for you darling

Arlington:
Hey plappyville,
How are you doing? I know it must be eating you inside but please say the truth now.   i know it will be hard but don't wait  anylonger , as you said  you wanted someone who could give you your stay and someone you loved as well, so you just had to take the risk of not telling him about the number of children in your family.
I am married to a white man also i know they don't always understand the way our family dynamics work and our loyalty to family. but  if you say the truth with remorse and tell him you loved him and you did not want him to be run off that was why you did not tell him from the start, i bet he will just be mad for a while and he will  understand as long as you have no more secrets of this type . Tell him you really felt bad you wanted him to know all your siblings that was why you introduced the rest of them  to him as cousins.

I asked my husband this  question like if it where me he  said that i must have had a  good reason  not to have told him and as long as the reaming ones just don't start coming to ask  for money it is ok , and that if the first guy ran away then maybe he did not love me enough because my family should not be an issue ,And reason not to marry me. You  should also have to find a job so that you can take care of your family your self without asking him , no do pass your power  do what you can don't give your self headache you have a baby to think about also.

Yes everyone thinks when you marry a white guy you become bill gates but they forget they are just like everyother person some are broke asses as well, and owe and live just on credit cards .
The white men they see in Nigeria live on there allowances and don't spend there salaries there so they can afford to do what ever they like ,but back in there countries fear no dey let them spend that way . so my dear plappy tell him maybe on valentines dey when you are professing your love again that you over love him sef but this is making you real sad you be woman na you no sabi cry  .It works for me hehehehehe
Hope it all works out  for the better keep praying about it ask  God to give you the courage to know what to say and when to say it.

tRoOE:
see your life, you exposed yourself to the world, so y are you crying now
na one problem to the other, na wa oooooo
We re let me be abeg, go face your oyinbo husband
I no say you marry the man 4 paper, you no dey shame

michelin89:
What the mess troe, you killed my querrelling spirit. All the same I think you are the biggest idiot that has ever landed on this forum. All you do is go around molesting poor posters. have you ever wondered why they have no other choice than to seek help from strangers? For goodness sake, be sensible for once. How old are you? 23? Already a lady and yet so stupid.

funloving:
Eziachi, since Nigeria does not have these special psychiatric prisons you mentioned what do you suggest should be done to Clifford Orji?

Should he be released to roam the streets and possibly go back to his canibalistic ways or should he be placed in a normal psychiatric hospital where he will probably escape from, after eating a few nurses ?

When we argue or proffer solutions we should always consider the reality on ground rather proposing mere idealistic and theoretical soultions that are not immediately workable.

Nigeria can't afford to go build a psychiatric prison just becasue of Clifford Orji.

argent:
Yes the leaders are our problems.

Who are the leaders?

The leaders are you and I that bribe lecturers to pass a course in school, who will encourage giving bribes to government officials, who will not stand up for what is right, who will squander resources entrusted in his care. etc

The point is charity begins at home and unless we decide to be the change by living right from now, we the leaders are still going to be the problem of our nation in the nearest future.

spikedcylinder:
Rofl!!!

You're not serious.

@ topic

He's been locked up for 10 years now, next step is psychiatric evaluation and rehabilitation. The man is obviously not well!!!

love4ucr:
no one is telling her not to tell but atleast she should get a job, be able to provide for herself and kids just incase he decides to end it OK!

Treetop20:
do not tell him anything for now
i can understand your situation and why you did
what you had to do. focus on your kids and husband
and much later you can let him know the truth. never
listen to anyone who says anything bad about you on this
i wish you the best

KarmaMod:
Abi o. Dont know what's "speechless" about this.


JJYou is the only sane reply in all this

spoilt:
You should have just told the truth from the get go. Introduce every single person down to the last born, gorimapa. . If he doesnt like your African connection, too bad!! Let him take a hike.

JustGood:
Its better to find out the reason rather than allow the ones who have lost all to mislead you. The guy might even be going through some difficult things that you dont know about.

He could be thinking too much about things like finances. He could be having problems motivating himself for sex. He could be seeing you in a different light. If you have been having constant quarrels, it is possible for him to get turned off.

Find out the reason first and dont jump the gun by doing what some people would have you do here without knowing what the situation on ground is. The first few years of my marriage- there were times when I would go for as long as 2 weeks without making love with my wife whenever we had an argument. I just got turned off after every argument. These things can happen so dont let anyone mislead you here.

be sure you know what you're doing before doing anything!

tRoOE:
@poster
You no get work abi,
what is your business with someone else husband or what time he comes home

tRoOE:
plappville you've got serious issue
First ur sister is jealous of u
2nd your older brother is lazy and depends on your husband
now you have 11 sibling
I just loff Nland

FBS:
@JJyou, whoever said she is hiding her children? we are talking about the guy that stood with her. supporting her.
@plappville, certainly you are not looking for people to tell you on NL that what you have done is right? no one is comdemning you (we all over our stuffs in the closet) but that dont mean we should tell you not to say the truth.