Elprima:


You've got mail sir

I have looked for this mail to no avail. I have no choice but to kindly ask that you resend.

Apologies.

THE FIRST (1ST) LAW

The first law works on the principles of:

I. Familiarity (she already knows you)

II. Comfort (you have been there before so what's all the fuss now?)

III. Ulterior motives (revenge, to get back at the person the man is with, restricting/limiting body count to a minimum etc)

IV. Current Partner of Lesser Quality. Not meeting a better partner in terms of sexual prowess or skill set, financial standing, etc)


The first law is also amplified to almost 99% certainty if the ex (the man) is better physically, financially and better skilled in the art/science of lovemaking. Then there is a superb guarantee that the lady will most likely come back once, twice or more times.



THE SECOND (2ND) LAW

The second law is based on the expressiveness of the woman in question. If the man also is expressive and stylishly shows off his affection for the lady by buying her gifts where her friends and female acquaintances are,then there is a high likelihood that he may be able to sleep with her close female associates, family members, friends,etc as the 2nd law is also more amplified.

In other words If the woman is very expressive to her friends, sisters, etc. about the man's sexual prowess, how smart he is,the special love he has for her, how good he is in bed, how he showers her with gifts and expensive things, etc. And if the man also shows off a little of these to the viewing of her friends and female acquaintances then the probability becomes high that HE MAY MOST LIKELY BE ABLE TO SLEEP WITH HER OTHER FEMALE ACQUAINTANCES.e.g. Friends,room mates, sisters and cousins,etc. Especially, younger sisters and cousins in 17-26 age range. In serious cases mums and aunts have come into the question.

To different people sex can sometimes be any of the following:

-Pleasant/pleasurable

-Little or No feelings (Frigid)

-Discomforting/painful/terrifying

This is highly situational and you can only describe your experiences based on context. You as an individual, may meet a lousy partner and not enjoy it while you meet another 2 days latter and you are blown away and erupt beyond Mount Etna.

So, inform your friend that the experience, it is contextual. Every human has slightly different psychological, intellectual, experiential, emotional and anatomical/physiological make up. This applies to each partner (homo or hetero) or even the individual (solo). These play great roles in the answer to give your friend. Someone else can give her an answer which is a direct opposite to yours.

The society you live in does not really allow women express themselves when it comes to enjoying sex, having special or specific sexual desires, preferences and fantasies. Go read My Secret Garden for instance and you will realize how the society stiffles self desires and expression by women.

Sexual fantasies that men readily express, e.g. size, positions, likes, dislikes etc. Women are generally slut shamed for such. Such double standards have made women keep notions like the one you have expressed in this topic hidden and never to be expressed. A simple act of telling a man to increase thrusts or his grinding because it is pleasant to you during the sexual act will make most instantly judge you and tag you a slut. To the shallow minded men, if you aren't a slut how come you know the things you do?


This is fast changing though as women become more independent and demand for freedom to express themselves as much as men.

There is absolutely nothing wrong. They both had selfish and personal desires out of the relationship.

They are not deceived by religion and religious dictates. Both of them have used themselves to get want they want in life. Kids, Money, Fame, etc. One of them or both of them do not see any other selfish desires left to achieve or fulfil. There is nothing concrete to look forward to. Did I hear you say "grow old together"? Please don't make sane people laugh. They might at this point hate each other and cant stand each other. Why lie and deceive one another of their selfish agendas (present in any relationship regardless of how special we claim our relationships are) no longer align? Melinda might currently like men with 10 inches while bill might fancy ladies with botox shots and implants at this moment. I mean,just saying. You never know. What I however like about them is the lack of hypocrisy on their parts.


All relationships, no matter how quiet and calm looking or how "holy looking" the man and/or woman is, begins with selfish wants and desires by both parties. BEFORE COUPLES MEET THEY HAD FORMED,FORMULATED AND CONCORTED SELFISH AND PERSONAL DESIRES THEY WANT FROM A PARTNER.

The man may want home front support, a woman who can cook and clean, take care of the kids, available sex, Available laundered cloths, business partner, etc. The woman wants a man she can brandish to her friends and to the public, bear the tag "Mrs", have children, take her shopping, have someone take care of her and the children, etc.

When the main reasons or goals have been achieved after 27 years, why deceive yourself with the relationship? All selfish goals have been met. What is left is companionship and believe me you can get this easily. It is worse when you disdain each other.

I wish them both well in their new found status. I also want them to ensure that their continued collaboration on Philanthropy helps more and more persons in need around the globe.

30+ Men ARE DIFFICULT TO MANIPULATE....

That is how it should read.

30+ MEN ARE DIFFICULT TO MANIPULATE.

That was what they actually meant to say. 30 Plus Men, Most don’t/wont allow you lead them on with THE PROSPECTS OF SEX/RELATIONSHIP WHILE YOU AS THE SO CALLED LADY WITH A VAGINA APPARENTLY CASHES OUT. WHILE WAITING FOR THE PROSPECTS OF SEX/RELATIONSHIP YOU MAKE THEM PAY YOUR BILLS, BUY YOU THINGS,TAKE YOU OUT, SHOW YOU LOVE (whatever that one means) AND OFFER YOU EMOTIONAL SUPPORT, PHYSICAL SECURITY, etc.

Ideally they are goin for younger women who are in their early to mid 20s. This generation of ladies are an interesting one. They are not Homo Sapiens. They are "Homo the-world-should-revolve-around-our-curves-and-vaginas-and-we-should-be-able-to-get-anything-we-want-or-we-shall-throw-a-fit-and-scatter-everything". Yes that is their species name. Majority of these women have since/long shelved the good girl personality and do things their way. They are "feminist" when it is convenient based on double standards. They cherry-pick only the juicy part of gender equality. They only want the BEST PARTS of being a Man.

A man in his 30s that cannot see that all relationships are selfish based on each partners expectations, wishes, enticements and desires is one that women of today will chew and spit out. They will deal with him. A man in his 30s should be fully logical by that age. He knows he wants sex and companionship whether short term, long term, a minute etc.. He also knows she will want material things, companionship,or bills paid, emotional support, etc. The question the 30 plus man then asks himself is Why waste time and beat about the bush When the time can be put to better use? He has no time to waste. Probably at the time when career prospects are interesting and he is almost at Middle Management. He is also thinking of building his future wealth, or being better at whatever he does.

A man in his 30s knows that the compensation for him is majorly a woman's vagina for all his hard work. Why then deceive himself? He knows that All the “soul of my soul”, “flesh of my flesh”, “soul mate”, “better half” etc are simply garnishings to cover up the true and real selfish desires in a relationship. This reality is hard to accept by most humans because they love fantasies. 30s plus men MAY not have time to hide their intentions with the deception called "romance". Romance etc are just tools used only to make the parties feel good about themselves and the selfish desires they pursue and hope to get from their partner, whether emotional,psychological or material.

Don't get me wrong my Politically Incorrect views do not mean romance is not interesting or necessary. It is. I am not anti romance. I am saying people do not see it for what it is.
It is pleasant but I am not deceived by it. I am well aware of the true intent. I am not deceived about its true purpose. ROMANCE, LOVE, etc. is not anything special but geared towards the achievements of selfish personal aims/goals in a relationship. Whether it is to raise a child in a secure environment, remove societal and family pressures,bear Mrs, come back to well prepared meals and a clean home, available sex, gold digging, looking for someone to cook,clean the dishes and keep the home, someone to pay your bills and take you shopping, iPhone any number, bone straight hair,etc. etc.


Dear Ladies, all relationships have selfish and self centered expectations. Find a man that supports yours both in psychological make up, ideas and physical traits. And let his personality also match yours. Make sure you also ask him for his selfish expectations. Does he want sex? Is he just scouting for any available prey. If you do not match. Then move on. Tell him your own selfish expectations do not match his. Tell Him that for you, you seek long term relationships, commitment to unified goals (family, family business, property, etc).

DO NOT EVER THINK YOU CAN BUY HIM WITH SEX. HAVE SEX BECAUSE YOU WANT TO. BECAUSE IT IS PLEASANT AND PLEASURABLE AND BECAUSE YOU SEE HIM AS A WORTHY SEXUAL PARTNER/MATE. BECAUSE YOU ENJOY IT AND MISS IT. BECAUSE YOU MISS PHYSICAL INTIMACY.

DO NOT THINK SEX WILL MAKE HIM AUTOMATICALLY ALLING WITH YOUR OWN SELFISH EXPECTATIONS FROM THE RELATIONSHIP.


No, Men in their 30s aren't difficult to date. They are approaching 40 and know not to be deceived.

30s Plus men are ONLY/JUST MORE DIFFICULT TO MANIPULATE/DECIEVE BY A WOMAN'S VAGINA.

davonlee:
For about 1-2 months, I've been experiencing rectal discharge (a lump above my anus which brings out bloody mucur), constant weakness and pain in my abdominal area. Initially, I thought it was a disease called Hemorrhoids, because the symptoms are exactly the same, and I never imagined this could happen to me. Two nights ago, my stool was filled with dark red blood; so I had to quickly inform my parents. They advised I go for a full scale test. To cut the story short, I've been diagnosed with stage 1 colon cancer. I really need your prayers.

Try a 3 day water only fast. Note that this is not a religious thing. It is a health thing.
Get good clean water you will drink for about 3 days.

Avoid food for about 3 days. Just drink water as you will normally do a a little bit more than normal.

I would have recommended something longer than 3 days. But this could be your first fast.

2 days before the fast cut all carbs and all processed foods. Only take natural juices instead. I prefer vegetable juices than fruit juices.

Then commence the fast by taking water only for 3 days if you can (72 hours).

Break the fast after 72 hours with a soft unsweet veggie like Cucumber. Peel off the back/green skin and eat only the white insides. Remember to break with only 1 cucumber. Don't over eat. After this reduce your meals to once a day and eat only veggies. No canned foods, no artificial sweeteners, etc.

You have to change your diet. And fast intermittently. Give it a try. It won't cost you anything. Buzz me if you see any difference.

Realistically l would prefer we consider:

1. Restructuring the country with the barest reliance on the Center. And ensuring only those who want to really serve as public servants are there. I will cut their pay to that of a civil servant in any government institution.

2. Economic, Infrastructural and administrative development in each region.

3. Breaking up the country

4. Before we then discuss Youth leadership.



As a youth if voted, that is the path I will follow and tow. I will:

-Work towards Infrastructural development at all regions

-Setting up proper administrative structures at all regions. including the LGA, regional and statewide policing, regional and statewide judicial process etc.

-Ensure all regions and their states become highly economical where east state will be run as a business units. Gradually ease off Federal Allocations. All states must move to support themselves.I will review all existing development plans and come up with a SINGLE BESPOKE REGIONAL DEVELOPMENT PLAN FOR EACH REGION. Then I shall suspended any other duplicate plan. So each region has a clear path to development.

-Encourage each state to boost IGR based on their resources or even resources from other parts of the globe that they have some form of economic advantage to process and export or sell locally.

-I will gradually then push each region and their states towards independence. It is this depence on the Center that causes all these things.


The Government Closest to the people must be the ones saddled with the critical responsibilities.The Nigerian central government system we run is just too powerful and limits power and benefits to the hands of the few. A federation should be one where there is proper regional autonomy. Especially when it comes to finance, commerce, industry, trade, security etc. It is only when it comes to defending national borders that the FEDERAL government should come in. Or other serious economic and administrative emergencies.


No State should be as docile as the States are in Nigeria going cap in hand to beg the Federal Government annually for roads, hospitals and bridges. What is we didn't have crude (of which the Oil and Gas Industry is strictly run by the current horrible constitution we operate with)? What if we had just pockets of resources as we actually do have? Each State and Region must
Be governed by people who KNOW HOW TO CREATE ECONOMIC VALUE. SOmeone to move the States and Regions towards ECONOMIC INDEPENDENCE.

I plan to gradually make each region independently strong.

After this I shall stylishly break up the regions into countries working from the underground or back-end.

After this we can then talk about Youths leading.


With these and more plans like ensuring severe consequences for corrupting and administrative ineptitude, etc.

YES. I AS PRESIDENT WILL BE THE ONE TO BREAK UP NIGERIA. YES. LIVE AND DIRECT.

I shall boldly drop 1 Million Naira Cash.

Send the evidence of any DM/PM from me.

And your account number.

I would have raised it to 10 million naira, however people will think I am being unserious.

Men who are supposed to spend time on personal development, financial independence, career development and skills acquisition are busy trying to woo girls over a forum.

Now I understand the mental stimulation therein, to have slept with a Nairaland girl. But this is childish. Control your fantasies and focus on yourselves.

I will do the same thing 20 times over.

The response will be appropriate and exacting.

I am looking for a plot (preferably) outside these estates. I want Land on any of the major access streets, that is good for bar, lounge, car wash, etc.

Anything from Ajah to Eleko junctions. Any of the Major Streets and Accessories Roads off the Lekki Epe Expressway.


The one at the Akins Bus Stop how is it?
What is it's title?
What documents do the sellers have?

debbiebianca2:
Angel Osuagwu, the daughter of Nollywood comic actor, Victor Osuagwu, took to Twitter to share this hilarious video of her dad warning guys not to ask for her number.

Watch The Video Below:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v21b0E9inHc

How we wish we could do much.

He won't be able to do much. It is a waste of time. When she is ready, there is a high likelyhood that she will even seek out the guy.

They will one day murder your child.

And you will tell me if extrajudicial killing is the penalty for cyber crime.

You will tell me why in 2020, you still believe that any young man with dreadlocks and driving a car must be stopped. Then when he says he has done nothing wrong, he is then shot and killed in broad daylight without fear.

If cybercrime is against the law, so is extrajudicial killing. Arrest them and try them.Stop murdering people in broad daylight all in a bid to extort money and terrorize. The SARS terrorism situation even of worse effect on me than Boko Haram .

Madam, You are the government. I will even advice you totally scrap this unit for now.

My brother wears dreads. I see him hustle. He keeps beards also. But the last thing he will do is con someone else. Infact he is the one being conned by sharing his hard earned money with people on social media who post many photos of how they are in the hospital suffering from one problem to another. I don't want SARS to kill this man one day when he is driving my car and then flee the scene like common criminals.

I will think SARS needs urgent attention. EFCC is saddled with the responsibility of cybercime and advanced fee fraud.SARS is to combat violent crimes like armed robbery and kidnapping. The whole Nigeria needs to be reformed, restructured and MDAs Unified as much as possible. A lot of reformation needs to take place.

One day Nigerian might get tired and attack their oppressors. You can call this treasonable felony and the DSS can spy with their Israeli spy cyber systems. However, the truth is the truth.

Zzor:
Most Nigerian men have this mentality that a good woman should not like money,she should be ready to suffer with them(they will maltreat her after the money comes),she should also not see anything wrong with cheating as long as they are providing for the family.Why must a woman undergo all these before she can be tagged a good woman?Is she your mother?

It is a lack of fundamental understanding of human psychology and the hypocritical denial of what is right and wrong because of economic and societal gender inequality. BOTH SEXES ARE GUILTY OF THIS.

From our ancestors in many species of hominids, and even early homo sapiens we originated from, the women were mainly minders of the offspring while the men went out to hunt. They take the risks and hunt, bring the kill home and then everyone eats. The women chose men based on how they could provide and cater for the family about to be raised. The women considered that pregnancy and child rearing was a risky affair hence the need for a strong and physically well to do male who could protect and provide during vulnerable times. He will kill game and bring it home to the woman. So instinctively, women choose men who are providers. Hence they want to be taken care of it is as simple as that. It is basic instinct.

However, this is 2020. The men must understand that based on instinct most women still think this way. They want to be taken care of. But brute strength is not what the women now seek or look out for in 2020. IT IS FINANCIAL STRENGTH THAT COUNTS NOW. With money almost everything is possible. So the women want a man that has money and will desire a man that has money. Most times it is when the money is there first that they now realize other things are missing. E.g. the man is not good in bed, the man is not caring, he is abusive etc.

Women too must also understand that this is 2020 and that the Sabre Tooth Tiger isn't around anymore. Hence they can and should go out and make ends meet. They need to be self sustaining and self sufficient. It is mental strength that counts now and not brute physical strength. THEY NEED TO UNDERSTAND THAT THEY CAN MAKE THIER OWN MONEY AND LIVE FINANCIALLY FREE. They go to school, get an education, think critically to set up a business by offering a service, or work in one and make their own money.

With respect to cheating, this a controversial topic. It is an individual thing. Some species are monogamous while many are polygamous. Humans are known to be polygamous mainly because they males derive pleasure from multiple sex partners. The males see the females as another game to chase and hunt. The more successful their hunting expedition is, the more it boosts their ego and creates satisfaction in form of high dopamine release. When another man chases their woman and gets her, it bruises the males ego that another male, a competitor, could win over their game and defeat them in their own territory and on their own tuft. This mainly has led to the promotion of the notion that Men can cheat but a woman should not. A cheating woman bruises the ego of the man so much that he looses self esteem. Meanwhile he enjoys cheating and the hunt for women. IT IS JUST HYPOCRITICAL DOUBLE STANDARDS.


Finally the traditional society,religion (created by man and promoted to keep men as leaders in the society), and other factors have made it in such a way that a woman must have a man and be married to be seen as complete. This was generally fostered by men who ruled most of these societies/communities. They made themselves the Grand Prize worth fighting and dying for, and the women too allowed this to go on for so long. "If you are not married as a woman at a certain age and stage in your life, you aren't complete" mentality. Marriage becomes a thing desired, covetted and prayed and fasted for by women. It becomes something they are shamed and afraid to leave regardless of how abusive the man is. The men have gotten it into their brains that they are even doing the women favours by removing the shame of being unmmaried from them. The society has pressed it into the brain of a woman that their role is to please and serve the man regardless of what he does wrong. Secondly the society has been discriminatory against women in many ways when it comes to employment, economic opportunities etc.

Unfortunately women will continue to be in this "prison" and "slavery" unless:

1. They start being financially independent
2. They remove that "I must marry" mentality
3. They stop seeing sex as a favour to a man
4. They chase their own goals and dreams and decide their future.
5. They stop seeing men as a prize they have won. Afterall they will mostly be doing the cleaning, child rearing, cooking, etc.

Give a lady money? How many ladies have given me money and who says I have to give a lady money.

These ladies have hands,legs and brains. So why should they be a charity case? God forbid I raise daughters this way. Just because nature gave you a few features to enable you bear babies, you have turned it into a commercial venture? If nature wanted you to rely on men so much it would have not provided you with arms, legs and a brain. One was quoted as saying girls are now wise, they are following the money. That is wisdom? Well okay. If stupid things make you happy who am I to talk. As long as you aren't getting the money from me and as long as you don't come complaining when your economic master that you are a slave to treats you like shit because he pays the bill, then I have no problems with your decision. Enjoy.

Or are we saying the society affects girls so much that they become mentally retarded at making ends meet? Are we saying the society has stunted their mental and psychological development to such a grave extent of mental retardation that they can't possibly work to make their own money and use it as they will. Was a curse placed on them never to make their own money and spend it how they like? Do they enjoy being economic slaves? Recently a lady said most young girls/students will die of hunger if married men remained faithful to their wives. While I am no saint, it is not that these girls will die of hunger. THEY WILL DIE FROM GREED! GREED FROM WANTING THINGS THEY CANT AFFORD AND HENCE NOT LIVING WITHIN THEIR MEANS.

Listen, If the lady isn't a minor or an aged relative then she is not getting a dime from me just like that. In other to get a dime she has to earn every penny of it by working twice or thrice as hard to earn it. It would not matter how many positions of the Kama Sutra you know, how good the head you give is, how wet you get when I slam into you from behind sending your juices splashing everywhere, or how good your food tastes, or how domesticated you are, or how saintly your character is. And oh I also don't kid myself that I am the best man out there. Just as you aren't the best woman either. So please make your own money and "eat" it alone. Let me make mine and enjoy it in peace with legit dependants. See ladies, there are a few ways to earn money from me and I promise you,you must work thrice as hard to earn it and secondly it isn't through any form of sexuality or the stereotypical gender roles of a lady.


I live for myself first, then my young and aged dependants next, then the less privileged, before I then consider a woman.

While a friend can be of any gender, race, class or creed, I have always counselled that a man keeping a woman as a friend,or bestie, or staying in the friend zone, should be totally discouraged and unacceptable by the man (or any man) in question. I for instance do not keep women as friends. If you catch me smiling with a lady, then know we have had sex. Not that we are about to have sex. But we have actually had it,done it and will probably do it again and again. And that is the only reason I'll say 2 or 3 words to her in public, especially in the office environment. Otherwise I'll only speak to her on strictly official terms and basis. No smiles,no special attention, no jokes, nothing! The ladies I have had sex with I text them in the office instead.I remember just pulling out of an intern because someone came in earlier than we had both expected to the office. Buttoned my trousers, buckled my belt, composed myself and acted as if I didn't know her afterwards. But I would send an SMS and she would smile and giggle. The person kept wondering who was making her smile at her phone. I kept a straight face. Didn't look at her twice that day.

The appropriate reactions in this sort of situation you have found yourself, however, depends on personalities and what your INSTINCT and REASON tells you. Right now you are considering not hurting her feelings by leaving the friend zone? Please (and please again) LIVE FOR YOURSELF FIRST (and no one else), then live for your dependants who are too little or too old and require your assistance. It is after this you can consider what she thinks (as tertiary). Think of yourself first. What is it you really want? What was your original intention, how is your psychological make-up and how is the current situation. Is the "friend zone" parasitic, symbiotic or commensalistic?

Let me properly explain the scenarios for you.

If by instinct you wanted to have physical, sexual and romantic relationships with her, then it is advisable you limit or totally stop talking to her at this stage. Pull away. Completely. Simple courtesies like "Good morning" and nothing else. I would have added "How are you"?, however you may get dragged in, loose self controll, and go on and keep talking, worsening your case. Most of you kids do not know the virtues of speaking little and being difficult to read and figure out. Additionally, besides simple general courtesies, she should know nothing about you, or your day, or your activities anymore, unless the one she stumbles upon. And even then, immediately limit her from knowing any further. Also, pay no attention to her business and whatever she is doing. None at all. Live your life. Drawing close to her or putting and poking your nose into her business MAY only cause you the following:

-heart break when you realize she keeps pulling away and doesn't "love" you. Whatever the hell the word "love" means to you. To me the idea of love is simply the lies we are willing to tell ourselves at any given moment about accepting another persons flaws vs his/her good parts when we are sexually attracted to the person so that sex doesn't seem disgusting to us and the society.

-jealousy when you see her with another guy happy and smiling

-anger out of frustration

-envy of the guy(s) she is with

- money you spend to impress her and do her favours

- time you spend to be a "friend" and assist her with errands

-effort/energy you spend in impressing her and doing her favours as a "friend".

Stop all outings etc with her. Create excuses and limit the interaction with her. Now don't do this in a sad manner. Be happy and associate with other people. Live your life happy and healthy but without her in it in any form. To keep chasing a woman headlong, who is running away from you is the most antiseductive thing a Man can do. I don't want to delve into the psychological science of this. I see friend-zoning as subtly ridiculing the romantic advances of a man." Sorry you can't eat this food, but you are allowed to look at it, long for it and take in its aroma".


Now if you are made differently and by instinct you do not feel any desire to have anything physical or sexual with her, then go ahead. It is your time, your pride, your money and effort. A lady will hardly ever want to be your friend if she is not getting something out of it. Either company, protection or material/financial benefits. If you do not mind being used this way or if you are also gaining something else from her, then why not. Keep staying in the friend zone. Like I said if the relationship is parasitic against you, then it isn't worth it. If it is Sybiotic,then weight your costs and benefits and decide. Unfortunately most women ensure that such relationships are hardly commensalistic. They make sure they "use" you. Sorry.

So she administered about 200 million questionnaires to Nigerian men. Then when they returned them she counted those respondents that are married? Then she separated those who are bisexual from those who are not. And it turned out to be 40 per cent? Her argument is through stamenets filled and laden with fallacies, flaws and wanton ignorance. Hasty Generalization, Hasty Conclusion and other fallacies.

1. "Men are changing girls at random therefore what they want is a man". - post hoc ergo propter hoc

2. "40 per cent of married men are bisexual"- Fallacy of Hasty Generalization, sweeping conclusion and Fallacy bordering on Questionable use of Statistics

3. "whether you want to believe it or not"- Bandwagon Fallacy.
We want to believe it only through sound logic and sound data. Not from the level of idiocy exhibited where she argues out of ignorance that because Mr A is bisexual therefore 40 per cent of men are bisexual.

4. "You won’t believe some of these people have nine children, tell me what they want nine children for only to go and end up with a man."

Anyway for those who are illiterate enough,they can accept her line of argument.

Mayng01:
What is this now? Shoplifting in sex or porn! You mean like stealing at a shop? How does that add up

Shoplifting/Shoplifters is a sub-category (like genre) of porn where mostly young female shoplifters are caught while trying to shoplift. They are made to have (most often non consensual) sex with the security men so that they are let off the hook without involving the police. It belongs to the "Forced" Main Category.

The producers usually try to make it seem as real as possible by blurring out the faces of the male actors who are acting as the Loss Prevention Officers/Supervisors in the supermarkets. They also try to make it seem as if the Camera is either fixed or that an accomplice is making the recording. It is also shot in an environment that looks like the typical common back office of Supermarkets and Stores.

While this has happened and still happens a few times in real life, especially with crackhead softlifters, it is highly unlikely to happen as often as it is portrayed. Some people believe they are 100 per cent real. But they aren't.

Various Categories of porn exist including Anime ,Hentai,Cartoon ,3D,Cartoon/Comic,BBC,MILF,Teen,BBC,Interacial, Incest, Forced, BDSM, Cream pie, etc.

You are simply attached to the person who first made love to you. It is a typical psychological thing. It is like a psychological syndrome. And it is real. It is also most common with women. The first man they gave themselves to. Men don't care. They mostly just want sex, have a chance to spill their seed and nothing special attached. You will only get over the silliness of such an over romanticized notion of "he is my first love bla bla bla" when you further mature emotionally and psychologically. Your sexually active love life is initiated at an age too tender and unprepared to foster ambition for solid love and proper courtship. The commonest reason for accepting a man's advances for girls in your age range lies within frivolousness, curiosity and vogue. Curiosity from romantic Novels, Zeeworld, and lies couples tell about how they have been together for 100 years and never quarreled. As girls mature in age, they either grow away from their first love, and get entrapped in other amorous discoveries; or are simply pulled along as parents change bases, or are heart broken and shattered by these men. Eventually they realize men can sleep with 200 women and call a few the love of their lives. Men can date 300 women, cater for 30,defend 20 from other men, fight for 10, and still not deeply love any.

It is always a wish for a girl to be with the man who was her first. That is what is wrong with you right now. You are romanticizing life. I am not saying it is not possible. I am saying it is highly unlikely.
Both of you are kids. And do not know what the hell you want right now. In this journey of life a lot will happen that will overwhelm both of you. You are both "young and dumb" as we jokingly say. For instance tell him your think you could be pregnant that something is late or missed. And then see him scamper for safety and tell you he isn't the one. Haha. Then you will know if he has his shit together or not. You will realize he is not ready. If it actually happens you will also know you aren't ready.

Listen, you are attaching great importance to this guy because he is your first. Just because you noticed and gave him a look first doesn't mean it was made from heaven. People love to do this "bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh made from heaven" self delusion. It is just an attempt to make copulation and sex look super. It is a silly and feeble attempt to leave reality into fantasy. Without these fantasies and bullshit talk and false feeling of eldorado, most women won't even let a man touch them unless their lives or survival depended on it. One thing is for sure, sooner or later, eentually reality always sets in.

People have told you that a relationship shouldn't be your priority at this age and stage of your life. You be thinking of being a financially independent woman in future. Face your education because men of tomorrow will see a woman who brings nothing to the table as a nuisance. However, between you and I, we both know you won't listen. So let me tell you now. If you want you should actually break up with the lawyer guy.Oh yes! I am serious. He is more mature and also let us agree not to put him through your cheating on him in future. Go back to your school guy and see if he does anything differently after you return to him. Another thing you can do is to tell the school guy you have broken up with the lawyer guy. Now that you are his, watch his actions and innactions towards this (childish) relationship.

The School guy is a little child that only notices his toy when another kid wants to take it and playing with it. Both of you are just young and emotions and animal instincts are working 100 per cent in you all. Reasoning, thoughtfulness, is very lacking. It comes with time, experience, the ability to learn and retain, willingness to change and taking persistent action to change until change happens.

He cries and sobs and you too your heart melts. Interesting. Whether genuine or intentional, his actions manipulated you. Now you feel since he is your first, it is better you run back to him. Well, see this movie till the end. Go back to him, he will always treat you like he used to before the lawyer guy. Then when you find someone else he will break down again. Perhaps until you realize he is a waste of time, or until he meets another (most time a younger) girl he fancies. Then he tells you to leave. No amount of weeping from you will make him change his mind.

fubbyy:
I once slept with a married woman and I have a friend who's presently sleeping with his cousin, anytime I think that he's doomed , I'll just remember my own afair with a married woman

Who do you think have committed a bigger abomination between my friend and I?

Unfortunately you are in a society where hypocrisy will not let people admit to the things they do in secret. Funny thing is people have done both and even more. The sleeping with the cousin thing happened a couple of times as a young person. Very young. Perhaps early 20s. One I recall a lot, she was also younger say 17 or 18. We had played a lot as kids in the village. It was platonic so to speak. But when it happened, It was back in the village during Xmas season. It was a 24th of December night and fireworks was crazy that night. Loud, unending like there was a serious firefight in a civil war. She didn't like the harassment from boys with fireworks so she stuck to me that night as I also added my own fireworks to the din. Minus the details, it happened in a dark corner close to the family compound. It continued in more comfortable places throughout the Xmas holidays.

I'm my opinion of you feel it is wrong then stop it. When you can't stop then you are addicted. The action gives you a sense of satisfaction. A dopamine release that makes you feel like you have conquered the world and it happens over and over again.

By societal standards (public) you are doing something vile and you are going to hell. But in the dead of the night or when no one is looking, these same men and women try to sleep with the little maid. Try to seduce the brother in-law. Try to sleep with their nieces. Try to sleep with their friends' daughters. These people try to sleep with the mentally challenged woman. These people want to sleep with their pastors and imams. These people want to sleep with the choir master when no-one is looking. These people sleep with their drivers. These people sleep with their daughters. These people have murdered, poisoned, raped, setup, and done vile things to people. But they assume yours has to do with sex, so your punishment should be more.These people that come here to castigate you and call you names do more wicked and vile things that have caused more harm.

Listen, what you should fear about a married woman is the action of her husband. And then your conscience. But before your conscience kills you, the angry husband could. Or she could if things go south between you both.

Finally, your reaction to your friend bedding his cousin is the typical Nigerian hypocritical reaction. But then you are sensible enough to realize your lack of right of moral standing to cast even a speck of dust not to talk of a stone.

Enjoy your thing.

As long as she is into it and it is consensual. And as long as you are not harming anyone with it.

Please do not pay any attention to hypocrites here. They are typical. Especially the ladies. They have been brainwashed to act all holy and saintly in public. Also many of them are ignorant of the fact that whatever they like during intercourse besides penetration and thrusting is a fetish. Whatever action from your partner that stimulates you is a fetish. So fetishes come from the less obvious to the very obvious and even bizzare.

Go and read the book "My Secret Garden". You can also read "Forbidden Flowers". See if you can download it. There in these books, ladies talk about their fantasies. I know a lady who has a fantasy of making love in the rain. She never did it because she didn't find a guy willing. But that was her fantasy. She told me if she had any fetish/kink/fantasy it would have to be making love under the rain at night with a guy all naked. She thinks about it often she wants it. Prefers it. I was the one who ever took her out under the rain and made love to her. It rained. NEPA did their thing they usually do when it rains. It was dark. When it started from inside she did not know I was going to gently drag her to the back door, open it and take her out under the water falling from the roof and those blown by the wind. It got crazy as we didn't bother taking our clothes off when we started. We were drenched but couldn't be bothered. It was raunchy and ecstatic. Eventually all clothing were peeled off and it got even more intense. Lightning and thunder became too strong after a while. It became too dangerous. We laughed, ran inside the house again and finished off on the floor inside.

A lot of people have these things. Most that hide and suppress these either have been seriously brainwashed to believe it is bad or they don't even know what such desires and feelings are. They don't realize why they love cow girl more than missionary. Or why they prefer that the guy smooches their face in the pillow during doggy. They are simply ignorant about the science and art of love making and how it relates to human psychology.

The annoying thing is when they know they have fantasies and fetishes but still come out to bad mouth and shame other people. Meanwhile, inside they are male/female sluts or whores.

Please live for yourself as long as it isn't inimical to yourself or anyone else.

One I know recently got introduced to a guy overseas.

She has had a boyfriend who is a computer Science graduate from University of Benin. The guy is hustling, trying to set himself up as a young graduate. Now the girl gets introduced to a guy overseas (he resides in the US) by an older in-law/relative who is also in the USA. She hadn't even gotten to know this guy well and what his intentions are, etc. She had barely talked to this guy for one week.Suddenly she rushes to break up with the Uniben /Nigerian guy. She did not even bother to consult the person who introduced her to this guy. She felt she could do it on her own. This Nigerian guy called and begged and even cried. It got so bad she will give the phone to her young relative (a little girl) to tell the guy that she is no longer interested in him but in the most insulting and derogatory tone. This young gun kept calling. I wondered at how simpish he was. What he doesn't know is that God has just allowed him dodge a bullet. Because she would have abandoned him in future if she met someone better.

Finally, the overseas guy tells her that he doesn't think their religious differences will be nice in a relationship such as marriage. Then she starts begging the overseas guy. Trying to convince him that it can work out fine. She was left devasted for days. Nigerian guy, she lost. American guy, she also lost. What the overseas guy did not know is that she was initially insulting him in Nigeria and calling him all sort of names when he initially asked for her facebook profile/whatsApp number. She would chat with her sisters on WhatsApp and insult him calling him names. But once she got to see his status and realized the prospects of marrying someone legally based in the US and getting US residency her "long throat" went into overdrive. Her greed played out. Well I hope he doesn't also stupidly take her back or consider her either. Who knows maybe the Nigerian guy will be stupid enough to have her back. But the overseas guy should also count himself lucky. He also dodged a bullet. Because if she can abandon a guy she has been dating for almost a year for a guy in the US she barely met within 2 weeks, then she is a really horrible person and a gold digger. She is living on primal/animal instinct and is very unreasonable. Whatever happens I wish her and them well.

What I want people to know is that the withdrawal of affection or love can either be sudden or happen over a long time. It can be acute or chronic. In anyway it can either be mainly your fault or the person's. But do we ever tell ourselves the truth? So it may be difficult to know the exact time. Especially if it is chronic.

Also, because we feel we have invested a lot into these relationships, we feel we are in too deep to go back. We have sacrificed a lot, so we keep staying in loveless relationships. If a lady says she doesn't want, leave her alone. Don't go begging to be loved. Don't go grovelling. When someone loves you after you have begged and snorted phlegm, that isn't love! That is slavery.

For a husband and wife it becomes difficult as they have to be up in each others faces. One thing that first goes is communication. Especially physical. One of the earliest is facial expression and interest in your presence. Your being there. Once that goes, physical contact goes, then verbal communication goes too then you have two strangers in the house. Marriage is based on Friendship and mutual two way Interest. Once friendship goes, forget interest. Interest becomes one way traffic. At that point the one withdrawing affection is simply using the other person. This is objective and without prejudice to who is guilty or who caused the problem.

It beats my imagination. As a man or woman:

You are human.

You have a brain.

You have hands.

You have legs/feet.

You aren't mentally re tarded or suffering from any mental problems.

You probably went to the same school that the men attended. Or perhaps you did not go school just as some guys did not either.

So why rely on someone else's handouts so much? Because it is free?

As a woman nature simply gave you some physiological and anatomical features to allow you play the role of conceiving and nurturing (in some aspects) the human young. That's all.
Nature did not intend that you base your entire life, survival and existence on this biological/anatomical difference. Or that this biological difference should be the ticket to your next meal. It is almost like having six packs, being ripped and hoping woman spend on you and take care of your needs as a man. Just because you have muscles? Well, some men do this. Some men live like this and it is quite appalling.

Personally I am of the opinion that women will be respected more, the more they become financially independent. However, as some women will say "who respect help? Abeg dey beat me for house as long as you buy me car and carry me go shopping overseas". I usually laugh at the level of idiocy.

Nowadays, brute strength doesn't cut it. Financial and mental strength do. Quick strategic thinking and spotting opportunities then taking action to take advantage of the opportunities is very important. Women need these to get ahead. As long as a man doesn't feed you and cater for all your earthly needs, there is a little caution he displays and he watches how he behaves most times. As a matter of fact, men are known to be careful with financially independent and made women. And when you see a man who doesn't like a financially independent woman, most often than less/not he is a control freak and perhaps narcissistic. He wants to dictate and call the shots.

Anyway, what do we know? At the end of the whole situation, to everyone his own choice. Once you have made the choice, you have also chosen the consequences that come with it. With every situation, eventually, you either Adapt, Migrate or Die. I believe that all people should live for themselves first. My daughters and sons will be raised this way. Financial independence and high mental accumen. Do what makes you happy. Along the journey if you meet a person that compliments and supports your quest for your goals, dreams, aspirations and achievements and you also support theirs and then you think you want in, then fine. But DO NOT EVER TAKE OR ACCEPT THE DECISION OR COMPROMISE TO THE LEVEL WHERE YOU WILL HAVE TO RELY ON YOUR SPOUSE FINANCIALLY. Not a good place to be in for anyone. Whether Male or Female.

When you combine all these things you have described in your post it is a recipe for disaster! Big one. Especially now that most ladies realize that they can also have fun and have no strings attached relationships but still get material benefits from these men. Most now want to be feminists at their convenience by picking only the juicy part of a man's life. They want to be equal to men but still want you to pay the bills and buy them stuff and etc. They only want the sweet part of a man's life but forget that equal treatment as men means a lot of sacrifice from and on their path. This is the new breed of ladies or "Vagina People" you are dealing with.

Now in your description:

1. You say you are good looking. Let us assume that to be true. This shouldn't be a problem per se. But when combined with other traits in any of the extremes (too much of a nice guy or too much of a bad boy) then it is a problem.

2. You are an incurable Mr. Nice Guy. You are trying too hard to prove you are good. Even the ladies feel this is too good to be true. It is not a bad thing to be very straightforward. Nope. Please don't let anyone deceive you. It makes life easy and simple. It is almost like saying what is on your mind. It works for me. I say what I feel. And I explain it very very well. That way no one is confused or no one will say oh sorry I misinterpreted or misunderstood. You just can't do that when it comes to me. So note that you are perfectly fine being a nice guy who doesn't want to play games and foster doubts.

3. You are dating and meeting girls that do not want to be pressured into anything serious. You are somehow meeting the same age grade or girls with the same mindset, or girl from the same area or something. One way or another that we yet know about, the ladies you meet, they all have something in common controlling their psyche.

4. Depending on where you are, many ladies do not find that "let's date seriously" thing attractive anymore. More and more ladies in Nigeria are becoming slutily independent. They now understand that instead of wasting time on one guy, they can have as many and get benefits instead of heart break. Men are also to blame here but story for another day . Today, as most of our parents and grandparents pass on, the generations X, Y, Z and Millennials see things differently. So, don't go rushing them into having anything serious unless they indicate interest. You are having sex with a lady and still asking her to date you? So how did you two end up in bed? So you see, you pick these type of ladies.

5. Your post means/shows you are desperate. Your desperation is something women can read a mile away. They pick it up. They know they are supposed to be the ones doing that when they are good and ready. But to impress them you give them your phone. You probably do anything and everything for them. You quickly let them into your private life. They don't have to work for it or earn it. You just hand it to them?

So this is your math:


Good looks + Nice Guy + Desperation + the set of ladies we have today = Making ladies run from anything serious.

Long story short you are the one acting like a woman and the women acting like how the man should. The relationship you offer isn't a challenge. They have nothing to fight for. Nothing exciting. No suspicion that another girl may want you. Forget the heart attack talk from one of the ladies. She is either lying to you so you don't take offense or she feels you just too "mushy" ,clingy and needy. No excitement per se. She could also feel that if you are this nice, many girls would want such a man so she runs away. Now problem is all the ladies are feeling the same way and running away. It is the same way people see celebrities or a beautiful girl and they assume she has a boyfriend. Meanwhile she is as alone as a cold night in the desert and notices you and if she likes what she sees, she is praying you just approach her and say "Hello".

Remember that humans are first of all animals with instinct and then we have intelligence that we use to control, overide or enhance the instinctive behaviours. Human instinct was passed on to us by our cavemen ancestors. The men take risks. Go out to hunt. Are hardly 100 per cent available. They get a life. They chase the mammoth. You are just there available. And the women feel that many other women would want a man like this hence they can't deal.

You are trying to live for the women first. Live for yourself first. Chase your interests and passion. Don't just be available for them. Jeez why is dirt/sand which is quartz and silica not valued as much as diamond even though they are all minerals? Because diamond is scarce. Sand, you can get it anywhere. See it everywhere. Nothing exciting about it.

You simply combine all the anti-seductive characteristics.

The quality of human capital produced from a country whose system is not right (for most of the masses) cannot produce good quality human capital. You need good input to create good output.

How do you give what you don't have? How can a pig birth a dove? Or a wharthog birth a peacock?Human capital is produced. It requires good feedstock to produce good human capital. Nigeria puts in the worst of feedstock. It's production machine is broken and rattling and clattering. It doesn't mould well and spits out very bad products.

I am even surprised at the resilence of Nigerians. And this is where I praise them. They are dogged. And with the little or nothing done for them than a State where people run renegade, they attempt to do well for themselves mainly through hook or crook.

Do not let some of these lecturers be your supervisor in Unilag. You are dead. They believe that to hide their ignorance they have to distract you by being a living devil. They dont know the course. Can barely teach anything. But they will make sure you don't focus on their level of ignorance by ensuring they make life a living hell for students. Then they lie that they are only being strict.

Some of them are thieves. They will make sure you publish 10 papers in their names before they allow you go as a Masters Student. Plagiarism and stealing someone's time and effort. They are thieves of intellectual property.In the Faculty of science as an undergraduate who latter became a post graduate student, I can list sadistic lecturers like these that should be made to pass a mental examination to check their mental state. They are insance and psychotic. Yet these mental health patients are allowed to lecture and paid by tax payers.

These terrible terrible lecturers will make sure they hide their ignorance of the discipline by setting silly deadlines. Then out of the blues, deduct marks from many people in the continuous assessment. Then during exams there is mass failure. No one knows how they mark. The same post graduate course a professor (Professor Bayo Otitoloju) taught so well that failure rate was less than a few percents. They took this course from him and gave to a particular hiddeous looking woman. The first time she handled a Post Graduate Course, what did she do? She caused comotion by mass failing students to prove that she is tough. You try to damage people's futures to prove you are tough? A lot of people who wanted to use that MSc to pursue a PhD couldn't. There are lecturers like these who are terrorists albeit lazy and indolent. They never seem to understand that they are about 90% the problem. As a lecturer if you can't impart knoweledge and stimulate learning, then resign. But when you get a job because your father is this and your husband is that. What else do we expect? Someone who comes to class to boast of her car and driver. Etc.

Who checks if these lecturers can even lecture? Who checks their mental and psychological state? Who checks if they are skilled at imparting knowledge and information? Who checks their excesses? Mr and Mrs Lecturer in Nigeria, can you do these stupid, evil and vile things in a School in the UK or US? You know you will be thrown out the next day. So you see, the problem is you are being wicked because there are no consequences.

The Nigerian university system has created monsters as lecturers. And the system is a very terrible one. A collection of sadists will never produce anything good. It is why the system itself is rotten. Filled with Sadists,run by sadists, operated by sadists.

Consider the university as a factory. Those operating the factory are sad, disgruntled, entitled and demonic. Hell bent on damaging the product on the inside but coating it with fine colours on the outside. The products produced are totally substandard because many of the workers there are not even qualified to be gatemen not to talk of working to produce any thing.

Such is the Nigerian Education System.

Favour2323:
Nairalanders, I'm about to do something my conscience doesn't agree with but it feels like the right decision to make. I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for the past 6 months. I love him. We were good friends before we started dating. I'm someone who doesn't trust easily and I like to assess a guy for a while before dating him. I assessed his intentions and I realised he didn't just want to have sex with me and leave. He loved me just as I loved him.

Three months ago I met this guy. At first I just saw him as a friend, but as I got to know him I started noticing the good qualities he possessed. He's very attractive, very intelligent and wellspoken. My conversations with him were so immersive. The little time I spent with him always left a profound impression on me. Soon I noticed I had started developing feelings for him. I was still in love with my boyfriend nevertheless.

One day the new guy asked me if I had a boyfriend. I told him I did. The next day he called me and said that he didn't want to interfere with my relationship. He said he had feelings for me and he couldn't remain friends with me when he knows I have a boyfriend. I told him that I had feelings for him as well and that we could still remain friends but he refused and suggested that we stopped talking. He hasn't called or texted me since that day.

This situation has left me in an emotional turmoil. This new guy represents everything I want in a guy and as much as I don't want to admit it, he possesses better qualities than my boyfriend. I can't imagine a life where I can't talk to him anymore. I really like him. His decision has left me in a dicey position. It's unfair to leave my boyfriend who has always been nice to me for someone else, but the new guy doesn't want to have anything to do with me again as long as I'm in a relationship.

Please I need advice. I don't want to make the wrong decision.

Two things control human behaviour:

1. Instinct
2. Reasoning or Higher Intelligence.

Humans when born, first learn and act on instinct. Instinct make us behave more like the lower animals. We see a male with a bigger "mane" and we want to mate with that male. We see a female with a broader hips and fuller body and we want to "impregnate" them. Just like every animal.

Then there is reasoning. Step on a snake and instinct makes it in such a way that you will bitten 100 out of 100 times. But step on a human and you will get various responses but hardly a fatality. Humans can think before they act. A lion is hungry, sees a meal and instinct makes the lion kill it and eats it. A human is hungry sees a meal and asks who has this food? Can I have some? Was it properly made? Is it from Mama Caro? No o, I don't eat her food. Etc. Reasoning is what allows us think as humans. This is what we have that other animals don't. This is what sets up apart as an Animal Of Higher Intelligence.

So, listen your behaviour and feelings are not strange. Do not let anyone deceive you that your feelings set you apart as strange or deranged or ungrateful. People are just hypocrites that want to be seen as saints as often as possible. Those in relationships see people far better than their mates. However, you have to have the reasoning ability to understand that this is normal occurrence and there are guys out there that even have more than the new guy. There are guys that are more handsome, richer, will even take care of you better than he can and you can dream. Now when this happens. When you meet a lot of these guys what will you do? Dump this one and jump to the next? Or lie to yourself that "God this is the last one"?

Now, Let me make something clear to you. Forget all that bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh bullshit. That "made/ordianed in heaven for each other" crap. On earth there are many people you can get happily married to OR be happily in love with. Whenever you are ready you search within the possible areas of influence and sphere of activities you make a choice. If you don't like the choices you keep searching and expanding this until you find the requirements you want. But note that when you choose to finally select someone who meets the criteria as at that time society expects that you please stay with the option.

Listen, temptations will never end. But if you feel this guy will treat you better and has better plans for the future which works for you both, then give it a shot. Now the question is what do you even want from these relationships? Towards what goal? Dating experience? Marriage? Just having company? Is he worth the wait and the trouble?

This will determine if you should simply end it with your current boyfriend or stick with him.

WoundedLamb:
What do straight people find so attractive in breats? It's just a lump of flesh!

It is the same question we ask LGBT that is considered to be judgmental. You are free to love what you choose and heaven knows I couldn't care less. But please don't also tell us what to like as straight men.


We are naturally attracted to it. Just as you are naturally attracted to a man. I would spit and puke if I saw a fellow man naked.You on the other hand might get turned on. As a matter of fact, If he tried to touch me I would murder him. Yes, take a knife and stab him. But I don't care what they do with themselves as gay men. Just don't bring it to me. So for us who are straight, It is built in our psyche. It simply registers in our brain that she is a fertile woman capable of nurturing our offspring. Immediately our sexual/reproductive system responds. That is how straight men are wired.

However this isn't a general rule. I have met perky boobed ladies that were great, Sexy and I'll have kids with them anyday. Now this is where reasoning (which only humans are the only species capable of doing it well) takes over instinct. Instinct says big boobs, flaring hips, tiny waistline, healthy thighs, straight legs, cute face, nice personality all equal "Get her pregnant". But I overule the equation and say no, I prefer to substitute perky boobs for big ones if I find a girl with the other attributes. It will still equal "get her pregnant".

Don't question our straightness. I have chosen not to question your being gay either.

Success is when you set a goal and strive to achieve it. So I hope she is successful. She has set a goal. Though a small minded one, going by the things she could have chosen to chase with her vagina. She could have also thought of better means of acquiring the said item. However, the moment she achieves this, then that is SUCCESS.

Now, the thing about goals and success is that:

1. One can set very petty goals or very useful goals. It is your choice and your level of awareness and mental capacity and mindset.

2. Secondly, success comes at a price. And every action comes with a price. That is Karma. Even good deeds have Karma. So is she willing to pay the price for her actions to acquire an IPhone? If yes, then I wish her well in her quest.

If I had a vagina, my goals will be to build a business empire worth 10 million dollars, with it before I am 30 through my contacts which will be well selected. My network will be well placed. And my business accumen will be sharp. A mobile device will be the least of my problems.

Someone says if I am a woman, I will know the challenges . This is myopic reasoning. I am not talking about what one is able to achieve in the end. I am way smarter to believe that I can 100% predict tomorrow. I am talking about dreaming big and setting bigger goals. If I wanted to use my vagina as a woman, an IPhone 11 will not be what I will aim for. The lady requires a mindset mentor.

Interesting.

These are the types that murder their parents in their sleep. Calling the police on him might even make him more vengeful and destructive.

I want to believe he was barely disciplined as a child. He demands and he is given. Now he sees every demand of his as a wish to be fulfilled. So now he wants this and that and his mum's documents, rummages in her hand bag, seizes her phone and car keys, etc. Boundaries were hardly set and disciplined into him. Clearly. The thought of doing such to my mum makes me shudder. Because it has been disciplined into me that such boundaries cannot be thought of not to talk of being crossed.

I am not saying well disciplined kids all turn out to be great as teenagers. There are kids who still turn out to be black sheep. But it is still advisable to properly raise a child with discipline on dos and don'ts. And please let us stop thinking that raising a child based on African standards is a bad thing. There are a lot of good morals and wisdom about life in general that applies globally.

Get this young man out of your house and off to college or wherever pretty fast. He might soon shift his attention to physically harming the mother. Manage him and get him out of your house. After all children aren't your property. Nature only choose you to bring an individual into the world. Life will teach him great lessons without being under the protective care of "mama". It will either destroy him or make him but in the end definitely humble him.