Kobojunkie:
■ Chances are 83% that if you marry a woman who does not have a job or business of her own already that you will end up in poverty.
■The same 83% guarantee exists that it will end in regret for you if you believe marriage is a way to assert yourself as lord and controller over another human being, in this case, your wife.
■ Equally important is the fact that you cannot change another human being. You can try but you will almost always be bending to accommodate that person assuming you don't altogether abandon the relationship before that.

So, save yourself all that headache from the beginning by taking time out to learn who you are before then finding yourself a partner to complement you in every way possible. You are still very young so there is no need to rush yourself. Take your time, so you spare yourself a whole load of drama.

Only one thing here is false. People who married working class girls don't end up better than others. We are three friends who got married the same year. I was the only one among the three to marry a first year student. I have overtaken them since my wife finished school and opened a family business. She has now been employed by Enugu state government for 3 years now. I am not poor. I am blowing hot financially with 3 kids now. Don't go for already made woman, go for a personality that will complement your own personality. It will be good if she has qualities that you lack and vice versa.
Don't fall for a woman's money.

I married at 23 with almost nothing.

Today we have built an empire together, we have a home of our own and 2 beautiful kids.

Make sure you don't marry a materialistic person.

udede:
If i knew what i know now i would have married at 23., When you are 45 and with your children looking like your siblings, you will understand. Though it needs a different level of maturity

What is your gain having kids that looks like siblings? I mean so one should sacrifice dreams to bring kids that knows nothing into this world? Oh please.

It is good to conceive the idea of getting married at early age, for you to have the maturity to know that you needs a wife by your side as a young man is a big wisdom. The big problem here is finding a a God fearing girl. Marriage is far more than thinking that you have enough to take care of the marriage. Pray for a Good girl and leave the rest to God.

If you have a stable source of Income you are good to go.

This days it is very good to marry early.

I can't believe that Nigerians are discouraging a young man from getting married.

Hatrick01:
I am planning to marry and start a family as i am still young.

I am 24 yrs old boy (i am my own boss),that can stand his ground.

I am pretty sure that i can take care of a family.

I dont want to spend all i ve earned on clubing or any any dirty stuff.

I am thinking of bringing in a girl that will help me in my life.

That will also help me to manage all i have worked for since i am 17.

I dont want to squander them all.

Pls, fathers in the house, is there any other responsibility of a married man aside:

Paying children fees,

Winning the bread for family,

Taking care of ur wife?

Pls i need advise!

24years old? Probably a yahoo boy

Regex:


What is your gain having kids that looks like siblings? I mean so one should sacrifice dreams to bring kids that knows nothing into this world? Oh please.

I saw the comment and wanted to quote it, but realised that the concept of marriage differs among people. The average Nigerian equates marriage to childbearing, let alone marriage. How many married couples are intentionally child-free in Nigeria? Very few. So, I understand his point.

Hatrick01:
I am planning to marry and start a family as i am still young.

I am 24 yrs old boy (i am my own boss),that can stand his ground.

I am pretty sure that i can take care of a family.

I dont want to spend all i ve earned on clubing or any any dirty stuff.

I am thinking of bringing in a girl that will help me in my life.

That will also help me to manage all i have worked for since i am 17.

I dont want to squander them all.

Pls, fathers in the house, is there any other responsibility of a married man aside:

Paying children fees,

Winning the bread for family,

Taking care of ur wife?

Pls i need advise!

Marrying wife is responsibility. Are you ready?

Ask yourself if you just need to f44k or you are ready for marriage. If you only need a girl to f44k, just go and f44k and leave marriage for now. Get a girlfriend or at the barest minimum get an ash4wo, if you don't like girlfriend wahala.

I wish you well.

Kobojunkie:
OP, do not waste your time praying because God never promised to give a wife to any man in Jesus Christ particularly since He made it abundantly clear from the beginning that your marriages are of this world and not of the Kingdom of God. To top it off, God gave His seal of approval only to those who chose to live as Eunuchs for the sake of His Kingdom meaning that those who chose marriage are pretty much on their own. Now, this isn't to say that marriage is evil — not at all. Instead, making it is clear that marriage is of personal effort and not God. Now this and you are well on your way to realizing the hard work involved in making a marriage work.

Daddyfreeze is that you?

Since u have what it takes, guy get urself marry , It make u feel happy when seeing ur kids growing up with u guy.

thebosstrevor1:


Man, go back to bed. Abeg, no time to answer useless trolling questions

Are you saying you made useless claims?

Hatrick01:
I am planning to marry and start a family as i am still young.

I am 24 yrs old boy (i am my own boss),that can stand his ground.

I am pretty sure that i can take care of a family.

I dont want to spend all i ve earned on clubing or any any dirty stuff.

I am thinking of bringing in a girl that will help me in my life.

That will also help me to manage all i have worked for since i am 17.

I dont want to squander them all.

Pls, fathers in the house, is there any other responsibility of a married man aside:

Paying children fees,

Winning the bread for family,

Taking care of ur wife?

Pls i need advise!

My brother, I wish I was financially stable when I was your age, I would have married at 24 or even less. By the time you get to my current age, your first child should be close to 15yrs.
As long as you can take up the responsibility. DO NOT LET ANYBODY DISCOURAGE YOU. That age is the perfect age to get married as a man. It pays to marry early.
Life is too short to be wayward. Find a good girl from a responsible family and wife her biko. No time!

Marriage is like early in the morning pee , when it comes, you can't hold it.

Women are generally stubborn, even if you study them for 100 years, they "must " give you headache. If you marry the one u think is suitable for you, she could change.

If you have made up your mind, and you have steady source of income, go and marry. Wisdom and maturity are not measured by age, it is by thinking,experience, lineage etc.

Marriage is a responsibility which is waiting for Men. The earlier you take up the task the better for u. I married at the age of 35. I feel bad every moment I calculate how old my children esp my son would be when I turn 60...

Invest your money, grow your empire, comot marriage for your head just date for now to gain necessary experience about women.

Kobojunkie:
■ Chances are 83% that if you marry a woman who does not have a job or business of her own already that you will end up in poverty.
■The same 83% guarantee exists that it will end in regret for you if you believe marriage is a way to assert yourself as lord and controller over another human being, in this case, your wife.
■ Equally important is the fact that you cannot change another human being. You can try but you will almost always be bending to accommodate that person assuming you don't altogether abandon the relationship before that.

So, save yourself all that headache from the beginning by taking time out to learn who you are before then finding yourself a partner to complement you in every way possible. You are still very young so there is no need to rush yourself. Take your time, so you spare yourself a whole load of drama.

This is apt and succinctly expressed. I'd add you should check if the lady has "entitlement" mentality ; she should be self-driven. Good luck!

Hatrick01:
I am planning to marry and start a family as i am still young.

I am 24 yrs old boy (i am my own boss),that can stand his ground.

I am pretty sure that i can take care of a family.

I dont want to spend all i ve earned on clubing or any any dirty stuff.

I am thinking of bringing in a girl that will help me in my life.

That will also help me to manage all i have worked for since i am 17.

I dont want to squander them all.

Pls, fathers in the house, is there any other responsibility of a married man aside:

Paying children fees,

Winning the bread for family,

Taking care of ur wife?

Pls i need advise!

Proud of you for your decision but you have to reconsider something, let your desire for marriage be more of a search for a companion than a search for someone who is coming to help you do this or that. Plan for sales girl/boy to help you run your business than focus on your wife to help run the business. Starting a family early is good when you have what it takes and I wish you success

Hatrick01:
I am planning to marry and start a family as i am still young.

I am 24 yrs old boy (i am my own boss),that can stand his ground.

I am pretty sure that i can take care of a family.

I dont want to spend all i ve earned on clubing or any any dirty stuff.

I am thinking of bringing in a girl that will help me in my life.

That will also help me to manage all i have worked for since i am 17.

I dont want to squander them all.

Pls, fathers in the house, is there any other responsibility of a married man aside:

Paying children fees,

Winning the bread for family,

Taking care of ur wife?

Pls i need advise!

Wanting to get married shows you have some sense of responsibility.

I had same dreams while I was 24, and it was out of a sincere intent. But I didn't marry until 28.

I'll advice you to Pray as someone earlier adviced.

There are some things you may have learnt or known in life that even a 44 old man hasn't learnt. As the saying goes, age is just a number. That's why one on my prayers is that God should bless me with children wiser than thier years.

Pursue this goal whilst committing it into God's hands.

Chances are if its God's will for you, it'll work out with the Woman you choose, if not, it'll take some time .

Funny thing is that even if you begin arrangements now, you may eventually marry 2 or 3 years later.

Again Prayer is key. Let God direct your path.

STENON:
You are good to go. Don't listen to those preaching for you to wait until you are 27 -30,
Start your life early and enjoy life the best, imaging having your first child at 25 and You would be 50 years old when he is 25,
Do you want your child to be 25 years old when you are 70?
Start your family early and enjoy life the most ,but please marry a graduate or working class lady.

you don start with discrimination

TOPCRUISE:
Currently If you are earning N100,000 salary monthly, at most 30,000 out of it will go to POS and at least 20,000 will go to others. That could mean your salary is N50,000. And not N100,000. So it's good to make a provision.

Why will POS take 30,000 ?
Is POS some kind of tax shiit?

lexy2014:


Is that ur personal experience?

He said the truth

udede:
If i knew what i know now i would have married at 23., When you are 45 and with your children looking like your siblings, you will understand. Though it needs a different level of maturity

It has it's downsides too.

They will all go and settle down leaving you and your wife alone.
By 50, you'll already start to feel lonely like a 75 years old man. You'll be the one doing everything yourself as there'll be no child to send to do it.

And there's nothing special in your kids being like your siblings. That's not enough reason to decide to marry early.

stevups:



He said the truth

Is that ur personal experience?

I'm not trying to be tribal BUT some tribes in Naija only like to sleep with woman or marry woman which may be at the expense of a good future.

U are still young, find something that will drive your passionto succeed...

Even if u are a graduate, there are still a lot u can achieve before marrying( which could automatically mean birthing from first year of marriage which u may not be fully prepared for)

Unless you are a woman who is checking her biological clock and even 24 years is not the age to check that...

Why are u rushing?

Hatrick01:
Thank you everyone

Shut up for a minute.
How old is the woman you wished to marry?
Hope she's a virgin? Else you will spend plenty of your remain years in regret.


So you don't have any other ambition in your life except marriage?

I think you want to marry because your stupid malo friends are married and you want to feel like a man.

Bros go ahead most of the lesson u need u can only learnt it in marriage.

Young man, you are about take a very decisive decision of your life. I will not lie to you brother, you are making the right decision trust me. A lot of people have regretted not starting family at early stage as you are planning to do as they wasted so many resources and sin against God in the name of exhibiting adulthood. Pls do not listen to all the negative advices up there. My only advice to you is to look for a good girl with good family background and pray seriously about it. I wish you well.

Padipadi:
Isn't this one of the numerous accounts of this op.
Now to the topic.
With or without religion or faith or whatever anyone practices, the only criteria needed for marriages in this present world are
* Financial capability
* Scientific compatibility check
* Maturity & Emotional capability
* Cultural compatibility or acceptability
* Religious compatibility or acceptability.

I bolded financial capability cos it's the most pressing need in this part of the world in this present age.
A man that's not financially stable ll only stress himself in marriage.

A times, I wonder what you smoke.
Maybe you are impotent or list your manhood for procreation or you are a gay. Whichever way, na born dem born Jesus and other prophets. Infact, most of them via marriage. So if you are against marriage, those that loves marriage are also against your way of life.
You didn't write the bible neither are you the author of Christian doctrines. So stop your gibberish about Christianity. Your types are out there saying trash about the church as if nothing good ever came out of it.
What's your problem?
Who you be?
Who send you?
Wetin dey live inside you wey no get brain?
You v to take maximum caution. Stop speaking against Christianity in a false way.
And the annoying part is them never born most of you well to talk to jihadists anyhow!
You all take the peaceful nature of Jesus which is imbibed in Christians to talk anyhow.

She's been living in the US for many years.
She has the mentality of an average American.

lexy2014:


That's not what I asked u. You said



My question: Is that ur personal experience?

Leave women for now. There's more to marriage than... Acquire wealth, buy Landed properties build houses. Then marry. I don't know how much you think you have.

I don't understand why so many people here are against marriage, maybe it's a cultural thing. Maybe the girls in the south are waaaayyyy different than our girls here.

If you can marry a Fulani or a Hausa girl, I am very sure you'll get a submissive educated traditional woman that obeys you. DM me.

I'm hoping to get married in Dec23, with 200k monthly income.