Kwinesther:
As civilization as taken over the world, some men still don't want their wives to work at all. A parent to one of my student confided in me recently that her husband has ordered her not to work despite the fact that she is a graduate. She said she doesn't know what to do anymore because she's just getting fatter and fatter everyday, all she does is to take care of the house and children then watch movies, she has tried talking to him but her husband is so insecure about her meeting other men because of her very curvy body shape.

Ogechi my Igbo friend during NYSC told me she has never applied for any job because her successful business man husband want her to stay at home and take care of their two kids. Just early this year, the man bought her a nice car and they are living so comfortably.

My point is this, not all women likes to stay idle, I really don't like it and many women don't as well but what choice do they have If their husband wants

another angle

ZIINI:
Men don wise up
Na women marriage pay that's why their very desperate to get married
Was in a prayer one day and this lady next to me is praying so loud that I can hear her clearly.
Her prayer in youruba was O lord provide my own husband for me .
The pastor call off the prayer and I looked at her closely although she's not that old mere looking at her she can't be more than 27/30 if my age was the same with hers there ain't no way I'm gonna think of marriage.
And come to think of it marrying a girl in this era is a bad idea. A girl that already have 15 to 20 body count before marriage knowing this will I still want to marry her plus you're not a proustite and your puunani is public. Let's be sincere the only way a nigarrr can marry you is if he doesn't know all this .
One major problem is our country
A nigarrrr that is earning 35K and you're telling him to go and marry abeg shey you wan kill am nii
35k wey be say you no fit carry am go ball for quilox
And person wey him wan marry no get work.
Ladies if you're yet to get married don't think it's a generational curse or maybe you have husband issues
NO the better truth is men don wise up


All this likes you're giving me
How I wish I can multiply it by dollars and cash out
306 x 383 = #137,880

how person earning 35k in naija will be thinking of marriage .na from the 35k im go pay rent and start to dey train the children wen dem start to dey arrive? .any pickin wey grow up from such a union get the right to sue the papa for giving birth to him inside poverty .if pastor dey urge am to marry with the 35k wey im dey earn then he should tell the pastor to give him a better job then after im don give am the good job then he will marry

In those days, sex was a good reason to marry on time, because the culture of no sex before marriage was generally accepted.

But now, guys have steady girlfriends who give them s3x regularly, so why would they be in hurry to marry?

This view was expressed by a guy recently on why he has chosen not to marry yet even when he has the means.

My take is that apart from the economic consideration, guys and ladies who are not already s3xually active would want to get married quicker so they can start doing the do.

Cosmetics make me fine, artificial old woman!

Sarita01:

True,they don't give anything back,they're like a black hole sucking up every thing but giving back nothing,a man in my area beats his wife everyday,forming alpha male on her even when everyone knows she out earns him and provides basically everything in the house,even gives him money to fund his business but he can't even give her love(that is free),he can't give back respect,he can't give back appreciation,he can't give back peace of mind,he can't give back attention,he practically couldn't give back things that are free,then how can he give back things that are worth money. Babe,only give all of you to a man who gives you all of himself,choose yourself above others. No concessions allowed only compromise

You sabi am

All these jobless poor men na them dey form alpha male pass, their insecurities will not let them admit that they owe their wives gratitude for supporting them, they see their wives as inferior even while she is the one feeding and housing them.

That's why I will always advice girls to avoid poor struggling broke men like a plague, if in future she becomes more successful than him he will only try to use her and vent his frustrations on her, if he is the one that becomes successful, he will start looking for younger finer girls that he could not get when he was poor.

Some women still think men have women's best interest at heart when they say girls should marry poor men.

pocohantas:


The other day I was at the market, I took a rough count and apart from meat sellers, most traders were women. Under hot sun, selling ugu and tomato. I don’t know any woman that will take such inconvenience if that money isn’t important to her. The girl I bought vegetables from nko? Beautiful girl with low cut. She asked if I wanted her to help me buy everything- I get that offer a lot. I allowed her buy the ones I wasn’t so sure of where to buy and how much to price them. I was na wondering, Nairaland guys wey dey whine from morning to night- them no see this one marry? No be hardworking girl be this?

Majority of the married women in my offices have taken loans for their housing projects. In fact, once you marry in my office, they start waiting for your loan application. It is a ritual...

Na only market you see? Whenever I'm out running errands, I see women bus drivers, minibus drivers, Keke riders etc, women selling in markets and roadsides from dusk till dawn, women in construction sites etc. I keep asking if these ones are amongst the women that bring nothing to the table.

There's one of my former colleagues that sells everything sellable yet you can count the number of work clothes she has and literally starves herself at work whenever she doesn't pack lunch. She's the one financing their building project and possibly the home expenses too. House go done now, his family members will come and start forming my brother's house on top of her head and the man too will be feeling like a boss then come online to claim breadfruit winner.

Right from the time of our mother's mother's, we've been having hustling women but their efforts and very underappreciated.

Davash222:


Lol. You no well, poco. How I take know you?
You’re demoralizing me, Nne

From Nairaland of course.
On a serious note, she is beautiful and looks like a nice girl or una wife-material standard.

Alexaonfleek:

Lol
I don't know where they get this mentality that ladies are sitting down and waiting for urgent 2k.
Sometime before the endsars protest I was coming back from bank and I entered keke that a young lady drove.
What really surprised me was not even the fact that it was a young lady,but the fact that she looks like your average slay queen: weaveon,fake long lashes and all.

I understand their point, but person suppose dey outgrow some kind complain. Imagine a grown ass woman who claims to be responsible with a good job, yet she keeps saying she can’t find a man because yahoo boys are on the rise. How?

Anything wey you dey find, you go see. The question is, where are you searching?

Kranediggy:
Am sure you ain't married sef and you're not as rich as your crush will give you a chance ...See your head, you're here trying to be on the ladies' side; as if any of 'em will look your way, If you're broke or Are you a woman claiming man behind that moniker?

for this comment to have gained 100+ likes shows how lame it is you know,you know...but you are almost right at some point

SmartPolician:


Great insight!

What do you mean by evolution?

By evolution, the black man has to be more insightful in determining the root causes of his problem. The root cause of the problem is still the colonisers.
Many still believe this nation gained independence. But no! Nigeria is still firmly a colony. Nigeria protested for 2 weeks straight but did you realise the int'l community did not even pay serious attention? Even when people were killed at Lekki toll gate, what did Britain say? All d while protests were ongoing in Britain but they kept mum until recently when they did admit they even trained SARS.

Secondly, Nigeria was purposely created to have the south disadvantaged. I know ure wondering how all these relate to evolution. Yes it does: evolution of thinking, evolution of perception and self-awareness, evolution of retentive analytical thinking and knowledge of history.

It's all a game. The world system plays a huge part in putting Africa on its knees. If we try to revolt, the forces try to gun down and suppress us and its not by chance. It's because of the vested interests by foreign powers in our lands. They do not have the numbers more than us; mainly about 20,000 whites enslaved the whole of Africa. They are not stronger than us; we have a more physical build than them. The only thing they've got over us is their brain; they fully evolved their brain. That's why they produce anything: planes, ships, guns, bombs, armors, explosives, gadgets etc.

Even if we wanted to do things on our own, we would still have to stretch our hands to them for help, just like the way we stretched our hands for help by Chinese and now they have part shares in many of our national assets. My point is, we need the brain to be able to assemble squads, build manufacturing plants, weapons of mass destruction, nuclears, rockets, spy tech etc. That is what the world understands; that is why Trump was trying to pokenose into N. Korea's affair at all cost. That is why no one dares China now (especially considering that China was as dirtpoor as some African countries some decades ago).

When our brains evolve, we will take Britain out first. In what way? Simple: secession. We have to break up from that colony first. Thats why Biafrans have sense (and Ooduans now too). Break that control. From there on in, we can now focus on the leaders like the governors, ministers and even armed forces. This is termed microproductivity. Many simply protested but did not have an indepth understanding of the multiple beasts they're up against. Just anger, and reaction to innocents being killed but its not enough. They need something more.

Education, history (self-awareness; where we've been as Blacks), and invention. These are the 3 major distilled terms vis-a-vis evolution. Once Nigerians gain enough education, double down on history strongly enough that it spans generations, and then learn to produce, a revolution will be easier and more purposeful.

That is why education is weaponised against the North by their rulers. Even if they want to revolt, they have no sense of direction; thats why it shouldnt have come as a shock when they were largely reluctant to join the #Endsars protest but were angry enough to burn France's flag because of a cartoon. If you're smart enough, you should also have noticed that history is taken away from our education. Its not by mistake. An average Nigerian youth cannot tell you the details of the civil war, something just barely 50 yrs old. Will he now be able to tell you about things that happened 500 yrs ago? This is one reason Blacks are still gullible. Many believe in the religion of their oppressors; their killers and colonists.

They identify with Jesus, others identify with the other sick prophet. But then, mention Ifa to either of the 2 and they'll rain abuses on u and say 'God forbid'. The gods of the Yoruba land, the gods of the Benin kingdom were demonised by the whites but then they stole them and put in a museum and blacks are still comfortable with losing their identity so easily. What does that even tell you? It simply means if another round of colonisation happened again (which will eventually happen in future years - by China likely), it means many will be up for sale again and we will probably learn to speak Mandarin and become Buddhists. Then at that point, if someone mentions 'Jesus' to the typical Nigerian, he'll shout 'O God forbid; I rebuke it'.
And on and on and on; because we are not even sure of our identity; we are yet to properly evolve.

In case you doubt the reality, here's a snapshot of a Chinese who sent a mail to one of the leaders of a black movement in the U.S .
While the second image is a snapshot of Chinese tricking Kenyans to learn Mandarin while abusing themselves in the same language. The second colonisation has started already. Guinea has little fish around its coastlines anymore because of the license the Chinese have struck for the shores. Nepal is already on hot coals with the Chinese and they have taken over their assets and lands.

CHoccolaTE:

Smart comment, many men in Nigeria are depending 100percent on their wives but women don't announce it because of shame, if a man is the one supporting his wife 100percent, he go insult her tire.
Men are naturally selfish and self centered creatures

That's why they keep demanding heaven and earth from women but don't want to give anything back.

True. Men have so much audacity to demand for they want and women on the other hand, keep on adjusting to meet the standard men and society have placed for them. To be honest, men are naturally selfish and audacious.

dominique:
There's hardly a family I know where the wife doesn't cover a considerable amount of family expenses, so I don't know where all this crying and groaning is coming from. So in addition to taking care of kids and unending house chores, there's now pressure on the Nigerian wives to provide for the family. What exactly is the usefulness of the Nigerian husband in the 21st century? If only (working class) women know the type of favour they're doing this men in getting married to them, they won't be so desperate for marriage.

Having excess wealth as a woman wouldn't translate to happiness, abeg when last get or engage in a marathon straffin'? If it's been a while then you need dyck in your life so it could help calm some of your nerves down and put you in state of clarity...for make you no come craze.

Sarita01:

True,they don't give anything back,they're like a black hole sucking up every thing but giving back nothing,a man in my area beats his wife everyday,forming alpha male on her even when everyone knows she out earns him and provides basically everything in the house,even gives him money to fund his business but he can't even give her love(that is free),he can't give back respect,he can't give back appreciation,he can't give back peace of mind,he can't give back attention,he practically couldn't give back things that are free,then how can he give back things that are worth money. Babe,only give all of you to a man who gives you all of himself,choose yourself above others. No concessions allowed only compromise

Do you actually know what an alpha male is? Why are some ladies as dumb as Bleep!! An alpha man doesn't do those shit you mentioned. So sad exposure is far from the opposite gender.

Alexaonfleek:

Lol
I don't know where they get this mentality that ladies are sitting down and waiting for urgent 2k.
Sometime before the endsars protest I was coming back from bank and I entered keke that a young lady drove.
What really surprised me was not even the fact that it was a young lady,but the fact that she looks like your average slay queen: weaveon,fake long lashes and all.

Sorry to bust your bubble that mentality is not far from the truth, there are more depending women than the independent ones.
Even a working lady that knows her boyfriend is well to do will be entitled, will need urgent 50k
In offices you will see females billing there male colleagues, we know women hustle and earn money tew buh its seems to have little effect.

foolbuster:


Yes. A woman is not supposed to work and provide for the family unless she wants to. That is exclusively the role of the man. Men that shamelessly advocate for women to work and provide for the family are weak men. And they do not deserve to be called the head of the house. They surrendered and accepted to share that previlege with the woman the moment they decided to share their natural duty of providers with her.
These days society is full of broke men who can't fulfill there natural roles so they shift some of the burden to the women and deaperately try to make it the new normal.

i agree. But sometimes its good to find something doing in case of incasity. Anything can happen the man can drop dead oneday.

Talkingoil:

With 200 naira data to browse

I dey tell u

BRASH:
True. But it won't be a crime for a woman to tell her man to relax so she can take care of him and the family. Or don't you guys want equality again?
What a man can do, a woman can do better.

For me, I don't care if my woman has money, so long bad she has what I want, I will use my money to establish her. Just be faithful

You better be very careful. Don’t end up staking your whole life and everything you have on a woman’s faithfulness or loyalty.
Don’t stake all your capital (financial and otherwise) on any woman including your wife, mum or daughter!

virginprincess:
All this broke men creating nonsense tread self , haven't you people see real men that get married then ask their wives to sit at home, that is becoming full time housewives, those men do they have two heads? are they not the one taking the whole responsiblity? mtcheeeeew.

...people like you end up marrying ndi ogwu ego(ritualist), and they use u to renew their covenant with devil.

ZIINI:


What you typed up there use to happen 2000 years ago not this 21 century
We already have independent girls now
I'm sure you come across them when you go out don't you envy them too.?
Just this morning I saw a girl driving a Benz E class
And here you are, aspiring to be a full house wife
When you husband money is gone you as a wife you're expected to support him now tell me how do you want to support him when you sit your ass at home all day
Doing nothing all in the name of house wife.
After sometimes without him dropping anything at home you will later frustrate his life
And from there problem will set in ...
Girls of nowadays I don't know maybe you think with your pusssy. Girls like you are just a piece of junk

NAILED IT, GOD BLESS YOUR GENERATION FOR THIS COMMENT.

Endsars147:
Its simply cause men don wise up baby daddy shit is the best all at least 90% of girls ladies now are hoes give her belle accept full responsibility of the child let her continue hoeing it will save lot of stress

Sad but true!

And the recipe for peace of mind.

nenyewrites:


And women don't have mental. physical and psychological pressure down to the pressure of getting married or having well-brought up kids while going to work with pregnancy and still ensure the smooth running of her home? You must be brainless. If you like don't eat well and stop smoking, drinking, and having sex up and down, you will die early.

Really so the woman stay with the kids in school,get pregnant every second of the marriage,only she raise the kids, sorry I tot I was talking to a functional being,stay there Shiloh still get u for mind in the next 20yrs

CHoccolaTE:


You sabi am

All these jobless poor men na them dey form alpha male pass, their insecurities will not let them admit that they owe their wives gratitude for supporting them, they see their wives as inferior even while she is the one feeding and housing them.

That's why I will always advice girls to avoid poor struggling broke men like a plague, if in future she becomes more successful than him he will only try to use her and vent his frustrations on her, if he is the one that becomes successful, he will start looking for younger finer girls that he could not get when he was poor.

Some women still think men have women's best interest at heart when they say girls should marry poor men.

Wow. Men owes their wives gratitude 4 supporting dem, is she supporting him 4 him or supporting him 4 d family.

so all u females care abt is yourselfs nt even ur kid comes into d picture. Very selfish things. *spits*

ZIINI:
Men don wise up
Na women marriage pay that's why their very desperate to get married
Was in a prayer one day and this lady next to me is praying so loud that I can hear her clearly.
Her prayer in youruba was O lord provide my own husband for me .
The pastor call off the prayer and I looked at her closely although she's not that old mere looking at her she can't be more than 27/30 if my age was the same with hers there ain't no way I'm gonna think of marriage.
And come to think of it marrying a girl in this era is a bad idea. A girl that already have 15 to 20 body count before marriage knowing this will I still want to marry her plus you're not a proustite and your puunani is public. Let's be sincere the only way a nigarrr can marry you is if he doesn't know all this .
One major problem is our country
A nigarrrr that is earning 35K and you're telling him to go and marry abeg shey you wan kill am nii
35k wey be say you no fit carry am go ball for quilox
And person wey him wan marry no get work.
Ladies if you're yet to get married don't think it's a generational curse or maybe you have husband issues
NO the better truth is men don wise up.
All this likes you're giving me
How I wish I can multiply it by dollars and cash out306 x 383 = #137,880

You completely make sense.there is no enjoyment, loyalty, respect in marriage in the absence of money.as for the likes.take it to Seun.he could probably help out on that.

doscar:



Do you actually know what an alpha male is? Why are some ladies as dumb as Bleep!! An alpha man doesn't do those shit you mentioned. So sad exposure is far from the opposite gender.

That's why I said he was forming it,tryin to imply he was the shit,when he's nothing but a giant vacant space in the human race. It seems comprehension is far from you u need to go back to sch. He beats his woman and still forms dominant,possessive and head of the family when his wife is the one supporting his lifestyle,an insecure motherfucker feeling fly on top his wife's sweat,tears and hard work,taking everything but giving nothing back,that kind of man is a colossal disgrace.

Sunrise258:
I asked out one girl yesterday and immediately she told me she has no phone! Whereas, I am still struggling with rent as it expired shortly after final lockdown! I told her about my rent but she's insistent I get her a phone in just a day relationship that we haven't even set eyes on each other!! Me too now, I said she should snap pussy n boobs for happy view, shocked she vexed.

lol nothing goes nothing

nenyewrites:


If more guys admit it the way you are admitting it, we won't have any arguments. Personally, I see no big deal in women contributing in their homes. After all, men have adjusted over time. Back in the days, non-virgins were stoned, but see, men now even defend their non-virgin girlfriends. So there is no big deal if women adjusted too. But men should stop making it seem like it's how they want it. Their ego won't even permit. I know how many times I've got guys having low self-esteem because I paid the bills. It's not natural! But if you present the case with the state of the country as a reference point, both gender will be at peace.

That's just it bro if you're not ready to foot the bills why the first settling down, God will help all men who are willing to change their financial status to avoid those types of stories of sharing bills with a woman.. Don't pray that for myself

Lucyspa:



True. Men have so much audacity to demand for they want and women on the other hand, keep on adjusting to meet the standard men and society have placed for them. To be honest, men are naturally selfish and audacious.

In fact the thing tire me.

Iyajelili:
Who are the people marrying these girls every Saturday?

Only a tiny number are being married, less 3%

bluefilm:


You may be partly right because in our world today, I don't see no reason why the wife should not be able to be earning at least something, no matter how small.

But as for me, the main reason why I am still not yet married is simply because I am so afraid of the BOREDOM that comes with marriage.

The idea of doing the same set of things over and over again with just one person for the rest of your life is pretty much life threatening to me!!!

Brother, I take God beg you. If you feel that way please never allow anybody to pressure you into marriage oooooo!

nenyewrites:


Even during famines in the past, men didn't change their resolve to get married. So, it's not economy anything. There is simply no motivation, because they get everything free of charge now. Even with the so-called boyfriend and girlfriend relationship were someone will be getting free sex without paying bride price. Remove free sex, let me see if men will not hustle to take back the work from women.

There has always been free sex from the beginning of the world sis, and free sex will never stop because women need sex as much as men....its the self-control nature bestowed on women that makes it seem like women don't want sex like men do.....if not for that natural gift of self control towards sexual desire, women would have been raping men everyday I repeat. So leave that excuse.


In fact, sex is even costlier now for an average young man to get his desired sex mate......ladies have put price tags on their bodies.....the hotter the lady, the costlier her body....and the costlier it is to bed her. My point is, it is not because of free sex like you put it that's discouraging guys from getting married fast like in the past.


I am a man too remember......I am a man that have witnessed both sides of life; pure form of poverty to struggling to survive to little affluence to just name it, so I can tell you that the main reason many guys are discouraged from getting married or marrying on time is financial difficulty.


Many single guys you see around wish to be married before 32yrs, but their pocket is not encouraging them.....many of the guys you see on Nairaland fighting ladies and saying guys should not spend on their girlfriends or wives, they don't mean it in reality......it is the wish and desire of every young man to spoil his woman with cash and gifts if he has but the issue is, many don't end up having enough money.....


It is Nigerian women, or let me put it this way, the black women that are very wicked and selfish with their money and financial possession.....they don't allow their wealth circulate unlike when a man has money; women will enjoy a lot of it, likewise men, but when a single woman has money, or when a woman has money, it is only her beloved/preferred immediate family members (siblings, mother, sometimes father) that enjoy little of her money, and once she gets married, it is only her kids that enjoy her money.......our women need to change their mentality towards money and men.


Time have changed.......women should stop waiting for ready made men......if one comes your way, fine and good, be glad and marry him, but for any single lady to be waiting for one rich, tall, handsome, God fearing man to come marry her and bring her life fantasies to reality is suicide mission that may never come to reality.....this is one of the reasons DJ Cuppy, Otedola's daughter is single jumping from one handsome famous star to another hoping her girlie fantasies comes to reality......instead of facing the reality

virginprincess:
All this broke men creating nonsense tread self , haven't you people see real men that get married then ask their wives to sit at home, that is becoming full time housewives, those men do they have two heads? are they not the one taking the whole responsiblity? mtcheeeeew.

Any man that end up with someone with a mentality like yours must be an insane man. So what will you use your own money for? Saving it in bank or for make up and bags? Wake up and reason well ,we are no more in 18th century, this is 21st century both hands must work and bring something to the table don't be a liability.