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Your only problem with her attending the wedding is paying taxi fare? Really want to understand you. .

Really don't know the reason for the practice. .. However, I know many babies have hairs so difficult to comb at birth; many mothers even desire it shaved to ease pain on the baby...

Whatever though. .. shaving my baby's hair or not isn't a problem to me... All I need is a healthy growth in both mind and body....

dway4ward:
I had to make a choice between adding NSE and COREN to my PMP, or choosing to go on a paid scholarship. First line of action would have enabled me survive in this tough economic clime but I saw it as too much for a graduate role and the team could read that as one who'll not be as trainable (one with too much external experience might be more stuck in his ways and not adapt as quick to our organisation). The second line of action, further studies will show willingness to learn and can counter the excess experience, hence my choice. A sane recruitment will take a year from advert to resumption, I expected to complete my thesis off-campus. I took this decision because of the image they had portrayed. My skills set is strictly for the industry affected by this oil price crash. Do you know if the great Dane is in accounting or IT with easily transferable skills? That line of move on is very patronising as you know not individual unique circumstances.

I am actually moving on yes, I knew I'll be the ONE if that was all was needed by NLNG; but with this delay and lack of opportunities in engineering; I'm taking my skills to another industry, and I'm not selling to a Nigerian management again.

@bolded, how could you make a choice based on what nlng would think? Moreso, an uncertainty; not like you have joined already... At every point in life, you should make decisions best for YOU! Nlng too makes decisions that are best for THEM...
Also, your decisions should be about excelling in life as a whole not just at nlng because nlng isn't where life ends...
Then, what if you were wrong with your assumption concerning the first option? What if that option would have put you in a good light? Like: wow, you have achieved a lot for someone still within the graduate trainee range? What if they would have seen you as an achiever?

However, either of the options are still wonderful. ..

All I'm saying is that, you shouldn't let nlng put your life on hold or influence your decisions greatly. . Live your life like they don't exist; do what's best for your life, atleast not until you've joined them.... Whenever they call, you can weigh all options and make the best decision. .

All the best. ..

Seriously, you guys should take a clue from dane15 ..The guy moved on with his life, come marry on top sef ....While some people are putting their lives on hold waiting for nlng

I understand it's taking long but be busy with your life; whenever they call, you answer. . Getting worked up will solve nothing. ..

mitchelle1989:
Have anyone cooked agidi jollof here b4?
I tried it today but eh, I need to bandage my arm cos I kept stiring the pap for more than 30mins and it refused to be thick, I shaa tied the white agidi in the leave and it came out fine but the other part I added stew inside , I don't even know the taste is and ut wasnt so thick like the white agidi. But we ate it like that shaa.
I forgot to snap pishor.

Lol..so funny. . ThankGod everything came out edible

Any link to the recipe you used? I like agidi jellof a lot but have never prepared it myself. ..

I understand it may be difficult but still strive to do your best... it will pave way for you!

Not asking you to go beyond your limit though... but as long as you're still there; be the best at what you do....

Cute children everywhere

Lalasticlala , come and move this thread to the fp...

Chaiii, it's well dear.. be strong, this too shall pass.. Don't give the devil victory, stand firm!

RIP to your husband. .

Women are the cause of everything wrong in this world. . Women, una too much oo

halfricanadian:
WORD!!!! PREACH SISTER HELP ME PREACH O

Lol.. When I read comments like: why did you invade his privacy by using his laptop or phone. .. I will just laugh because I'm probably using my husband's phone/laptop at that moment. .
Some comments are meant to be ignored..

Besides, many people echoing privacy ettcc will still go behind to check their spouse's phone/laptop; Humans are naturally curious...

It all depends on the couple involved. . Whatever makes them happy ....

However, nothing like 'privacy' in my own marriage.. I have access to everything concerning my husband including all bank details and investment details. ..

Then, people shouldn't let the media influence their marriage or relationship.. Don't practise everything you read online.. Learn to do what's best for you and your spouse alone and not what people think or say!

Cheating or attempting to cheat because your husband cheated is absolute nonsense ... You're no better than the man himself!

Seriously when I read certain threads, I can't stop thanking God for my wonderful husband. ..

How can people be debating on this issue? You'll bring in someone into the house you both share without her approval . .. God help y'all... dictatorship isn't headship...

mitchyy:
Abeg mamas, how do you scratch your stomach in public when its itching you? My shirt too thick for the scratching to penetrate, i just raise am scratch my belle with shame when i nor fit bear am again.
If pple like make dem curse me, at least i'm relieved *covers face*

Lol... I think that's stretch marks gradually finding their way.. hope you're using coconut oil or shea butter already?

ElDeeVee:
Meeting Chelsea will be the end of the road for your team. Just keep meeting the 'soft' English teams cos iffa catch you ehn......

Bla bla bla bla bla

stevejoy:
Thanks so much guys for the great advices,you guys are my real companions.

Well,they have exchange numbers already. I did warn my wife off this initially and also spoke to my friend but I didn't want to be aggressive or confront my friend on the issue, I believe in diplomacy. My friend told me he only advise her...which means she discusses what happens in my family with my friend.

As a yoruba adage says " alatise lo maa matise Ara e"

Thanks once again guys.

What kinda advice does he give her that you can't give?
I was going to say the chat could be harmless until I saw this comment. .

You need to call your wife to order...

kilokeys:
I have nebosh IGC exams to write.. Read till 4am.
I am sapiosexual too.. And smart enough to know men and female are wired differently.

Besides.. I opened this thread for men to rub minds.. Men only.. La wa o.. We can't have our forum in peace again.

You only need men to comment because you need justification for your silly comments. .. I only pity your (future) wife... Women are becoming wiser now though. .

All I know is that in this world, you get paid in your own coins!

Byikson:
Yes I applied.
I even wrote the test.
But I don't know the reason why they should put me in this kind of confusion.

Hi

Call or send them an email explaining your ordeal.. then, kindly request they shift your resumption if possible as that's when your IT is due...

You can also go there, if you can....

I hope they grant it.. all the best...

AwesomeGodIAv:
Hello ladies!

Hiii

cococandy:
Thanks you so much

Eeeyyaa , congrats coco .. had to dig to know why they were congratulating you. . God bless your lil one dear. ..

You're already judging without knowing whether they're related.. what if he's her husband cos some guys don't wear wedding rings...

Mind your business please. .. The word isn't even vulgar too...

A pleasant birthday tearoses , God's blessings!

Mtcheeew. . Blaming other people for your mistakes/in capabilities. .. As a person, whether married or not, temptations will come... It's entirely up to YOU to fall or not. . And if you fall, it's because you wanted to.. Fullstop..

Learn to take responsibilities for your actions!

Lero15:
This babe can smile for Africa

Lol.. Life will be so sad and boring without smiles

How you dey? Xup with Arsenal?

armyofone:
I hope new generation Nigerians will stay off having too many children than they can care for. Imagine you and your brother's school fee on top a married man's head
We are no longer in the age of putting responsibilities on someone or first born take care of the rest syndrome.
Parents should be the one caring for their own children so have small family.
If you have the money help is what you give and no one should make it your responsibility or force you to do something you cannot bearing in mind limited resources.
Op, he has a family now and soon they will have his own child to focus on so remember that. You never know they have a baby on the way or paying back wedding loans.

Her parents are late, didn't you read that?

Besides, nothing wrong with helping your younger ones.. if you're successful, it's good you help your siblings succeed too; if it's in your power. .. Nobody is asking you take care of them all their life; it's just for a few years till they stand their feet.. Not by force though and I don't think op is forcing her brother. .

Your sibling may be one to help you tomorrow. ..

kestolove95:
Really d guy needs help..but ur english need more help than dat boi..

Swerve please, this is not an English class ... Why ridicule someone unnecessarily? The Op has a good heart and that's what matters most in life..
Not like your Grammar is any better though. .

TheRealAdonye:
I am o, Thanks.

How your side?

Good too... Thank God. .

Just to holla you

Visit Your brother and have a talk with him.. He maybe facing other challenges unrelated to his wife...

Good luck. .. I hope he continues fending for you. ..

Meanwhile, you can also find ways to help yourself. . You can do some lil businesses or something. ..

TheRealAdonye:
Just in my lane unlooking..

Hi Adonye, hope you're good?

udemzyudex:
If I may ask, what's the rules?

Each church has their own rule(s)! Abide by yours! If you can't, use the door... Don't expect the church to alter rules just to suit your interest(s). .. if you can't take the heat, leave the kitchen! It's that simple. ..

udemzyudex:
You're not making any sense sir, Is church wedding biblical, and what's the benefit of church wedding.

You're trying to say that since they were married traditionally, why bothered about white wedding and like he said treat a problem from the root and not the surface.

He made a whole lot of sense! There are no benefits of church wedding, so why do people keep doing it even though nobody is forcing it on them?

Nobody forces anyone to do church wedding, but if you must do it then keep the rules. .Simple!
The church can't bend rules to suit people same way they ain't forcing church wedding on anyone. ...

thorpido:
Stop promoting fornication
It is not compulsory to get married in church.Noone will force you to.If you decide to get married in church then you ought to do the right thing.You ought to know (and should know) that pregnancy is not allowed so why bring the pregnancy there?
Have you traditional marriage and go to the registry,chikena..

You're so full of wisdom. . God bless you. .

Rules are rules, if you can't abide then don't bother coming to the church; as simple as that... you can't tell the church to bend their rules to suit you....