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Trapnews:
Another TELEMUNDO patient, keeping living in fantasy. I pity the unfortunate fellow wey go marry you with this your mentality

eeeyyaa, so going out , playing games together etttcc is telemundo to you? I pray you find LOVE someday

Don't pity me because I already have a lovely husband who I do those stuffs and more with..

Your marriage is what you make of it.. you either choose to live as friends or strangers. . All d best. .

Op's location will influence whatever action he takes shaa... different environment, different strategy...

banttieman:
How did u mean well by forcing her to take more than she wanted? Go and apologise to her then take her out to have a nice time.

Apologise ko, odi mma ...

Don't see anything wrong with what the op did.. some kids can disturb a lot, i tell you if the op hadn't commanded her to take more water, she would come back every 5mins asking for water... You can't be disturbing for water only to sip a lil when it comes

The op did what he thought was best at that moment. . The kids mustn't have their way all the time..Also, just for asking her to drink more water, she's angry and mad already. . Ok oo

OP, ask her why she's "mad" at you anyway. ..

Op, you may have to find out if he's having any challenges which you ain't aware of. .. If no challenges, then maybe he isn't into you and probably got married out of pressure from parents. ..
Continue to initiate conversations, maybe suggest you go out together, play games, see movies together et al..anything that will help you two bond... I believe gradually, he'll come around. .


Ps: His attitude isn't normal, a newly wedded couple should still be all lovey-dovey biko and not this boring; nothing like giving space biko... .. I hope you achieve better results. ...All the best. .

x240:
I like to look at the Genesis of an issue.

WHEN they warn ladies to do it slowly and be frugal during weddings. They say na rubbish we dey talk. We all know that day is what most ladies look up to and want it to be the talk of the town but you also need to learn what happens during the lead up to that day may determine what would happen in the first few yeats of your marriage.

Which man won't go boning?

After putting him into debt. Remember those times he said you should reduce the guest list or go for a cheaper wedding gown and you turned it down. Or the times you never gave a damn about the cost of items and went for the most expensive. Now it is over and he is in deep shit.

I don't blame you but the results of the kind of debt we put new couples into because of an elaborate wedding and "let them know and see me" attitude only manifests when the curtains are drawn.


He has spent all his money on wedding and now can't pay for office rent just few months down the line. What would happen when the kids roll in?

Seriously, i don't know what you can do. Just pray the times change and turns more favorable or get busy and start bringing in some bucks to help lessen the pressure on him. He is also to blame, you know the status of your finances but caved into societal pressure now you are turning back the anger on her. Not good.

What a hasty conclusion ... did the op say they're in debt Even if he's in debt, did anyone force him to spend that much? Is he a kid?
People like you always find ways to blame women for everything. .. You're here making it seem like men easily bow to women's pressure or pleas...if they do, then why haven't all cheating men whose wives cry and beg everyday changed?

Mtcheeew, it's a woman's fault when you spend beyond your budget as if you're a kid and don't know when to say No.. or atleast go for a woman in your class...


*Modified*... for those quoting me up and down
You meet a girl, she lives a flamboyant lifestyle, you can't meet up yet you stress yourself? After you come crying about how she has milked you dry? Calling her names?

When you can choose a woman you have same perception with?

Entertainment at a burial ceremony? Odi egwu. . Excess money..

Burial turn party...

dane15:
See what?

This month is the month o.

I don't know why I have a feeling that PresVA is a staff.

hehehhe, Amen oo

Just for clarifications though, I have nothing to do with Nlng; I just find the thread interesting, that's why I follow it. . Also, I hv a few friends in the race....
Wish you guys the best..

Cc: Ladyf

@she saw it in a dream before you got married....

You know your wife doesn't trust you and you played such a 'big' prank..

Continue convincing her nna...

My sister was denied a family visit visa today on account of no family or social ties in Nigeria, hence they doubt if she's genuinely seeking a visa for the period and purpose stated.. That there's no commitment for which she must come bk to Nigeria...

My sister may not have strong ties but her purpose was genuine.. really wish there's a way they could tell if someone is sincere or not..

It's just sad but life goes on...

postmann:
I can only say CONGRATULATIONS!!! You definitely are a rare breed, a horse with a different colour. Be blessed and enjoy your marriage!

Amen, thanks a lot

I agree with you, esp No 1... Men love respect a lot. .. Even though me and my husband live like siblings, I don't cross my boundary. . I don't take his meekness for granted, I still make him feel like yeah he's the head..

Generally, I would do anything to make my husband happy because he deserves it and a lot more....

huntax:
If my count is above 20,would you term me a stud? What if I have slept with over 20 girls because they all kept breaking my heart and as a result,all failed to work out?

What would you call a lady that has done the above? ? There lies your answer. ..

Adegbenro7643:
Well, if OP is nt a virgin, then I c no reason y she'd giv complaints abt studs........Even if I would eventually get married 2 a non-virgin, I would make sure dat her bride price is reduced by 30% at least.

No abusive comments, pls!

Are you a virgin if I may ask?

Op, let whatever discrimination don't get to you. . A company may not need you but another will; that's life... all d best. ..

Lero15:
Lol.

Yes o. I see 'em. It's normal.

BTW, who are those liking your comments

I know PresVa must be one of them. She likes love and marriage things

Lol.. Of course I do ... Love too sweeeeet

Morning Lero, Do hv a great day

Talking about beating the man or calling touts on him, remember he's still your sister's husband; your sister will definitely feel the pain with him....Don't go that far please; totally unnecessary, the deed is done already-quite sad indeed though. ..

Have a meeting with the man...let out your displeasure. .

Then your sister should find out why her husband drinks so much like that, he may be undergoing some challenges. . Many men bottle up emotions and tend to believe drink can take away the worries, sadly drinking only worsens. . Find out why the change except he's been like this from d onset?

Memesticmeme:
Awww darling pls take it easy on me. A girl once told me that a guy who doesn't smoke,drink, have football addiction will surely flirt. I never noticed it until I observed myself and a lot of other guys and truth be told I don't drink, neither do i smoke, I hate football so I'm for the d "ladies" *winks*. Lol so back to the matter no guy is perfect and if u want "emotional happiness" courtesy of ur hubby u just av to live with his flaws. I heard a woman do buy packs of condoms for her hubby whenever he is traveling and shez damn happily married.

Keep deceiving yourself. . I wish you your match when you get married; so that you get double of whatever you dish out.....

Memesticmeme:
Lol yup. Ain't gon lie buh I know some men who do not cheat at all and dey love their wives. But ask urself dis qstn would u love ur man to cheat and make u happy in other ways or would u love him to make ur relationship a living hell and not cheat?

Silly analogy. . What about being a lovely husband all round? Can't a non-cheating husband still be a caring and loving husband/father? Is it such a huge task to respect yourself, your wife and your kids?

Besides how can a cheating husband still be making you happy when he's draining you emotionally?

I hope you'll give same analogy when your wife cheats

Silly question ... Cheating in all its forms is wrong and betrayal of trust cum emotional abuse, whether financial cheating or sexual...
Anyone that loves you can never cheat (on) you; he/she wouldn't harbour that in mind at all, talk more of executing it...

Soon they'll tell me, someone that loves you can abuse you physically. . mtcheeew

Avalon316:
And if your pvssy has been smashed by exes and co,do you sincerely want your husband to be happy with crumbs for the rest of his life? You,naija girls , are not serious. You give his food,pv$$y, to the boys then expect hubby to be happy with the tokunbo pv$$ies.

Be real.

But girls should manage guys who have "smashed" many exes abi? Ladies enjoy "tokunbo" abi? Oga fear God o...

Once you've made the choice of a partner and got married, it's your duty to be faithful to each other.. no excuses to misbehave.. you had the option of marrying him/her or not and made your choice yourself, so no excuses whatsoever! !!

Air conditioned hell

It's really pathetic; many people don't wish Mondays to come

But then, I believe it's a passing phase; it can only get better, "air conditioned hells" are just stepping stones...

elomepee:
Just my line of thinking. You have no right to put up her pix without her permission.
Do the needful.

With the way things are going in Naija;people taking shots at any slightest opportunity, won't be surprised to see my pictures someday online. .

To op, he was being smart.. mtcheeew. .

Hmmmmm... end time gf and friend... guy, confirm the story and move on!

You ain't rich, yet placed a girl on 30k per month?
Btw, how much do you send your parents monthly?

nice14:
hi all, had my lo at 33wks but lost her 5days later. she was an angel may she rest in peace

.. Be strong dear; God will replenish the loss in multiples, Amen. . It's well

GenyEbere:
thank you very much am relieved by just talking about it

Hi, I think you should get a source of income, it will go a long way helping you out of the situation. ..
All d best. .. Remember, this is just a phase, it will pass

Who says marriage no sweet

Beautiful family ... Wish you greater love and happiness!


Lalasticlala , oya food don done oo

How many married peeps successfully delay pregnancy in Nigeria up to their desired period of time? When your mum, Mil ettcc be on top your head; be counting your edd from your wedding day ..

I tried delaying mine and I know d kinda pressure I got.. Odiegwu..

It's really pathetic. . So many Nigerians are just dishonest.... we do a lot of stupid things calling it smartness...

But then, I'm just indifferent concerning the op's case; will be sad leaving someone die before you because of bills...However

elrony:
Why spend ridiculous amount of money for a wedding when you can flex it on your marriage!!!

Who says they don't have money to flex in their marriage after wedding?

Let everyone work according to their desires pls. .. Besides, expensive is relative. .

Thanks a lot stadora

Mtcheeew. . Must you see people 'suffering' before you know you should be grateful to God? Why do people thank God over others' predicament?

Also, what makes you think you have a better life than they do?

crackhaus:
Well I can't speak for ALL guys, but I definitely do not think that way.

What I really think and ponder about is why some of you women still think you're perfectly normal even with all these weird traits nature has bestowed upon y'all...

Good to know

Ain't we just wonderful? Supernatural... We switch traits anyhow