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tortmistress:
I am really very respectful toward him, and do not do things to aggravate him on purpose but now anything I say he takes it the wrong way. It is difficult to have a simple discussion.

Your husband is just trying to blame you unnecessarily for his troubles. .. I think he may have other motives because people start finding faults here and there so as to have excuses for their misdeeds...

If all you typed is true, I will say you be very watchful cos he maybe upto something!

I don't believe any prophet told him $hit but even if a prophet did, ur husband believed that because he already conceived that in his mind... who believes what any prophet says if you already didn't have that in mind? The thought of even going to the prophet shows something must have gone wrong prior to the visit. ..

Sit down and talk with him and get what's in his mind... Some men hardly talk about their challanges, they bottle up a lot.... he maybe having some financial crisis or something; then heaping the blame/anger on you! You both should make amends where necessary. ..

Don't exclude prayers too!

noblegrex:
if you're not rich,they'll cheat.now you're rich and you satisfied them,they'll still cheat.forgiven her is not the problem. The problem is;can she change? Can the man ever trust her again.after 15yrs of marriage,all she could resort to is infidelity. As for the men that cheats,well,its a chemical reaction that occur in them. I'm not saying they should cheat but as long as they're responsible in all other things then no long thing. Why should women cheats.

The bolded has made every other thing you said meaningless. . So it's ok for a man to cheat? Mtcheeeew

godoluwa:
there is no reason why I sane woman will leave a husband of 15yrs to go & work under he ex-boyfriend. no gain saying that the woman still have strong feeling for her ex. I'm 95% sure that the woman would have engage herself in sex with that her ex within that a month because women are so flexible.

Yeah, I don't support the woman in any way... I only gave my opinion. .

It's up to the OP to decide whether to let go of his marriage or not! Cheers!

Cc: freiden , valencia25

adekennis:
Oga I'm sorry to ask, are u alright? WTF r u saying...forgive who?? ...In Buhari voice*...If you know the kind of atrocities the woman have committed,you would not advice the man to forgive her.

noblegrex:
hear talk.is that suppose to be an advice.

valencia25:
After serious yanshing from the EX abi, some people will just give advice without putting themselves in OP's shoe.
OP: do you know how many rounds of sex and different styles of Sex they must have done FLESH TO FLESH!
Forget about her before she kill you to finally be with her EX, let her go now when you're still breathing. May God punish any family member that will walk into my home to discuss this shit with me, I'll just ask them what if it was their Wife/Mom.

Ok, let him divorce her.. are you guys ok now?

I hope you all can give same advice to women whose husbands cheat!

I still stand on my words, it's her first time of such act and she's remorseful. . I think she deserves a second chance.. If she messes up the second the second chance, then.....
This is a marriage of 15 years, the husband has to try first before letting go..that's if he still has interest though. .

cococandy:
Well the OP is obviously looking for who to annoy so don't let it be you.
though there are still foolish people everywhere, I don't think there are those who are still foolish enough demand to be served food while being knelt down to. Not even from their housemaids let alone wives.
Nor do we have wives who have nothing better better to do than kneel down to serve food breakfast lunch and dinner. Odiegwu.
What you see here is his imagination waking up from sleep after a long while being dormant.
Read the bolded.

I can tell you he doesn't even have a girlfriend much less one that kneels down to serve him food and apologizes immediately if she forgets.

My dear, it still happens ooo.. my roommate during my nysc told me women from their side (urhobo, Delta) serve their husbands food kneeling down. .

Na them sabi..

If your fiancee is supportive without having to take you for granted, then you two can start a family together. .. Your salary together is enough for now, hopefully you get something better before kids start coming. ..

I don't know much about the surgery but being scared wouldn't help at all.. it may lead to HBP wch will complicate everything. .

Just be strong dear, many people have had it successfully; urs won't be different.. you'll tell the story. .

Wishing you a successful surgery

Oga, it's none of your business. . Go and get a family of your own, maybe your wife will be rolling on the floor while serving you. .. Mtcheeeew. .

Ujoan:
Why the shock
It's time for men to realize that their actions have consequences. You cannot cheat on a woman who has sacrificed so much for you and expect her to just forget it like nothing happened.
While she is willing to forgive, forgetting is a whole different matter.
This sudden search for independence is a clear indication that the woman has always felt trapped is now not ready to start living her life.
She may not even be dating her ex like OP is implying, but knowing she is living her life her way could be a huge source of consolation to her!

Why the hasty conclusion? Did the Op say he has ever cheated?

There maybe nothing wrong with working with an ex; the issue here is hiding it from her husband. ..

OGGS2000:
She is begging to come back to Lagos. She is still in the East. Perhaps she knows her plans has been exposed.

Since she's remorseful, just give her a second chance and let her into the house but with strict conditions; no more contact whatsoever with the ex... This is a marriage of 15 years, don't let go without trying....also, let her know your stand if she ever engages in any kind of unfaithful act again. warn her strictly...

Can't you start a business for her instead of her sitting idle at home? That way she'll be busy and thoughts like this may be limited or completely eliminated. ..

Then, next time, know the details of any activity your wife wants to engage in before giving your approval. . Even those of your children too..

Onegai:
We got an LG front loader, about N80, 000 (? ) from the store. It came with a warranty.

Alright. . Thanks a lot

Onegai:
Where's the best place to buy the machine, going to the LG store or a supermarket like Spar?

Hi, did you still get the washing machine? If yes, what brand and amount? And did you buy from d market or the brand syore?

What kinda financial responsibility does she need from her husband? Cos probably the man must be bringing money for feeding and other essentials. .

I suspect your friend is someone that can't 'manage' considering she was living well in Nigeria before travelling. .she should be patient with her husband since he's currently involved in a big financial programme that takes most of his money... Except her husband is lying to her!

Your friend can also start doing some lil works to earn some income. ..

It's just all about communication. ..I don't advise leaving your marriage whether temporary or otherwise, except you're starving. ...

People are freer these days.. before, knowing how divorce was frowned at will make you try to resolve any issues that come out of your marriage and also shine your eyes while choosing a life partner. ..

But now, you can always try a partner out(marry) and quit if he/she doesn't suit you. .. Nobody does homework before marriage. .

Also, people want everything on a platter of gold..nobody wants challenges. ..

It's well..

ThankGod for you. .may he grow from strength to strength. .

In developed countries you'll be allowed if you already have some working experience in the new field you want to master...

Seriously, the contributory pension scheme should be for new entrants. .. I don't support seizing people's gratuity. .

It's just so disgusting. . Inserting your pri*k where like 20 other people have inserted that same day... hmmm

Someone who puts your life in danger isn't worth living with...

A wonderful birthday to you. . Greater heights in Jesus name, Amen..


Cheers! !

Quite a good way of checking who's environmental conscious since that's what the job wanted. .

Nice one and congrats on your job!

The problem isn't with the mods. . How many vacancies do we have these days? The economy is harsh hence no much vacancies as it used to be in the past, talk more of seeing one to move to d front page. .

Also op, instead of critising, you can help them by calling their attention when you see a thread worthy of front page...

praxisnetworks:
happiness is a state which you're unconscious of..... Once you become conscious that you are happy.... You cease to be happy

Hmmmm, so one can't truly know if he/she is happy or not?

Hmmmmm ... this one strong o

The decision is yours alone to make!

hahn:
I did the same to my wife

You eehhh

Wonder how she felt when she heard it

hahn:
Record her snoring and use it as your ring tone. It's romantic

Joking with someone's predicament.

Op, I think you should tell the doctors at the hospital about it.. you sound so caring. .I wish your wife full recovery. .

shalomp:
She wants him to divorce me. She is so desperate that she
made him to go into another marriage without being
divorced. So how do I protect myself?

Here you're blaming the woman.. your husband got involved with another woman and you're calling the woman desperate? Was your husband forced to marry her? Abi he was charmed?

Blame your husband more; he's the one you hv a business with. . he did everything with his eyes open. .

lilmax:
This guy is what I call WEAK and EMOTIONAL

You had a very good opportunity to put an end to the nonsense at the beginning, but no you wanted to be the gentleman

so what would you have done if in his situation?

nasha1:
u dont know how facebook works den.on fb u can lock ur pictures meaning only ur friends can see ur pictures and they cannot copy it.so u mean u go out with ur baby and a stranger will just snap ur baby picture? .so anyone dat visit my baby will snap a pic of my baby without my consent? ;Dchei.it is not about hurt,i am not even the superstitious type,i am all for privacy.i see it disturbing dat a grown up individual will come on a public forum 2 try get validation from stranger in a virtual world.no thanks,my family and friends are enough.

So you can lock your pictures on ALL social media and there's no way of extracting them?
Yes, someone can take your baby's picture outside or even inside your house without your knowledge especially when it has to do with a bad motive as the case here... They can go any miles to get it...

Whatever though, I just don't see what's wrong with posting baby's pictures online. . It's mostly done out of happiness. .

davide470:
I like you too.

Lol.. I 'rike' you too

amicable09:
hahahaha... go on with your admirations, you are right on track!

Let me express mine to you too *smiles. Saw the encouragement you gave to the guy who needs to break out, Nice one! I like you too... lol

Hahahhaha. ..funny you. .. Thanks though...

amicable09:
Hahahaha... PresVa did you say "I just like you" to a very senior friend? PresVa, bring your like home and shower her with love instead *winks

Well done Aunty Ify! Thanks for visiting your little children here, we appreciate.

hehehhe. . Do you know my age? Also, can't one commend an older person?

I only expressed my admiration for her.. nothing more. .