₦airaland Forum

Dikonico:
This man has turned to a clown finally

He’ll be roaming the markets soon-enough. Having a deep bass voice is all well-and-good but when your mind’s crumbling in a way similar to Kanye West’s public post-summer manic madness something needs to be addressed. He’s actually not well.

Another delusion of grandeur coming from this man is worrying. He needs to be sectioned. (And I’m not joking, sef.)

And what’s the Ikwerre ukwa|abacha-ncha hybrid supposed to be like? Has anyone in-or-around P.H. (or deeper into the Ikwerre hinterland, if there are any conc. Riverians for this thread) actually tasted it?

shantti:
It's a lie, different villages in enugu prepares abacha various ways.

Some mix the abacha with beans.

Some place akidi by the side of the abacha and garnish the center with sliced onions, cucumber and akwukwo anyara.

Some prepare what is called ebacha echakiri, i.e abacha without any form of legumes (i.e beans or akidi or fio fio) and place enough akpaka/ukpaka by the side and a big okproko at the center...

And many other ways.........

I’d like to know these many-other ways, to be honest. Starting with Udi/Ezeagu/Oji River/Nkanu (core Waawa territory).

husbandsnatcha:
Na u biko ,owerri na swallow they sabi

True.

By the way, I wonder how okpa would taste with bleached palm oil, (ditto for elele/moi-moi) ehuru and a touch of nchaunwu (if not utazi). Anyone got any experience there?

Moh247:
This one's look like local house fellowship and gossip group

No. They look beautiful.

Since when is Nkechi a Yoruba name?

I’m not convinced there’s a great deal of colour in that stew, not in the way you seemed to be going for:

I’d advise against using that-much turmeric, unless you’re doing-up a folk-remedy.

Otherwise it’s pretty good.

Bliss955:
Please stop stressing yourself there is nothing you can do to help dis, I will advise u go to YouTube and start following all of Doctor Ramani teachings on Narcissistic Relationship/Marriage and you will be enlightened to take the right step. For your mental health please don't disregard dis

I rolled up in this thread quite late but I just had to reply to this particular message. Ramani really does know her onions about narcissism (she’s not pitch-perfect in other knowledge-domains but when it comes to narcissism/antagonism-in-the-air personality-patterns and stuff like that she’s a goddess and a half). One thing to bear in mind in Nigeria specifically is that narcissism looks a lot like borderline personality disorder (in Nigeria) so be on the lookout for abandonment crises and a weirdly-fluctuating sense of self-identity. It’s a culturally-mediated expression of somewhat-repressed intuition being used to cause friction with both the self and others and victimised entitlement that goes way beyond any cultural or gendered semi-wavering expectations (either way around).

O.P., make sure you’re onto her. It’s for your own good, yeah?

Onyenna:
Liverpool is fvcked!

Don’t say that, man.

Ginaz:
On top on being 21yr old woman with 4kids, the lunatic husband who celebrated her birthday forces her to have sex with him after childbirth causing her pain while at it and he doesn’t care .

I feel sick to my stomach.

But, hey, he gives her cake and fried rice after the odd delivery so he’s in the clear, right?

This man is a predator.

It’s time to stop pretending that this is normal.

A(n) essentially 20-year-old young woman has four kids for a guy who doesn’t seem like he has any money, her pictures (if this is her) are being exposed on a public forum (and considering she must have very-little education and doesn’t even have a mobile I don’t believe she truly authorised him to do that or understood what it meant) and she’s pressured to have intercourse with him barely 2 weeks after delivery every time. And the guy’s five years older.

It’s really a lot and most of it doesn’t strike me as being particularly legal. I’d get the police involved.

uche40:
Hmm. I always assumed INFJs were much more friendly than INTPs. My friend is the type of person who hates to keep grudges with other people. Any altercation she's involved in always ends in her seeking the other person's forgiveness. It's also very rare to see her upset -- always cheerful even when the mood doesn't call for it. Contrast that with me who's all too willing to snub people for the rest of eternity if they rub me off the wrong way .

Are you INFJ-A or INFJ-T?

I’m definitely the humanistic kind (I think all INFJs are) but I guess you could say I’m someone who’s more analytical about social phenomena, dynamics and issues so for me to take a backseat and get beyond a bit of polite brief small-talk with you or the odd night-motive there has to be a reason (it’s for personal energy-conservation more than anything to do with actively-liking or disliking the person). I’m the sort of person who has tons of acquaintances/C-grade friends (who are mostly lovely people as far as that goes) but few people I’m actually on super-close terms with directly. I’m very far from the total recluse persona that personifies (as it seems) most IxFPs but I’m too guarded to be a social butterfly, despite the love. On some days it’s useful to see myself as a deeply-reflective and calm ENFJ. I know my social battery’s firmly ambiverted (socialising doesn’t drain me; I just pick and choose how much they can compete with my alone-time so far as I’ve got something to do with it).

Not sure about the A vs. T thing in my case.

uche40:
I've always had a small circle of loyal friends who I've known for donkey years . I have an INFJ who was my best friend from secondary school till my university days, and even now we're still very close. Curiously, I interact with people a lot -- except I never allow myself get too attached to them. I must confess, I do prefer to hang around people that I perceive are just as smart, or even smarter than I am.

Gotcha.

It’s often a case of being friendly from arm’s length and cherishing day-one acquaintances but bearing in mind going forward that no-one’s entitled to get to know you, nor are they all necessarily worth your time. That friendly reserve of INFJs especially seems to really irk some people but ultimately it just is what it is. Your social boundaries are yours to draw and if you’re naturally reserved even around family and close friends/good acquaintances you’ve known for years and years you’re definitely not going to be going out of your way to befriend every new person within spitting distance. Especially if they’re not that interesting or smart. Personally I don’t generally rub shoulders with more-or-less wilful illiterates but everyone’s different.

And he’s not even Calabar/Abian.

(Seriously, ’though, R.I.P. to her.)

Templee333:
Has anyone eat fried mosquito meat? It's the king of meats.

Who wants to eat something that’s known for giving people malaria? Do you like eating dirty rats as-well?

Goose, duck, flamingo, deer/antelope and moose as far as I readily know.

Ndo, o?

Ewo.

Lock him up and throw away the key if he pressures his ‘wife’ into having sex. with him two weeks after delivery and really has had four children with her by her 21st year (and looking at other threads this lady has literally only-just turned 21, o). Even if he’s just trolling I just feel like you’ve got to be a sort of person to insinuate active paedophilia of-yore just for clickbait. What kind of repugnant monster does that?

I’m truly disgusted.

How do you get on socially, Uche.? Do you stick to an intellectual bubble of mates or do you just get on with things, let people come to you and communicate more or less firm boundaries along the way? I feel like one thing INTPs and INFJs both have in common is that we’re quite guarded and selective about who we let in and even when we do and really love them we still often interact with them in a reserved way.

uche40:
Well, I try my best



My two closest friends in Uni were ENFP and INFJ .

I never knew MBTI types could change though. Although from the little study I've done on MBTI, the ENFP and INFJ are supposed to be mirror types. For example I'm supposed to behave more like an ENTJ when I'm stressed.

I think INFJs have less-conscious xSTP and ENFP elements to their personality and many ENFPs are clear social introverts in their younger years so the lines can be confusingly-blurred. INFJ is definitely my core type but I feel like I must’ve been in my ENFP shadow for most of my childhood and early teens, for one reason or the other, you know? Once I made the shift though it was pretty obvious which one I belonged to at my core.

And yeah, apparently people behave like their unhealthy shadow-forms when under stress (other persona-correlations might happen under different circumstances and for different reasons but this one’s quite well-known). An INTP’s likely to behave like an unhealthy ENTJ when under stress, an ENFJ an unhealthy INFP and ESTP ISTJ and so-on. I think that’s quite common.

Kagd10:
You're the one in pain na. I'm not the one from osu land.. Anyway I have said my own. Your ancestor kpai with their unwarranted. So shall you if you don't desist from hating people who didn't rule you or your papa. It is what it is.

Still here?

Kagd10:
No one cares about your yuseless osu self. If e pain you, you would go and hold your useless leaders in osu land instead of crying over Tinubu who didn't rule you and your papa. I have sha said my own. Anyone who's on Yoruba soil yet working against the progress of it, you will kpai.

Lol at the fact that you’re more pained about your over-zealous trolling than I am.

If you don’t care, stop replying.

Kagd10:
I have told you my own. If you're on Yoruba soil yet working against the progress of it, you will kpai. It's simple as Abc.

And I’ve told you my own, only I come from a reasonable and non-tribalistic angle. There’s a difference between someone who spouts osu this-and-that to prove a point and someone who’s just trying to get to the bottom of things calmly. All-in-all I can’t say I'm interested in swapping words with fanatical children.

Run to mummy.

Kagd10:
The male chromosomes determine the children. Sink that into ya skull. If they feel their father is useless, then they should follow their mother to osu land. No one will stop them. But once you're on Yoruba soil yet you do something contrary to Yoruba progress, you and your Osu mother will kpai. You dey mad? The best is for you to go to your mother's osu land if you feel your father is useless. Simple as abc.

The male sex determines the sex of the child.

Genetics per-se are 50/50.

If I slap your dirty mouth now, ehn? Bloody idiot.

uche40:
Thanks. I'll check them out. What's your MBTI? My test scores show that I'm INTP-T.

You must be pretty smart, then (INTPs are the bonafide geniuses of the world).

I started off life closer to the ENFP side of things but now I’m just an INFJ.

uche40:
Anybody familiar with the MBTI personality type indicator on this thread?

Very. Let me send you a few links to get you started.

https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL6rzdODmcL65kvRx1us3UXkxWclo-LJ_h

https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL6rzdODmcL67yYuPIQI1nY_ct1P2TDUyv

https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL6rzdODmcL66pL1zaP1SULSpt5o7jguKV

https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL6rzdODmcL66ZfGf3FA9dwNQoJSIGT9FO

The way he orally-delivers can be dry sometimes but he’s MBTI gold. Try and watch a few of these over the weekend, maybe.

pocohantas:
Because there is this assumption that introverts are deeper and more intelligent. While extroverts are lousy outgoing broloshos/oloshos.

True but the thing is everyone’s a mixture of introvert and extrovert. The conceptualisation of it becomes deeper-still once you fully take it down a Jungian/MBTI lane.

I’m deeply concerned about the welfare of that poor girl (if she’s who he says she is). He’s a statutory rapist.

Let 2022 be the year we finally end this nonsense. If you’re 50/50, you’re 50/50.

Those offspring are as-much Igbo as they are Yoruba. Patrilinealism has no place in real science.