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pryme:
Yeah,
But I disagree, since am a proponent of self mastery, you MUST have totally control of your feelings, or else you will be a slave to your feelings.
If you are unlucky your "feelings" come alive for only mundane things, you will be played easily and there will be too many mistakes.

A lot of people have made their lives better by having a firm grip over their feelings -
Leaving an abusive partner,
Running a company even with disabilities,
Being brave even when they were scared to death,
Forgiving,
Overcoming addiction,
Selflessness.

Feelings and emotions are not really far from each other, it can be our strength or our weakness.
But for certain it will be our weakness if we cant control it.

Oh! good God, this is smooth.

AfroKnight:
Women and their inconstancy.

The poster above (no offence) has shown you guys that the average woman wouldn’t just love you because you are kind to her, especially after she has formed her opinion on you. She either wants you or not. Simple.

That is why I believe a guy should cut his loses and move on when his woman cheats. You cannot and should not win such a woman back. It is dangerous to the man. Her heart is elsewhere and apparently nothing you do would change that. Perhaps maturity on her part would do. But would you wait till she’s 45 or 50 for her to realise that you are the best thing that happened to her? No.

Toks is coming from a logical point of view, trying to address the common issue of unrequited love, that has led men into suffering for a woman who would leave eventually. But this does not work. They love whom they love and mostly for illogical or unknowable reasons. It is often tied to the first impression they get when they meet the guy.

Only mature women and the very rare young woman can do what you’re asking Toks.

Nice one.

One secret ladies don't know is that they can develop feelings for any guy who truly desires them and treats them like a queen even if that guy is totally opposite of what they want in terms of physical looks...it is a mystery so put your feelings on hold and observe keenly then give your feelings to a guy that is deserving of it.

@ the bolded is not true cos ive tried severally to develop feelings for one or two good guys I felt would make a perfect spouse but it just didn't click. And it took me years trying to see if there's a way I can build the love for these guys, or feel something for them but same same.
You can't really force this feelings or develop it yourself, it won't work. This things happen naturally and if it not there, it not there. That is why most marriages are having problems today because you have people advising you saying, " you can build love, love grows in marriage, just marry the man first and love will come later" jaggons. If it actually works like that, then it would have happened for me when I tried forcing it for those guys I talked about earlier.

Feeling is something you can't control. That is why when you feel something for someone, you can't control how fast it grows until it reaches a peak where it becomes a threat. Likewise you dont have the power to control your feelings and make it grow for someone it doesn't click with. It's a natural phenomenon beyond every living being.

Please let not be misguided.
I believe in true love with genuine feelings and that is what covers all sins. As in no matter what the person does to you, you still want to be with them.

It took me 4 years after my ex to fall in love again. And this new guy is a Nairalander. Yes! And this happened within a few weeks. But we had a little misunderstanding and I was heartbroken to which I confided in a guy here about how I felt. So he asked me, how long have I dated this new guy that the love hurts so badly. I told him just a few weeks and he went wow! Like is it not too early to love so deeply?
Now I didn't realized that my feelings had grown so fast and so deep for this guy until he mentioned it and I paused to think but realized its not my fault! Its how nature works and we can't control these things.

All I can say is wow.

Very fine.

Educative thread.

Why is it that we keep hearing cases of coronavirus. We keep hearing it has got to this and that place. However, what we don't hear is the solution. We are not even hearing news about near breakthroughs. We have universities everywhere across the globe, virologists, microbiologists, researchers etc. Why are they all silent? Are they not doing anything at all? We need to know what they are doing. Or is there a conspiracy going on truly? Thank you.

Mine is 2021 at the age of 30

Nice

Nice topic.

playapayaski:
HIV is a virus just like covid19, it can't survive the Nigerian heat n weather, according to most people here, so..

Always have raw hard sexx under the sun, 100% safe, no transmission or contamination of any kind..

Thank me later

Some jokes are not funny. You ought to be mature than this.

Homeboiy:
After I tackled them on fb
They have stopped any form of deductions from me


I can now withdraw everything in my account

Did u add your account number while the tackling was ongoing LOL? Yes they are operating zero account.

I think we need to create awareness. It is becoming irritating

Ecobank has been making unreasonable deductions from my account. This is now unbearable to me. Kindly look into it and adjust yourself, if I had the capacity I would not come to Nairaland to complain but take them to court. They never add to my money but deduce ragardless of whether you have used their card on their ATM terminal or on another bank's. Who else is feeling this abnormlity from them?

I like this your story o. I can boldly say she loves you too much and is still happy ending up with you. Communicate more and more.

Ecobank is the next to pay. If their officials are here, talk to yourselves.

It's okay

Sadteen:
What if he is not a Christian. Is every one in the world xtian?

That is what I'm saying, that everyone should worship God, this life is full of vanity, don't be carried away by entertainment, glory, etc.

Point 7

He said enjoy your life as life is short instead of him to say give your life to Christ. How much enjoyment can one enjoy in this life?

My two favorite cars. Let me just have fun.

Although that part that suggests courtship involves free sex does not support the godly aspect you introduced later. Apart from that, your write up was beautiful.

Amanda4life:
Don't mind him.

Mr girlfriend
Mchew.

Imagine now.

Just don't encourage people to spread STDs, why not say wife instead of saying girlfriend.

You look unserious. You seem to have never been taught lessons by the ladies. You are still meeting good girls now and you are blowing away the chances. It may not continue like that o. No girl is perfect; and no girl even really likes giving money to guys. It is not natural, it should be the other way round. That is, you are the one that should be giving them money.

crackkhaus:
Your problem is lack of sex and the power you've given her to use it against you.
Forgetting your anniversary is just a by-product of the real issues in your marriage.

The day you start begging a woman for sex, you start losing your self-worth and she will gradually start believing she can get away with anything since you will still meet her at night to beg for punny.

Just let her be sexually.

Continue with your duties as financial provider of the home generally, but reduce whatever she personally gets from you in a noticeable way.

As for your sexual needs, I won't hold it against you if you get it outside. That's exactly what I'd do in this scenario.
Sex is too easy to get for one person to use it to imprison me.

By the time you don't kiss, touch, or even breath on her neck for the next 5months, no one will remind her to receive sense.

Your advice is okay, but the part I don't agree with is where you said he should have sex outside. Definitely, this will ruin the marriage and not bring the solution that he wants from our contributions. Sex with strange women outside will SURELY come with repercussions which may not have remedy even by the time the wife change.

Nice post

I don't know what to say.

But still, many people are still chasing after bumbum, animols.

As for me, I enjoyed the post.

I can only pity Iran. NO country can defeat Israel.

Ukalu381:
Nope

Kindly reply with explanations.

Is Ebonyi state good for NYSC service in terms of security, friendliness and low cost of living pls?