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lilmax:
CRAP....when those clothes are down, you'll hate they were ever up

an irritating scene I tell you, been there done that...

Bet yhu were d one claiming virgin in that other thread na....

If he's afraid of her turning the world upside down, its better he does it now before the wedding, let his fiancee not think secrets were kept before they married. It can breed a lot of malice, I can tell you. Let him tell her low pls. Let him say he was embarrassed and caught unawares when he saw her which was why he lied that they had not met before.

SerialAlpha:
Evening guys
My big brother is really in a big mess. Just few months to his wedding, he found out that the lady he was sleeping with when they stay at same off-campus hostel back in the University is now his Fiance's best friend, who is helping them plan their wedding.
He said they were both shocked when they met. But his Fiance noticed nothing.
My brother's finance asked both of them if they had met since they both attended same Uni, but both of them said no.
Now he's saying he can't live with such lie anymore. It is weighing heavily on his mind.
The problem now is his finance don't take such issue laying down. She almost turn the world upside down when she saw him chatting with his ex.

Pls what can he do ?

Of course he should tell her. He's not sleeping with her again is he? Being best friends with his fiancee, the issue will be more painful for her if and when she finds out.
Unless he's sure him and the best friend can keep the secret for ever. But the way he's behaving, I'm sure he'll eventually spill the beans.

Who else noticed the sparks flying and gazes of pure lov with the couple of the male twin in the red shirt?
And who notcied that the couple with the guy with the blue shirt look a little...distant?

xazanderfex:
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for my source: i got the info from different online sources and so won't be nice to just quote one source. but in case you doubt it, please hit the search engine and knock yourself out

folashade96:
i am comming back to modify this post

But you never did.

bukatyne:
I am sorry, are you a man? Do you have a pens? Do you penetrate women?

If you have had sex, you would know that the tighter a woman is, the better for both parties.

Or do you think his complaint is new or peculiar?

Why do you think in some cultures, they have rituals to for nursing mothers immediately they give birth?

The OP said all was well till the birth of her baby. A wise woman would look for solutions. It would be delusional to think a husband would be satisfied with frictionless sex (even the wife would not enjoy it).

A wiser woman would learn on how to avoid/treat such issue.

I think that moniker is just trolling. I see a lot of it in this section. I don't know how or why they enjoy it

yvelchstores:
I weep for D ignorance in my country. I waited for a message on ig from u op, u never sent. It's either u don't really want solution, just an excuse to cheat or you are not serious.
I really don't know how human beings think. Anyway, I will explain a bit further, just because I am kind.

Listen up, what she needs is kegel. Not going to the gym. It does not help that area at all. It worsens it as weight lifting and weight loss can affect the pelvic Wall negatively.

Within 2 weeks of using the product for kegel, the both of u will notice changes. Now u said u are not feeling anything, that means she is also not feeling anything. It's not about your size. It's the pelvic walls that needs to be tightened.
When she starts it, not only will it start to firm up, blood flow will increase there and she will be experiencing climax like she never has before.

The act is this way- the product is shaped like an egg, made of natural stone so it's small but weighty. Comes in different sizes so she can start with the biggest size which of course is still small for a big vagina.

It is drilled at the tip so she can insert a long rope or dental floss so she can just drag it out at will. With or without rope, it can't get stuck in there anyways.

Now she will lie down, insert it in there, 70% all the way, stand up, move around like she did nothing. It will start descending. Her body will start a reflex action down there, tightening itself around this stone, so it doesn't fall off, that sir, is kegel exercise.... She will soon master this and the muscles will start getting stronger and stronger till she can literally strangle u inside her. I am not joking.

I will delete this post soon, will just give u time to read up. If u are really interested, 15k is the cost but I will make an exception for u. If u don't want, no problem at all. I blv I have just helped another human being. Ciao

Op listen to this person if you're serious.

What I enjoyed most about this movie was that it was the most "straightforward" of all the tom cruise series they've been putting out there. Magical action scenes and of course henry cavil killing it. Will definitely watch it again if I have the chance

oolongtea:
5/5
[s]the reason the most resourceful richest continent on earth is the poorest and hated is cos of the african man has chosen to not grow up. to be a leader, u have to actually lead and stop being mad at women for your own low-esteem and feelings of inadequacy as a man. if a ship came from the US to draft ppl to pick cottons as slaves in america but they get to have asylum, most african men would run into that ship and with our history with ships from the US. it is a slap in the face that they took us forcefully before and now, we beg to be taken cos we failed to prove them wrong and stand on our own feet. i have lived in and out of nigeria and i can attest that the frailty our men show extends to diaspora and to women of all races and tribes and species even sef, they sink almost every woman they come in contact with who sticks around for longer than 3 seconds.

it's a chronic state of eternal stifled man syndrome which has led to very infantile males with an extreme hatred for women and a desire to diminish them cos they cant compete where other men have competed so they try to fight for what women have. we're the only race of men who brag about trying to marry for a better life, in other cultures, it's a female thing to want a knight in shining armor to marry and elevate u, in naija, women are insulted for wanting a knight in shining armor but it's ok for a man to hustle for sugar mommy or pretend to be a 19 yr old german girl and talk dirty to fellow men for cash in the name of yahoo yahoo, yet they hate oloshos who actually earn their money.

someone here suggested going behind a girl's back to tell her mother about a pregnancy she doesnt want to keep and many ppl here think just like him, they dont even want to think of what happens to the helpless child that they're joking about. not that the child is more important than the mother, it just shows these ppl hate women so much, they're willing to subdue a girl, at the expense of an unborn child. some of the comments on that thread were just ridiculous. and they all pointed to the same thing, not one of these ppl knew the real job of a father, they just think the girl will raise the baby and the man will occasionally "baby-sit" his own child like most nigerian men do and they're ok with that as if with the state of affairs, our system of everything has yielded such excellent results.

nigerian men, MAN UP! stop being a nuisance to yourselves. the world is headed somewhere ugly and many of u will implode. nigerian women, most of u go for wealth cos nigerian men are useless when it comes to romance so stay that way, those of u looking for love, actually have standards with men and never settle, if u cant find what you're looking for in a man, stay single, u can have sex when u want, go on dates, u can even have a baby if u're that drawn to motherhood, u carry the pikin, born am and enjoy your life cos believe me, the difference between the stress of a single mother and most married nigerian mothers is very slim. what does it say about nigerian men that his absence and presence can be taken to mean the same thing? if genitals are what make a man, then a he-goat is a man too. [/s]

Almost there...
In this post op is saying all African men are infantile, not leaders, have low self esteem, self-hate, frail, hate women and suffer from 'stifled man syndrome'. She/he laso says Nigerian women go for wealth because Nigerian men are useless at romance.



I did it! I did it!!! I'm not a lazy Nigerian youth

Icecreamy:
Thank you for helping those that can not read o, you are doing a good job. But he never said all men are scum.

Oh but he did. He didn't have to spell it out.
In all his/her posts you can see the underlying hatred for "all men" seeping out of every corner. No example of any good man (except maybe p-square) in this long dissertation he/she wrote.

One more to go

oolongtea:
4/5
[s]You would think that in a hard country like nigeria a man will make his home his safe place where he can relax after the crazy day on the hard streets. but nahhh he needs his madam bitter, angry, frustrated when he gets home, then he can complain some more. if u tell ppl how sweet life can be if they just decide, this country is hard and they want to be happy and find a woman who to love and actually treat her well so she stays sweet and the feminine energy in your house will be calm, you'll see that this is actually so easy but nigerian men are so lazy. even if he finds the grace to pull through with this, if it works. he changes, starts to look more alive, then his 'friends' notice. stupid men dont get to keep the things they want, the way they want it, ppl stronger than him will muscle it away from him. a 1 room apartment with a small gen and a man and woman who have vowed to not be miserable like the average nigerian couple will be full of love, they might not have money to go to london trips but they'll live a truly fulfilled life. it's not that the nigerian man does not want this, he does, he's just very lazy and wont do any emotional labour that involves anyone even if it will benefit hikm in the end, he just cant, it's too hard.

i think a man truly becomes a man the day he realizes that the innate selfishness men are given is not for him to self-destruct with it but to be selfish with his own woman and children he fathered. many of u men dont love yourselves that is why u need women to love u so u can feel loved, yet u cant offer women anything besides midnight farts. i have yet to have a friend that i have told some things that i have told my woman and i know every man is like that, we dont even feel bold enough to show certain sides of us to our so-called friends but we let women truly see us and they accept what we're too embarrassed to show and yet you prize friends over the woman who is your source of emotional strength. the reason a lot of men are so die-hard for their bros is cos they have daddy issues and they're too weak to make their own decisions so they idolize the male figures in their life, like a little boy looking for a daddy's approval, he holds on to their every word.

and to women because of course i saw some of u on those threads talking rubbish, men will not treat u better even if u reduce yourself to nothing. having no standards with a man does not make u quality, it makes you a non-entity, u deserve nothing and will probably end up with that. oya hard facts for the ladies, the reason men cheat on u is not cos they cant help it but cos there are no consequences, they knew what they were doing and they know u'll cry and get over it and some even want u to know so they can hit at your self-confidence, no, he was not carried away, some even thought about u the whole time they did it and just got off on the thought of u being their fool.
if you're with a man for money or non-emotional or purely sexual reasons then ignore this... but if a man you're committed to ever cheats on u, walk away! he will do it again, he has no respect for u and will fail u in other ways eventually. many women stick around cos to find man is hard, dont know who told them that but ok. some women feel it'll be crazy to leave him, then he'll find someone else and be so much happier with her and take pics and post on the insta u youths love so much. get this, he's happy with her just like he was happy with u, only difference is the unhappiness u chose to walk away from, she didnt get so lucky. he's not the prize. he will be just as goatishly happy with any woman who does not love herself and is ok with constant disrespect and humiliation.

lemme throw u girls a bone, there is no sex with the greatest power trip on earth than a scorned woman getting the sh!t banged out of her balls deep by another man. none! even the genders reversed(scorned man another woman does not provide that effect, infact it provides the opposite, the man feels like crap the whole time and too many mental images cos men have to concentrate during sex but women have to zone out) i know u might not believe this, but if a man ever cheats on u, go out there and get handled by another man, the hormones and dirty serenity that'll go through your head while it happens and the release that follows is like a reset button, like a knot fell back in place. suddenly, u feel nothing about his cheating, yet u feel no guilt, u just feel like A BOSS! and you're over it. this works like a charm. there is no sex dynamic that out-does this. pissed off betrayed hórny woman + single man who loves to fvck other men's wife shege is a deadly combination. this works 100%.
there's a reason men nearly faint at the thought of being cheated on cos they know what it means for another man to have what they're having. after u enjoy yourself, stagger home and make dinner and tell him nothing, go back to your life like nothing happened, just let the steamy encounter do for u what it 100% does and enjoy your marriage with your new-found peace of mind. that's the hack in the whole thing, keep it to yourself and live your life knowing you enjoyed this memory of immense significance that u have all to yourself. most of u women suffer cos u wont hold men to standard and when they let u down, u stay where he kept u. stop being at the mercy of powerless men. either leave him right away or stay with him the right way. i just gave u the expo[/s].

In this post op is saying that men are lazy both physically and emotionally . They can't love themselves and so force women to love them. Op is also saying as a woman if a man cheats on you, you should.go to another lazy man and let him.fück your brains out. That it feels really good. In this same post op tries to convince us that he is also a male. How he's a male and knows a scorned woman that is fuxked and feels so good I don't know.

oolongtea:
3/5
[s]I read the p-square thread and even commented cos he made a very intelligent statement and it's few nigerian men that think that smart, most men will drag fire into his own house just to prove a point to the world, the world leaves and he burns in the fire that he started, and this okoye dude decided to let the fire keep burning on the streets and let it stay far from his air-conditioned home, marked his territory and secured respect for his wife and children but most nigerians are truly not used to seeing men actually step up for their woman, actually be a man and protect her, so to them he's letting the very evil lola with 3 red horns control him cos when they see a man being a man, they think he's being a woman cos all their female relatives work and look like men after years & years of having to work like men. so they recognize masculine energy but they've only seen women exude it cos they had no choice, so when they sense masculine energy, it's a female thing to them.

most ppl here come from families with a lot of malice but their fathers never took the initiative to protect them all from the adult drama and abuse. every christmas he'll put them in a vehicle and drive them there with a long list of ppl they must not talk to when they get there and how many hail marys must be recited in their mind if this uncle/aunty hugs them. what man sees a warzone and takes his own to the frontline and tell it to try not to die when he could have protected them from all that by not taking them there in the first place? most nigerian men cant stand their ground to protect those who need them to speak up for them and sever certain ties to keep the home they're the head of happy and full of laugh. many women have damned themselves by association to weak men who are easily influenced by pressure and dont have a mind of their own. they leave women stranded and embarrassed always.

a woman will see it coming, she will warn, a smart man will wash eye with water and observe closely and they make a decision to escape early. a woman will see it coming and tell a weak man and he will disguise his cowardice and inability to do anything about the situation as "unnecessary female wahala" it was in my late 30s that i realized, maybe it is a spiritual thing but women have a lot of foresight, they see it first and they always try to warn, the more those instincts are silenced, the more the ability to discern evades her, weak men literally drain women of their gifts and weaken their spiritual defences. if men warn women about things with the same intensity and seriousness women warn us about things, very few women will not drop everything and pay close attention.

ask women here.. out of all the men they have dated, how many of their boyfriend's "my guy who is like a brother to me" have ever made a move on them(women know what i mean, when your man's close friend wants u but he cant show full signal cos u might not give a positive reply and tell on him, there's this signal he gives, it's vague, u pick up on it cos you're a lady and u know these things and if u're ready to play ball, u give back a signal and he can make his move, if u show him signs that it's not happening, he retreats, and technically u cant accuse him of anything cos he didnt say anything..) this happens to every nigerian girl in almost every relationship and i mean it... then she starts to complain when the friend comes around, says she's not comfortable with his constant presence, the man will ask why and she cant say what she knows is happening cos he'll say she's being ridiculous, so she keeps insisting she just hates his vibes and dreamt of him chasing them with cutlass and blah blah then the man will give his all-knowing male smile and say womennnnn and laugh it off. u should see how bitterly these women speak up about this, yet most men lack the emotional depth to try and cut the bs, even if the friend is that good, just limit his contact with your woman and stop bringing him to your personal space if it bothers your woman that much. hell no! nothing changes, her fears? dismissed! some men even go as far and foolish to make it known to the friend that she complained about them.

this same friend will talk about u disrespectfully to your woman behind your back and she'll have to defend u jokingly cos she knows what he's doing but doesnt want to show she's understood and would rather pretend she thinks it's all innocent coming from the friend. then when she starts to withdraw from the friend, he panics cos he feels she'll spill the beans soon, he starts to plan to get u to tear down your home so he can go scot-free with his attempted betrayal and in most case, they win. u dont know it but it's the seed he planted that started the disdain, the small quarrels and intolerance that sank your relationship. and dont get me started on the men that are eternal hosts, their home is a hotel to family and friends passing by town and their parlour is football view center and his wife has to be the waitress in all this, 1st time, it'll be cute and she's madam madam and everyone is shining teeth, 10th time, they're no more talking to your wife with respect, they now have things they've seen u do, seen her do, how u live is now chat topic for your friends at the beer parlou,r then when u come, they change topic. stop exposing yourselves and your women to unnecessary mockery. cover your wife's nyash!! ppl are not laughing at her, they are laughing at u.

if this thread ever takes off and a female has to answer, answer this: what i explained here about males not drawing boundaries with friends when it comes to u. what is the percentage of prevalence in your case(if u've had 4 relationships and it happened in all, it's 100%. if it happened in 3, it's 75%, if it happened in 2, it's 50% etc)... men will really take something good, dangle it before others and think they're exempt to the natural law of green envy and covetousness. meanwhile let a man show he's uncomfortable with a girl's friend and that friendship starts to die from that moment cos nigerian women do what women do but most nigerian men dont do what men do. most dont protect their women and kids as long as what's harming them doesnt harm them too[/s].

In this post...

Wheww
In this post op is saying all men are scum. They make moves on thier male friends girlfriends and when the girl tries to hint the man what's happening (cos they can't tell the man directly cos its a mans world) and the man doesn't get the hint, seeds of discord are planted in the relationship and the stûpid man loses out on a good woman. Men should learnt to stand up to thier evil families and protect their wives and children just like p-square did.

I'm sure many of the people supporting op didn't even read the whole thing. Probably read the first paragraph and went yaaaay

oolongtea:
2/5
[s]that's also the reason no one here feels the girl is too young cos we've seen women of almost every age raise children, nigerian women are not allowed to be lazy or weak cos someone has to get sh!t done. then there's the brigade of ppl who secretly wish to punish women who dont want to be pregnant. they dont mind the cold truth that the person who will truly suffer is the child who would have honestly preferred to not exist than to live an awful life they've forced them into just to spite the mother. we read stories of children here everyday, thrown inside dustbin or sold or abandoned in buildings. they'll just say chai chai, what do u think happens to those children??! this world will raise them HARD with no conscience, convinced that life is not to come and shine teeth, u do anyhow u see anyhow. in 30 yrs time, u all will be shocked by the type of deranged creatures that have been raised in this nigeria roaming your streets. then of course there's your angel, your little princess raised like an egg and your son you will die on the cross for.. u will show them all the love u have and one day it's time for them to go into the real world to mingle with the beasts of no nation that u campaigned to bring here while knowing u cant do anything to give them a good life sentencing them to hardship and they've become full-blown sociopaths.

You'd think these fools who refuse to be practical about what happens to these unloved children will give these unwanted kids heaven and earth but they wont even spit on the poor child if he/she was on fire. all these dont abort pls gang who encourage unwanted children, u are not dangote, shey u see these lil babies that u forced their mothers to keep that grew up on the streets, there are millions of these children all over nigeria, slowly becoming monsters and soon they'll be in charge. then when u get the phone call that your angel son in uni that u sent N15k was just brutally murdered near his lodge by petty thieves for a mere 15k and his handset, u'll start screaming. when they break into your home to gangrape all your daughters till they require 17 stitches and a hysterectomy and spill a few of your sons' brain matter on the wall while u watch, u'll start crying and biting your lip till u draw blood asking god where are u.

no amount of your pain will take back what they've done to u, worst part is they cant even see the gravity of what they've done cos as far as they know, it's how life should be. when they are the boss and they have u begging on your knees, who will u call to help u? do we even have 911 in nigeria? do u have money to live in a gated community in banana island and have your own security team? no, what will happen will happen and we'll read about it on lindaikeji and as usual say chai chai and linda will cash out on your misery in ad revenue. still.. your whole world.. crushed! what legal system will give u justice? none, you'll have to learn just like these kids have learned to hurt in vain, stop asking for justice and find a way to live with it. i dont pity most nigerians anymore, they dont think and they dont learn, history will keep repeating itself with most of u. most of u dont even have the financial capacity to live above the mess that is coming. your president will go to london for treatment, u'll die on a queue in a nigerian hospital, when your kids are getting hell on nigerian campus, the kids of your leaders are in the US studying with the creme de la creme totally oblivious to your children's damage. yet they let you live out your miserable lives in a hellhole like animals, the UK and US they cant seem to get enough of, abortion is legal there, it's legal in all EU countries and it's legal in every developed nation. cos they know what happens if u let ppl be raised like animals, they spend unbelievable amounts to see to it that those who are born but have no homes are given some form of stability and love and have security to keep citizens safe.

i raised kids in the 90s and any honest person who was either raised then or raised kids too at that time will admit that if u raise a child exactly like we raised them back then, u will raise a total liability cos the world is crazy and parenting methods must be adjusted. there are many stories u will never hear of what many families have gone through, u will be shocked at the current rate of child sexual abuse and even more shocked when u find out how severely underestimated those figure are for little boys (7 in every 10 nigerian girl)(5 in every 10 nigerian boy[3 in every 5 abused by men]) and i know young ppl hate hearing this but one day it will be your turn to see what others have seen, u will see the slay queens give birth and have mummy body, u will see u and your male friends lose all your hair and have potbellies, u will go through the old ppl disease too, highBP, diabetes, rheumatism, eye problems. every thing in life will happen with u just like it's happened to others. it's the cycle of life.

the problem is the ugly part of life that about 90% of ppl go though but never talk about openly about, think of it like how there are many things you've experienced that your parents have no clue about even though they were there the whole time, it doesnt have to be abuse, just intense experiences. u reading this, u know many many men who have been sexually abused, same with girls, some ppl u know will bury their children, some will die young, some ppl will get into life altering accidents. even if this makes sense to one single person, save yourself!! if there is anything u can do to improve your quality of life, do it. the same way u bought gen cos they wont give u light, decide that anything that will make life good for u, u will work hard to get it and secure your own comfort.

nigerians dont love themselves, stop thinking like them. everyday u hear news of a man who raped a child and they beat him and took him to police station for bail of 4,500 but a 17 yr old boy stole a laptop and they killed him. you'll wonder if these ppl even filter their thoughts. if jungle justice must prevail why not serve justice? it's cos these men are weak, when they see a man who did something really scary, their weakness causes them to withdraw but they see a not-so-scary victim and they use mob advantage. u would think men who have no laws to protect them will kill the psychopath/molester and give the young thief a dirty slap or 2 and let him run home crying. same way they harbor evil even when it lives in their street is how they encourage the birth of children doomed from day 1 even when the same children will grow up to terrorize them. it's pure self-hatred. zero personal interest protected. all round foolishness[/s].

In this post the op is saying we should be practical when it comes to unwanted children. Many of these unwanted children are raised under barbaric conditions and become hardened and barbaric as well and end up preying on , killing and harming the well brought up kids. So op is indirectly advocating that it is better to abort unwanted pregnancy than birth innocent kids you cant cater for who will eventually turn into social misfits and hardened criminals who will become a nuisance to society as if society is not depraved enough by being lenient with a rapist but lynching a laptop thief.

And then op ends again with "all men are scum".

I'm not getting paid enough for this

oolongtea:
since my post on the confused 28yr old abortion guy thread have some of u so triggered.
https://www.nairaland.com/4643440/pregnant-girlfriend-wants-abortion-how#69777750
This is very long and i'm posting it still, not all here applies to OP's case, read or dont, get pissed off or get educated, suit yourself:

1/5
[[s]b]Most of you really dont know the job of a father cos the past nigerian men did not really do much for us, so to u, a father is a man who does not deny a pregnancy and shows up every now and then and that's bullsh!t[/b]. most nigerian men grew up seeing women be the man of the house so very few truly understand the hardwork that goes into being a man especially cos their fathers were physically present while their mothers ran everything yet they're told the man is the head of the house so they're confused and think the little they've seen papa do is what the head of the house does, yet if mommy stops her contributions, the house will scatter, but daddy could die and no one will notice any difference in schedule cos he doesnt do sh!t, yet ppl call him the head so most ppl honestly believe what makes a man the head is merely being a man.

cos i cannot for the life of me understand how a 28 yr old guy will ask "how do i convince her to keep the pregnancy and if i successfully convince her to keep the pregnancy, how do we go about this?" these are tough questions and decision only a man should make as the head and he's here asking what to do for himself, the girl and the child when he brings it here!! what about these questions screams "born leader" to any of u? he wants advice from the internet on how to run his life and most of u havent seen a man ever lead so u cannot see when a man is clearly unfit to lead.
you're trying to get a blind man to fly a plane cos all your life you've seen blind men flying planes and landing it safely but what most of u either dont see or admit is that the whole time, the woman sitting at the co-pilot's chair, flew that plane herself, landed it and let the man take the credit. that is why some of u can see a totally unprepared man and think he can do the job cos to u it's relatively not that hard. this task is one he should excuse himself from, at least for now, yrs later he could be a totally differnt person who wont need guidance and full of maturity but till then..

this method of semi-absentee, part time dads does not work anymore, if this was 1989 as childish as i found the OP, i would have advised him to rush the rites as fast as he can, marry the girl and settle down. but this is 2018. there are certain ways of living, being married, raising children that was not exactly ideal but for back in those days, it was productive. but now, the world has changed too much and if u keep trying to live in this modern age with unrefined methods passed down by your parents, you will suffer. there's a reason more and more children are getting brutalized and damaged. methods of upbringing that were ok in the past are now becoming dangerous. most of u have been passed down a lot of dysfunction, cycle of abuse and laziness in men disguised as masculinity[/s].

Shiit. Let's do this

OK in this passage , op is essentially saying men of the past generation were scum, they didn't carry out thier roles as fathers and women were the real leaders of the home. This is no longer obtainable in our modern world and the 28yr old man looking for how to keep his baby should learn true responsibility and how to be a real man

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I'm going in

No wait, I'm not

Thought I would have time to summarise for the populace...


But its just too damn loooooong

FiremanP:
Ok,riiight .. you should be our next presidential candidate, i will vote for u, u seem solid.. all in favor?

Aye

Like, I read long shiit. But that shiiit was too long mehn.

Wheeeew! Finally got to the end! What a ride!

And the cussing! Daaammmmmmmmnnn! Some people here have words that can make person commit suicide. @fearlez I hail! Take it easy man

raffypaps:
PLS MY PEOPLE I NEED YOUR CANDID ADVICE, AM MARRIED BUT EVERY TIME I FEEL LIKE HAVING FUN WITH HER SHE ALWAYS GIVES FLIMSY EXCUSES BY DENYING ME AND SHE IS NOT A WAYWARD WOMAN

Hi.

This appears to be a very common problem among married couples. The male libido remains the same while that of the female most times plummets. Various reasons are given for this phenomenon but the fact thereof is that is DOES occur. This is probably what leads most married men to start seeking for sex outside. Years of trying to convince, plead with or force one's wife to have sex with one eventually takes its toll and the man gets tired with the shenanigans and goes elsewhere for sexual satisfaction. However, that move in itself is an adventurous and risky one with it's own issues and possible complications.

Speaking to her about it is an idea. It works for some women if you pet them know how important sex is to you the man in marriage. Other women though still won't listen and will dismiss the problem with a wave of thier hand.

Another thing you can do is to not give up. Keep trying to push her buttons, arouse her. If she's someone that does too many chores around the house you can help by assisting her or getting a maid to ease the burden so she can have more time for you. If its the kids you can assist in that aspect too by taking them off her hands once in a while. Once again, this method doesn't work for all women. You can turn yourself into a virtual houseboy and all she will do is increase her sleeping hours.

Lastly, you can pray about it. Praying not only keeps you spiritual and gives you the energy to be chaste, but your prayers can be answered and she will start to pay more attention to you sexually.

All the best. I do hope you get to read this someday. And I hope your kilikuli business openss greater doors for you.

SifonAbasi:
Good afternoon my good people of Nairaland. Happy Sunday!

Yesterday after a dinner with my husband, I told him everything about me and my ex.
My husband asked me a lot of questions concerning my ex like "Where's he from? What's he into? How did we meet?" A lot of questions about him. I was very honest with him and told him everything. Even told him that he (my ex) disvirgined me.

After telling him everything, my husband response was "okay". I noticed his countenance changed.

He sat for few minutes in the sitting room then went to the bedroom and slept.

Normally we always pray before going to bed no matter how tired we are but yesterday my husband went to bed without praying and I was scared to ask him why he didn't pray.

Early this morning he was moody. He told me not to make breakfast that we will eat when we returned. He went into the restroom had his bathe then dresses up and I did same.

My husband face wasn't bright. We entered the car, he started it and we drove off.

While on the road we were both silent. All of a sudden he diverted from the church route to another route. I wanted asking him where we are heading to but I remained calmed.

Before I could know it, I saw him heading to my village road. I pee on myself. I asked him where we are heading to he told me not to worry.

I began begging him with tears in my eyes. He increases the volume of the car's radio just to distract me.

After 45mins drive, we arrived my village and he asked me to show him the guy's compound so I took him there.
We met the guy's mother, we greeted her then my husband told her everything I told him.

The old woman begged us to forgive her son. My husband collected the guy's number and called him in his mom's presence.
My husband was friendly on the phone. He thanked my ex for the help he rendered to me then told him to send his acct number that he will send him back his money.

My ex told my husband not to bother that he was just helping me as a friend.
That he is sorry, he thought I was joking when I told him I'm married.

My husband gave the phone to his mom and the old woman spoke with him (my ex) and warned him to stay away from me that I am a married woman.

My husband collected the phone and told my ex that for the help he offered me, he (my husband) is going to sponsor his wedding from start to finish whenever he (my ex) is ready to marry.

My husband also told him that his (my ex's) name will be on the police watchlist in case anything happens to his wife.

My ex was begging and promised never to hurt me.

We left their compound to my father's compound, greeted my mom and we headed back to the town.

On our way home, my husband was smiling all through and gave me the car to drive.

We branched an eatery to have our lunch and he bought me my favorite.

We just arrived home not quite long.

CORRECT MAN!!!

aminulive:
@POLITICSNGR

The Governor of Abia state, Okezie Ikpeazu recently showed off his skills as a good goalkeeper, when he manned the goal post for a brief interaction with the ball.

Ikpeazu, who was inspecting the newly reconstructed Enyimba Stadium, shocked his entourage when he manned the goal post and asked for a shot to be taken.

He made a good save by stopping the ball shot by ex-super eagles player, Uche Okechukwu. Photos below;

https://politicsngr.com/governor-ikpeazu-turns-goalkeeper-dives-make-football-save-photos/

Which dive did he dive na?
He didn't dive.
That's not a dive.
He didn't dive!
Rubbish!

[quote author=Sirpaul post=69756111]Politivifians ...

Everyone needs a friend that will call and say, "Get dressed, we are going on an adventure."[/quote]

N0favors:
This one is an 'ashy'. She's fighting for their 'right'. [s]She must have 'left' her brain in her last customer's condom[/s]

Not necessary.

Be nice.

bukkyemotions:
All these reactions without verification.

Don't mind them.

They're just blowing off steam because Nigeria is a very frustrating environment and thus has a very frustrated society. Hence they take any and all opportunity to pour out their built-up vexation on anyone they come across since they are afraid to pour it out on their leaders.