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If you need Nairalanders to pick a woman for you to marry among them then none of them is qualify.

Any woman you are interested in making your wife for life should leave no room for doubt or need some people somewhere to choose her for you before you know she is the right woman for you to marry.

What is rushing you for marriage? Guys are just desperate to enter that cage call marriage these days, i will advise you to keep looking for the woman that will leave no room for doubt in your heart when it come to marrying her.

A lot of decent women are out there with the right qualities you are looking for in women if you are that great yourself, you just have to go out and date more women until you find that women that would leave no room for doubt in your heart.

Don't settle for less or you may live the rest of your life regretting it. The first woman may not be so reliable in marriage for you and the second woman may turn you to an unfaithful man in marriage because she is boring and when she is too boring and rigid for you, it will be difficult to avoid temptations outside.

Propaganda from Obedient would really make you believe Tinubu is coming to destroy Nigeria but the truth is it is Peter Obi and his supporters that are more likely to destroy this country with the amount of bitterness and hatred they carry.,

Brendaniel:
You call 175 small and yet they did all the attacks of on you guys, please how many of the 175 small settlements have you people destroyed, I need links with evidence....

You even said yourself that Igboho attacked them

Brendaniel:
https://tribuneonlineng.com/beware-growing-fulani-settlements-s-west-s-east-akintoye-army-general-warn

Oga no dey lie anyhow abeg, please go an read my first comment on this thread and see why I said Yorubas who supported the attacks on Igbos are hypocrites....

just 175 settlement, which means it is very small do you even know how big south west is ?

Brendaniel:
So Igangan, Ibarapa and so on that Igboho went to attack their settlement did not misbehave before he attacked them abi?

Dude there is not much Fulani settlement in Yoruba Land, if there are many Fulani settlement in Yoruba Land they wouldn't escape attack even with Federal government support.

Those places you mentioned were attacked by Igboho and since then they have been living peacefully if they started misbehaving around that places again they will be attack again.


It is just like if Igbo clashed with Yoruba in Ondo or Lagos does that mean if Yoruba want to retaliate we should attack all Igbo in all South west states? it is not yet up to that level, there is no all out war yet.


If Fulani misbehaved in an area you can only carry out your retaliation on Fulani settlement in that area but most time Fulani don't have settlement you can retaliate on, saying any Fulani man in Yoruba Land should be attack is like declaring all out war and it has not gotten to that stage yet, even Buhari, Atiku and any Fulani politician won't be safe when it get to that level because they are Fulani.

Brendaniel:
Fulanis have settlements in almost every part of Yoruba land, what is stopping Yorubas from attacking them back, so what you are trying to tell me is that Yorubas prefer attacking people who are civil and ignore barbarians who kill and rape them....

How many Fulani settlement is even in Yoruba Land ?

The places they have settlement they don't misbehave

PrinceOfLagos:
This is what happens when support Tinubu all your life with nothing to show for it, you take to crime .

Osun state is Bola Tinubu state of origin and one of the poorest state in the country .

I hope wasiu saheed is killed the way he killed the 20 people so that in his next life, He will have sense .

Always calling Osun poor, Osun is more economically viable than Anambra

go to Osun and see your fellow Igbo from Anambra or Enugu using wheel barrow to hawk phone accessories or using Bicycle to hawk fan yogo or plastic containers to hawk puff puff and Akara

Brendaniel:
You see when I say the present Nigerian government is resourceful and like to waste.

So they will arrest this one and put him in prison then be taxing me to feed him and take care of his health when they can simply wear him army uniform and take him to sambisa to simply replicate what he has done in a civilized neighborhood.

He has killed 20 people and some soldiers have not killed up to 20 terrorists, take him to sambisa for the next 4 years without pay let him replicate his abilities there for the country, at least I will know that my tax is working to make the country safer not keeping someone idle and feeding him.

can you trust a criminal like that to watch your back as a soldier in Sambisa?

what is the assurance he won't join the same Bokoharam and turned on you to sabotage your operation or act as a spy ? or even blatantly open fire on his fellow comrades and escape ?

Brendaniel:
At least I have showed you my evidence of attacks by Fulanis on the Yorubas this year 2023 , show me evidence of Yorubas retaliating back on the Fulanis this year 2023,

Even if it is one....

Fulani are cowards, whenever they attack the vulnerable in their farms or homes where they are sleeping or local community schools, they usually run away with their tail between their legs into the deep forests after that.

Our security forces or Vigilante cannot cover all forests unlike Hausa and Igbo that lives among Yoruba, if you want to attack Yoruba be ready to pay back with lost of lives, money and businesses unless you also want to become Fulani that lives in the forests.

xpressionx:
Dangote is a major part of the problem we have in nigeria.
How many businesses has been killed in nigeria because of Dangote?
Our refineries cannot work despite billions of dollars spent in turn around maintenance and Modular cannot work either,but dangote can start from scratch and build refinery and it will work

Always attacking Dangote with bitterness

There is no country in the world without a man like Dangote, they spear headed the industrial development of a country and create jobs.

They can manage things better than the government even in USA and other developed countries it is men like them that spear headed development.

Brendaniel:
https://www.nairaland.com/7510759/ondo-state-been-under-attack

https://www.nairaland.com/7555756/herdsmen-invade-ondo-communities-attack

https://www.nairaland.com/7509910/one-person-killed-fulani-hausa

https://saharareporters.com/2023/03/25/armed-herdsmen-attack-ondo-state-community-abduct-residents-brutalise-others

https://www.vanguardngr.com/2023/03/ondo-community-protest-foreign-herdsmens-invasion/

https://leadership.ng/just-in-6-killed-as-terrorists-invade-ondo-communities/

https://dailypost.ng/2023/03/24/youths-barricade-highway-protest-activities-of-kidnappers-in-ondo-community

https://guardian.ng/features/agro-care/ondo-farmers-under-siege-seek-end-to-herders-carnage/

https://www.nairaland.com/7640506/fulani-herdsmen-attacked-friends-father

https://www.nairaland.com/7634237/suspected-herdsmen-attack-secondary-school

Please take your time and go through each of them they all happened in 2023, I don't think I have even covered the whole cases, but the number of Yorubas affected by Fulani herdsmen attack from these cases here alone is more than 100, some of them are communities and villages while some are individual cases, please go through all of them before coming back to argue, then also provide your own link to prove that at least 10 Fulanis have been attacked in return in 2023.

You even added clashes between Hausa and Fulani lol

Fulani are more difficult to attack because they usually target villages and farm settlements in local area and they are not stationary but always on the move with their cattles and lives in forest to perpetrate their crimes, Igbo even suffered more casualties in their hands in the East but there is no where in Yoruba Land Hausa attacked Yoruba without losing money or lives.

Brendaniel:
Oga this year alone more than 100 Yorubas have suffered attacks from Hausa/Fulanis in Yoruba land, if you need links I will provide them for you here but can you provide links of at least 10 Hausa Fulani that have suffered the same in Yoruba land this year.

And this same year Igbos have suffered more than 20 attacks from the Yorubas and I can prove that with links to at least 20 attacks by the Yorubas but can you provide even 1 link of Igbos attacking Yorubas this year in Yoruba land.

That is why I told you earlier on you guys are not fighting your problems in order of priority, prove me wrong by providing evidence against my claim....

Provide the link for the 100 Yoruba that have suffered attack

Brendaniel:
You see that is the problem with some of you, your are like a man who is chasing rats in his house while his house is on fire, learn to fight your problems in order of priority....

What you guys don't know is Hausa/Fulani misbehaving in Yoruba Land doesn't excuse your own excesses in Yoruba Land.

Do you know how much Hausa people have lost whenever they misbehaved in Yoruba Land ?

Google about the retaliation of Yoruba in Ile ife and Lagos on Hausa community,

If you want to be like Hausa, Igbo people can also grow the ball to start attacking Yoruba in Yoruba Land, if you are ready to pay with lost of lives, money and businesses like Hausa people.

Hausa people excesses on Yoruba Land doesn't mean we will overlook your excesses and won't call you out on it.

Even in that community that Amotekun and Hausa Clashed, do you truly believe the media and know the numbers of casualties those Hausa people could have suffered ? but the media would covered it up so as not to cause great unrest. You guys are very naive.

Brendaniel:
Thank You, that is what I am telling you, it is clear that the Hausa/Fulanis are having upper hand in Yoruba land against the Yorubas and Yorubas are not shouting on the matter like the way they do about Igbos who are not killing the way Fulanis are killing Yorubas, the truth is if we are to count scores of Yorubas vs Hausa/Fulanis attacks on each other it will be like 50 to 1000 or more.

So the question is who is more of a problem to the Yorubas the Hausa/Fulanis or the Igbos?

Because the Hausa/Fulanis are clearly winning by a very wide margin....

You are both a problem that will be deal with accordingly

Focus on your region

VeeVeeMyLuv:
Correct

Even if the person strongly resembles the fictional character "gollum"!

Well if he is really that Ugly no woman would be with him in the first place

SeriouslySense:
It will be the loss of the west, South Africa is resource rich and they have other partners in Asia and Africa.

Even EGYPT, the pretentious US ally was secretly sending weapons to Russia.

Maybe, China rise to power is actually very good right now because of the alternative it provided for countries that don't want to deal with the US.

Russia actually got the ball to really invaded Ukraine because of the economic and military support they would get from China, if there was no China to support Russia economically Russia wouldn't have invaded Ukraine because it would hurt them alot, even with China it hurt them alot imagine without China.

Masterito:
South Africa should not bring global war politics to Africa o. It will end in premium tears. Let US and Russia drag themselves, South Africa is playing a dangerous game o. It is better for Africa to be the spectators o.

The world is actually a jungle where the strong prey on the weak.


No nation in Africa really have the power to stand against these super powers even if all countries in Africa unite we cannot really do much, ordinary economic sanctions from US or European union can cripple South Africa Economy. South Africa is just poking the hive nest.

longetivity:
That foolish us ambassador should be declared persona non grata. SA is a sovereign nation ffs.

Russia invaded a Sovereign nation like Ukraine because they want to and Ukraine offended them, should US invade South Africa too because South Africa offended them ?

The world is a jungle where the strong bully the weak and prey on them.

If South Africa don't have any means to fight back against US, provoking US would be stupid but if they already have effective countermeasure against any US aggression they can go ahead.

Only ignorant and naive would believe it is about right and wrong or moral justifications. It is about Interest and Power in world politics.

DonroxyII:
I'm Observing this too ... It seems Competitions drive Attentions in Nigerian Relationships Clime while it leads to Heartbreak in Other Climes !

It is the same in every climes

You can be more open about the side chic thing in Nigeria but in places like Europe or US you can only let the woman know subtlely after all the woman also have guys around.

You can only do away with side chics when you and your girlfriend promise to be committed to each other in the relationships in places like Europe or US, just going out on dates or seeing each other doesn't mean you are committed to each other in other climes, it is only in Nigeria that we demand commitment once a girl accepted to be dating us and going out with us, in other climes they go out on more dates before they even consider each other as girlfriend and boyfriend and they can only demand commitment from each other after dating for a while longer.


In the US when a girl accepted to go out on a date with you, it doesn't mean she have accepted to be your girlfriend, both of you will first go out on some dates to check your chemistry and compatibility and it is after that, they will decide to take the relationship to the next level and be girlfriend and boyfriend if it get to that stage.

In Nigeria most times once a girl accepted to go out with us, we are already seeing each other as boyfriend and girlfriend.

Nigerian dating culture and pattern is different from Europe and US that's why most Nigerians struggle with datings abroad.

deyplay:
nice point bro. Who wired that confusion in them and for what purpose could that be?

It is nature of course

The mistake most men make is to believe men and women think the same way. Men and Women doesn't think the same way.

When it come to women, don't follow or believe in whatever they say, believe in their actions. Their actions would tell you the truth and what they really want or how they really feel.

They can say whatever but their actions would be contradictory, the way they behave would be different from what they say. They can claim they love and care for you but their actions toward you would be different, they can still disrespect you, ghost you, ignore you or even cheat on you etc her actions should tell you what she really feel about you that she is just deceiving you but most guys make the mistake of believing whatever they say instead of their actions.

They say they don't like men that cheat but would be chasing guys with multiple girls behind your back and have sex with them while they friendzone guys without any girl or treat them like shits.

If you ask women about the type of men they want, most of them would say they want a loving and caring man etc, that will listen to them and respect them, treat them like a queen or princess etc but in reality it is guys like that that they usually friendzones, manipulate and disrespect while they fall head over heels for a guy that don't really care that much about them or treat them like trash like yahoo boys, cultists etc.

In fact the reason why most women are attracted to guys that have money is because money give guys the confidence to act in an attractive way to women.

Money give guys confidence that they mostly lack without money and it is that confidence that women find attractive and it is attracting them to guys with money.

Most guys with money have that special confidence and they don't care for women that much because they are confident they can easily replace any woman as long as they have money and they mostly don't roll around one woman. It is mostly guys that have money and still care so much for women that have a lot of problems, guys with money have that special confidence and act like they are in charge and if she is not on her best behavior, there are other women around ready to take her position, it is that kind of challenges that mostly make guys with money very attractive, but some guys still have money and still act like total simp, it is mostly their kind that woman can cheat on or dump for another rich guy.

deyplay:
Na wao. Who swear for them?

Well they are wired that way

Men see women with a lot of guys as slut but it is different with women.

Women see men in relationship with other women as attractive because they want what other women like them desire.

That's why you would see a woman having interest in a guy she is initially not interested in immediately she is seeing him going out with other women or one of her friends.

deyplay:
Why are they like that, if they say they don't like cheating?

Because women want what other women want.

when you have many women around it prove other women find you attractive and she would also find you attractive because of that too.

If you don't have any other side chicks most of them would interprete it as you not being desireable and attractive to other women which would in turn make them lose interest and attraction for you.

what did he want lol?

by Adonis

Most guys make the mistake of making friends with a girl first in the hopes of working it into a meaningful relationship later.

This couldn't be more wrong. Not only are they wasting their time and money on the girl, but they are also digging their own graves.

These men wait around with their heads down in the hopes that she will change her mind and become romantically interested in them. However, these men fail to recognize the most basic facts: If she wasn't interested in you romantically in the beginning, what makes you think she will change her mind later?

What makes you think she's not using you as a surrogate boyfriend until she finds somebody she really wants?

What makes you think that she isn't just around for the ride while you spend your money and time on her?

The "Friendship Zone" is a trap... a trap so elaborate and strong that freeing yourself out of it is about as easy as climbing Mount Everest.

To her, being friends with you means she doesn't have any sexual attraction towards you or have any romantic interest in you. You're simply around to kill boredom or until she finds something else better to do.

She may at one point in time have found you attractive, but since she's spent enough time with you, she now believes you are as challenging as a game of checkers with her grandma. You simply do not stir the electricity in her body and that's why you are who you are: A Friend!

More often than not, once a girl has made you a friend, getting her to think of you romantically is damn near impossible. And this is what you'll hear: "Can't we just be friends?"

Just because you get along with her and are compatible with her in a lot of areas doesn't mean you are compatible intimately. Besides all this, she knows you too much already, all the sense of being mysterious and being a challenge is already gone. You are basically in arms reach for the girl and about as exciting as a G-rated movie on a Saturday night.

So how do you avoid the friendzone?
Simple...

In the beginning do not approach her in the hopes of becoming just friends.

If you are attracted in any way — big or small — do not approach her looking for friendship. Always make your intentions known in the beginning.

Do not lurk around the far corner like a long-distance peeping-tom. Come on strong like the man you are and not as the chicken that you'll become if you start a friendship.

Guys, if you are going to spend so much time and attention with a girl, you better and might as well make her your girlfriend. What have you got to show for it if she bec omes just a friend?

Whenever you are interested in a woman, take her out on a real date. Don't fool yourself by merely pretending to be a friend in the hopes of winning her over later.

https://www.sosuave.com/halloffame/hall346.htm

Buskynwa:
True

i used the above to know the kinda woman im dealing with,heck i even told her ive never had any romantic relationship with anyone and then put her on pedestal,women fail this a lot
any woman who passes such test is a true woman but i doubt there is

They can't help but to feel that way.

The interpretation of your words and actions on subconscious level determine the level of attraction women would have for you.

Don't ever reveal the number of women you have been together with when they ask you or say you haven't been in a relationship when they ask you. Find a way around it in a funny way or just tell them you have been in relationships with some women but not serious and you have some women around and nothing serious and leave the rest to their imaginations.


Women want what other women want, if you say you haven't been in a relationship. They would wonder why and it would lower their interest in you, they may even think it is because you have issues and it is problems with you, they can't help but to think that way and they would lose interest and attraction for you . Women see men being in a lot of relationships with other women as a sign of high value, it will Pique their interest in you and you will look more challenging, it is only opposite when it come to men.

Men see women in a lot of relationships with other guys as a slut but reverse is the case with women, women interest and attraction for a guy increase when they notice you are in relationships with other women, so whenever women ask you a question to know if you have been in a relationship or single, it is a trap. If you must answer it just say you have some women around but nothing serious, don't ever say you don't have any woman around or you haven't been in any relationship.

Adejoncy01:
I'm broke today. She never even told me why we can't be together, and I never asked.

Don't listen to the guys that are saying it is all about money.

It mean she will only be there for the money, once the spending reduce or decline she will still leave, even if you give her so much that won't stop her from cheating on you, she can even kill you to get all that money and enjoy with the person she have feelings for.

Adejoncy01:
I know. The thing is I fell in love with her before I learnt game. And I couldn't change how I related with her.

The Best thing you can do is let her go, there are exciting women out there if you are willing to try instead of developing Oneitis with that girl.

Learnfrom your mistakes if you don't want to experience it again.

Adejoncy01:
LOL... Calm down. She never jokingly asked for money or anything. Besides, I don't even have to give. My gestures towards her was on my own accord and reward for the things she do for me.

But you are right that I gave her too much attention though. I made it look like she was special even though no one is, actually.

You made so many mistakes

You are a real AFC and Beta

Never ever put a woman on a pedastal, when you make a woman believe she is special, yes she would believe she is too special to date you, she would believe she can do better and can get a better man than you, she would believe she is not on your level and she is even doing you a favor by interacting with you.

Women don't like dating men they believe is below their level they like dating up.

If you don't learn from your mistakes it will happen again.

Whoknow:
You are talking as if Igbos stop you from doing same business of importation now. You fail to understand that God bless every Region with one thing or the other, so when you see whom God has bless be happy so that you will get your own.

You guys are just lucky

Men in Yoruba land culturally believe and favour vocational skills and Education. We prefer to acquire skills instead of trades, most Yoruba men believe trading is for women, that's why you will hardly see a Yoruba man selling goods like Pepper and tomatoes, clothes and shoes, onions, food stuffs, yams, fishes etc like Igbo and Hausa men. We believe those stuffs are for women

Yoruba have given up most of those trading business to you guys mentally, but when the opportunities present itself. Many Yoruba will pick it up in fact if you notice these days, you will see so many Yoruba competing with Igbo in major trades of goods and wares across Yoruba land, it is just that you guys make the loudest noise.

Cooly100:
My greatest joy will be the day...

Traders in Alaba, Ladipo, Coker, Tradefair, Computer Village, Mandillas find new home in the east.

I will like to see those envious people travel all the way from Oyo, Ogbomosho, Ibadan, Akure, Abeouta and Lagos to SE to buy their wares...

That's when they will know how Igbos have been helping.

I pity the people from Ghana, Togo, Benin, etc that have to travel far to the SE to get their items...

For me I have since divested from that region.

Lol What's so special in importing goods from China or Europe to sell in Nigeria ? in this digital age?

You guys moving back to the East would create thousands of opportunities for Yoruba youths, it means most of the businessess and trades we have given up to you guys would be picked up.

No one is going to follow you to the East for anything, thousands of Yoruba youths or other tribes would replace you immediately you leave, anyone can do most of the businesses you do with small capital.

it is not like you guys provide any special skills for Yoruba in South west, Yoruba have numerous artisans and skilled workers like Bricklayers, Mechanics, Tailoring , Vulcanizers, Rewire etc. You guys just flood Nigeria with imported goods and painted it as something special anyone can easily do that with small amount of capital, it is even easier in this internet age.

Hopefully it won't be empty boasting and i hope you guys will leave one day.

What inferiority complex can do does not exist

Chest beating with poverty