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Animegirl:
So, there's a man who wants me to be his wife. Honestly, he possesses the qualities of a good husband, but I can't deny that I don't find him attractive. Despite my efforts, I can't seem to develop feelings for him. Seeing his face makes me angry, even though he treats me well and spends generously. His height and face are a deal-breaker for me. If I accept his proposal, I know it will cause pain, but no matter how rude I've been, he won't let go. I'm considering running away from my community altogether. I don't want him to know my parents; otherwise, I'm done.

Love in a marriage don't just come it developed so give yourself time , don't miss a destiny helper all in the name of love, remember love don't sustain marriage

Mhizzard:
you don't have to attack just go and die in hell you bunches of scammers called yourself beggers.

You think everybody is a scammer? Just shut up and move on

Mhizzard:
You wan use this start this new year

Why can't shut up if you don't want to help him , holier than thou

Intoboy:
I stay with my 25years old girlfriend that's a hair stylist and she owns her own shop,on the other hand i am also a barber and i own my shop too,next to hers.
I love her so much and i promised her forever of which i really intend keeping but something really has changed so i need experienced people to help me out with what to do.... i have noticed I don't get sexually attracted to her no More,sex with here before we started staying together was amazing i really don't know what changed,now the pu**y seems too wide...sex with her now seems like stress to me, I'm 100% sincere with her and i love her for real I don't have no other girl aside her and I don't intend cheating on her but it's becoming and area of concentration for me because this girl is really praying to be pregnant for me and as soon as her prayer is being answered that means I'm in forever because I'm not the kind of guy that likes to be with two women, I'm so selective with who i date,i Don't double date and I don't know how to cheat,if we're having s*x sometimes i will have to imagine It's my ex I'm fuckin before i go fit cum....mehn that girl's pussy was amazing but her character was deadly....

My girlfriend is so damn pretty and she's got the perfect body i like but sex with her now seems like a long journey I'm so tired to embark on and she sometimes tells me my dick is small but she loves it that way but mehn me that i know i got a big dick I'll just be looking at her,what should i do?

Don't start what you can't finish, Don't cage yourself all in the name of marriage, women don't pity men in terms of making choices so don't pity anyone do what please you

Baztardidiot:
I don't know. I feel using soap might work. I'm looking at something light. A spell juju. That is spoken.i want to call someone to pay me,I intend to use 8minutes from my airtel number to meet this dream. I don't want blood or rituals.

Go and work legit, you criminal, crime don't pay

UnfairLife7:
Jesus


I don't believe a mother can say that...

seems this world is truly coming to an end o

Some people can be terrible

Rich4god:
Continued....

One Saturday, me and another neighbour just came out from our compound, only to be hearing shout from those boys that "we can't do them anything, that we don't have the right to tell them not to stand at the front of our gate, that if we do anyhow, we go see anyhow". We just neglected them and went away.
Later on, I learnt that our caretaker warned the mother to tell her daughter not to be standing at the front of the compound with those guys. So obviously, the girl went and told the guys about it that's why they were raking.

On the on Friday, 22 Dec, I came back home to hear the news that the girl have been arrested in connection to a stolen item and even though the item have been found, it was found in a bad state and the owner is insisting that they pay him for damages before he can withdraw his case. Police are saying that they can only release the girl if we pay the owner the money his requesting for,as the boys claimed the item spoilt at the girls hand, but for the boys, they will be charged for breaking into someone's residence to steal an item.

Now the mother have been begging us to help her raise money to pay the owner of the item as she doesn't have enough. But our caretaker is saying that none of us should donate a penny to her.

I just feel as though we should help her, but all the other neighbours are buying the idea of the caretaker that we should stay out of the case.

Upon everything that woman did you still don't want to mind your business, it seems that you want to sleep with that woman or the daughter

Yes even at 45

FanRong:
I'm sorry, this post is going to be a long one. But you're saving a soul if you read through and advice candidly.


My story
We've dated for 6months and we've lived together for the 6months.

On our 3rd month, I found her interesting and told her I'll like to marry her. She accepted but no engagement ring or anything to show. We just accepted by word of mouth.

Since then, I've worked towards it. I've told her to call her mum and eldest brother(dad is late) to relate my idea and understand their feeling since it won't be that easy to marry. (same state, but my people and her people are highly selective in marriage)

After several persuasion, and threat that I'll throw her out if she doesn't relate the circumstances to her family, she called the mum. And again I had to force her to call the eldest brother. She claimed she did. And that's enough. I'm ok.

Meanwhile, there's this guy(her ex) she claims helped her when she came to Lagos. It was when I started accommodating her that I found out in her chats that she was living with this guy, but lied to me she was living with her Aunt and the aunt's husband was harassing her sexually and she wants to leave. She later told me the guy, though provides for him but has never had sex with her, even when she was living in his house. These stories doesn't move me since everyone, who is not a virgin has an ex. So I forgave all that and we moved on.

She wasn't everything I need in a women, but I told myself I could train her the way I want. We continued adjusting to each others likes and dislikes.

I feed her this 6 months, provide comfortable shelter, buy her things she needs,(not want). Told her I'll do more and open a shop for her, if we get married, but she still confronts me asking why should I wait till after marriage? . I didn't allow the words move me cos Its my decision and my money and also, I'm used to gold diggers.

A good number of times, I see her as being selfish. If things doesn't benefit her, she'll not get bothered even if I'm involved.

Just this week, It became obvious to me that she argues everything I request her to do. From 24th Dec, we've been on holiday, we're always at home.
1. I'll wake her up at 9 and ask her to prepare breakfast for the family, she'll prefer to roll on the bed than do it. I'll finally have to do it myself so I can get things done and get busy.

2. I detest girls on eye lashes. I've repeatedly told her how I dislike it, but when she went to fix herself for the Christmas, she fixed the eyelashes, Contrary to my demand.

3. I got her some sneakers to upgrade her fashion style and look smarter, instead of the usual slippers and sandals she wears.
When we prepared to go to the beach few days ago, I requested her to put on the sneakers to look more fashionable, but she refused buttressing that she must wear what she wants, sandals.

4. Few days ago, we had a heated argument and she said that if I'm not happy that she's living with me, that she can go, afterall, she has somewhere to stay. I asked her to go and she immediately called that her ex bf to come to my house. I immediately swung into action, took all her belongings out, before the ex will arrive, at the same time, retrieving the items I gifted her.
While she was struggling to have her gifted items back, our neighbours heard the struggle and had to come and settle for us. She apologized and I forgave her. we were back into the house.

5. Just yesterday , we left home together, and I locked the door and I took the keys with me. We walked down the street together to the Busstop, I have almost no friend and seldomly greet. But there's this my ex girlfriend by the roadside, she saw me and yelled my name, I went to greet her and my Fiancée picked offence, left me without waiting for me. After that I chased her and told her it's nothing because I've told her everything about this ex.
Before we could get to the Busstop, she demanded for the house keys and I gave her since she might come back earlier than me.
We couldn't say bye. The anger was clear on her face and we parted ways.

After about 15mins, I got to where I wanted to make payment for the items I picked only to notice I am not with my transaction phone. I was confused where could I have kept it, the seller insisted I may not have come to his shop with the phone, and the phone rang as I called with my second phone. so I had to call my Fiancée for assistance since she's with the keys.
At first, she said she was still around the Busstop but when I told her I needed her to go home and confirm my phones whereabout, she said she can't go back that she has gone far, shouted on me and hung the phone.

I called and called and called, but she didn't pick. Many thoughts ran into me. Who took this phone? My money? , my phone? , my sim card? . I had to find my way and trekked back about 4km to the house since I had no cash with me. And finally saw the phone ringing in my house. I was relieved.

The way she shouted to me on the phone got me unbalanced, I felt she would be fire if I get this girl as a wife.

We finally traveled to our home state today and I paid the bills for the traveling. My major plan of traveling was to see her people and do the needful before I mistakenly get her pregnant. But I'm seriously contemplating of canceling this plan and throw her out come January. I need peace.

Dear nairalanders, I'm really in the middle of the deep blue sea and the devil.

I need mature and candid advice please.
Should I continue with the marriage plans or the redflags are obvious?

That lady will make your life miserable if you marry her, abort the marriage plan, she's still dating that guy she call ex

Adanambra1:
i am 39 weeks today and 5 days oo
first timer mama
i don exercise tire
chop pineapple tire
i dey do the do regularly
i don chop spicy food tire... everything on the internet, i have done.
scan already say my baby is head down position
3.5kg....
people of God, what do i do next to avoid Pitocin inducement or epidural

You have nothing to worry about just expect your baby any moment from now

madridguy:
Kindly overlook her character and give her the money.
Meanwhile, Congratulations on your beautiful bundle of joy.

Your kind is the reason poor people take advantage of the rich because you will always see reasons to blame the rich

ahnie:
I want to add weight and I have tried everything possible to gain weight all to no avail.

I have taken drugs aids one to gain weight but non worked.
I have eaten lots of noodles and fried eggs,eaten overnight,but the weight is not just weighting.


Please help recommend what to do so I can gain weight.
My current weight is 68kg.

Attached is a recent pics of me 26/12/2023.

Don't think of it if you have not married

IamDora:
Useless men, all they know how to do is complain complain and complain all the time

Watch how his fellow useless men will avoid this thread or create excuses for him, but when the table turns, they start insulting and talking down on the lady without knowing her side of the story,

If it was to be the lady saying this, the only comment you'll see from these useless men littered all over this forum will be:

“Olosho woman wan leave her marriage”
“She's for the street”
”This one don go marry Hookup girl”
“You can take a girl out of the street but you can never take the street out of her” etc etc

The way NL men reason sometimes leaves me in awe, sometimes I wonder if most of them even experienced a mother's love. They insult us 2.4.7 yet slide-in to our Dms with alternates.

Alpha Nonsense online, mighty simps offline

If I'm this guy because of this your comments I will dump her sorry ass

MrCork:
I drive £28,000 (cash) range rover bro.do u hav girlfriends sir?(no oofense)

Driving such car don't change the fact that you're a child

mbaise1000:
You want to marry an ohafia woman and you are asking the marriage list from nairaland?
Not from your potential inlaws and not from your so called fiance? You come all the way to Lagos to ask? Are you for real or the usual troll?

He was just asking for insight

clusay:
Well talk. But I guess the man is just a robot meant to endure all these u have list Abi.

Don't mind the idiot

orohbiro:
Op you are very stupid you lack sense men are worst

It seems you have everything Op mentioned

Anywgere you see a Nigeria girl know that you have seen a devil, very wicked set of people

DamnnNiggarr:
Woman sleeps on the streets after husband's imprisonment, due to lack of money to pay for house rent



https://www.mylondon.news/news/east-london-news/im-sleeping-londons-streets-because-28337133

Ordinary house rent she can't afford but she will be insulting men and be calling them broke ass

Cantonese:
Hmmm.

By the way, what’s she getting the visa for when the man she supposedly wants to meet in America is not only sick, but back home to Nigeria, on account of his failing health?

If the embassies say not enough evidence, get the needed evidence of your claim. Is fudge is properly married, she needs to take along her marriage certificate and wedding pictures. Dem get so?

She is desperate

NiceLegs:
Hello everyone.

Please I need you inputs on this.

My Uncle who is a Citizen in USA filed to bring his wife in Nigeria whom he married in 2020 to the United States in that same year 2020.

Luckily after a very long wait time, the USA Embassy in Nigeria called the wife for interview after 2 years in the year 2022.

She went for the interview and was not given the Spousal visa or Green card or whatever they call it

They told her to get more evidence of their marriage as the Visa Officers were not convinced they were married.

They fixed her to come after 2 months from the first interview date.

Before the second interview date, my Uncle in USA fell terribly sick were he could not speak atall.

They could not communicate with themselves at this stage.

She went for the second interview after the two months and was not given visa again.

My Uncle's case got worse that he was even brought back to Nigeria in January 2023.

Now my question is this, in such case, can the wife still get the USA Spousal Visa on her own at this stage?

What can she do to still get the Spousal Visa from here?

My Uncle is still in Nigeria as we speak.

Experienced USA migration experts, what can she do?

She will not get the visa until the man is fully recovered and they confirmed from him

Palazee:
Because they can do what the f_uck they want.


The society and the government are gradually easing restriction on women.


But dude this is nothing compared to the west, where they walk around practically naked.

She don't suppose to pull it down oga since she's doing the right thing, when sense is far away from you , you won't know right from wrong

Palazee:
You don't really need to worry, this the 21st century.


You just need to go with the flow and enjoy the moment, the world is gradually becoming women's paradise and sadly there is nothing you can do about it

If they wanna be treated like wh0res, we simply treat them like that.

why are they pulling it down if we are in 21st century? He just ask a question

MrCork:
So yor job is goin around loooookin at womens pant from under table..corrrect? are u a peterfile sir.juss askin!!!!(no oofensece)

Sometimes I wonder someone like you have sense or you lose it in a woman pussy

It’s like they think they are better than the rest of the family.

You know the answer already

Vinnie2000:
A big YES!

She is Attracted to you, wants you to comfort her with Sweet words and somehow wishes you were her Husband.

A married woman who loves her husband will NOT reveal her Marital issues to any Guy outside.

Even when she have confidence that you're a man that won't take advantage of her?

vybzkartel:
So if a married woman confides in you about her marital issues, even the deepest once, doesn't that mean you are attracted to her or she is into you?

Stop reading stupid meaning into everything even if she's attracted to you she's married

TheOldGods:
As a guy, who is doing well and earning over a million a month. I want to make sure I find girls within my class. Unfortunately I don't know where to go or start from. Most girls I see at the mall are looking for who will buy them gelato ice cream. Where are these hardworking curvy successful girls with car going to? Is it club? Or a church? At Least even if she doesn't have a car, let her be earning half a million or 200k atleat.

Guys where Una dey find these girls?

Check foreign country, those type of girls is not here in Nigeria

You just want to sleep with village girls and run back to city , there's nothing like conji during Christmas

Ehmmah588:
Don't compromise yet..... Alaye hold on, everybody dey undergo stress but we dey manage....Forget the insult you receive from your security job. Insult no dey show for face or stain for cloth. Hold on to your job for now. Do you think you'll ever feel like a complete man again after submitting your ass for Homo practices?

He complain about the money not insult

Kingzrocky:
I'm yet to decide.
All in all, my resolve is to drop this Security work if I get a good deal.

This is Nigeria; where you need connection to get a good paying job.

My mental health is compromised due to the abuse I've suffered and endured from yesteryears working as a Security Guard.

I must leave the work asap.
For my sanity.
I am fed up.

All your comments shows that you have made up your mind to do it