₦airaland Forum

back here this is pcguru1 changed my moniker, there is an algorithm group on LinkedIn for blacks all over the world, anyone care to join, let's face it Nairaland is dead for collaboration.

lalalista:
we are in Lagos

What type of business is he doing ? And his plans ?

8 weeks go with Flutter as you grow invest into Java so you can expand your Flutter and even write Plugin ( Android API ) thats how you grow as a developer. No one ecaspe writing native eventually

The5DME:
This is G........t ooh sir the data entry guy

Oh sorry , you will be alright jare, just dey comot and relate with bois, a she you allow me dey blow grammer. you no need be street boy to wiseup, just be dey calculate and assess every situation. I've hung out with street bois and I fit tell, there's nothing to gain from them. I think you should take up coding to push your data entry. You can automate it saving yourself a lot of stress.

lalalista:
Hello all, I opened an account to post this issue here because I want a honest advice from people who don't know who I am.

I have two men in my life asking for my hand in marriage. One is a working class graduate while the other is an ssce holder who recently lost his job. I like the ssce holder the more because he is more intelligent, neat, generous, fun to be with, more handsome and he's also from my tribe. When he had a job, he always gives me money without me asking him. He takes me out a lot and buys me things. Now he's just into daily hustles that fetches him 2- 5k daily.
On the other hand, the working class graduate is not from my tribe. He has money but spending it is always a big issue. Let me just say that he's kind of stingy. He's not as neat and intelligent as the ssce holder. I need to choose one of them before April. I'm equally a graduate.

My friends say I will suffer in future if I choose the ssce guy because he's got no degree and his chances of getting a good job is very low. They want me to marry the working graduate so I won't have to suffer. Deep in my heart, I want the ssce holder. Please I need your honest opinions on who to choose. Thanks

NOTE : I've been out of job too. My job was affected by the pandemic

Do you want to be Happy or comfortable ? if you say Happy, then both of you have to work hard (job / business anything)for that happiness together, there will be a lot of delayed gratification required,

If the ssce is a hard working person and also intelligent then things will eventually turn out, are you people in Lagos, I may offer suggestions that might work.

Mehn I like how much you write books, that is something i always dream of doing but never do. I need to work on,

ahnie:
I dont understand this pishure atall.

Responsibility

if you want to succeed in life better learn how to communicate. Let me be brutally honest, as a 30 somthing mid-age person.

It's up to you to decide the life you want to live, if you want to hang-out with street bois so you can get some wrapped-sense of 'street-cred' you can or if you want to be someone useful and responsible to the society while you earn as a adult you can , the choice is yours if you decided on the latter, then just start learning now to communicate, what you also need is a purpose, a sense of what you need to achieve. From there you will find your fulfillment and self-accomplishment and also pick up responsibility, Trust me once you reach this stage, you will have a sense of how things work, but yeah if you are not street smart, you will have problems. You need to be sharp or intelligent or charismatic or extremely hardworking else you will just live an simple life.

I had a conversation yesterday with my GrandDad, and he always revels in his academic accomplishment and the fact his family are doing well, that is a sense of accomplishment. To achieve that as man you need to learn how to compartmentalize your emotions, even modern working women are doing this to succeed in their career. You are a man, the road will be rough for you, no one will extend help easily compared to women, you will be expected to make a path for yourself. So if at 19 you do not pick up, Life will just pass you by, you willl become a mere bystander that just lived.

Strive for something and you will find your self-confidence.

or learn how to code